Once you DETACH from them, they will ATTACH to you

What if you could move from the energy of chasing to the energy of being chased by making a few simple shifts in your energy? Think about it right now. The more you chase anything, the more that thing runs away from you. The more you want someone to text you back, the more you find you block that thing. The more you want someone to choose you, the more repelled they are from you. And when you begin to shift that energy into being the one who is choosing, being the one who is present, being the one who is in the moment, you will be in a completely different energy. So in this video, I'm gonna show you why what you're chasing is actually running away from you, and what if you learn will completely transform the dynamic. I'm gonna show you how even chasing versus being chased is a dynamic that is a realm of unresolved childhood stuff. And I'm gonna show you a layer above that where you are not chasing, you are not wanting, you are more present to the moment and being who you really are and why from that level of consciousness and energy, you will find people naturally gravitate to you. And the most beautiful part of it is you won't care either way. So in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly how to create the shift, why it changes everything, and why by the end of it, you will see that it is a way more simple process than you thought. And you'll find that as a result, you are able to let go of the toxic people, the emotionally unavailable people, and the other people you tend to attract as a result of the old chasing energy that you will no longer be in once you watch this video. If you find yourself attracting the same type of people over and over again in your life, emotionally unavailable people, toxic people, people that are draining to be around, and you're like, why can't I just attract people that have healthy regulated nervous systems? Why can't I attract people I actually have a deep emotional connection with? Understand that if you want to move into the energy of being the most magnetic version of you that literally has the energy where people will chase you, You wanna first off recognize that the people you are attracting into your life right now are people that allow you to resolve an unresolved energy from childhood. Think about that for a minute. The people you attract into your life are in your life for a reason. And one of the things that happens is many times people will stay stuck in an identity or a pattern and say, Why am I not attracting deep level connection? Or they even say like, I wanna attract someone in my life. I want people to chase me. Ask yourself this. Do you really want people to chase you? If you wanted to be chased right now, you could literally go to a nice retail store, grab a nice handbag and run out. People will chase you. It'll just not be the person that you want to actually chase you. It'll be the loss prevention department that's wanting to get their bag back. So often people think they wanna be chased. Do you wanna be chased by narcissists? Probably not. You don't really wanna be chased. Think about that. The energy of chasing implies that you're running. And what you really want is you want out of the dynamic altogether of playing the game. Many people are tired of playing the cat and mouse game. When you're playing the cat and mouse game, you're like, who do I need to be to get them to like me? I need to play the game. Don't text them back right away. Wait a little bit to text. Aren't you tired of playing that game? If you wanna play the game of avoiding anxious attachment styles, then you can watch a video and it'll say how to become so attractive and magnetic that people chase you. But the people that will chase you are people with unresolved energy under the surface that are trying to get something from you to fulfill something in them. Think about this for a moment. That's the game. That's the game of wanting to, in a way, deep down, you might say, you're wanting to resolve an unfelt, unresolved energy from childhood, wanting someone else to approve of or validate you so that then you could feel good, so that then you could— love yourself, or give yourself permission to be the real you. So this chasing dynamic, think about it, like chasing, like, is there a point to which you actually can get so much approval or validation that you want nothing to do with it? Think about Justin Bieber for a moment, okay? This guy has had people chasing him everywhere he goes since he was like 12 years old. And now, paparazzi and other people, he's getting chased so often, he's just, he wants, he would probably give $1 million to be able to go around for a week and no one know who he is. I bet you. To go into a grocery store and not be recognized at all. Too much of anything can become annoying, especially when that anything is something that is very superficial. And when you become aware of what is actually doing the chasing, this is when you begin to have incredible leaps and bounds when it comes to magnetic energy. This is what allowed me to get to a place to where I'm naturally being the most authentic magnetic me, no longer having to get people on board, no longer having to chase or be chased or any of that. You won't even wanna be chased after you learn what I'm about to share with you. Realize that what The chasing dynamic is, is it's an unresolved energy from childhood where