Aaron Doughty shares how his parents' divorce at five and his stepmother's divorce at seventeen left him without a stable relationship model. He argues that inherited emotional patterns span generations, and breaking the cycle requires recognizing and consciously releasing them rather than using family history as an excuse.
My dad and my mom were divorced when I was 5, and then my dad divorced again when I was like 17 with my ex-stepmom. So I had this like story that because I didn't have like a model for people that were in a relationship for a long period of time, I used to felt like I was at a disadvantage of that. And I would almost not resent friends, but I would like look at friends and think that some of my friends had it a lot easier because their parents were still together. I look at that, I'm like, I wish I had that. But I also had to realize, oh, that energy is what was modeled growing up. How can I embody that energy inside of myself and actually integrate that and lean into tension? So instead of using it as an excuse that like, 'Oh, I'm gonna be just like my dad who's like that.' I let that be the initiation into breaking the pattern. And all of you that are here came here, I believe, to break patterns, to not keep the family line going of whatever the patterns were alive in your family line. And for many of us, the patterns that you and your parents experienced didn't start with you and your parents. They may have gone down a whole lineage, a whole ancestral line where it just keeps getting passed down, it keeps getting passed down, up until someone goes through a process of looking at the pattern, feeling whatever emotions are there that want to be felt, and choosing to let it go. And that's I believe we all came here to begin breaking these patterns, to breaking the chains that have been causing that energy to be that way.
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