Empaths often developed heightened sensitivity as kids in unsafe homes, learning to read others' emotions to survive. As adults, this survival skill becomes a trap: constantly abandoning their own needs, saying yes when they mean no, and struggling to set boundaries.
A lot of times what happens for empaths or people that can feel other people's energies, if it didn't feel safe as a kid to be in your natural energy, to have your own perspectives, or to be in your own frame, what we may have done is we may have shifted our energy to then say that I must mitigate the tension in the family in order to survive. I must tune to others. Tuning to other people became a survival mechanism to say, am I safe? Am I okay? Whose tension do I need to mitigate? How can I make mom or dad happy or friends happy, etc.? And this as an adult will trickle out into people's lives if the pattern goes unlooked at. Now, what happens is empaths, people that can feel other people's energies, that have this ability that they've gained as a kid, as an adult now, they might find themselves abandoning themselves for other people, hyperactively tuned to other people, saying yes when they really want to say no, and vice versa, not setting boundaries, kind of being a people pleaser and saying yes when it's like actually not even authentic to say yes. But it's, it's a pattern that they learned to stay safe and to be worthy, or it's who they believe they need to be in order to Goodbye.
