Aaron Doughty explains why people who feel unchosen often reject those who do choose them. The spark you feel with unavailable people mirrors childhood patterns with distant caregivers, creating a belief that attraction means unavailability. Breaking the cycle starts with recognizing this conditioning.
people who don't feel chosen, they are actually chosen by some people in their life. They just don't want anything to do with those people. So it's a funny thing, right? Because it's like you ask someone, like, are there people that are choosing you that you're just not interested in? And a lot of times people say, actually, yeah, there's quite a few people that, that want something to do with me, but I want nothing to do with them. So part of the challenge with people who don't feel chosen is that they feel like they're only attracted to people that don't choose them because they feel like there are sparks there. They feel like there is chemistry there, when actually what that chemistry is, is that chemistry is a familiar pattern from childhood that feels familiar to mom or dad who was either physically or emotionally unavailable. So what the belief is, is over here, this is what I know, this is what's familiar. And the challenge with that is that you're attracted to people that don't choose you because it feels familiar to childhood.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
