Everything you want comes when you become nothing

What if there was a secret to reality that would allow you to unbecome all that you thought you were, to then allow in an energy unlike anything you've experienced before? What if when Dr. Joe Dispenza says you must become no thing, no place, nowhere, and no time, why does he say that? Why is it that enlightened people say you must become empty to become connected to everything? Could it be that there is a quantum field or an that we're all connected to, that our identity of who we think we are keeps us literally locked and imprisoned in the autopilot mind? And could it be when we shift out of that energy and we become empty, that that's when everything will come inside of our lives? Now, in this video, I'm gonna show you step by step how you can shift into this new you, and it has to do with shifting out of who you believed you are. I'm gonna show you the one thing that will change everything, allowing you to literally have the initiation to a new way of being. I'm going to show you something that I've learned recently in the flip, which I share at the end of every video, that will show you how to integrate one idea that has completely transformed my energy, that you will feel through this entire video is the result of this one thing. So that just like in Neo in The Matrix, when Morpheus tells him, you must let go of everyone you believed you are to become the one, I'm going to show you how to literally become the one, the one connected to everything, understanding that as you shift into this energy, your whole entire life will begin to change as you know it. Now, the first thing to understand about this whole idea of unbecoming is first off knowing that you've been being an autopilot version of you. This is something that Joe Dispenza talks about in his book, How to Break the Habit of Being Yourself. We all have a habit of being ourselves. And I remember when I first saw this book, I was actually at a sauna in the gym in Vegas called Lifetime. And I go in there and it's a co-ed sauna and there's this older lady in there and she's reading a book and it says, How to Break the Habit of Being Yourself. I remember thinking to myself, why would you want to break the habit of being you? I was almost triggered. And then eventually I learned about Joe Dispenza and read the book and I was like, oh wow, this is actually very powerful. And the idea is that who we think we are is autopilot, and it's simply a habit. There was a certain time we decided this is who we are. And in this video, I'm going to show you how I use that and transformed into a version of me that allows something greater to flow through, that allows me in a state right now, for example, to not be thinking but to be allowing. To allow that energy to flow through. And every one of us has this ability once we become empty, once we have fun with the process, which has been a huge shift and epiphany for me recently. Even on this YouTube channel, everything has been exploding because I'm not focused on trying to get somewhere else. I'm focused on having fun with this process, with allowing this energy to flow through. And my focus is now different than it used to be, but I'll talk about that in a minute. Oh, also in this video, I'm going to share with you the SHIFT Framework, a simple process you can use to completely transform your life from the inside out. This is something I teach in my programs. I'm going to give you a little sneaky peeky, a little sneaky peeky here of all of that. But first off, let's understand this. This one idea alone, I think, could change your life. Now, first off, from you going from your autopilot self into a new you, understand that there's some tension you've been avoiding. There's a tension that maybe you tell yourself, this isn't who I am. And that tension actually keeps you in the old self. Now, for example, for me, my 9 to 5 job, I was thinking, feeling, acting equal to a 9 to 5 job goer. I'd go into work every day. I'd be there with my sales, uh, like colleagues, and we'd be like, oh my gosh, it's so slow here, there's no customers. We talked with the New York accent because it was Barney's New York. Just kidding, that's just my accent for it. But we would sit there and we'd be like, oh my gosh, it's so slow, there's no customers. We think thoughts equal to that, we feel emotions equal to that. We'd have corporate politics with managers that would control, controlling, and we're like, this is just our— it sucks. And ironically enough, it was very similar to childhood energy where things weren't fair growing up. Now I'm in a 9-to-5 job where things aren't fair. Interesting, right? And when I look at that thinking, feeling equal to that version of me, to unbecome that, there was some form of tension that I had to embrace to become it. And that tension would normally tell me, that's not who you are. So for me, that tension was the expression of putting myself out on YouTube. And when I started to put myself out on YouTube, it felt weird. I was worried about what my friends from high school would think. I thought people were gonna judge me. And there was all this blocks, this tension that was trying to keep me in a 9-to-5 job I