Once it feels natural, you become magnetic...
In this motivational monologue, Aaron Doughty explains why placing desires on a pedestal creates resistance and blocks manifestation. He argues that the energetic message sent to the universe when something is treated as "important" signals that it is not equal to one's identity, generating excess potential. By lowering importance, viewing goals as natural and focusing on the process rather than outcomes, one can align with a higher frequency that already exists. Doughty illustrates the principle through personal case studies: his shift from whiteboard‑style YouTube videos to identity‑based coaching, the re‑engagement with his true passion for teaching, and how changing his live‑event approach to prioritize fun transformed audience energy and results. He introduces the have‑do‑be framework, distinguishes inner versus outer intention (citing Reality Transurfing), and shares anecdotes from his Nordstrom sales job and a recent house‑rental experience that demonstrate the power of adding value and trusting that the desired reality already exists. The talk emphasizes daily rebirth, the role of meaning‑making, and the importance of authentic self‑expression. Practical tools are offered: a three‑step shift, a 21‑day meditation to connect with the future self, and a "thinking less" video to raise vibration. The overall message is that by becoming an antenna for the divine, having fun, and focusing on who one becomes, abundance, love, and success flow naturally.
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Why is it anything you put on a pedestal, you create resistance around? Why is it if you want to attract money or you want to attract love, it is then elevated above you and you end up resisting it? Well, the reason being is because what you are energetically saying to the universe is this thing is not equal to my identity. In this video, I'm going to show you the most powerful frequency that will completely shift your life from the inside out. I'm gonna show you the 3 steps that if you integrate will allow you to finally make this process so much easier. When you look back 6 months from now, you may see that everything has shifted, everything is more easy because there isn't this projection of energy and you finally allowed it to be natural. The first thing to understand, which alone I believe can completely transform your life from the inside out, is that by the time you experience whatever it is you want, instead of putting it on a pedestal, see it as natural. Like, you might get up in the morning, you might go brush your teeth, hopefully. You might go for a little walk, go sit in the sun for a minute, and it's natural for you to be in the energy of what you want. It's natural for you to to have that. It's natural for you to be that. Now, what a lot of people do is that importance, because it's on a pedestal, actually blocks it. There's a focus on the outcome instead of a focusing on understanding the energy of I'm good either way because I'm focused on the process. So if you even look at this YouTube channel, let me tell you a little bit about the difference between a few months ago on my YouTube channel to now that will show how this works. You'll be able to apply in your life, and I think that it completely shifts how you approach your goals or who you're becoming. So prior to this, a few months ago, I was in this energy where I was wanting to grow. Even the last 2 years on YouTube, I would say I was for years on YouTube teaching whiteboard videos and teaching ideas, and I thought to get to the next level, I need to do something dramatically different. I need to speak and have authority and be on stage and coach people. So for 2 years, I stopped making whiteboard videos, I stopped teaching, and I went primarily into the identity of a coach. Now, when I say that, being a coach and a teacher are very similar. I've become a very solid coach, and I've seen many people transform their lives from the inside out. But I completely abandoned teaching, which is my core passion. And part of that was because I wanted to become someone new, looking up to people like Tony Robbins and Joe Dispenza. I want to become that kind of energy. And to do so, I need to stop making YouTube videos and I need to start just running lots and lots of live events. So that's what I did for like 2 years. And even to this day, I will continue to run events, but it's coming from a very different energy now. As I've re-owned the identity, I guess you could say, or the teacher part of me, which is the more passionate part of me where I feel like an energy-giving energy, and as I've re-engaged with that, and as I've stopped focusing on views and money in my business, I've started focusing instead on creating better videos. So every video I make now on YouTube, it's not with the intention of getting more views. It's with the intention of becoming better at telling stories. It comes with becoming better at also teaching ideas. So literally throughout my day now, I have like a little notebook and I write down ideas and ways of illustrating concepts, and I'm excited about it. And as I've also had more