My HONEST Love Advice For Empaths (LIFE CHANGING)

This is my honest love advice for people who consider themselves to be empaths. This is gonna completely transform your life, help you understand your own energy, your own love life in a completely new way. And I'm gonna show you how to completely transform it so that you start to be more magnetic than ever before. So you start to feel safe in your own frame and you start to really live according to your own credo. This changes everything. Now, first off, let's look at this right here to understand the role of empathy, maybe why you've became an empath and what blocks you might have when it comes to attracting love and how you can honestly bring the energy back. And this is honestly gonna be brutally honest. I said honestly 3 times now. It's gonna be brutally honest advice for you too. Stuff that isn't hard to hear, but you might realize is true if you look at it. Most likely, if you're an empath, something that you may do, you may find yourself doing, is you may attract people that have a strong sense of what is called frame. A strong sense of frame means that it's someone that may be very opinionated, somebody who really has strong preferences. The extreme side of this is someone who's a narcissist, who it's all about me, me, me, and in a weird way, somebody that has that perspective, there's something a lot of times that empaths, that attract them to that energy. And there's a reason for that. And I'm gonna be sharing that in this video. Now, what happens is when we are in an energy state where we are tuning to other people, our energy is being diluted. It's being projected at people. And what happens is there's also in a way a lack of boundaries. There's a very fluid energy that's tuning to the environment to try to create a sense of safety. So think of it like this, people that are empaths, their energy is going out. Being an empath means you can feel other people's energies. And normally one of the reasons this is in place is because in the past there was a moment as a kid where you didn't feel safe or you had to tune to mom, dad, or the environment in order to like make sure everything was good, make sure mom's okay, dad's okay, siblings are okay so that you could feel safe. So it became a survival mechanism to tune to other people. Like for me, I can clearly see that I had the narcissistic ex-stepmom. If I wasn't super in tune with how she was showing up or what she was doing, then it could be pain. I would have to constantly tune myself to know, is it safe? Is it not safe? Am I good enough? Am I in trouble? Am I not in trouble? Because I'd be in trouble for like the most ridiculous things. I'd be in trouble if I left like a dustpan in like a certain part of the closet or some shit. So it's constantly like, am I safe? Am I safe? Tune, tune, tune, tune. And then later on it makes it hard in dating because I'm tuning to the feminine, I'm tuning, and then they're not feeling safe. It's something I had to learn to transform. That's what we're talking about in this video. And here's the thing, tuning to other. Now sometimes then I'd also attract people that had a very strong sense of self. There's these two aspects, there's other and there's self. Now what happens is if we're always tuned to other, we're also tuned to like, what do people think of me? Is it safe? And we're tuned to like feeling safe if everything on the outside is a certain way. Now self, these are people The healthy side of that is these are people that have a healthy self-esteem, that are doing what they want in their life, that are focused and have a certain like moral compass that they have within themselves. And the extreme other side of this, of course, is the extreme side of that is narcissism. It's all about me, me, me, me, feed me. And narcissists, what they do to get their needs met is they manipulate their environment and they get everything and they gaslight people to get everything and all the attention put towards them. And that's why they normally attract empaths because empaths are focused on other and they're willing to give them that energy. And it's like they both get their needs met. They want somebody that feels like they're in their strong frame because they're attracted to that because normally mom or dad had that kind of energy, one of them or somehow, and they tune to that and that helps them feel safe. And then they feel safe in someone else's frame, whereas this person feels safe when someone else is feeding their frame. Because that's what they need. That's like their core wound as narcissism. Now, the thing to learn about this though, and the honest love advice for empaths is understanding that this empath ability that you have can be a superpower because you're probably a very good listener. You're probably very good at feeling other people, but at the same time, it can be a curse if it's used in the wrong way because there's a shadow side of this to where you're always tuning to other people. There's a shadow side to this to where it's like, what do you, it's like you're always tuning to see if it's safe. And the power, one of the most powerful things I ever learned was how to bring the energy back inside of my own body. That's why the frame technique I always recommend, it's one of the most powerful transformative processes I've ever found. It's called the frame technique. It's very simple. You literally bring the energy back into your hands, you bring the energy back into your feet. And what this helps you to do is this helps you to feel more safe in your own body. And it also helps you to understand more about who you are because a lot of times people that are empaths, they have an abandonment wound where they felt abandoned either emotionally or physically growing up. And they said, it's not safe for me to be myself and to be safe in my own body. So what they do is they energetically in a way leave their bottom chakras and they tune to their third eye, and then they can tune to everybody else. They know what everybody else is thinking, they know how everybody else feels. And then they're moving through life kind of like a leaf in the wind, tuning to whatever they feel like they need to do. And the key is bringing the energy from the third eye back into the body to then ask, how do I feel? Now, the