If generational trauma is blocking you...watch this.

What if the blocks you have didn't start with you? What if they were generationally just passed down from family member to family member and it's simply been unconscious and now you're bringing it into the conscious awareness? Where in this video, I'm gonna share with you step by step how you can transform and finally stop the pattern that's been passing itself down so that you don't have to keep being limited by it, and so that you also don't pass it on to kids if you have kids, or the people around you, you don't replay those patterns over and over again. I'm gonna show you how I transformed this energy in my own life, what I learned from a coaching session from an author who wrote the book, "It Didn't Start With You," how it completely transformed my life, and how it can do the same for you. Until you make the unconscious conscious, "It will direct your life and you will call it fate." This is a quote from Carl Jung that has to do with understanding that much of the unconscious energy inside of our body and much of the patterns that we live in are running our lives. And we may literally feel like it has power over us, not knowing that much of this energy may not be us. Even be our own. Now, very often people are doing inner work, doing shadow work, and they're starting to become aware that there are these unconscious energies that are on autopilot and they may not even be their own energy. And this is proved, there's a book called "It Didn't Start With You" by Dr. Mark Woolam. And I actually had a session with Mark Woolam, took me months to get into with this author. And I wanna share with you in this video what I learned about generational trauma, how to finally let it go from your body, and how it will completely transform your life once you do. Now in this book, what he talks about, it's called "It Didn't Start With You." Most of the challenges you experience in your life with money, relational dynamics with other people, with friendships, have to do with replayed energy that also your parents dealt with, maybe your dad dealt with or your mom dealt with. And the interesting thing is too, you could take it a step further. It's most likely things that they had their parents dealt with. And it was just this trickle-down effect all the way down to you. And it can be often that people then say, well, there's all this 7-generational trauma of all of these things that happened. It has power over me. Now, What changed everything was when I started to really look at the patterns and understanding that it didn't start with you, this idea of the book. Now, what it's important to understand is that the energy inside of your body and the way that I used to transform this was awareness really is the first step of the process. Like the fact that you are aware that there is something called generational trauma and that there is energy that is just being replayed itself over and over again, it's a very powerful step for you to realize that you're becoming awake to it and you then have a choice. Do I continue to let it run me or do I make a new choice? Now, the way that I became aware of this is I noticed that in my dad's relationship, my dad is someone that's successful in his business as a fire investigator, but he'd also attract relationships in the past where there was a certain level of control and he was in a way pleasing the other person in his relationship. And I would see that growing up and I remember thinking, I don't wanna deal with that. But I also was becoming aware, so in some ways I saw the pain that that caused my dad. That my dad being a nice guy didn't serve him in a positive way. And it was something that I very much associated with something I didn't want to have active inside myself. But I also had to be honest with myself. There was a part of me that also had this desire to at times avoid tension and to be agreeable or to be what is called a people pleaser. Now, the way that I shed this energy is I started to become aware that that energy inside of me wasn't even my own energy. It was literally an adaptive strategy I had learned because that was what was modeled growing up. And as I started to become aware of this, I started to realize, and first off was aware that some of this energy's in me, and then I was kind of angry at myself, almost angry at my dad for going through that energy, and I had to process that. But the transformation came when I started to realize that because I'm aware of this pattern, I can shift into making new choices about myself. I can set boundaries with people. And it's interesting, I remember when I was going through this transformation, I was living in Sedona, Arizona, and my dad came to visit me and we were on an ATV, I bought an ATV at the time, and we were going on this place called Submarine Mountain. It's this place where you go this huge boulder and it's just really cool epic view. And as I'm with my dad, we're going and there's this like one-way ATV route and there are people coming the other direction. We'd get off to the side so they could go. And I remember the way my dad was. He was like, it's okay. Oh, one second. It's okay. Like there was a certain energy there. And I was like, oh, he's just so nice. And my dad always says, he goes, I just believe in being a nice person. I just, this is who I am. I am a nice person. I'm a nice person. I'm a nice person. And even to this day, if I ask him, he's like, you know, I just believe in doing the right thing and being a nice person. And the epiphany for me was realizing that within myself, that energy within him is just who he is. It's a part of his identity. It's deeply ingrained. For me, what I've realized is that I would rather be authentic than nice. I'd rather be authentic. And sometimes authentic means setting boundaries with people. Sometimes it means expressing how you really feel. I had to be honest that there was some repressed energy inside of me that I was not allowing myself to access. But when I did start to access it, I felt more powerful. Not because I was talking down to people or treating people differently, but I was embracing a disowned part of myself. So in a way, I believe that the generational trauma of my dad, who by the way, my dad being a nice guy, who was kind of like the youngest and felt like he had to please his mom, who was also going through a divorce because his mom and his dad was an alcoholic. I never met my grandpa on that side, but my dad's dad was an alcoholic. So interestingly enough, my dad also told me that my dad's dad, who I never met before, he was also similar people pleaser, nice guy persona. I remember talking to my grandma about it. So what did you know about grandpa? 