fun with the process, there's a more calm energy there, but everything's began to explode. For the first time in years, the YouTube channel's getting more attention than ever, and the beautiful part of it, I'm not focused on the views. I know it might sound like I'm bragging about it or something, but understand, That I'm trying to make a point here that by focusing on views and growing for the last year and a half or more, it's been a lot of resistance. It's been a lot of like trying to become something new. By owning who I naturally am and knowing that that's enough too. I think before I would compare myself to certain people and certain friends of mine that are doing really cool stuff in the world. And then I would say, Oh, I need to do what other people are doing and then wonder why I feel blocks around doing that. But now what I've realized is I don't need to do that. I just need to do what's authentic for me. I need to own what makes me more myself, makes me different. And at live events now, this recent live event I did, it was magical. And I, before a year and a half, a year ago, and even months ago, to run a live event, what I would do is I would just, show up and for 2 or 3 days straight, I would hot seat coach people for like 5 or 6 hours a day. And parts of it were fun, but I was neglecting the teaching. So recently I did a live event where I had fun with it. Literally the team that I have, the volunteers in my team that like flew in and stuff, like basically what I said to them is the most important thing of this live event is that we have fun. And it completely switched the energy dynamic of the whole entire event. I had more fun, I was more calm and regulated, then everyone was more relaxed. And you wanna know the funny thing too? Prior to this shift that I'm sharing with you right now, the way in which you probably saw YouTube videos was like live event content, right? There were like camera angles and live event content and that was my content. So there was pressure around getting content on YouTube from these live events, which created resistance. Instead, eventually what happened, even just more recently, is I said, I'm just focused on teaching videos and there's no need at all to get content at live events. Guess what that did to the live event? Made it way more magical. And ironically, you know what happened? The content was epic 'cause I wasn't trying to get it. I didn't care. I was literally good either way. So understand that the degree to which you can allow yourself to have the process be the focus, to have who you become in the process— remember that there's these 3 different perspectives here. There's have, do, and be. Most people want to have. Their wants create a pedestal that puts it on the top and makes it not equal to you. Doing is like, I need to do to be successful. I need to take more action, run more live events, be more authoritative. Instead of me owning who I naturally am and being this version of me. So as I focused on that, as that last live event that I had, I taught for, like, it was a lot of teaching, whiteboard videos. People loved it. How many times have you blocked what you want because you thought you had to be more than just you? And when I think of these videos now, I'm having more fun recording these videos than I did doing anything else over the last like couple years. And do you wanna know the cool thing? I prepare a little bit, but mostly it's a flow state that comes through. I believe we're all antennas of the divine. And I believe that the more permission we give ourselves to express ourselves and the more we show up for others, it's like the more, pfft, it just flows through. So my job, and what's funny is the more that I step into this, the more it's like I get the next ideas. The more I'm like, you know, I write down a couple ideas and I'm in the pattern of writing down things and learning concepts and it's like the universe, God just gives me more and more because I'm in the process, I'm becoming it. So now that I'm focused on becoming a better teacher, which is actually who I naturally am as a teacher, it's like everything is aligning. The views are coming, the money, the abundance, the success, everything is being taken. I'm getting more requests to go on podcasts. Like everything has shifted because I've re-owned who I am. So get back to a second ago when you said you had to, when do you believe that you need to be extra in order to get the certain goal that you have? And for me, that extra was like, I need to edit in a crazy way so that you are actually interested because I am not interesting enough. Or believing that at live events I have to give and sacrifice, martyr my energy. Apparently in, what is that, human design, I'm a 3/6, so martyr, first half of my life, martyrdom, last half of my life, role model, yes. When is the half of our life, huh? Is it when we're 50? What is the life expectancy? That's human design if you haven't heard of it, but anyways. Like, do I need to martyr myself? No, I don't have to martyr myself, but if I believe I do, then I will create that experience to be successful. It's almost like my formula for success. So first