Once you start being “bad," you'll STOP blocking love

If you could see this video, take it as a sign that if you were to embrace being bad, you would become magnetic in love, you'd become magnetic in your job or your business, and you would become more magnetic in life. Now, for people who feel other people's energies, for people that feel like they have to work really hard to become successful, for people that overgive or people-please, It's very draining to always be so good. And being good may mean abandoning yourself. To be good may mean doing everything for everyone else. But when you learn to embrace being bad, your whole entire life will transform. You will then let other people sit with tension knowing it's not your thing to manage. You no longer will feel guilty expressing the real you. You will no longer need to control what other people think of you because now you feel centered inside of yourself. And in this video, I'm gonna show you step by step the most powerful insights I've ever learned around this that will allow you to finally embrace a part of you that you thought of as bad, which will unlock a whole new level of your magnetic energy. This is an Instagram Live that I did. It took on a life of its own. It was so powerful that I wanted to share it here on YouTube, and it kind of builds towards the end of an exact step-by-step step way you can go about embracing this aspect of you to transform from the inside out. So my ask of you is to watch the entire video, feel into the different lessons that come throughout it. The questions take on a life of their own, and by the end of it, you'll begin to see that you can be this bad part of you and that that is good. If you were to own being bad, You would become more magnetic. Now, when you think of bad, what that may mean is simply as a kid, we have maybe learned that to abandon ourself is good. It may have been bad to let people sit with tension. It may have been bad to choose yourself. It may have been bad to express yourself. So often people will find themselves in blocks in their life, blocks with attracting love, blocks with being in deep connection. And part of that might be that there's simply a part of themselves that they have deemed as bad that then keeps people in their life That reflects back that unresolved energy on the inside. So think for a moment of the role that you take on as a kid by avoiding being bad. This is probably some of the most powerful inner child work you can do, by the way, is becoming aware of that one question that you always see Tony Robbins asks people when he's hot seat coaching them. At a certain point, he'll ask them, he'll say, he'll say, whose love did you crave more as a kid, your mother or your father's? And then people at a certain point in the interaction will be like, I don't know, my mom's. And who'd you have to be to receive that love? And like, I had to be a good boy. I had to be perfect. I had to look pretty. Whatever that is, that became the pattern. And that pattern became the subconscious identity that then people stay inside of because they want to, in a way, resolve that inner child energy from the past subconsciously. But they've normally then disowned the other parts of themselves. Is this making sense? This is making sense, let me know. So when you think of that, of parts work, realize that the bad parts of you as a kid, if it was bad to express you, if it was bad to let people sit with tension, if it was bad to have needs, Then as an adult, you might think that it is bad to be yourself. So this is really about realizing that when you think of bad, you think of like, you think of like something that you think of, like probably the guy in high school that's like leaning against the locker and he's like got a toothpick in his mouth. He's like, oh, being bad is magnetic. A lot of times being bad means not attached, and people are attracted to people that aren't attached because there's not an agenda. So let's go down that rabbit hole for a moment, because when we think of people that have no agenda, that's magnetic because there's not an attachment to your response. And When you are free to be any specific way, what happens is you then— that freedom— you know, it's interesting. Think about it. The way you feel in your body is what people feel when they're around you because energy is contagious. So if when you're around certain people, Let's say you want them to choose you or you want them to validate you. What happens is when you're around them, there's a desire, a need for something outside of you in order to feel a certain way. But what happens is there's a certain level of lack that's on the inside of the nervous system. And that lack that's on the inside of the nervous system That's felt, that wants something else outside, it feels almost like a— it feels like a pressure, and that pressure repels. So a lot of times, the things we look for the most in others are that disowned bad part of ourselves that's looking for the validation and approval of mom and dad, but projecting it onto different areas of life. Does this make sense? Yeah. So this is why it could be so powerful to do inner child work, because then you become aware of that inner child part of you that feels not seen, heard, soothed, or nurtured. And that part of you is the part that's seeking the validation and the approval from other people. So what you wanna learn to do is you want to learn to catch yourself desiring that from other people and becoming aware of, is there another aspect of me that feels not seen, heard, soothed, or nurtured that I could begin to be with? And to give that self permission, that part of you permission to feel the emotions that come up. If you think about it, there's really these different aspects of ourself inside of our psyche. There's this side, there's the part of ourself inside of our psyche that's maybe the emotional part of ourselves from the past, the inner child part of us. And then there's the intellectual part of us. And the intellectual part of us sometimes is like the adult part of us that understands. This is why you'll get a lot of people, by the way, They may understand their inner child energy. They may understand their patterns, but they still feel blocked. And many times it's because there's unresolved emotional energy underneath the surface. And that unresolved emotional energy