Aaron DoughtyAwareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, LLC · Spiritual Teacher and Educator

Letting Go of The Fear of Abandonment...

24 Apr 2025 · 1 min

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In this self‑help monologue, Aaron Doughty explains that the feeling of being abandoned is often a story we project onto events rather than an objective reality. He describes how people with an abandonment wound may interpret even minor disagreements as signs of being left behind, leading them to take on the responsibility for another’s emotional state. In trying to prevent perceived abandonment, they end up abandoning their own needs and suppressing their inner child’s unmet need for being seen, heard, and nurtured. Doughty encourages listeners to recognize that past abandonment experiences are narratives that do not define their worth, and to reframe those memories so they no longer dictate current self‑value.

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For someone else to abandon you, you have to agree that it's actually abandonment. It's a story. It's like a self-projected story. Sometimes if that abandonment wound is there, you'll see even little disagreements as abandonment. Maybe you're with someone else and there's a disagreement. And then there's a feeling, oh, they don't agree. They don't think the way that I do. I need to mitigate this tension. You feel responsible for their energy. But what ends up happening is you end up abandoning yourself and also trying to mitigate their energy to avoid the abandonment, not realizing that two people don't have to agree on everything. It doesn't have to be interpreted that way. So maybe you can look to your past and you can see that there was a time in your past where you felt abandoned or you felt like someone left. And to even have that perspective means there's a story there. There's maybe an unresolved energy. Maybe an abandoned part of the inner child that feels not seen, heard, soothed, or nurtured. But understand at a different level, maybe it was just something that happened that had nothing to do with you and your worthiness.