If Someone Goes "No Contact" on You, DO THIS NEXT!

In this video, I'm gonna show you step by step exactly what to do if somebody went no contact on you. This is important time right now. What you do next will powerfully affect the outcome that you get, and that's why I'm making this video. Now, when it comes to no contact, the first thing to understand is what has happened. Let's look at the energy dynamics of what has actually happened here. Somebody, maybe you were in either a relationship with them or you were growing closer to them, or maybe you hoped that eventually there'd be a relationship or at least some form of intimacy. And what happened is somebody withdrew their energy and is asking for space and they are not reaching out to you. They are not contacting you. You have maybe have texted them, maybe you've called them, they're not answering. Maybe you've reached out to their family or their friends, or you've tried going to someplace that they hang out a lot hoping to accidentally run into them. The thing that has happened energetically when somebody goes no contact is they are asking for space. They're actually maybe even demanding space. So it's important to first off look at this because what most people do is they do the opposite of this. Somebody is asking for space. Somebody is asking to separate their energy so that they can, a lot of times it's to separate their energy so that they can breathe too. Because what happens is when we are in relationship with somebody else or we are around somebody a lot, our energy is intermingling with this other person. And especially this can happen in avoidant attachment styles where things become too intimate and then there's a desire for space. And what happens is energies are intermingled and then they say, well, I want my own energy. And sometimes what happens is when they then start to try to individuate, the other person may lean in even more, may ask even more questions or want and maybe cling even, even more tightly. And when they cling even more tightly, it creates an energy of neediness, of neediness. And neediness is one of the most repelling energies that exist. Neediness is when you need, when somebody needs something from you in order to get their own needs met. So the important part of understanding this no contact whole energy dynamic is understanding that if they are asking for space, the best thing you could do is to try to change their mind. No, I'm just joking. Don't change your mind. Give them space. Actually give them what they are asking for, which sounds counterintuitive because the thing is, when there's a needy energy, There's a belief there that says, well, maybe if I cling closer, maybe if I try harder, maybe this person just doesn't see my value, I can actually prove it to them. And then there's like a fighting to get their validation, their approval, or something from them. Now, the thing to understand about this more than anything else is that the best thing that you could actually do is to really give them space. Now, when you give them space, You are not giving them space because then they're gonna be attracted to you again, which ironically enough, a lot of times does happen. But I don't want to, I'm afraid to say that because then people are like, okay, I'm gonna give this whole space thing because then it's gonna manipulate the situation to get my needs met. So people are like, well, how long do I give them space for so that they come back? And it's like, no, that's not the focus. The focus is on actually pulling your energy back. When you pull your energy back, what ends up happening is you create the magnetic energy within your own body. You energetically pull your energy back and you stop focusing on them. 'Cause here's the thing, energetically what happens is when you're around somebody else, you begin to intermingle energy fields together. Here's an example right here. I made this video not that long ago and I'll just use this. You have energy field that goes around you around them and then an energy field that goes around each other. That's like the container of the relationship. Once the relationship may end or this person may say, I want space, then what happens is this person sometimes will continue to project energy at this person. And even though you're not physically around this person, even though you're maybe not even talking to this person, not texting them, what ends up happening is you're still projecting energy at them. And energetically, they can feel that. It feels like intrusive. And it's something that's kind of metaphysical, does sound more esoteric, but it is rooted in understanding that we are all connected. And when you feel, how you feel about you is projected out and other people pick up on this. And I had this happen recently actually with somebody that I know, and they were going through something in their life. And it seemed like as they were going through something, they were feeling a lot of resistance within their field. Things were popping off with many other people in this person's life. And it was, I think, energetically, just because there was a lot of stuff happening, people were picking up on this person's energy and then also having things to be brought up with this person. It was very interesting. And the opposite works too. There's people that everything is going well. I used to see this when I sold women's shoes. If somebody is having an amazing day, they're in a very positive state, having fun, making money, like selling shoes and stuff, they would just get— lucky after lucky after lucky in the right place at the right time, the right place at the right time, the right place at the right time. And there's no logical understanding of why that is, but it's just a reflection of energy. So when we talk about the no contact rule, and this is a video that I made recently, when we talk about it, one of the things you do wanna do though, I'll kind of just use some of this, is you want to actually go no contact where you're not actually, so they went no contact, you're not going no contact on them to get them back and for them to come around. You're going no contact on them because it's actually the best thing for you is to bring your energy back to you, to bring the energy back inside of your own body and to understand that as you do, you create a gravity within yourself. I've seen this happen in my life so many times and so many times I get DMs from people that have watched my videos on topics like this on no contact and it works like clockwork. Bring your energy back into your body, which is a very powerful technique that we use for this called the frame technique, where you put the awareness in your hands and your feet and you actually bring this person to mind and you feel the separation between you and this person. Even right now, as you listen to me do this, like imagine that person and imagine and feel the space in between you and this person. They may not be around you right now, of course, but feel the space between you and them. Feel the energy inside of your feet and your hands. And as you imagine that space between you and them, and you can even call back your energy, really, I call back my power and my energy back to me now. Say it 3 times. I call all my power and energy back to me now. I call all my power and energy back to me now. There's free will here. We unconsciously project our energy at people when we're thinking of them and we want things from them. Bring it back to you and understand that the more you bring the energy back in your body and honestly creating your own vision for your life. Sometimes what we do is we become the cameo in other people's movie instead of