wants to be felt and released out of the body. Does this make sense? Does this make sense from the intellect? So I have some things written down that I might want to talk about. Does this make sense? It's always a balance coming on these lives because I just kind of want to like riff with all of you and answer your questions. What's up, bro? My brother's in here. Love you. Love you. Let's see. Why is it that we do everything for someone, still they choose someone else over us and see ourselves as a bad person? And see ourselves as a bad person. So why is it that you do everything for someone else And then they still choose someone else. Well, here's the thing. Doing things for someone else, if the energy is unresolved and the reason you are doing things for someone else is because if you were to fix that person, add enough value to that person, etc., then they would never leave, or then they would love you, or whatever. It's doing something to get a certain result, which is in a subconscious way, an old pattern that's at play. So that's a pattern. There's a different energy. Okay, so this is a good thread that will go on here for a moment. So let's talk for a moment around unresolved energy around people pleasing and being what is called a nice guy. Or a nice girl. The idea and the desire is to please someone else, because if you were to please someone else, they would like you, you wouldn't feel tension, etc. Now, the challenge with people pleasers and nice guys is there's a certain level of repressed anger underneath the surface. Dare I say even rage. Rage at all of the times you've abandoned yourself. Rage and anger at all the times you've done things for other people and it wasn't reciprocated. And that anger becomes internalized because the energy is, I can't express it. So often what will happen is the energy around being nice also comes with an agenda. I will be nice to let go of tension, to fix you, and then you won't leave and you'll need me because I am nice and I am a good boy, just like mom and dad trained me to be. But here's the thing I want to show you right now. This will change your life if you really absorb this. Being nice ain't so nice. Being nice is abandons yourself, where you then you are angry at yourself because it's not authentic. You just think that to be authentic is not nice. No, being authentic, even if it causes other people tension, is good. Being authentic, like when you're being the most authentic you, there will come times where people may feel tension being around you if you're being authentic. It might be polarizing. That is a good thing. Because what you begin to do as you transform the people pleaser nice guy persona— and yes, it is a persona where you get to be good. I am good. I fulfill this role for people. People keep me around. I get to stay the rescuer in the drama triangle. You've got the perpetrator, the rescuer, the victim. And the person that's nice and people pleaser gets to stay in the rescuer role, fixing the victim and guarding against the evil perpetrator. But then there's a lot of stored anger that comes there. And often what the nice guy people pleaser is afraid of is they're afraid of becoming the perpetrator. They think that any level of anger expressed means I'm going to become a perpetrator. I'm going to become a bad evil person. I remember when I broke this pattern years ago, I was afraid that if I expressed myself any level of anger at all, I was going to turn into someone from my past that was very angry and manipulative. I'd assume that that's that's this is the line. It's either I abandon myself and I'm nice to everybody else, or I'm a raging. controlling, narcissistic, manipulative person. No, there is a range here, and you shifting into more authenticity may come with a healthy relationship to anger. So the main part of this that I really want to show is that people say Being— they think being nice is being nice. Being nice means you're abandoning yourself, and also it's enabling other people, and you're literally robbing other people from knowing the real you. You are literally robbing other people from knowing the real authentic you because you think that the— if there's any like assertiveness, that that's bad. That's not bad. Claiming your needs is good. Expressing the real you is good. Other people feel tension when you're authentic. It's not your thing to manage. So being nice, the, the thing you want to be aware of, if there's an inner child part of you that was the people pleaser or the nice person as a kid, that person has learned to abandon themselves many different times. And as they abandon themselves, they make other people happy. But that keeps also people that are normally non-reciprocal relationships in your life. So you're priming people to either take advantage of you, or you're priming people to be disempowered because you're fixing them or you're pleasing them. And when you begin to shift into the most authentic version of you that lives according to the values of Of authenticity and vulnerability instead of approval or validation, you will find you show up very different in life. So when I say embrace your bad dark side, what I mean is what you think of as bad and dark is you actually expressing your true self. It's you actually expressing how you feel. Instead of abandoning yourself to make other people happy. So, you say, why is it that we do everything for someone else and they still choose someone else over us? Well, if that is coming from wanting other people to meet the need, it's like if you— here's how I view it. This little imagery right here might completely shift to the way you view your relationship with your inner child. Imagine an inner child inside of you that's desiring to be seen, held, validated in their anger or whatever it is. And it's like there's uncomfortable emotion under the surface. And that inner child, if we don't give it, will then search for it on the outside. It will look for it from their boss, their boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, wife, friends, friend group. Because it's not being met on the inside. So embrace being bad. Embrace being bad. What would that mean for you to embrace being bad? Yeah. So it says, do things because you feel good about it, not for others' approval. Isn't it funny that how you feel about you and how you feel in your body is what people