hated. So what I did is as I committed to daily videos on YouTube and as I became this new version of myself, it came through the expression of putting myself out there. I committed to daily videos and that expression was literally me questioning, which we'll talk about, is the second thing we're gonna talk about in a minute of observing and stopping the momentum of the old you, which is so important in this process. But the key to this is realizing that there is a certain role, a certain way that you see yourself that's on autopilot. Now for me, part of my self-image was that I saw myself— let's be honest— as a 9-to-5 job goer. That was my self-image. So you could say my reality was in complete alignment to how I saw myself, even though I hated it. And then I started to express a new me, which took courage. That was the tension that then allowed me to be in a new energy, and that divine then began to flow through the more that I began to show up to make these videos. So understand that the key— so first off, let's understand this. This one idea alone will transform your life. The key to you shifting from this version of you to the new version of you and unbecoming this— the initiation is the tension of expression. I'm going to put it right here: tension of expression. Expressing the new you. So when I started to express myself by making daily videos on YouTube, there were blocks. It felt kind of weird. But as I was expressing the real me, I felt like it was like an opening and there was tension there. What are the people going to think? It's a little bit hard because I'm working a job and making videos. I had to learn how to edit. I had to learn all these things. But this expression felt so freeing. I loved the process. The, the difference too about unbecoming who you thought you've been is let's let go of the ego image altogether. Like the shift from one reality to the other, the expression is the authenticity, not the noun of this. I am this identity now, then I'm this identity. This is about expressing the real you. You see, this has been the biggest key for me over the last month or two as well. I've had more growth in my business and my mission in the last one month than the last 2 years. And that is because I stopped focusing on who I thought I had to become, which I thought I had to become like a speaker traveling the world. I wanted to be like, you know, people I look up to, like Joe Dispenza or Tony Robbins, and I got to just do what they do. And funny, for 2 years I went on a just a whole bunch of live events. It did completely transform my identity. I'm not saying I regret it at all. I became an incredible coach where I could coach people, hot seat coach them, but I completely neglected teaching and expressing myself in this way that I am right now. And what I've realized is it wasn't about becoming someone else. It was about owning who I am. And recently I've been owning more of making these videos. But it's the expression of these videos that's created the transformation. I focus on every video. How can I connect ideas together in a simple, in a new way? How can I have fun with the process? How can I share stories in a better way? Like I'm focused on expression and I'm not focused on views and the results. That one idea I think can completely shift your life is focusing on the process and becoming better, 1% better, 1% more aligned, having 1% more fun. You will find better results, but it doesn't come from focusing on results. So understand first that the key to this is realizing that your initiation into a new you is tension. And you see, sometimes, like, when I think of as well, when I shed the energy of a people pleaser, for example, I used to be in the tension of holding back my true self, pleasing other people, taking on that burden, which by the way feels kind of heavy. I'm very heavy. And there was a certain, like, almost block around me where I just felt kind of trapped. Now you'll notice that if there's tension under the surface, what will happen is that tension, it's still there, it's just not being expressed. So you start to feel bottled up. And when you experience a reality that is equal to the energy that's underneath the surface, if you're a people pleaser, if you're overgiving, If you're hyper-independent or any of these patterns, there's tension underneath the surface that is stressful. The key to releasing it, to becoming an empty vessel, you wanna know what it is? It's to release that stored energy. So for me, when I shifted, so from a 9-to-5 job goer to being full-time on YouTube, expression was the missing key. And it's the missing key for most people when it comes to this process. Lots will come up when you do this, by the way. You'll say, "I'm not, who am I to be speaking about these things? Who am I? What about?" You start blocking yourself and that is just the old autopilot mind to try and keep you where you are. So understand that when it comes to a certain pattern you wanna shift, like people pleasing, for example, you expressing the real you might be expressing a boundary. It might be expressing vulnerability. I remember when I shed this pattern years ago, a big part of it was I had to express to people how I felt. I had to set