off, understand when things are on a pedestal, you create resistance. Let it be natural by focusing on having fun in the process. Something also I originally learned from the identity of at my 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes at Nordstrom's. Have you heard this story before? I know I've shared it once or twice, but I used to work selling women's shoes at Nordstrom's if you haven't watched those videos yet. But one thing that shifted everything was I started to see myself as a top-selling version of myself. And one of the things that I did is I started focusing instead on making a certain amount of money every day 'cause it was a commission job, instead of focusing on that, you wanna know what I focused on? I would focus on fun. I would focus on adding value. I'd focus on connecting with people, and that energy would bring more abundance than anything else. So as I've noticed this shift in the letting it be natural energy, as this has shifted my life, and as I'm about to share two other things that I think will completely shift it in the way that maybe this starts to open things up for you, understand that a huge part of this process is you becoming open and present is a huge part of it. You becoming open and present, allowing the divine to flow through, allowing yourself to trust the process because it's not about what you get, it's not about what you have, it's about who you are. And I'm focused on becoming a better teacher. I'm focused on having more fun with the process. I'm focused on connecting ideas in a new way, telling stories in a new way, showing different aspects of my personality. And funny enough, in the age of AI when everything is copy paste, it's not this, it's that, it's not this, it's that, you're not going through a breakdown, you're going through a breakthrough, ChatGPT regurgitated. In a time of that, we crave authenticity, authenticity, even weirdness. And the more that I've accepted myself, the more that I've allowed myself to express myself, It's like that's where the growth has come. And guess what the best part of this whole process is? It's a lot more fun. It's way more fun. I get to have fun with the process, express myself. Look at my cool drawings. I did these all drawings all by myself. Okay? So first off, importance down. Decrease importance. What you make important creates resistance around. You create what is called excess potential. And excess potential says this is not equal to my identity. But when you're focused on the process and having fun, this allows it to be more natural versus outcome. And even like think about people with dating too, by the way. How many people are like, it's a serious thing. I need the outcome of a perfect relationship. It's so important. I am now 30 this years old and I need to find my other half. I only have a ticking clock that's about to go off. Pressure, pressure, pressure. And then a lot of times people will let it go and they start having more fun. They start becoming the version of themselves that's more authentic and expressive. And guess what happens? Okay, let's look at the second part of this. You ready for another dopamine hit? Dopamine hit of information. Woo, look at that baby. So the next part is understanding that when we talk about the vibration of letting it be natural, let's also realize It already exists. What you want to experience already exists. You don't have to create it. That's why sometimes people say, oh, we create our own reality. No, you don't. You don't create your reality. It already exists. You select it from your choices and your energy. God, or the divine, you could say, has created reality and created all the infinite potentials that exist. But this is, you see, this is an insight that I think could shift everything for you. Realizing that just like a radio dial tuned to a certain frequency, that radio dial tuned to a certain frequency, guess what? The frequencies already exist. Just picking up on it. What quantum physics shows us is that everything we can imagine already exists. There's an infinite number of parallel realities that exist. So you are more so focused on connecting to it now. This is something I'm learning in my life because right now in the process of selling a house, and what I recognize is that with the house, the more I can let it be natural and trusting the process, it's like I'm then not in the energy of needing to control, right? And control, thinking in control is an energy of resistance. Now what I've recognized is wanting to sell is an energy where do people want to be sold to? No, people don't wanna be sold to. Instead of me thinking of, I want to sell this house because then I would be free, I'm connecting more to the energy of the belief and the certainty it's already sold. I'm just curious with who that person will be that's lucky enough to get this house. You see how that's a different energy? What I'm doing now is I'm connecting more to a general calmness and certainty that it's already done, it already exists, I don't need to create it. It's more about realizing that if I was always like, it's gonna sell one day, it's gonna sell one day, it's gonna sell one