frame technique is also a way where what you do is you feel the separation between you and the walls, like me and the camera, you and the phone or the video or the TV or however you're watching this. You feel the separation. When you put the awareness on the separation, there's a safety you can feel inside of your own body. This is a technique, by the way, that I've done, gone out in public, and you will notice an insane amount of people respond to you very differently because when your energy's in your body, you are magnetic. The electromagnetic energy of the heart is thousands of times more powerful than that of the head. And let me say that again, electromagnetic. The electromagnetic energy of your heart is so much more powerful than the head. So when you bring the energy back into your body, you're bringing that magnetic energy back inside of yourself. And when you then realize where, like people that have the abandonment wound, they tune to everyone else, they want everyone else to be happy. And what they end up doing in the process is they end up abandoning themselves. They abandon themselves, they abandon their own sense of wellbeing, their own sense of happiness, what they actually wanna do. Oh, you wanna go out to this place and I can't say no to that even though I don't really wanna go because I don't wanna disappoint you because your disappointment is my disappointment because I'm tuning to you to be happy. So instead it's about realizing, wait, that's your shit, not mine. If you don't like the fact that I don't wanna go to this crazy karaoke bar where it's yelling, there's so much noise, then that's your shit, not mine. I don't have the energy for it and I have to focus on something else. That's where you can really separate yourself and realize it's almost, it's not like you're shrinking your own energy field, you're bringing it back in and you're tuning in with yourself before you do something. What do I wanna do? Doesn't mean you're a narcissist and you only do whatever you wanna do ever, but it means there's a balance here. You tune to yourself instead of just saying yes because you feel like you have to. It's about realizing the energy. And I will tell you as well, or share with you, that the more I brought the energy in my own heart and I made the choice to open my own heart and I stopped judging myself and I started living according to my own credo in a way, like my own values, that changed everything. I started living according to the values of vulnerability and authenticity. Instead of the values of validation and approval, which is what I was seeking before. I valued that because I was seeking outside of myself, the other, validation and approval because I didn't feel it on the inside. So what I ended up doing is I ended up realizing, wait, I'm gonna live according to the values of vulnerability, sharing the real me, even if some people don't like it, even if it means that they have a process about it, Authenticity, what is the most authentic version of me? And that meant setting boundaries. That meant sharing with people my true emotions. That meant if I'm dating someone, telling them that I have feelings for them. And every time I did something like this, it reaped positive benefit. And it has, it comes from like a place of more groundedness, a place of more energy and understanding that when you stop abandoning yourself, you're way more magnetic. And then also what you can begin to do is create safety within your own body. And as you do that, you start living according to your own vision. It creates a sense of gravity. It creates a sense of like a new direction. And what you do is by doing that, you create this magnetic energy from the inside out. So now I'm much more clear on my vision. I'm much more clear on who I am. I'm much more clear of what's okay, what's not okay. A lot of times empaths don't know where that line is. What's okay for people to treat you, what's not okay for people to treat you. You know what's funny? People that are narcissists, that are the extreme side of this, the reason they attract empaths is because empaths actually put up with their bullshit because they don't know what's okay, what's not okay. If they meet a regular person that has a healthy attachment style that is aware of like, oh wait, you want me to like feed, you're gaslighting me, they say, fuck that, I'm not putting up with that. And they walk away. I've shared this story before, but my old manager working at Nordstrom's in women's shoes, every one of the 13 people in the department, she would talk down to, she would gaslight, and she'd get away with it 'cause she was protected by upper management. One time, this guy named Roland comes in, he works there for 2 weeks, she starts talking down to him, she starts belittling him, and he goes, "What the fuck?" He's like, "You don't talk to me like that." "Screw you," and he walked out and he quit. Why? It wasn't okay that some narcissist talked to him like that. But for the other 13 people, we just allowed it. We thought it was a part of a job, you see? So what changes everything is when you become aware of that energy within yourself, you bring the energy back inside of your own body. That helps you to create magnetic energy from the inside out. It changes everything. Absolutely everything. Being in your own frame is a way of very much being magnetic and is a way that changes your whole entire life. Now, if you wanna learn a process, I have a 5 to 7 page PDF that shows you step by step how to get back in your own frame, how to activate magnetic energy. It's completely free. It comes with a 45-minute training video that shows you how to go through what is called the MAP, the Magnetic Activation Process. Go to aarondoughty.com/map. That's aarondoughty.com/map. Check out that video, get activated magnetically. And then also, if you're an empath who absorbs negative energy, I have one of the most powerful videos I've ever made. It's got like 800,000 to 1 million views. Check this video out right here. It will change your life. What I share with you in this video, I believe is one of the most profound ideas that has changed my life when it comes to understanding what it means to be being an empath. And recently I was in a live Q&A I was doing for one of my groups, and I shared this idea, and I could tell