boundaries with people. I had to realize that someone else's tension wasn't my tension. That was my initiation into authenticity and integrating. So this is one of the biggest shifts that you will experience in your life is when you realize that to unbecome who you've been, there's tension under the surface. And releasing that tension is the key to becoming free. So when you hear someone like Joe Dispenza or you hear about enlightened people talking about this idea of becoming empty, you become empty when you stop identifying with this old self of who you think you are, which we'll talk about in a minute of two questions that will completely transform your life in this process. I'm gonna tell you how to release that stored energy. So first off, understand that this right here is your connection to the divine flow that wants to come through. And when you are in forgiveness, in love, and in expression, you are allowing that divine to come through. It's going to feel good too. Like right now, making this video for me, it feels so good. Also, I'm going to share with you a secret that I just learned this morning. It has to do with milking a certain thing in your life and Oh my gosh, this video you can probably feel is more aligned than some of my other videos 'cause my energy is so clean because of what I'm gonna share with you in a little bit. I'm excited to share it. So next, let's look at this. So the second thing that we're gonna talk about for a moment is how do you stop the momentum of the old you? Got the old you going. Sometimes people will start to make a shift like, I saw myself as this way and then I see myself as this way. And why is the old reality still here? Well, there's a momentum to a way of being. And remember, the true degree of change is not whether the outside changes, it's whether the outside could remain the same but you, your response has changed. And you know, just like when you look into a mirror, the reflection doesn't change until you change. It's like waiting for the reflection to change and then saying, okay, now I'll change my emotion. This is a lot of what Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about in his meditations, is, is becoming no place, nowhere, no time, no thing. And when you become one, you become empty. It's like you then become connected to everything. You must become no thing to become connected to everything. That's what I'll say sometimes. But the power of this is that then you are, in a way, releasing the pressure, the tension of the old identity. And when you can see it as natural for you to be in the love, the divine flow, and becoming empty, that's really the key to this process. So let's talk for a minute about this deeper core thing that I think can completely shift your life as well. So first off, neutrality is where you observe your thoughts. Neutrality is what changed my life back in 2012. I observed my thoughts. I simply stared at a candle flame. I observed the thoughts that come into my mind. I let them be there instead of trying to control them. That was the key. And I started to feel a spaciousness grow inside of myself. I started to feel so much more present. And in that state, I then became aware of the patterns underneath the surface. I became aware that there was a pattern of being in a similar type stepmom situation, but now in my job. I could tell that I was fighting for freedom was an old childhood pattern. I could tell that I felt, uh, I had certain beliefs about women, certain beliefs about men that were keeping me kind of trapped in similar dynamics. Meditation allowed me to observe this, whereas before I thought it was reality, it's the way things work. I then realized that it was a pattern. That's where the key— the separation starts to happen when you can observe these things. You don't have to understand every little thing and where the childhood trauma came from, by the way. You become aware of these beliefs, you then see them as beliefs, they're not who you are, okay? So the first thing is neutrality. Observing your thoughts, observing what you feel, observing these patterns is the key to this entire process. And that's why meditation is so powerful. And then you release the energy that's stored underneath the body. By the way, I have a free somatic release breathwork ceremony. I'm certified. It's the most powerful process I have ever found. If you wanna go through a 30-minute ceremony to transform and let the energy come up to release, click the link below, join that, do that ceremony and watch what happens. Watch how much more free as you express and become more empty. So the next thing to understand about this is the SHIFT Framework. SHIFT Framework is very simple. I'm gonna reveal it here. It's in all my coaching programs and everything that I teach, all my live events, but here you go. You ready? The first is S-H-I-F-T, story, shift, Heal, identity, frequency, transformation. These are the 5 layers of it. Story is your beliefs about reality. Story is where you become aware of your beliefs. Your stories create your life. You have a core belief, a core story there that is running every area of your life. Now from there, you also have, we talk about healing. There's the MFC. Do