Magnetic ENERGY SECRET For Being In Your OWN FRAME

This video, I'm going to be showing you the most powerful magnetic secret I have learned about being in my own frame. These are things that will completely change the way you show up in the world, and it'll also change the way people respond to you because you've changed your own energy. Now, the first thing to know about this is the simple saying that I've been saying as of the last couple of days, and that is to be in your own frame you must be able to reframe. So being in your own frame of reality literally means that you are able to be present to the moment and also focused on a certain vision, focused on going in a certain direction. And when we're not in our own frame, we'll find that we will tune to other people and be in the frame that they want us to be in. And this is the classic saying as well, that you're either the star of your own movie or you're the cameo in someone else's movie. And energetically, you want to be the star of your own movie. Energetically, it changes everything. It also helps you let go of a lot of the neediness. A lot of times when we're trying to be the cameo in someone else's movie, we put someone else on a pedestal and we end up creating a lot of resistance in the process. Now, when I look back on my life and I look at the things that really shaped me as a person, shaped me on being in my own frame, the most powerful thing I've seen— and I was watching a podcast yesterday that I'll share with you, like a little story from it and see many different ways on how you could apply this— it's what changed everything about my energy. It's what changed literally like almost the timeline that I was on by changing and reframing the meaning to certain things in my life. Now yesterday I was watching a podcast with Joe Rogan and Aaron Rodgers. Aaron Rodgers is like a famous quarterback and he was talking about, he's like a super successful quarterback. A lot of you probably know who he is. I'm not a huge football person, however, I still know who he is and it is, he was explaining a story when he was in this food appreciation class and it was in high school and he was given a lot of shit from the teacher of that class because the teacher thought that he was entitled and had all these stories about him because he was a football player. And to the, what he said was actually the truth is that he was very focused on school. He really was one of the only football players that really cared and really wanted to get good grades, but she would like project all this stuff onto him. And it was very hard for him to get by because like she'd give everyone else privileges except for him because she'd like single him out. But on the other side of this, what he said is at one point she was like, you think you're gonna become a famous football player or like a successful football player in the NFL? She's like, you're wrong. You're gonna be a loser. You need to fall back on your education. And she said all these mean things to him. And he looks back at that and can see that that was something that really shaped and really motivated him to actually become more and to live more than what that teacher's expectation of him was. Now the thing is, is the meaning we give to things determines what we choose about ourselves. So everything in life is fundamentally neutral except for the meaning we give it. That may have, in a good way, him and Joe were talking about is interesting because it's like, well, that's like one of the, probably one of the best things that ever happened to him because then it motivated him even more. In a similar way, I remember when I was first getting on YouTube and I started making videos, I remember that I had like, you know, 10 subscribers or 11 subscribers on YouTube at the beginning. And my sisters, I was, my sisters were like, are you gonna go make videos for your 11 subscribers? And I remember at the moment thinking, well, maybe they're right. Maybe this is like ridiculous. Like I'm putting all this energy in making videos and I have 11 subscribers. And then I would hear stories about my ex-stepmom making fun of the videos that I was making. She would like say, "My name's Aaron Doughty, I'm a Spanish guy." She would say that and like joke around and like make fun of me with my half, my sisters where that's their real mom. And I remember feeling very defeated and I felt like, you know, if I let that in, I could have just said, you know what, maybe it's right. Who am I kidding myself? But ironically enough, that actually motivated me, motivated me a lot more. I actually was like, screw that. I'm going to go in this direction and choose the meaning I give to it and let myself use it as motivation. Now, when it comes to having attractive energy, one of the qualities you must have is the quality and the ability to choose your own meaning to things and to not internalize everything that's happening, because if you internalize and you start thinking, what are people thinking about me? And you internalize and think that it means you're not good enough or something like that, then it stops you from being in your own frame and you continue tuning to other people to get your needs met. I remember as well when I was working that 9 to 5 job selling women's shoes at Barney's, one of the most embarrassing times and one of the most demeaning times was when they brought me up to the office and they wanted me to watch a video of myself on camera on my phone for like 10 minutes. And the thing was is I sold women's shoes and half the time, like for 4 hours, there'd not be one customer in the store. And what we'd do is me and coworkers, we would, one of us would stay on the floor and the other one would go in the back and be on our phone. Then we'd take turns. And one of the reasons that was is because it was just so damn slow. Well, when it was my turn and I was on my phone, they didn't have that on camera. And then they brought me up and they wrote me up and said, if you ever do this again, you're gonna get fired. But they were like, you need to watch this. So I had to watch and silence myself on my phone where we could see what on Instagram I was swiping through. So I'm there with like the regional manager, the store manager, and then like the HR manager. And it was super embarrassing. And I was like, okay, I get the point. Can you just write me up and like be on my day? They're like, no, we want you to really watch this. Like they wanted me to go through the embarrassment of watching that with them 'cause they were trying to make a point. Well, in that moment I felt so small and I felt so demeaning, like demeaned or whatever. I made the choice. You know what? I one day will not be working for somebody else. I will do what I love. I will not have to adhere and like, be told what to do, so I made the choice. And I said, I'm gonna make a video every single day on YouTube. That was right around that time that I made that choice to make daily