day, it's always that one day's always in the future. So now what I'm connecting to is just a calm energy of gratitude for knowing that the right person will find the house. Now I remember also, I first learned about this concept also from that book Reality Transurfing that I talk about. It talks about importance, which I'm teaching you, I've been teaching you in recent videos, and then this other idea of inner and outer importance, no, inner and outer intention. And the idea is that outer intention is what's extremely powerful. It's an understanding that we're all connected. And that when you have an inner intention, it's almost like an ego desire of like getting. An outer intention aligns the intention with someone else's inner intention. So for example, when I used to sell women's shoes, I would have the intention of connecting and adding value to them. Their intention is to either buy shoes or not, or to find or solve their problem. That's more of an equal energy, isn't it? And like an energy that actually has good to do with the other people. When I think of even these YouTube videos, if I'm like, I'm going to get views, you are going to view my video and like my video, please like my video, like it's a take energy. But if it's like, how can I share ideas in a new way and connect ideas in a new way that completely rewires your brain and shifts your life? Feels different, doesn't it? Now, I remember when I first learned this concept, I was applying for a house that I was going to rent in Vegas, and it was when I first started making money on YouTube. I first off started to have some money and I was starting to become successful, and there was this one house and it was in the rental market in Vegas, was nuts. I applied for this house that was perfect, and the people that owned the house, I basically applied for it and I was one of like 8 people that applied. And I was like, I was told by the real estate agent, like a lot of people applied for this. I was like, dang it. So what I did is I tapped into their inner intention in a genuine name, not as just manipulation, but I literally sent them a letter that said, hey, I love your home. I am a business owner who works from home and I don't have parties. I don't have a lot of people over. I don't have kids or animals. I'll treat your house with a lot of respect and love. And I'm a very simple person. Like I basically just gave them things that as an owner they would wanna hear, knowing that it's also true, not manipulating, but that's also like just expressing it. Well, then what I would do is as I was going to bed at night in the house that I was currently in, which I had roommates at the time, I would visualize myself as I woke up in the morning walking around that house in my daily routine. I would imagine it as if it's normal. It's not like, oh my God, to be in this house. Like every morning I wake up, it's like, this is incredible. Brushing my teeth, I'm like brushing my teeth is great in this house. Like it wasn't this crazy cool, like intense energy. It was natural. It was normal. It was equal to my identity. And there was this general intention of adding value to them. So letting it be natural also plays into it that it's not just about the ego wanting it, matching the frequency because you're it and you get to manipulate reality. The more you let God flow through you, the more you're also adding value to other people, the more it's a win-win for people. So as I tapped into that energy, guess what? Guess what ended up happening? It ended up, I ended up getting the house, obviously. I already ruined the end of it, but got that house, lived in it for a year, I loved it. And that was a reflection of the letting it be natural energy. Let it be natural. So when you're beginning to allow this energy to flow through, think of it kind of like over here, contraction to open. Now the new you, anytime you're starting to connect to this energy of the calm, let it be natural version of yourself, what you wanna become aware of is that there's gonna be a gap. There's gonna be a little gap. In the gappy gap, if you try to control the gappy gap and you think that when you're in the gappy gap that it's bad to be in the gappy gap, whatever, then what you'll do is you'll revert back to the old patterns. It's once again, this isn't about what you get, it's about who you become. And you becoming the version of you that's more authentic and expressive is not attached to what the external looks like because it knows who it is. Did I just call you an it? Maybe. But the thing is, is like think about a mirror. A mirror, changes its reflection when? When you yell at it, demand it? No. The mirror changes its reflection when you change your expression. But if you are that little gap in between, if you're waiting, waiting, waiting, and I know that with a mirror, you look in the mirror, it happens instantaneously, but in effect, if the reality you want already exists, it does happen instantaneously, but you have momentum from 10, 20, 30 years of being alive and certain patterns. So part of this is knowing that there's a mere delay in reality. There's a mere delay. And the true degree of