you wanna know what MFC is? It's the key to shifting your life in so many ways. I'm gonna share that in the next video, okay? It'll shift everything. The next video is coming. I'm just kidding. You're like, Aaron, tell me it. MFC stands for mother-father-child dynamic. That energy dynamic is what we replay between people over and over again. So if you feel like you had to like fix mom or dad, or you had to be naive, or you had to please, like that dynamic will overlay every relationship job, etc. So that's a deeper layer there. This is the thing I want to talk about today, though, is I, which is your identity, or something called individuation. Carl Jung talks about individuation. It's where you individuate from mom and dad and who they wanted you to be, and you be who you are. And the most important thing here that we're going to talk about today is role. What is the role you took on? This is something that will keep you trapped in your old self for many years. This one idea, by the way, is something that's going very viral on my Instagram because I shared a simple idea and it's really like woken up a lot of people. And it's this little idea that I've probably heard me share maybe another video if you watch a lot of my videos. But Tony Robbins at his live events, why does he always ask the question? He said, whose love did you crave more as a kid, your mother, your father's? And he says it in that voice. That's my impersonation. Okay, and then people say, they say, I don't know, uh, maybe my mom's or my dad's. Or they say it very certainly, my dad's. And he goes, who'd you have to be to get your dad's love as a kid? And then they'll say whatever the answer is. They'll say, I had to be perfect, I had to be his little princess, I had to be this, I had to be that, he was never around, whatever. And then that role right there For many people is who they think they are. You might have a role that you took as a kid. You're not that role. You do you, boo-boo. That ain't you. That's autopilot mind. So for me, I was people pleaser. It's not me. That was a pattern. And maybe my dad knew that pattern. I watched my dad model that role, but I eventually broke out of it through the expression of vulnerability. Through expressing myself, through catching myself in the moment, observing the pattern, realizing it's protecting me from expression, and then choosing to express. So what role is holding you back? What role have you taken on as a kid? Maybe comment below and see what the different roles are. Different roles of who you had to believe growing up you had to be as a kid to get love and approval. Now love and approval, like love is who you are. But if we believe we need to do something to get it, that's what will cause a lot of pain. That's what will cause a lot of challenges. So this is why also I talk a lot about worthiness. Like, you experience in life a reflection of what you believe you deserve. And if you only think you're worthy, um, of like toxic relationships, or if who you have to be to be worthy is like, I must abandon myself to make other people happy, Understand that reality is reflecting back to you the way in which you relate to you. So if you abandon yourself, other people are going to abandon you. And abandoning yourself simply means not expressing yourself, you see. And when you express you and you're having fun with it, you're not attached to the results. Just like my initiation of making and recommitting to these videos recently meant unbecoming who I thought I had to be to get to the next level. I literally would watch my friends and other people, hot seat coaching people, and be like, I have to do that if I want to get to the next level. It's an authority play. And then I completely abandoned my whiteboard. It was so lonely sitting in the closet, like, Aaron, where are you? And I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm out, honey. I am trying to become more. Becoming more is the key. But actually, it was asking, individuating, asking myself, who do I— who am I? What makes me different than these people? And I realize that the way I teach, the way I get into this like almost state of consciousness that just kind of flows through connecting ideas together, that happens literally in the moment. So a big part of this is owning who you are, owning the authenticity of expression, which is not an identity, you see? So let yourself become aware that a big part of this process is that neutrality, the expression, and then also becoming aware of your meaning, your purpose, your passion, following that energy, following the energy, not the overarching, this is what you'll do the rest of your life, following the frequency. And it was like, as I was running live events and doing all these things, which I'm still gonna do, but in a more fun way where my intention of these live events now are not to get content, which is what they were becoming, which then in a way is becoming, um, a way of manipulating reality to get what I need. So it's like these events now become a means to an end instead of an end of itself. And this last live event I did, it was just literally to have fun, to express myself, to like— it was a completely different energy. Ironically