If you keep dating people who can't handle you, it's not that you're too much. You're drawn to emotionally unavailable partners because of your own insecurities. The right person will actually want your intensity.
If you choose emotionally unavailable people and you're going on dates with emotionally unavailable people, well, guess what? You will be too much. They emotionally can't handle it. So the question is also, why am I attracted to this kind of energy dynamic? Whatever insecurity you have, there is someone else that has owned that insecurity. It's not something that like drops them down in state. It's not something they feel shame for. So there are someone out there that might be like, yeah, to some people I might be too much, but understand, to the right person, you'll be just right.