If Someone Goes "NO CONTACT" On You, Do This!

If someone goes no contact on you, the things you do next are very important in understanding how you can switch the energy field back or completely let it go and allow yourself to be safe in your own frame, not tuning to other people's energy in order to need validation or approval. And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly how to do that, exactly what to do next, and exactly why this will change your life more than anything than anything else you could possibly do. Now, no contact is when you're dating someone, you're maybe even in a relationship with somebody, and then maybe things start to pull away. Maybe for a while things are going okay, you're texting each other back and forth, there's a certain type of connection, but then what happens is the energy starts to be pulled away, and then like that, sometimes there is no contact moving forward. This person may not respond to voicemails, not text back at all, not show up at the same place as they used to. It's like the energy was there and then all of a sudden it's completely cut off. Now with this energy and with this thing, what happens is many times people will feel that somebody else energetically pulls away and then what happens is they then double down and they try to get the energy back. They try to do, and they think in their minds, something I'm doing is wrong. Maybe there's even something wrong with me. And if I do something a little bit differently, then this person will actually come back and everything will be just as good as it was before. Now, if that's the strategy, I promise you what will end up happening, you'll end up pushing them away even more. Because when somebody wants space and when somebody goes no contact, What that means is they do want space. It means that they are calling and they're asking for some, that things have been feeling a little bit too much for different reasons sometimes. On one hand, maybe they're not ready for a relationship. Maybe the intimacy is scary to them. On the other hand, it could be that maybe the energy that was being projected at them was too much and they just want space. They started to feel too, they started to feel too like there wasn't enough space for them just to be themselves, or they started to feel like they weren't being their own individual self. So that may have scared them as well. So there's two sides of it. I think it could be sometimes people that just don't wanna become emotionally available or connected, or sometimes it's just people that, and they aren't ready for that. And sometimes maybe the energy that was being projected at them was just a little bit too much, so then they pulled away. Now, the key to this is understanding that the meaning you give to why they pulled away is gonna determine the kind of energy that you embody. And what I'd like to encourage you to understand is that all because they pulled away does not mean that there's something wrong with you. It does not mean that you're not gonna be happy. The story you're telling yourself about that person a lot of times too may be a story that is completely either outdated or a story that is just on autopilot. I know for myself, I've had challenges in the past where I would feel like somebody was pulling away and then I would internalize this, mean, okay, there's something wrong with me, I'm not doing something good enough. And then there was like this block and there was also this story that like this is supposed to work out, this has to work out. And it's creating all this pressure in the relationship. And the thing is, is when we are energetically thinking of someone or we are, we have a certain heavy story about someone, we're projecting them energy and they're feeling that. So one of the best, most magnetic things you could possibly do in this circumstance is to actually pull your energy back. Pull your energy back. If they go no contact, do not chase after them. Do not try to get them to come around. Don't think there's something wrong with you and if you did something a little bit different, then they would stick around. Pull your energy back and focus on yourself. Focus on what this means for you. You don't have to give this a meaning that says there's something wrong with me. The thing that I realized is when I was attracting people that weren't choosing me, it's because there was a story that I had that that's the way it works. When I was attracting and in a space to where it was challenging for me to let go of the old story, it was because I was then becoming aware that the old story was a story that's been on autopilot since I was a kid. And in many ways, The same dynamic that I was experiencing in dating was actually more related to the parent dynamic when I was a kid. Because what happens is when we're kids, there's familiar energy that is around. And what we do is even as adults, we try to recreate that energy. We attract people into our lives to recreate that same energy because in a weird way, it feels familiar and familiar feels safe. So I'd ask you this, if somebody goes no contact on you, did mom or dad ever go no contact on you? Did they just immediately pull back their energy to where then it just wasn't there? And when that happened, if you were a kid much younger, did you start to wire in a meaning that says, maybe there's something wrong with me, maybe I'm not good enough, "If I could just prove it to this person, then maybe they would invest more of their energy with me." And what we're really doing is we're avoiding the emotion of shame. The emotion of shame is the emotion of there's something broken, there's something wrong with me, I don't feel like I'm good enough. And that energy, if we don't feel it and let it be there and acknowledge it and become aware of it, will run our lives. In many ways, for a long time, I was what's called a people pleaser. I would try to be a certain way to gain other people's approval or validation. And what that would end up is me overcompensating. And the people I was dating or the people I was talking to would be like, "Oh, this guy obviously doesn't feel worthy." And it would also cause me to say, "Okay, if these people feel this way about me, there must be something wrong with me. Maybe I can fix it." Trying to fix the outside. Versus feel on the inside. I believe that the no contact thing is a powerful reminder for us to give ourselves the emotion that we're craving in somebody else. If somebody else goes no contact on you, you can realize that it may be an opportunity to look at some level of abandonment wound and to realize that the validation, the approval that you're looking for in them you could start to feel within yourself. You can realize that maybe there's an inner child inside of you that feels not seen, not heard when you were a kid. And what you could then do is realize that a lot of times when somebody goes no contact, there's most likely, especially with no explanation, most likely what is happening is your own energy has already abandoned itself. That's a form of an abandonment. You may have feels familiar from childhood, but normally