change is not whether the expression on the mirror changes at all. It's not whether the outer reality changes. It's whether your response and your emotional response to it shifts. That's the true degree of change. So as I'm doing this now, I'm more not attached to views and outcome because I'm focused on who I'm becoming. I'm having fun with it and I know who I am and I trust this process because I'm allowing the divine to flow through. It gets back to this idea as well. This one idea, and there's 2 or 3 more things I'm gonna share that I think could shift your life, but this next one is a huge one. Here's the question and prompt. Can you make a plant grow? Can you make a plant grow? You think about that for a minute and you're like, I can put the plant in the sun, I can pot the plant, I can move the plant, I can water the plant, I can do a lot with plant, but can you make it grow? And if you really contemplate on it, you realize that you can't make a plant grow. You could set the conditions up, but you can't make it grow. But isn't that kind of a relief? Because God, the divine makes it grow. Its natural intelligence makes it grow. In the same way, you can't control the outcome. You can just control the inputs of who you are being. And the more expressive you are, the more vulnerable you are, the more authentic you are, the more you accept yourself, the more you may see a reality that reflects that back. But guess what? You good either way. You wanna know why you're good either way? Because it feels darn good to be you. I just said darn for probably the first time in a long time, okay? I don't know why I had to tell you that, but I normally don't say darn. Are you judging me? Okay, so understand there's a mere delay, and when you're doing, doing, doing to get here, focus on it's who you become, okay? The other thing I wanna say that I keep putting on these charts that I keep forgetting to say that I really wanna say is this one idea, okay? Now that I've hyped up this idea, it might not be as cool as I thought, but if every moment you're a new you, Every moment you're a new you. The cells in your body are dying and being reborn. The only thing that keeps you stuck is your beliefs about who you are and your definitions about who you are, because our beliefs create our reality. So people sometimes like, I'm stuck, how do I get unstuck? Well, you believe you're stuck and maybe stuck is serving you to feel a certain emotion, but maybe the main reason you're stuck is 'cause you believe you're stuck and you think stuck's not a part of the process. What if You're constantly recreating yourself to be stuck. Like every moment you're a new you and you're like, I'm stuck. Okay, now I'm stuck reality. And then you're a new moment again. You're like, I'm still stuck. And so that attachment is what's keeping you to recreate the problem over and over again because you believe you have a problem. This shifts so much when you really understand it and understand that deep down. So this is like the second one was the certainty, the now that we're talking about. But the other aspect of this is HBD. What do you think HBD stands for? Hilarious back door. Just kidding. It stands for happy birthday. Happy birthday. You're reborn every day. Happy birthday. You know how like all your, you know, certain people have birthdays and it's like everyone's got to get together for the birthday and celebrate this person and, and, and go around in a circle and say, you mean this to me. And people need, the more you tear up, the more that they feel seen and heard. So you have to like, share the deepest, darkest, or the deepest like loving story that you have about them and how much they mean to you. Happy birthday. It's your birthday every day. I think birthdays are kind of silly personally. Girls love birthdays. My girlfriend loves birthday. Everyone else loves birthday. We're gonna celebrate a friend's birthday. It's this whole thing. Your birthday's every day. You're a new you every day. Okay? So you know how those birthday people have one day birthday but they make it a week birthday or a month birthday? It's my birthday month. It's your birthday every day 'cause you're literally a new you every day. So let's celebrate every single day. Let's go in a circle every single day and you can share, you mean this much to me. We go way back. We were, okay, it's your birthday every day. You're a new you every day, okay? Anyways, I hope that was what it was for you as what it was for me. That was for me, okay? I wanted to share that one. If I'm being honest. So the mirror delay, there's a little delay. You are focused on opening. This is your goal. Why do you open? Because it freaking feels good. Yes, it gets better results, but it, you know, it's cool and everything, but you want to enjoy the process. The more you focus on the process, the more fun it is. Okay, now also let's look at this right here. Thirdly, nothing has any built-in meaning other than the meaning you give it. So if you think about it, from a certain level, When you think of reality and you think of like, you perceive of a certain reality and something happens, if you give it a negative