How to STOP attracting bad relationships (and START attracting your ideal relationship)

Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video, I'm going to be sharing with you why you might attract bad relationships and understanding what you can do to change that pattern that might be going on. Now sometimes you'll see this with people is they will be in a relationship, that relationship might end, and then maybe a year later, maybe even a couple months later, they'll be in a new relationship, but it'll be a very similar type situation with the very similar type problems going on. And maybe even that person is kind of similar to the way the person was before. Well, realize that a lot of times we don't necessarily attract what we want, but we attract who we are being. Now, this doesn't mean that we are a negative person or that we need to beat ourselves up because if we're attracting a negative relationship, but understand that who we're being in this moment is many times shaped around our definitions of who we are, shaped from the beliefs that we have about who we are, and that those subconsciously may be in a way influencing the kind of people that we attract ourselves to. So with this, it becomes understanding that we must redefine who we are and we must get to the core of those subconscious beliefs, let them go. Actually start to attract who we prefer because we change who we are being. Now I know that I talk about this a lot, but changing our subconscious beliefs because our beliefs are creating our reality is the most powerful thing that we can do to change the reflection that we're getting in our life. So in order to do this, and I have other videos that go a little bit deeper into this idea, but the main way that we do this is we see that sometimes we might have a belief about ourselves that says, I'm not worthy, or only this type of person will love me, or I'm not good enough, or this is the only way that I can— that somebody will love me, as if this is what I have to give them. You know, it becomes almost like a manifestation of the emotion that we're in and the way that we feel about ourselves, that then we see that that's how other people treat us. So this is why it is so important to get to the subconscious beliefs and to let them go. And the way that we do that is we realize that a lot of times the beliefs that we have about who we are came from a reference experience that happened years ago. So that reference experience could have been something that happened when you were 8 years old, when you were told, or maybe you even saw your mom be treated a certain way by your dad or your stepdad or something like that. And from that you assumed that that's normal in a relationship, and because of that, it began to shape what you thought you were worthy of, and the way that you think. So what you can now begin to do is get to the core of what that reference experience was. How do you know that reference experience? Well, normally when you start to ask yourself the question, what would I have to believe is true to keep attracting this? Your brain will then start to find the answer and it will bring certain memories into your mind. And if you see a memory of when you were a kid, it's a very prominent memory of someone talking to you a certain way or making you do something you didn't want to do, or then made you feel like you were only worthy for a certain, you know, thing. That's when those beliefs began to start. So the moment you become aware of it, you can then decide and realize that that's not who you are anymore. It was just on autopilot because you weren't aware of it, but now that you're aware of it, you can simply choose to let it go. It's— this process is really just that simple. The moment you become aware of it, and because now you're becoming aware of those subconscious beliefs, you are beginning to to change the way that you view yourself. And as you change the self-image you have about who you are and how and who you're being in the moment, you will then start to attract the person that resonates with the new version of yourself. So I'm always hammering in on this point that we don't attract what we want, we attract who we are being. So you must let go of those patterns, let go of those habitual ways of thinking of how you define yourself to be. And as you let those go, you'll start to become the version of you that's most likely going to attract who you actually want. So the way that you get rid of these bad relationships of what you don't prefer is by changing yourself in the present moment. And the way you change yourself is by simply letting go of the beliefs that don't serve you. So the next powerful part of this video is simply realizing that a lot of times what we do is our definitions that we impose shape our experiences. So we might have a definition that all guys are douchebags or all women are sluts or whatever it is. Those definitions about what we think is true will then shape what kind of experience we have, and it's almost like we become blind to the people that are the opposite of that because we're not focused on it and we don't even think or believe that they can come into our experience. So if you're a guy who thinks that every girl is this way, begin to let that belief go. And as you let that belief go and you realize that it doesn't serve you and it's not what you prefer to experience, you find that then people can come into your experience that you prefer. It's almost like you open up those probabilities so that you can actually see it because you're not imposing a different experience there. And if you're a woman, you can simply realize that not every guy is a douchebag or every guy just wants you for this reason. If you change that belief that you have, and even if you have supporting evidence for that, if every guy you've ever been with is in a certain way, treated you a certain way, or you found that they just turned out to be this way, understand that if you let go of that definition, if you let go of that focus, you can actually start to bring something even better into your life and imagine what you can attract to yourself or who you can be, who you can become to then attract the person that you desire. That comes from you changing your self-belief about who you are, understanding you can drop the definitions that so many people buy into, and by dropping the definitions, you start to bring in the probabilities and the potentials that exist right now in this moment. We're simply going to be blind to it if we're not believing it's possible and we're not focused on it. So simply let go of the old patterns that are running your life. Realize you are enough. Start to feel the emotions. Feel the emotions of what you would want to experience. Feel the emotions from within. Begin to realize that your cup must be full in order to give to someone else. So as you begin to do that, you realize you are whole and complete, and therefore you can attract somebody else into your life that can resonate with you. If you aren't whole and complete, somebody else will feel that off of you and they won't actually be able to make you happy and they might not even be attracted to you. In the way to where you can have a deep connection because it's almost like they can feel that incompleteness. They can feel that vibe and it's almost like it repels them. So the more self-love that you can feel, the more magnetic you make yourself and the more likely you are to attract who you are being, which is you giving yourself that emotion, will then attract somebody else who can resonate with that. So with that being said, I hope you guys enjoyed this video. Feel free to like this video if you liked it, share it if you found it of value, and as As always, I will see you guys in the next video. Peace, much love, namaste. Alright, bye.