Aaron Doughty teaches empaths how to stop absorbing others' energy and tension. He describes the frame technique: gazing at a candle while breathing, visualizing a clear boundary between yourself and the flame on the inhale, then softening into connection on the exhale. Apply it to people in your life to reclaim your own energy while staying loving.
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The empath sees everything else as an extension of them. What they've done as a kid is they've expanded their field to include their family, to include their environment. So what happens is your tension is my tension, so if I mitigate your tension, I can feel good. But the, the energy is too far out and too expanded. There's a very simple process that I call the frame technique. You stare at a candle flame, and on the in-breath, what you do is you feel the separation between you and the flame. You feel the space in between you and the separation. You feel strong in your sense of self inside of your body. And then what happens is you stare intently on the flame itself, the center of the flame. Then on the out-breath, you relax, and you relax your peripheral. Doesn't mean your eyes are looking around. It means that you're softening the gaze around the flame. And on the out-breath, you can feel at one with your environment. You allow yourself to soften in that energy. So on the in-breath itself and on the out-breath, it's connected to other. And you can even bring certain people into your mind. You know, these are some esoteric concepts we're talking about, like energy cords with someone else, which is kind of connected to Ho'oponopono as well. People that you're around a lot, what you can begin doing is imagine them and feel the separation between you and them. Doesn't mean you can't still talk to this person or love the person. It just means you're taking your energy back. And maybe by taking your energy back, you let them be in their own energy, and then you're in your own energy, and there's more healthy dynamic there.