there is a younger part of you that wants to feel seen, heard, soothed, and nurtured and approved of. We will search for that in other people if we believe that this is something that is normal from childhood. So when it comes to chasing energy, I have seen this happen so many times. I remember someone I used to work with, at Nordstrom's. Her name was Maribel. And she was someone that would always say, it's so interesting. When she is not in a relationship and single, she will not get approached at all. Like literally, she will not get approached. In a year, she'll get approached like 3 times. Within 1 week of being in a relationship, she will get hit on like 15, 20 times in that week. She said, it happens all the time. Like, why is this happening? And I always remembered that because so often the things you're not seeking outside of you, when you're okay with the present moment, not wanting other people to need to chase you or need to validate you, you will naturally receive it because you're present to the moment and accepting of what is. So it's very interesting that whatever we want, we put outside of ourselves, we create resistance around. And so often between 2 people, there might be a dynamic where what happens is what— maybe they go through a breakup or they're dating and one person really likes the other person. That person really liking the other person and wanting something from them will repel them. But what happens is when you completely let go and you start focusing on you, you start focusing on expressing the real you, That completely changes the energy dynamic. And often it can have to where then as you put the awareness on you, it brings people to want to be around you more. So let's for a moment talk about one of the most powerful ways in which you can begin to shift the energy from chasing to being chased and realize that this isn't even really what you really want. What you really want is You want presence. You want emotional availability. You want deep connection. That does not happen in the chasing energy. And what happens is when you stop chasing and you start being the real you, that's when you will get people to chase you, but you won't need it. What you really want is you want to feel deep connected inside of yourself. And to express the real you. And when you do that, you are more magnetic. I want you to think of someone right now. Think of someone in your life that when you're around, it's like your best friend. You're able to be weird. You're able to express the real you. If you say something kind of weird, you don't feel judged. And think about how freeing it is to be around that person. Think about how present you feel and how connected you feel. Now imagine someone you have a big crush on. You really, really want 'em to like you. How does your nervous system act when you're around them? You normally will fall into a subconscious childhood pattern. Pleasing, perfectionism. Who do I need to be for you? Contraction. You stop being you when you're around that person and you start chasing them. And guess what? When you're chasing them, you're not being you and you naturally repel them. Do you see how that energy completely shifts? So the chasing energy is more so how can you begin to feel the unresolved energy from childhood of who you believed you had to be to gain the approval and validation of mom or dad? Damn, that was deep, wasn't it? That's where we begin going deep. The people-pleasing part of you, the hyper-independent part of you. These are parts of you you can begin to connect to, and you can begin to feel the energy under the surface. And you can recognize that as you begin to integrate this past emotion from the past, you can then give yourself more permission to be the real you and to realize the people you attract in your life, they are a reflection of your relationship to you. Here's the thing to realize. When you are chasing, there's a reflection of an old core pattern from childhood that keeps you in the dynamic of always wanting and then always actually pushing that thing away. Now, something that I have is a quiz that will show you what your core pattern is and how you can begin to integrate that core pattern by raising your vibration. So if you want to click the link below and calibrate your vibration for free and get a meditation that allows you to begin moving out of this energy of chasing into the energy of presence and being, you can check that out. Listen to that meditation for 21 days and watch what happens. So attracting love and having that chasing energy is really an inside job. What you really want is You want to realize that the people in your life, there's a certain way you feel when you're around certain people. And what you really desire is how you feel and the version of you that you are when you're around them. So if you put someone on a pedestal and you want their approval or validation, what you end up doing is that emotion, that energy might feel familiar. And what you wanna begin to recognize is when you attract toxic people, controlling people, emotionally unavailable people, in a certain way, there's a certain way you feel around them that's been unresolved from childhood. So you might attract certain people into your life that reflect back certain patterns. And what you wanna become aware of is what is that pattern teaching you about your relationship to self. So for me, for example, I remember for a long time I