Aaron DoughtyAwareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, LLC · Spiritual Teacher and Educator

If you want them to choose you...

14 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker explains that when you are attached to the outcome of someone choosing you, you create energetic resistance that pushes the other person away. The desire to be chosen is perceived as manipulation, similar to a salesperson who is overly eager to make a sale, which triggers the buyer’s repulsion. The speaker argues that by demanding or expecting a choice, you actually block the other person’s freedom to decide. The suggested solution is to adopt a mindset of being "good either way," releasing attachment to the result, which allows the other person to choose you freely without feeling pressured.

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If you want someone to choose you and you are attached to whether they choose you or not, what you're doing is you're wanting them and there's resistance around them giving you something. And we feel energetically anytime someone wants something from us, we repel and resist giving it because you can feel the desire, you can feel in a way the manipulation. So in an interesting way, you're not even allowing people to choose you because you're trying to make them choose you and they want to do the opposite of whatever you try to get them to do. Just like if you go to a sales store and someone really wants to help you and they want you to buy something, you can feel the agenda there. It repels you. So a huge epiphany happens when you realize you are actually blocking people from choosing you because you're demanding or expecting them to, which creates resistance. And if you are good either way, you then allow them to choose you.