Aaron Doughty explains why people who need to fix others attract partners who seem broken. The fixer feels worthy by solving their partner's problems, but this codependent cycle keeps both people stuck: the partner stays dependent, the fixer stays in control, and neither gets what they actually need.
If you are a fixer, what kind of person do you think you're going to attract in a relationship? Someone who needs fixing. You're going to attract a project, literally. So if you are a fixer, you will attract a fixer-upper. Also, in a deeper subconscious way, as a fixer or a rescuer, I am helping this person. But really, when you are helping them, you are actually enabling them, and you are seeing them as broken. If you see them as broken and you say, it is my job, my responsibility to fix you, because if I fix you, then I feel worthy, needed, And then you'll never leave. So you could say this fixer mentality is really a codependent pattern that has been practiced, familiar, and it keeps people doing what you want them to do to meet your needs.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