meaning, you put yourself on a time track of perceiving of more realities that have that negative meaning because the meaning you give things is the effect you get out of it. So if you lose a job, for example, you say, this is horrible, I lost the job. Understand that like then you'll experience a reality that's equal to whatever meaning that is. And also you might think it means something about you. Means I failed, means I'm not good enough, et cetera. But if you say this is happening for a reason, actually I didn't even like that job, you literally perceive of realities that are equal to that meaning you give. This is also a thing that they've shown in that like enlightened people or awakened people have talked about, that enlightenment is not something you become. Love, joy, peace, it's who you are. The only thing that holds you back from realizing that is the attachments, it's the resistance, it's the ego. When you are existing, when you are just being, when you're in a flow state, you are literally connected to God. But meaning is this thing that we project onto reality. And most of us have a core story from childhood that stays, that keeps a certain meaning in place. And what happens is that core story from childhood keeps us in that story over and over again, not realizing that we can break free of it. So the meaning is what— like, if you think of what spiritual awakening is, basically a spiritual awakening is a reconnection and a reframing of meaning from the past. Like, in the past, I had a certain meaning of my childhood. I had my spiritual awakening. I'm like, thank God for all the pain of my past because it led me to becoming more aware of who I am as a spiritual being. I was grateful for it. And then that weight didn't have power over me and I was able to forgive my ex-stepmom, forgive people from my past. I became more free. So you could become free too by first off realizing that. You ready for it? Who's ready for another dopamine hit of information? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Look, no, okay, so nothing has meaning. The moment We're gonna summarize a lot of what we're talking about and go into this third thing of having no meaning. The love and the money that you think is up here is actually with you right now. The only reason you don't perceive of it is 'cause you believe it's up here and you're trying to do to be worthy. And doing comes with a belief that if as a kid you didn't feel worthy, whole, and complete for just existing, you then go into a pattern of who do I need to be? What do I need to do to gain love and approval? So it's a pattern. And that pattern might be that there was pain in the unknown. So now to get these things I didn't receive as a kid, I need to want it and control it and put it on a pedestal. But that actually creates more resistance. Like the degree to which you can let go of needing money in abundance is the degree to which it'll come in your life because you're just being a conduit. You're allowing yourself to become empty. You're allowing it to flow through. So focusing and looking up at the money and the love neglects it from realizing it's here right now. So in the now moment right now, you want it to be equal to your identity and to realize you're good either way. Why are you good either way? Because you don't make plants grow. It's not your job. Your job's to set up the conditions. You're good either way because it's natural for your identity in the sense that what you think you're gonna receive is just an ego projection. It's just what your ego thinks it needs to feel enough. When deep down, this present, it takes you out of the present moment is really what it does. And when you can focus more on being present to the moment, that's where you're going to allow more of this magic to flow through. So your identity shifts when you realize You are not the ego construct. You are the divine flowing through, and your job is to allow the divine to flow through and to be an antenna of it. And the filter of that antenna is, are you having fun? Are you focused on adding value? Are you following your passion? Are you moving from contracted to open? These are different things that will completely shift and transform your life from the inside out. This shifts everything when you begin to apply it. There is that of a few different things you can do to completely shift this from the inside out. One is I have a meditation for connecting to the future self you and letting it be natural. It's a meditation that actually allows you to let it be natural so it's not on a pedestal. You can download that and click the link below, you'll see, and you can get that meditation. It's free. Let's do it for 21 days, watch what happens. And then also there's a video on thinking less That's really the key to allowing this divine to flow through. It's one of my most popular videos on this concept, and that came out recently actually, and it talks about how to vibrate so high you become unrecognizable. It's one of my most popular videos as of late, one of my favorite videos. Check it out right here and watch what happens.
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