'Cause I never met him. He goes, he would on weekends agree to anybody to go help them with their yard, to go help them. And it would piss me off because then he wasn't around with the kids because he was doing things for other people. So I had to like tell him like, you need to set boundaries. Interesting, right? So I have that of my dad who is the nice guy and then his dad was the same way. And then that's, he's embodying the same energy that his dad probably modeled to him. And he learned as a kid that it was better to be good, to be a good kid, to do what mom says than to be authentic and real and to express maybe certain aspects of himself. So maybe there was a disowned part of himself that wasn't accessing. And as I became aware of this by asking, literally also asking my grandma, asking my dad, asking my mom about different energy dynamics in the family, I was able to draw some parallels. "Oh, this didn't start with me. Actually, this isn't even my stuff." And what I eventually did is when my dad came to Sedona, I started to really realize it. And at first there was like a judgment there. I was like kind of judging him. I'm like, "Oh, this looks kind of like a weaker energy to be nice." And being kind, by the way, is not, I think being kind is good. Kind is not attached to outcome. Nice is I'm nice so that you'll approve of me so that you won't think I'm a bad person. And an interesting way, I think also when you have a controlling, like I had the controlling ex-stepmom from 7 to 17 years old, she was very, she was controlling. And while there was this narcissistic control dynamic and power dynamic that was there, there was a lot of, as hard as it is for me to admit this, even though she was controlling and manipulative, there was power underneath the way she was. Now, what I mean by that is, for example, I remember at one moment, not to like paint her in such a great light, but I will say I'm able to kind of look at both sides of the coin here. There's power that comes from being assertive. When something happened to one of my sisters, I remember, I remember that the way my dad responded to it and the way my ex-stepmom, I heard about it, the way she responded to it was like, she really stood up and was like, no, this is not okay. And then she like stood up for her sister for her daughter in a certain way. And I remember thinking to myself like, that's not, I don't think it's a bad thing to be assertive for your kid when you're like standing up for one of your kids in a certain way of whatever was happening. But the reason I say that is I realize that to not be a bad person, because what you consider to be bad may not just be being toxic narcissist, it might just be someone that's assertive in general. Do you see? So like what I had to learn in myself as I'm, shedding this generational trauma is become aware of what is the part of myself I disowned because from 7 to 17, I had a controlling ex-stepmom in my life and I realized part of it was expressing anger. Part of it was expressing boundaries, being assertive. And that was a mechanism that maybe my dad or people on that side of the family used was to avoid tension, was to be nice, But nice is, in my opinion, manipulative. It's, I'm gonna be this way to get this response from you 'cause I don't want tension. But what I realized as I was living in Sedona going through this transformation is I became aware of the pattern and then I started to be basically more assertive. I started setting boundaries. I started understanding that if I set boundaries with someone and that's their stuff, they have a problem with it, that's their stuff to deal with, not mine. So the transformation came when I started to realize that it wasn't my stuff, but also what I began to do was to parent the inner child part of myself, to give them permission to express and to give them permission to be angry. And this is where I think a lot of people when it comes to generational trauma could really do very powerful transformative work is understand that it's not yours, it didn't start with you, but it is your responsibility to let go of it and to heal the inner child part of you that feels disowned. So what that looked like for me was holding space and using visualization and meditations to connect to my own inner child, the one that felt couldn't express anger, the one that felt he had to be nice in order to get validated and accepted. And I started to then approve of that version of me that was more authentic, the inner child version of me that could express himself more. And that could set boundaries and that could be assertive. And as I started to be present with that inner child part of me, I started to feel differently. Now with Mark Woolam, one thing we did, who's the author of "It Didn't Start With You," what we did is we went through the first 5 years of my life and we looked at all the energy dynamics that were happening within the first 5 years. So literally 0, 1, 2, even started before 0, like in your mom's stomach, What was the energy like? And then at 0, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, after 5 didn't matter. I was like, but from 7 to 17, I had an ex-stepmom that was in my life. He goes, it doesn't matter. 