would attract emotionally unavailable women I felt I needed to fix. And I would feel like if I could fix them, then I was enough and I was worthy. Of course, deep down, I'm replaying a similar childhood dynamic of trying to fix mom or who I believed I had to be as a kid. But deep down, I had to learn that if someone didn't choose me, it wasn't because there was something wrong with me. Just like in childhood, if mom, if I felt mom didn't choose me in childhood, there wasn't anything wrong with me. My mom's tension in childhood or the inner stuff she was working with was not my thing to manage. So the insight for me when I was attracting people I felt I had to fix was recognizing that this isn't my job. And that actually the person I get to be around them is I get to like maybe desire something from them, But I can give that to a certain aspect of myself. And what's interesting is in any dynamic where you project your energy outwards at someone else and want something from them, when you begin to bring that energy back inside of you, what you'll find is then you are more present and also the energy vibration shifts because you're no longer leaking your energy by projecting it at them. So this was something that really changed the game for me back in the day, because then I started to realize that they are not something I need to fix. Instead, it's about accepting them, knowing it has nothing to do with me. And then instead, how can I give myself permission to actually be emotionally available, to actually be present, to not feel like I'm on eggshells around people? And it was an opportunity for me to lean more into that energy. So really the thing that was chasing, it was like chasing a childhood pattern because there was a part of me that wanted to heal and they were the perfect person for me to heal from that dynamic. So if you're attracting controlling or toxic people in your life, ask yourself that question. What are they reflecting back to you? Are you tolerating an energy that actually isn't healthy? Are you saying yes when you really mean no and vice versa? Are they asking you to stand more into your power and to actually assert yourself or to withdraw your energy? 'Cause often people stay in similar toxic dynamics because they see red roses when they're actually red flags. And what you wanna do is you start to become more aware of this as time goes on. You start to become more aware of what your standard is and how if you want an emotionally available partner in your life, you have to say no to emotionally unavailable partners. So when you're in a dynamic where you're chasing and wanting them to see you, wanting them to text you back, there's really an inner child part of you that's there that wants to feel seen, heard, soothed, and nurtured. But what we do is we ignore it and we treat— we keep trying to get it from somebody else. So when you begin to give that to you and to realize that them choosing you has nothing to do with you being worthy or not, and when you begin to instead express yourself authentically and connect to that part of you, you then won't search for it so much in them. It's just that as humans, we tend to project onto others our relationship to ourself and trying to get them to meet it. So one of the things I've had to learn is that there's opportunity for me to show up more to connect to myself. There's opportunity for me to express the real me and to know that it's not my job to fix other people and to understand that whatever I'm chasing on the outside, no matter how good the story is, those energies, those stories keep you tied to believing it's outside of you. And sometimes even chasing is a way to continue to keep the childhood pattern as a kid, because as a kid, if mom or dad didn't meet your needs, the story may have been, it's them, not me. So for example, it was always like, well, she's not doing the work. If she was doing the work, then it would've worked out. Blame. And then the energy's outside of me. And I had to be honest with myself and realize that I had been tolerating that energy. A certain part of me was emotionally unavailable if I'm attracting emotional unavailability. So you can say all you want, I want emotionally available partners, but most likely you're choosing emotionally unavailable partners 'cause a certain part of that feels safe and familiar. There's a part of you that wants to heal first, integrate it first, stand up for yourself first, say no first. When you say no to emotional unavailability, You will then say yes to emotional availability. You'll say yes to presence and connection. And even then, by the way, things may get brought up. Because when you start connecting to people in a deep way like that, it can bring up vulnerability. It can bring up someone actually wanting you may feel unfamiliar because you're so used to wanting and chasing someone else. And by the way, 90% of people that say they wanna be chased, they have people that like them. They're just not attracted to them. I think, I'm convinced some people are just attracted to people that don't like them because they wanna try to get them on board. And people that do like them, they say, ugh, partially because it's unfamiliar to have someone that actually likes you. And it might feel unfamiliar to have someone that actually chooses you. And when you begin to choose yourself and you begin to recognize that your relationship to you is paramount, you will then allow other people to choose you in a very deep way. So some of the most powerful transformative experiences I've had in my life was when I stopped chasing many different areas of my life and those energies then came back at me. I remember in an interesting way, and here's the thing, here's a big insight for a lot of people listening right now. If you can let other people not choose you, you will then be more free. That's a very attractive energy to be in, isn't it? I remember for a long time, I craved for my dad, him to tell me he was proud of me. I would sometimes call him just to see what he was doing, to see if like he was gonna ask me what I was doing in the world. 