for that to happen, there's at some level you are already abandoning yourself. Maybe you were even abandoning yourself when you chose the person because there was something, maybe they weren't emotionally available, maybe they weren't as into you as you were into them. And becoming aware of that is key because then you can realize, wait, I've been abandoning myself to make this relationship, this dynamic work. I'm gonna now pull in my energy, pull my energy back, and I'm gonna put it more inside myself. And for myself, when it comes to attracting love, the main key that changed everything for me is when I stopped abandoning myself. I started living according to the values that I chose. I stopped living according to like putting on a pedestal other people's approval, what other people think about me, their validation. And above that, I put my own integrity, my own authenticity, my own vulnerability. And when it comes to no contact, there's probably, if you feel like there's that abandonment there, there's probably a level of shame. And from that level of shame, the key, the thing that changes everything is when you start to become more vulnerable. Vulnerable means you show your heart. Vulnerable means you go into the wound and you allow it to be there. You show the real you. Normally people pleasing, we're trying to do everything we can to not get rejected. And what ends up happening is we're avoiding believing that we're broken. And there's nothing wrong with you. If your mom or your dad emotionally took their energy back when you were a kid, if their energy was contagious, not contagious, conditional, If their energy was conditional, then probably what happened is you didn't get the right report card grades, something happened, you didn't act in alignment, they cut it off cold turkey. And then there's this belief, oh, I'm not good enough. Love is conditional. There's something wrong with me. And then you might have gone into relationships and tried manipulating different situations, people's perceptions of you, and it just became so much energy, so much work. But I'm telling you now, The key to this whole entire process is to actually pull your energy back and to stop abandoning yourself, to start living according to your own values. The values that I most encourage are vulnerability and authenticity. And when you live by vulnerability and authenticity, you start living according to these higher ideals. It is magnetic energy. For a long time, my people pleaser version of me, I'd be afraid to show women that I was dating that I was interested in them. Sexually, not just as friends. And that would have me hold back. And guess what? It would depolarize relationships. It wasn't, I wasn't in my true masculine energy. And then it was an energy dynamic that I just felt blocked. Eventually I realized it takes vulnerability to express the real you. It takes vulnerability to put your heart out there, to show people and to even, for me to show interest, there was a possibility there could have been rejection. And that was something I was always avoiding. I said, you know what? I'm gonna go into this. I'm gonna be the real me. I realized a lot of this stuff, by the way, from the past. There was an experience in the past where something happened where I then decided, oop, it's not safe to be this way. Remember when I was like 12 years old, I was at a park and rec place and it was like a summer school thing and there was this dance that you had to be like 12 or 13 or older to go to. And I go to this dance and I asked an 18-year-old out, one of the teachers, to dance with me. 'Cause I thought she was attractive. And guess what? She laughed and passed me on to some other 12-year-old. She was dancing with some 18-year-old. And in that moment I thought, oh, it's not safe for me to express my real desires. It's not safe for me to express what I want because I could get rejected. And I internalized that rejection and saw, oh, maybe I'm not good enough. Something wrong with me. Not knowing at all that maybe there was a 6 to 8 year gap difference. It was in my little 12-year-old, 12, 13-year-old mind, I was like, there's something wrong with me. I must not be good enough. From that point going forward, I made the choice, I'm not going to express myself. I'm not gonna express myself in that way 'cause I could get rejected. So I'm gonna play it safe. I'm gonna be nice. I'm gonna be a friend. But guess what? The sexual polarity would be all messed up. So what I had to eventually do is to realize that the degree to which I'm going to attract someone that is in their feminine energy is the degree to which I'm in my masculine energy. It's the same thing for you if you're watching this. If you desire masculine energy or feminine energy, it'll require you to be embodied in the opposite of that to create that polarity. And if you've been abandoning yourself, you've probably been screwing up that polarity in some way, giving up that natural core of yourself to be a certain way to get your needs met. And one of those most magnetic things you can possibly do is to pull your energy back, to release the energy of codependency, the energy of neediness and realize that as you do that, you are activating your heart center, you're activating presence, whether it's feminine or masculine energy, presence is one of the most magnetic things you could possibly have energetically. So pull your energy back and watch what happens. Now, something that we have started and something that I'm excited to announce, today is the first day that the Magnetic Mastery membership is open for enrollment. This is a community of people where we're all focused on one outcome, becoming the most magnetic versions of ourselves from the inside out. Every single week, I'm gonna be doing live coaching. Every single week, there's gonna be forms of accountability so that we can hold ourselves accountable. There's gonna be thousands of people all over the world in this community, and we're all gonna be going towards that one focus of becoming the most magnetic version of ourselves. Being in a community is one of the most powerful things I've realized in my life. So now is the time to join. Now until Friday, you can join the Magnetic Mastery membership, become a part of this high vibe tribe, and we can all focus on this one outcome so that we can attract the love, the opportunities, and really becoming the most magnetic versions of ourselves from the inside out. So if you wanna join, click the link below or go to www.join.magneticmastery.com. Just click the link below, that'll be even easier, and I will see you on the inside. And other than that, if you want a video that will show you why when you let go, your energy becomes so magnetic and the 5 secrets to letting go, then you could go ahead and click this video right here. It's one of my most powerful videos. In this video, I wanna share you 5 secrets to letting go that will make you more attractive and that will completely transform your life. And when you start applying them, it changes everything because you start realizing who you really are and you start letting go of what you