0 to 5 is all that matters. And 0 to 5, we role-played what the energy was like. And I didn't consciously know every little thing that happened to me, but I remember asking my mom, asking my dad certain things. And what I found out was from 0 to 5, Zero, my mom was pregnant. My mom, when I was 1 or 2 years old, her dad died, who my mom had some trauma with and wasn't very close to. But when my mom's dad died, she lost a whole bunch of weight and wasn't eating. Well, imagine being 2 or 3 years old and your mom is going through a process and she's in her head. And imagine, would she be able to meet the baby's needs? Interestingly enough, I was thinking about this actually yesterday. I was in a hyperbaric chamber which is a place that I go to basically breathe in a whole bunch of oxygen for like an hour, and I feel incredible afterwards. And normally I go and I'm allowed to have my phone in this— it's called a soft shell. I'm able to have my phone in it, and it's basically breathing 100% oxygen under atmospheric pressure that allows more oxygen to get in your cells. And I always feel incredible when I do it. So yesterday I'm in LA, I go to this hyperbaric chamber place, and this time it was a glass one that was more expensive to go in for like 90 minutes. And I go in and the guy that puts me into this big glass thing is like, you can't have your phone, which is already like, I was planning on doing work and listening to meditations. Now I can't have my phone, but there was Netflix. And what happened is I go inside of this thing and the guy is there and he's like, I'm telling him what I'm gonna watch and I couldn't really find anything. So I just put on meditation music And then what happened is he left and he went somewhere. Here I am in this hyperbaric chamber, and there's actually someone else next to me in a hyperbaric chamber, and it's a glass hyperbaric chamber so I can see them. And you couldn't hear anything on the outside, and to speak, he had to talk on a telephone because it was all soundproof. So, here I am in this glass hyperbaric chamber, I can't see the guy, I'm starting to get hot and kind of uncomfortable and claustrophobic even though it's glass. And what I realized is after he left, I didn't know when he was coming back. And I remember thinking to myself, imagine a baby whose needs aren't being met and the baby's like, when is mom and dad gonna come back? Even if I were to cry or yell or knock on the window, there's no guarantee this guy's coming back anytime soon 'cause I couldn't see him. And I realized how uncomfortable that was. It was so uncomfortable to be in this glass dome, kind of claustrophobic, it's starting to get hot. It was kind of warm and there was— even if I were to yell or say anything, no one could even hear me. How interesting, right? Well, imagine a baby going through that at a young age, not being able to be seen and heard and not knowing when someone's gonna come back. I'm like, is he gonna come back in 90 minutes when it's over? Is he gonna come back sooner? And then commercials start playing on the YouTube like thing I'm listening to. I'm like, I don't wanna watch 90 minutes of like commercials every 20 minutes. But it's an interesting thing, right? So 2 or 3 years old, mom that's dealing with some emotional stuff, not able to meet the needs. Then 3 or 4, my brother is born who had a lot of stuff going on health-wise and he got a lot of attention naturally because he had asthma. There was a part of me that probably felt abandoned. And then 4 or 5 was when things started to go, started to fall apart between my dad and my mom and they got divorced when I was 5. What Mark Wollum helped me do is become aware of all those energy patterns. And basically the process and the transformation was on being present with the part of myself that felt not seen and heard, was becoming present with that part of myself and literally meeting the needs of the 3-year-old version of me when my brother was born that maybe felt like the attention shifted. What if I could be there with that version of me? The version of me from 4 or 5 years old when things started to fall apart and 5 when my dad and mom divorced, realizing it's not my fault. So a big part of generational trauma is understanding that from 0 to 5 years old, a lot of that energy may be similar energy that also was active when your parents were kids as well. So it's just passed down. And one of the most powerful ways for you to transform and to heal that I found is to do inner child healing and to focus on meeting the inner child part of you that feels not seen, heard, soothed, or nurtured, meeting that part of you and allowing yourself to then nurture it so that there's a part of your nervous system that begins to relax. Then from there, it's about understanding that in the moment of the pattern of that awareness of it, you can then make a new choice about who you are and you can lean into the emotions that normally you would've avoided. And you do that through repetition. You do that through awareness and of making a new choice. Now, I do have a complete process that will show you step by step how to transform and to raise your vibration using the power of what's called Ho'oponopono to clean out your energetic field and the power of breathwork for clearing the energy stored inside the body. I have a free course called High Vibe 101, literally a $1,000 course you can have for free by joining the High Vibe Tribe, which is also free. I'll go ahead and link it below and you can check it out. And if you want to learn more about what I'm talking about with this Mark Wollum and how to heal the inner child energy, I have a live event that I did in LA where I talk about literally from 0 to 5, what I learned about that time of my life. And I walk through from a live event, I walk through the entire process of what I learned and I show you about the still face experiment, which will completely change your life around understanding your own inner child. And step by step how you can transform it. So if you want that live event footage, you go ahead and watch this video next. You can watch it right here. So empaths, people that can feel other people's energy, this is both a superpower and sometimes a curse on the other side of the spectrum.