Aaron Doughty explains that real magnetism comes from choosing yourself even when others don't choose you. When you stop chasing validation and sit with the emotions underneath, you become authentic. That authenticity is what actually draws people to you.
If you can let people not choose you and you still choose yourself, that's an extraordinarily magnetic quality to have. And the paradox of it is that many times people will choose you because they're choosing you in the sense that they respect you on a deeper level, but you don't need it either way because you choose you either way. So you will never go chasing again when you recognize that chasing is a pattern that's rooted in a childhood pattern from the past. And that when you focus on feeling the emotion underneath the surface and letting yourself be okay with tension, letting yourself embrace the bad parts of you, letting yourself feel and connect to that inner child part of you, and instead of needing to fix them or change them, you focus on connecting with them. And as you do that, you'll find that then you're in the energy of choosing yourself. And choosing yourself means expressing the real you. Choosing yourself means letting other people see sit with their tension and their energy, not needing to bring them on board. And as you don't internalize that, or you see the separation, that you will begin to feel more free, and it will completely transform your life from the inside out.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
