People who say they hate drama often unconsciously seek it out because childhood taught them that emotional connection meant chaos. When you meet someone calm and stable, they feel boring. Breaking this pattern means recognizing you're picking fights to recreate what felt like love, then choosing to stop.
People say, well, I don't like drama. I always attract dramatic people. I don't like the drama. But subconsciously, you're attracted to the drama. And if you meet people that have a calm, regulated nervous system, you may literally think that that's boring, or you may think that there's not a connection here. There's no problem. There's no connection. Because as a kid, if connection came with lots of problems and drama, for it to feel familiar, you've got to attract it. And if it's not there, what are you going to do? You're going to do something like, let's pick a fight.