feel when they're around you? It's contagious. So, why do I do everything for everybody else and then they don't choose me? Well, the doing things for other people is primarily there's an agenda there to get something from them to meet the need. So, it comes with an agenda. And when you do things for an agenda, people can feel it. When you do things because they're an end of itself and you're enjoying yourself and you're not attached to outcome, you're more free. Yeah. So someone says, I'm fed up with being nice. Normally when I'm in a mean phase, it somehow backfires. Can you explain why? Yeah. Imagine the drama triangle of the rescuer, the victim, and the perpetrator. When you start being the rescuer, nice guy person, or people pleaser, you to certain people in your life will start— that will redefine your relationship with many different people. Because now you might not be trying to please people, which enables them, which they will think of as bad. So you will become the perpetrator in other people's eyes, even though you're really not, because you're not soothing the part of themselves that you would enable in them. So if you're always fixing people's problems, if you're always being super tolerant of people, You stop doing that, you will become the evil meanie. And the key is letting yourself sit with tension. Of course it's going to backfire. You're shifting your energy. People will respond differently to you. Does that make sense? Yes. The key is accepting that there's going to be some backfire. That when you reestablish dynamics with people, and here's the beautiful thing, it's not something for you to manage. Naturally, people that want to be in your life in reciprocal relationships will stay in your life. Reciprocal. Non-reciprocal relationships, those people might not be used to that with you, and they might go look for other people to play out non-reciprocal relationships with. So the difference between these 2 things is, are you priming yourself, showing up for yourself in a way that actually primes reciprocal relationships, which is where depth is created? Or are you in non-reciprocal relationships where the energy dynamics are imbalanced? So if you're an overgiver, you'll attract overtakers. If you're a pleaser, you'll attract hard-to-approve-of people that are hard to please. And then they, in a way, need you. And overtakers need overgivers, etc. And you say, well, I stop overgiving or I stop people pleasing, then it backfires. Yeah, these people want you to stay in their life. These people want you to keep meeting their need in whatever way. It comes with the territory. The challenge, I think, is that a lot of people, they have such a high tolerance for non-reciprocal relationships because as a kid it was non-reciprocal in the sense that you may have felt like it was your role to please mom and dad as a kid, which is a very draining job. And as an adult now, you might be trying to please other people. You might be trying to ease their tension. That makes sense. So non-reciprocal relationships—it means non-reciprocal means that like there's not a balance, there's not a balance of energy there. It's kind of like one-sided in a way. And the thing to recognize for somebody—remember somebody earlier was asking like why is it always I give, give, give, give, and then they don't choose me? Well, they're also reaffirming a certain belief that you have about yourself. If you believe that you're not worthy to be chosen, and if you believe that in order to be chosen, you have to give, give, give, give, ease tension, ease tension, perform, be perfect, etc., there is a belief on the inside that is getting a direct reflection of what you believe to be true. Now, the people you attract into your life are reflecting back to you the unresolved energy from childhood. And we do this in many ways. And the thing you want to recognize is that they're in your life for a reason. Maybe that reason is to show you how to choose yourself. Maybe that reason is to show you how to set boundaries. Maybe that reason is to show you how to lean into tension. But the thing you want to become aware of is what are your beliefs about the process and about the self? Because if you believe that other people you need to fight for freedom against, if you believe that other people's tension you need to manage, well, guess what? You will take that on. for yourself and find people to reflect that back. But you're the one that carries the belief and you're the one that carries that energy inside of you, in your story, in your belief about life. Someone says, I always feel bad for saying no to people. I always feel bad for saying no to people. First off, question those beliefs. I always feel bad. Is that true? If someone says like, hey, are you going to slap me in the face right now? And then you said, yes. No, you say no. And then would you feel bad about that? No. Just showing you, first off, that if we believe that I always feel bad for saying no. Now, I know what you mean by this. What you mean is I feel responsible for how someone else feels when I share how I feel. When I express a boundary or something, I feel their tension because their tension feels like something I need to manage. But instead, I then might abandon myself, which then I'll feel angry about later. Do you guys see the difference here in the energy? So the key to this is recognizing I feel bad. People, we all say, I feel bad. Feeling bad and accepting when you feel bad is a way of beginning to integrate the energy. But here's the thing, let yourself feel bad. Let yourself be bad. Let yourself recognize that other people's tension is not your tension to manage. It'd be like if you were to imagine, put this in a different scenario, imagine a little kid that wants ice cream. But they're being a little brat. I want ice cream. And they're like throwing things at people and they're angry and they want ice cream. And then you say, no. But no, I feel so bad. You know that that tension for the child might be good. That when they're hitting other people, that's not acceptable or whatever they're doing. Do you see how it's like you can relate and realize that saying no Is a way of priming people with how you choose you. So it's only if you're saying no to the toddler that wants ice cream after they are making like mayhem and chaos. I feel responsible. I'm not— I'm a bad