got incredible content, which I may or may not ever use because I like making these whiteboard videos again, but it takes the pressure off. And if you took the pressure off from needing to get out of reality, you would start to feel more free. Don't you want to feel more free? So understand that the meaning— what is like— nothing in life has— this is what enlightened people knew. That's why we talk about becoming empty. I'm going to share with you something deeper too here. I think that'll change your life or change your perspective on this at the deepest levels, because there's different layers to this. Your meaning in your life will give you a lot of purpose. And it's like, it's especially for people that are showing up consistently, like it's something greater than you that drives you. It's really hard to explain. So the more I show up here with a strong why of helping you connect ideas together to wake up more— I believe there's a consciousness shift happening on the planet. I believe you're a part of it, and I believe that our process is for us to wake up, to become this Like, you know, as we do the inner work, it transforms the planet. So this is a huge part of the process. Now, at the deepest layers though, you want to talk about deeper layer of an alignment perspective, this will oodle your noodle, okay, into spaghetti. You ready for this? At the deepest levels of enlightenment, enlightened people will look at people trying to change the world and laugh. They'll be like, why are you trying to do that? Why are you playing that game? Why you do that, boo-boo? That's what they say. Imagine some Indian guy from like in the Himalayan Mountains, and he's looking at the caves. Why you do that, boo-boo? Why you do that, boo-boo? Just that they're all enlightened and stuff. And why you do that, boo-boo? Why are you trying to save the planet? The planet is perfect as it is. Everything just is. This isn't a problem we need to fix, which we look at. What are you talking about? There's craziness in the world. And it's at the highest levels, everything just is and everything is perfect. To even save the planet is an ego desire that assumes there's not a divine plan. And that's why enlightened people, or even Jesus people from our past, like, they would see people as whole and complete, not as needing to be fixed. Very interesting perspective here, but that's a deeper layer. Maybe we're not there yet. Maybe we're getting there, but we ain't there yet. Let's be honest. Okay? By the way, I'm not saying I'm enlightened or anything, okay? I'm just saying I allow this energy flow through. You can do the same thing. Just to be clear, some people watch my videos and believe it or not, they think I'm insinuating I'm enlightened. I ain't. But I'm here having fun. I'm letting this energy flow through and maybe in so many lives I'll be enlightened, who knows? So let's talk for a minute about that thing that I told you about that I think will completely shift your life. And first off, realize that to become no thing, there's a level of presence that you begin to bring inside of your body. You're not becoming this thing or this thing. You are becoming expression. Express yourself. Let that energy flow through. Have fun with the process. Focus on becoming— I mean, it's not becoming, but it is like I focus on connecting ideas in a new way. I have fun with this process and there's more magic. You could do the same thing, boo-boo. Okay, so first off, it's about understanding that this emptiness comes from also clearing your energy, expressing that stored energy, which we talked about. Like, breathwork can be a very— the most powerful process I have found for doing that is breathwork. You express it. You don't have to understand where it came from, but that can completely shift your life from the inside out. When I got certified in this process, by the way, I had to go through it 2 or 3 times, and when I went through it, I had a release of energy that was stuff from my mom's side of the family that came through when someone else was expressing. She triggered— this other woman triggered mine because I connected to my mom through this person's scream. It was bananas. And then tears came and there was this release, and my whole life shifted after that, started to feel more free, etc. So let me share with you now, in every video we're doing now, I'm sharing what's called the flip. All right, the flip. You wanna know what the flip is? The flip are the 3 things that if you do will allow you to completely transform your life to let this energy flow through, okay? And the first part of the flip here is milk thistle. It's a supplement. Milk thistle. I'm just kidding. Milk theta. Milk theta. Milk the theta state. This is a hack to reality, okay? Here's a big little gift for you. When I woke up this morning, you wanna know what I did? I did not— I did not— here's the thing. When you— I'm gonna give you a little quick lesson here that I think can completely shift your life, and it'll help you understand your childhood and why we do inner child healing to shift your life. Okay? When you are born, from 0 to 2, you're in delta, delta brainwave state, very deep level of your subconscious mind. You barely get