being the star of our own movie. There's this whole like trend on TikTok and all everything, it's called like main character energy. And there's like this little kid that's walking around like celebrating her birthday inside like some classroom and everyone's like chanting her name, main character energy. What happens a lot of times with this no contact dynamic is people become the cameo in someone else's movie. They want them to come around, they're not coming around, there's resistance there. So instead, what you wanna do is you wanna bring your energy back. You wanna focus on your own life, focus on your own friends, focus on your own family, focus. Are you doing what you love for a living? Are you enjoying your life? The energy, if you wanna attract somebody that's a one-on-one reflection to like the true you, you must be the true you. If you wanna attract somebody that has a clear and like a clear energy field, you must have a clear energy field. If you wanna attract someone that has a regulated nervous system, you must have a regulated nervous system. And I know right now you're like thinking about the other person, maybe the no contact person that went no contact, but understand that when you change your energy, you create gravity within yourself. If they're meant to come back, maybe they do. And maybe then you have a choice. Do I wanna keep re-entertaining these old patterns? Because a lot of times the thing that we're fighting for in this no contact dynamic is we're fighting for some form of trauma bond. We're fighting for some form of abandonment that we felt as a kid and we're trying to get them to come around because if they would just come around, then we'd feel whole and complete. We're trying to prove ourselves to somebody else. It's like we're fighting for our own self-worthiness. And one of the most powerful things that you can actually do is to bring your energy back. Now, one other thing I wanna really emphasize here is social media. I would recommend, highly recommend that what you do is that you mute them or block them on social media depending on the dynamic that you wanna do. Muting means you're not gonna see their profile, their photos or anything, and stop checking because every time you check, you are energetically literally sending them a form of energy that they can feel. And what happens is as you're sending them energy, they feel it, but you're doing it also because it's for your own healing. It's for yourself. Realize you may have had an amazing connection with this person. Realize that there are also 7 billion people out there in the world. Realize also that you are an awesome person. You're amazing. You really are. And all you have to do is start bringing the awareness back to you instead of focusing on other. As you bring it back to you, you will create more magnetic energy within yourself. Now, another thing that you wanna focus on too is not trying to fix or explain yourself to this person. Sometimes what we do is we get value out of trying to fix. We assume something else is wrong. We assume, you know, I've seen people comment on my videos, things like this, but like, I'm with that mind and they're not. And by the way, this voice that I use is not making fun of people. I use this voice for myself sometimes when I'm talking about myself, just so you know. They're like, Aaron, I don't get it. Like this person was in a relationship with me and then they left and they don't know this, but they're my twin flame, other half of my soul. We've met in the Pleiades and we've been around for lots of years and they just don't know this. So I'm gonna explain it to them. And I'm like, no, that's so heavy. You're gonna explain to them this huge crazy story that they may or may not be tuned into or may or may not be true. You wanna pull your energy back and ground it. And not give so much pressure, so much importance to the dynamic and understand that when you're trying to fix someone else, a lot of times it's trying to fix mom or dad because if you could just fix them, then they would see your value. They would see that you're worthy. They would appreciate you in a new way. And one of the things that really helped me, the thing that helped me attract love, get back to sort like, pretty much everything was I realized that in the past when I would have trouble getting over somebody, I would think it was this person. And in actuality, there was a deeper core there that went back to mom and dad, a deeper core there. The wound wasn't as surface as it looked, it was deeper. There was a feeling of rejection, of not being chosen as a kid. So then when somebody would go no contact on me or somebody would not wanna be in a relationship with me anymore, I'd feel like there's something wrong with me and I would fight to prove it to them. Maybe I could fix them, maybe I could help them, maybe I could show them that I am worthy. No one else would go as the lengths that I would go to like be in this relationship. And guess what? I'd end up like digging myself a deeper hole and reaffirming this belief that says I'm worth, there's something wrong with me, a level of shame. When things really changed in my life and I started to emanate main character energy, I started to be safe in my own frame, I started to have an open heart, it had to do with letting go of shame, letting go of the belief I'm broken, there's something wrong with me. When I let that belief go by realizing that it wasn't, the way that I let that go is I realized that it wasn't my fault that mom and dad divorced, it wasn't my fault that I was treated a certain way as a kid, It wasn't my fault, meaning it's not 'cause I wasn't worthy. It was just people were playing out different patterns. That really helped me heal. And also forgiving. I was able to forgive my ex-stepmom, my past self, my dad, other people in my life. They're doing the best they can with the level of consciousness they were at. And that helped me heal too. That helped release the energy outta my field because energy is in our field. If we're holding onto it, we hold onto resentment, we'll then probably resent the person that we're dating. You know, if we don't forgive and we have this belief that people try to control me, this person will probably play out that pattern. So what you really wanna focus on is bringing the energy back to yourself. And as you bring it back to yourself, you'll notice that your life begins to change in very powerful ways. You wanna notice that you can really go no contact with them as well, not because it's gonna get them back, but because it's actually what's best for your energy. And then you're gonna become the more, like the main character of your own life, not the cameo in this person's movie anymore. It will completely transform the energy dynamic and allow you to become more magnetic than ever before. Now, if you haven't seen it yet, I have something called the Magnetic Activation Process. It's called the MAP. It is the step-by-step process of transforming your life and unleashing magnetic energy from the inside out. For helping you become the star of your own movie and really create your dream life. If you haven't checked it out yet, it's completely free. There's a 45-minute training video and a PDF that shows you exactly what you do. Go to aarondoughty.com/map, M-A-P. And if you wanna know the No Contact Manifesto step by step, exactly what to do to really do this in the most powerful way, then watch this video right here. In this video, I'm gonna show you step by step how to apply the No Contact Manifesto. I'm gonna show you what to do what not to do, how to actually use this in a proper way, and how this will completely transform your life.