If You Want To Be Magnetic, Confident & Attractive, WATCH THIS!
In this self‑help video Aaron Doughty explains why trying too hard to be magnetic makes a person less attractive, while a relaxed, non‑attached stance draws people in. He argues that the energy we emit is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves; owning perceived flaws and being present in our own bodies creates magnetic confidence. Doughty shares anecdotes (his mother’s cyst, his experience selling shoes, a crowd‑energy exercise in Costa Rica) to illustrate how self‑consciousness amplifies perceived judgment and how grounding the energy in the hands, feet, heart, and breath produces a pull rather than a push. He links people‑pleasing, codependency, and abandonment wounds to a lack of personal frame, and recommends setting clear boundaries and stopping self‑abandonment as ways to increase magnetic energy. The video concludes with a promotion for a paid 21‑day “Magnetic Love Challenge” that claims to heal codependent patterns and help participants develop secure, magnetic love energy.
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Why is it that the more someone tries to be magnetic, the less attractive their energy is? And why is it that the less they care, the less attached to outcome they are, they then are so much more desirable and people chase that kind of energy? What is the difference here? Now, for understanding your own attractive energy, your own magnetic energy, it's very important to start becoming aware of the energy that you're putting out. Because the energy we put out is felt by other people. People feel what you feel about you. This is why a lot of times when it comes to confidence, if you would just own the insecurities, then what would happen is if you own the insecurities, say it has something to do with your, like, something on your face, size of your nose, like something like that, if you feel self-conscious about it and you give it the meaning that says that there's something wrong with me, or you just simply don't feel attractive because you haven't accepted that part of yourself, you then go out into the world and you're projecting out an energy that says, I'm not comfortable. Oh, look at, are you looking at my mole? I remember one time my mom said that she had a cyst, which is like this like thing that comes on the face sometimes. And she went out into public and she thought like everyone was looking at her and then like, someone at Blockbuster or something like this, this was a long time ago, was like, she was telling this funny story about how this person was saying, "I insist you look at this one," or something like that. Like using the word insist just to like poke fun at it. The interesting thing is though, is when we're self-conscious about it, we'll notice everything in reality that's reflecting that back to us. And people will feel our energy and then respond to us in that way. So one of the biggest things you could do for your own confidence is to simply own and feature whatever you think is your flaw. If you think it's a flaw that you have a certain, you're a certain height, maybe you think you're too tall or you think you're too short. If you would just own it, other people wouldn't care. And not only that, they would see it like, you know, they would see it as almost a benefit or something that it depends on the energy you are embodying to how people are responding to you. So this is something to be very aware of because magnetic energy follows the energy that is not attached. Because when we're attached to what other people think, when we're attached to how other people feel, then our energy is in a way needy and manipulative. It's an interesting thing about people pleasers and nice guys is they need other people and want other people to validate them and they want their approval and they don't want them to feel tension. So they will like sacrifice their level of self. They'll sacrifice their own frame to make other people happy, but then they feel like they don't know who the hell they are. They're tuning their own energy to ping to everybody else, and guess what? It's not attractive. It's not magnetic. What is attractive and magnetic is when you are bringing the energy into your hands and into your body and being present and not attached. When you're attached, you're projecting your energy outside of you, and that changes the energy dynamic. I went to a life transformation place in Costa Rica and there was an energy person there that did like a TED Talk. And she was explaining this and she said, I want everyone in the crowd right now to project your energy at me. And she sat in the front of the crowd. And she says, when you guys do this, it backs me up. Like I feel projected, it like repels me. She goes, now bring your energy back, bring it into your bodies, bring it into your hands, bring it into your feet. And as we did that, guess what happened? She's like, "I feel pulled towards you guys. Like I feel like magnetized to you guys because there's an energetic dynamic that goes when you're present inside your own body." And don't just take my word for it. Go out into wherever you eat, your restaurants, your like coffee shops, whatever, and try this. Put the awareness into your body, into your own frame, into your hands, into your heart. Into your feet and feel the separation between you and others. Don't just focus on the connection. It's common in the spirituality niche. It's like, I'm gonna feel connected to everybody, this is great. But sometimes there's almost too much of that connection because then you feel so connected that you don't know where somebody else, where you end and someone else begins because their happiness becomes your happiness, people pleaser. Instead of being a people pleaser, you wanna please yourself. You wanna stop abandoning yourself. But when you feel the separation, you then start to feel safe in your own body. And when I would do this exercise, I'd go to Whole Foods when I lived in Sedona, I'd go on a hike. And before, the people pleasing mentality would come out of me. I'd be like, oh, I mean, it wasn't this dramatic, you know, but I would go out and there's times I felt like obligated to say hi to people. Even just on a hike, like, "Hello, how are you?" And I used to work that 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes, and I had to greet people all day long. "Hello, how are you? Do you need help with anything?" It sounds needy. "Can you give me validation? Can you give me a sale, please? I'm just standing here not helping anybody. Hey, how are you?" But when you're in your own frame and you don't care, you're like, "Hey, how you doing? How are you?" "Hi Aaron, how are you? I don't care what you, I'm not attached to you doing anything." Hey guys, can you guys please like this video? You see that energy? Hey, if you guys like this video, can you guys please like it? Or if I'm like, if you guys feel called to it, you can like this video, helps the video get shared more. It also helps people that are on the awakening path find this kind of content so they can wake up. So it helps people. You can like it if you like. Which energy are you more receptive to? One's attached to outcome, one doesn't care. And the