A woman stuck in procrastination and shame around eating traces the pattern to her military father's demands for perfection. Speaker B connects her childhood feeling of never being good enough to her adult self‑criticism, suggesting inner‑child healing could break the cycle.
My main issue is that I want to lose weight. And when I want to make that shift, it's always about tomorrow. As soon as I get home, I'm like, oh, I just got back. I'll do it tomorrow. Then I wake up in the morning. The first thing is the guilt. Why did you eat and drink that? Then the shame comes. Oh, look at so-and-so. Look at the way you look. You're better than that. You could do it. Where do you think this pattern might come from when you were a kid?
Well, my dad was a general. What do you mean by general?
General in the military.
Oh, wow. Oh, yeah.
So when he said something, you did it. Just do it right now.
OK, so interesting. How, as a kid, did you feel when the energy was do this right now?
A lot of pressure, not good enough.
Oh, interesting, interesting, right? The way that our parents treated us as kids goes into how we end up treating ourselves. And then if we reject or we rebel against our parents, it can be something where then we have trouble within ourselves making the choice to make a change or to make a new choice that's actually healthier for us. The little girl inside of you was probably thinking, do it right now. And what was that little girl thinking? Why not tomorrow?