'Cause I think, you know, I do some cool things. I travel the world and stuff. Sometimes I call him seeking that. Ooh, is he gonna tell me he's proud of me? Hey, Dad, how are you? And what's interesting is anytime I called seeking it, never really received it. It was only when I started to realize, you know what, I'm proud of myself. I accept myself. Also, I accept my dad and that he might not ask me what I'm doing in the world or tell him he's proud of me. I accepted him. And then as I would talk to him, I would just focus on connecting with him. And as I'd focus on connecting with him, guess what would happen? Naturally, I felt centered inside of myself. What do you think happened? Hey bud, where are you at in the world? What cool things are you doing? I'm proud of you. That came as a result of me completely letting go of it and accepting that I might not receive it. And I accepted myself. People are reflecting back to us the energy that we have on side of ourselves. And if we demand other people feel a certain way about us or express it in a certain way, we are putting resistance onto them and they naturally will repel from giving it to us, which is why so often if you are wanting someone to text you back, And you think about it, you think about it, you think about it, and then you finally let it go. They finally text you back. Happens all the time. Why is that? You finally let go of resistance and thinking they need to text me back, wanting something from them. And when you want things from other people, they feel that and they naturally resist giving it to you. Not 'cause they're trying to be mean. It just is a natural resistance because you're trying to get needs met outside of you. When I think of the energy of me selling women's shoes back in the day, for 8 years I sold women's shoes. I went into work every single day and I could see the energy between chasing and wanting to get sales and being centered inside of myself. It was a commission job. I remember going in and I would test out different energies 'cause I watched the movie The Secret. So I'm like, I'm gonna try to like visualize $10,000. I wanna sell $5,000. That's $500 of commission. That's great. Every customer I help becomes a means to my end. Are they gonna get me closer to my goal? Do I wanna help them? Am I wasting my time right now? Are they gonna make my goal? Think about that for a moment. It's manipulative, isn't it? They are gonna make me, it's self-centered, self-focused. Now imagine going in and instead I went in and I would go in when this switched everything for me, I started to say, I wanna connect with people. I wanna add value to people. I wanna have fun and show my personality with these people. So I'm selling women's shoes, going to work, connecting with people now. If one person didn't buy, it was okay. Then I'm in an expansive energy. I'm having fun with the process. I'm no longer chasing. And now good sales come. I have magnetic energy. People are attracted to my energy. Why? Because I'm not attached and I'm being me. In your life, the more you are unattached from trying to get other people to meet your needs because you are allowing yourself to feel the emotion under the surface and see the inner child part of you that is chasing, you will find part of your nervous system relaxes. And then what you'll find is as a result to that, you're not attached. And when you're not attached, you are more magnetic. You are more attractive and people wanna be around you. Why is that? Because you're actually present. You are not present when you're chasing. You are not present when you're trying to get something from other people. You're out of the moment trying to get something else. So the key to this whole chasing, not chasing thing is recognizing that the chasing thing in of itself is emotional unavailability. And the key is focus on presence, focus on permission, focus on enjoying the moment, focus and fall in love with the process. And when you fall in love with the process, you are more magnetic, you are more attractive, and people can actually connect to the real you. So if you wanna learn step by step how to begin to transform your own patterns underneath the surface, what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go ahead, put below. WhatsMyVibration.com is a quiz you can go through to learn about your unique vibration, your core pattern, and get a meditation for shifting that core pattern, which will allow you to be in that high vibration that you naturally are of love, joy, peace, and presence. And if you want a meditation as well, just in general, that will allow you to raise your dominant vibration permanently, read the comments of this video to see what's possible. Commit to it for 21 days and watch what happens.