interesting thing about energy is the one that is, the person that is least attached has the most frame. Think about that. The person that is the least attached to outcome, that is the least attached to validation, that is the least attached to trying to control ends up having more frame and having and being in frame is attractive. It's magnetic. Being in your own body is attractive because it's magnetic. You're actually being present. What is really attractive to anybody is presence. Are you present inside your own body? Are you present to the moment? Think about like going on a date with someone and somebody that's like, okay, I hope this date ends with like getting a smooch on the cheek Oh my God, that'd be amazing. Oh, I just hope it ends like that. Ah, you know what reminds me of? There's this show called The White Lotus and there's like this, she's like Stifler's mom. You guys ever seen her? She's like, oh yes, that's just amazing. She's always like pilled out in her characters on shows and stuff like that, but kind of reminds me of that kind of energy, you know? And what you wanna do is not be attached. Not be attached and not need anything from anybody else. So if you're on a date, that's where I was going with that. So if you're going on a date and you're like, oh, I just hope it goes so well. I just hope they like me and I hope it ends with like this way or maybe they'll call me back and like this immediately, you know what? Maybe this person's my twin flame, my soulmate. I'm gonna put them on a pedestal and I really hope it goes well because they don't know this yet, but they're my twin flame and soulmate. And like we've had so many incarnations together, like all these stories. And it's such a heavy energy because it's attached to outcome. But then you got someone that goes out that's like, I'm just gonna have fun. I'm just gonna enjoy the freaking process. I'm gonna have fun. I'm going to be present to the moment. I'm gonna say jokes I wanna say 'cause I self-amuse myself as well as like, you know, wanna add value and stuff. But the way you wanna think about this is which person is more present? What are you doing as an end result and what are you doing because you enjoy it and it's who you are? Look at the difference there. Very, very big difference in energy. When I was helping people with women's shoes, if I was like making a video and I was like, okay, I really, or I was making, even with making videos, if I'm making videos, I'm like, I really hope this video does well. I hope you guys feel the energy and all this stuff. And then you could feel that energy. But if I'm making a video because this is part of my identity, this is who I am, it's easy, it's natural, it's a different energy. When I was selling women's shoes, I was like, I hope I help customers and like I'm helping a customer to sell them shoes so I make a bigger paycheck. Very different energy. But if I was helping someone just to connect with them and have fun, very different because it's an end of itself. It's more present energy. So being magnetic, remember the person that is the least attached is the most attractive. How do you become least attached? You heal and let go of the other validation points you make. You let go of pretty much the external, of trying to manipulate and control the external to get your needs met. And instead, you start realizing that you are the source of your own needs. You can meet your own needs. And the way that you do that is you have to heal some stuff sometimes. At least you have to become aware of stuff. Many of us have an abandonment issue where we felt abandoned when we were kids. We felt abandoned. Maybe our mom or our dad, maybe they physically left or maybe they just emotionally checked out. And then we made this meaning and said, oh, there's something wrong with me. I don't want people to abandon me. I don't want people to reject me. So I'm gonna change my frame. Maybe you were the glue of your family and had to like glue all the siblings together from all the craziness. And then you decided I'm gonna change my frame to make everybody else happy. And then what happens is that's the energy that we stay in and we're trying to change ourselves. So what we do is we abandon ourself to then make everybody else happy. But remember, being in your own frame is what is magnetic. And to do that, you must stop abandoning yourself. How many times do you say yes to going out with friends or doing things maybe you don't wanna do because you forget yourself and you have to do what they want? You think you have to. How many times are you not being fair to yourself because you're expending yourself to other people? How many times do you over-explain yourself to other people when you don't need to? If somebody says, hey, do you wanna do this tomorrow? And you don't wanna do it, you can literally just say no, period, no. You don't have to say no because then you make up some white lie. I have to pick my mom up from the airport and then my brother's in town and then there's like 8 other things happening. So just know that I really wish I could hang out with you, but I can't because I have so much stuff going on. You don't have to go that in detail and lie. If you lie, it's even worse 'cause then you're not being in integrity to your own word. Instead, no, I don't feel like doing that. You could say I don't feel like doing it, which is true. When I first started setting boundaries and stuff, because boundaries are attractive, boundaries are magnetic. The more successful you become, the more boundaries you will set, the more boundaries you will have because you will guard your energy more because your time becomes more valuable. So for everything I'm sharing today, realize being in your own frame is key to transformation. It's the key. If you wanna transform your life, then what you wanna do is you wanna focus more on being present to the moment in your own frame, leading. Stop abandoning yourself, learn how to set boundaries more. And as you do this, this will change everything about you. If you haven't checked it out, by the way, already, I have a 21-day Magnetic Love Challenge, which will help you to heal codependent wounds, get more in your own frame, let go of the old attachment style of anxious or avoidant to become more secure, let go of codependent patterns that you can really just feel whole and complete from the inside out, and you will have more magnetic energy. It's the Magnetic Love Challenge. You can join it for free, or no, you can't. It's actually paid. It's $67. It's pretty cheap though. And all you gotta do is you click below and you go to aarondoughty.com/love. It's a 21-day process. It's the most powerful challenge I have. And you can read the testimonials as soon as possible, okay? Now, other than that, there is a video for things that letting go of make you magnetic AF. And confident AF. You can check this video out here. It's one of my most powerful videos. Watch this video. Watch how much your life changes. People feel what you feel about you. The energy inside of our bodies are contagious. And based on how we feel about ourselves, that energy is being emanated out and other people are responding to us
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