videos. That pain motivated me to shape new meaning about myself to then go in the direction that I wanted to go. And that also changed my sense of perception of myself. I started to see myself as like somebody that didn't take shit from other people. And also somebody that could put my mind on something and make it happen. There was another time this happened too when I worked at the Rack when I was 18 years old. I worked at Nordstrom Rack, which is like where you work and you get paid hourly and you're like, it's kind of like a luxury Ross or something like that if you guys know what Ross is or, you know, it's kind of like a discount store where all the Nordstrom stuff goes to. And I was working there for like the first year and the only reason I got that job is because I wanted to transfer to the main Nordstroms because I knew that they got paid commission and I didn't wanna, only get paid an hour. They want commission. So I got the job there. I worked there for like 6 months and they said after 6 months you can then put in a request to go to the full line store. And I thought, oh cool. After 6 months, I'm a good employee, I'm on time, and I'm one of the most consistent employees. I go to put in my 6 months to say, hey, can I transfer to the full line store? And they said no. And I said, why? And they said, because you're not ready. We're gonna be setting you up for failure. That's what they said. They said, if we send you to the Rack, we're gonna be sending you up, or we send you to the full-line store, we're gonna be setting you up for failure. And I said, that's bullshit. I said, I know I'm ready for the full-line store. I don't wanna continue to get paid $10 an hour when I know I could be making more. And I met people from the full-line store that would come buy stuff 'cause they got a discount at the Rack. And they would tell me stories about, oh yeah, we make like $25 to $35 an hour commission. I'm like, fuck, what am I doing here at $10 an hour? I know I'd be a good salesperson over there. And they said, oh, we're setting you up for failure. And then I realized, oh, this is called corporate politics. This is where they don't want me to leave because I'm one of the only, they have such a high turnover right there at that store. They don't want me to leave because I'm a good employee and consistent employee and everyone else doesn't even show up on time and stuff. And I was like, oh, I get what's going on here. And that's when I first learned about corporate politics. So then what I said is I said, okay, I bought a suit. I went to the full-line store and I went to the women's shoe department because I worked in women's shoes at The Rack and I said, I want to talk to the store manager. Her name was Lori Jo. I said, I want to talk to the store manager. They said, okay, it's gonna be like a 20-minute wait. I said, okay, that's fine. So I sat there for 20 minutes. I waited for the store manager to come. When the store manager came, I said, hello, my name's Aaron and I work at The Rack and I want to transfer over here. I'm very motivated. I think I'm gonna be a great salesperson. And I'm super excited about that. I would love to transfer over here and to put my— bring my talents to the Brass Plum Shoe Department. And they— she said, okay. And then I said, I actually told her, I said, I think they don't want me coming over here because they know I'm a solid employee and that's just what I think and blah, blah, blah. So then what they did, what she said, she said, okay, I'll talk to them. I'll figure it out. Couple days later, I'm at the work, I have a job at The Rack. They call me to the office and they say, well, you're transferring to the full line, you're the full line store and we're not happy about it, blah, blah, blah. And it became this whole thing. But they let, I was able to get over because I took the initiative because I chose my own meaning and I was persistent. I went over there and then it also wired in my mind, oh, I'm somebody that can like, there's always a way in your life. There's always a way for you to show up in a new way, to transform your sense of identity. When I started making daily videos on YouTube, that completely changed my sense of perception about myself. That was me being in my own frame. And if you stick to your frame, you don't have to just say, someone says no, you say, okay. It's like you wanna live your purpose and you start living your purpose and then someone else says no and you say, okay, I guess I'm not living my purpose or something doesn't happen right away and you say, okay. But remember, reality is a reflection. Of who you're being. And if you're experiencing an old reflection, you can't look to the mirror for change. You have to look for the change within you. You have to be the change. Now, ironically, to finish that loop of that story, the brass comb shoe thing, they told me they were setting me up for failure. I worked there for the first 2 or 3 months. I ended up working there for 5 years. I worked there for 2 or 3 months, and then there was this award that was given out called the All-Star. It means you give great customer service. So at one of the first meetings, where it's a store meeting where even the Rack managers come, not the Rack people, but the Rack managers come to the store meeting, the full-line store. They came to the full-line store, they were sitting there, and then I got called up as an all-star, which means I got this little freaking gold thing next to my name, and it was like I gave great customer service, and I was one of the most like, it was a moment where basically I got called out and recognized or whatever for being a great salesperson. I remember looking at them and thinking, did you set me up for failure, you know? So it kind of came full circle. But one of the most magnetic qualities you can have is to be in your own frame, to choose the meanings you give things. And the question I ask you is when it comes to attractive energy, are you doing what you love for a living? Are you passionate? Are you moving in a specific direction? Are you taking no for an answer, right? The moment like something happens, realize that you get in life a reflection of who you are being. And when you are being the most magnetic version of you, it means you're doing your passion. It means you're following your vision, you're living by your own integrity, and you're not letting other people tune you and like put you off track onto something else. That's what really changes everything. Now, one of the most powerful ways to transform to the most magnetic version of you is something I call the MAP, the Magnetic Activation Process. There's a free video that shows you step by step how to go through the MAP, how to become the most magnetic version of you from the inside out, how to create that identity shift in yourself and you can click the link below to check it out. Go to aarondoughty.com/map, M-A-P. 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