into delta sleep now. Even when you're sleeping, you're barely in delta for maybe an hour a night, 2 hours a night. But delta is extremely rejuvenating. There's almost no dreams. It's deep level of energy. You absorb everything. So when you're 0 to 2, you're in delta, just absorbing your environment. Then from like 2 to 6 or a little bit older, you're in theta. Theta state, still subconscious mind, a little bit less. Then as you get from like 6 to 13, you're starting to more— going more in alpha. Alpha states, like when you're watching television now and you're deep level of reflection. Alpha somewhat influences subconscious mind, but more consciously aware. From puberty onwards, you're basically primarily when you're awake in beta state. So there's beta, alpha, theta, delta. These are the different brainwave states, have different levels over reprogramming your subconscious mind. So for me, what I've recognized— I was talking to my girlfriend about this last night because she went to this, uh, retreat with all these business people like 2 years ago where basically they showed you how to access different brainwave states. And one of the things is, is when you wake up in the morning, this is one of the biggest hacks where you don't need tens of thousands of dollars to do this. You ready? When you wake up in the morning, for the first 30 minutes, you are drifting from delta to theta to alpha to beta. So you are going from the deep levels of subconscious mind into the more alert states. Milk theta in the morning, meaning when you wake up, have a slow morning. Don't go on your phone. When you go on your phone, you're going straight into beta, high beta waves. When you're talking to people, even feedback loop, you get into beta. Have a more calm morning. Take that as creative work. When you do that the first 30 minutes of the day and the last 30 minutes of the day, and you focus on visualizing and feeling what you want, reprogramming your mind, that's the window of transformation. I have been using this for years. There's times I use it more than others. But the way in which I applied it for this video is I didn't go into my phone, I didn't do anything. I just got up, went in the sun for a little bit and came and filmed this video. And there's a better flow than I'm gonna start doing this every day. And it reminds me, 'cause back in the day when I made daily videos, this is what I would do. I'd get up, make a video, cameras, everything's ready, and it would just flow. And then it would be hard when I'd go into my phone, I'd be look at researching ideas. Like it's so much easier. Milk Theta. Okay, milk theta. Now the next thing is to become no thing. The second flip, flip, flip, become no thing. Become no thing. Realize that instead of focusing on this thing or this thing, going from 9 to 5 to YouTube or people pleaser to integrated, focus on expression and you'll go through that transformation. Expressing the real you, putting yourself out there. Like many people, this is also, by the way, the key to going from closed to open energetically. I have whole videos on that. Going closed to open, expressing allows yourself to open. And the fear is that if I express myself, I'll be rejected. The fear might be around vulnerability, et cetera. So understand that as you make this shift and you focus on expressing, your life will shift in a very powerful way. And the expression itself becomes fun. It becomes this thing that you enjoy that feels good instead of the result, which is what a lot of people are going for. For. Now thirdly, SHIFT— story, heal, identity, frequency transformation. What you want already exists. What you want is about an expression of you becoming an F frequency, following your passion, letting yourself be in your own frame. Expressing yourself is really the, the bridge into a new you. And this is something, by the way, in my SHIFT Academy that we do— I'll go and link that if you want to check that out. This is a monthly membership where I show How to shift, life, hot seat coaching, meditations, and very soon I am adding in a basically an AI clone of myself, which sounds kind of weird, right? But literally my voice, I will be able to coach you through any challenges you have using my voice and everything that I've learned on YouTube plus the most powerful books that I'll reference, et cetera. It will literally feel like I'm walking you, holding your hand, walking you through the process of transformation, of shift, shifting and of elevating your vibration, that's gonna be available soon to people in my Shift Academy, literally probably within a week or two, few weeks of this video. So if you do wanna join, you can check it out right there. Other than that, if you want a video, the somatic release breathwork is down there for that. But if you want a video to watch next that will help you completely transform this process from the inside out, watch a video on how to detach so fast that feels scary. You can absorb the ideas of the enlightened people. It's one of my most popular videos. Of their new videos, check it out right here. What if you could detach so fast that it actually felt scary? This is something that actually enlightened people have talked about.