person. No, that tension might be good for them. That tension may be very powerful thing for them to learn how to interact. But the thing is, and here's the deeper layer here. You guys want to take this a layer deeper? The challenge with people when people feel guilty for saying no a lot of times is there's unresolved authority stuff under the surface. So, mom and dad as kids are our authority. They're kind of on a pedestal. We view them subconsciously as forms of God. Literally, like they— we don't want to think they could have any mistakes or flaws. We internalize it. But the way that we relate to them is they are an authority. And because— think about this, okay? This is good. They are authority. So, if they weren't able to meet your needs in some way, it must mean there's something wrong with you. That's where we start to develop negative beliefs. And negative patterns where we then internalize, who do I need to be to get their love and approval? And that's where we start abandoning ourself. And it can feel scary to begin expressing yourself when you project authority onto other people. Nobody has authority over you. And someone else's tension is not your thing to manage. So it says that's tough when you dislike conflict. What's interesting is when you say you dislike conflict, it's what you mean is you dislike external conflict. Because if you dislike— you, you have conflict going inside of you. If you don't express yourself, it becomes internalized. Just like people who please or are nice, they might be trying to make other people happy and they don't want to be abandoned, but they abandon themselves. I won't express anger towards them, but I will internalize it towards myself and secretly have rage inside of myself. So that's tough when you dislike conflict. You don't dislike conflict. You might dislike external conflict, but subconsciously You— something about you must like the internal conflict because that's what keeps it repressed and suppressed under the surface. So, it's owning. Owning. Let go of the story that I'm not good with tension. You are good at tension. You just leave it on the inside. But expression is the key to freedom. Expression really is the key to all of this. Expression allows you to release it from their body. Expression allows you to begin processing and clearing that energy, which begins to resolve the unfelt, unexpressed emotion from childhood, which begins to also redefine your beliefs about who you are and how you relate to others. Now, something we're gonna be doing starting on Wednesday is a 3-day Magnetic You Challenge, and we're gonna be becoming aware of the core pattern that's been running our lives, release the energy underneath it, and wire in the most magnetic version of us. This will require breathwork for releasing stored anger. This will require beginning to give yourself permission to be the most authentic you so that you attract deep connection and relationship, more abundance, et cetera, and you stop sabotaging yourself. So if you do want to join that, you can comment the word magnetic. We are starting on Wednesday. It's free. And we're going to be doing that soon. Who's already signed up for it? I'm sure some of you are. So what is the fear of rejection, the fear of being seen, to talk via social media? Why? It's interesting, right? How we want to understand it all. It's like going into— sometimes the intellect wants to understand because it allows us to avoid feeling. So, what are we really avoiding feeling with all of those things? What is— when we say, I'm afraid to be seen. Being seen is a concept. What does it mean for people to see you on social media? So, if I come on here on social media and I am being seen, I can say, I'm afraid to be seen. I'm not— it's not so much this concept of being seen. It's being afraid of judgment. It's being afraid of what other people might say. Now, the fear around rejection is the fear that if somebody leaves, there's something wrong with me. If somebody says a negative comment, there's something wrong with me. But if you understand or you begin to connect to and you let it be okay if people leave, if you let it be okay that People comment something negative. You begin to feel more free because you recognize that other people's stuff is their stuff, not yours. And you give yourself the permission to recognize that you had the courage to put yourself out there. Now, part of this too, for me, is I recognize that when I come onto social media, part of it is I have a message and value that I want to give to people. So it's not so much about— think about the difference in focus here, right? I'm afraid of being rejected. Well, being rejected means there's something that when people leave, it means something wrong with me. That's not— that may not be true. If I come on here and I want to add value, it's an expressive, expansive energy. I'm not in my head thinking, what if I get a negative comment? I also know that negative comments are are normally reflections of other people's relationship to themselves. So, there are times I trigger people based on how I show up, how I look, how I sound, my voice, whatever. It's not my thing to manage. And if I give up trying to manage what other people say and feel and hear, I then begin to become more free because I recognize that it's not my— it's not my thing to manage. I'm not making it mean something about me. Now, if there— if that rejection, abandonment part of me does come up, I will soothe, hear, soothe, and nurture that part of myself and recognize I can be with that part of myself. I can recognize that that shame, that emotion, whatever it is, I can hold. I can see it, hear it, soothe it. And that's the part of me that then begins to begin to experience a tra— I can begin to experience integration around. Does that, does that resonate with you guys? Let's see. So what's your big— what's been your biggest insight so far from today? Can it be that you draw people into your life that are similar? You draw people into your life, um, based on multiple different things. One of the most important things that you do is you, you tend to attract people into your life that reflect back What you believe you deserve. And if you believe you don't deserve reciprocal, healthy, emotionally available relationships, you might subconsciously block that for a while. You might attract emotionally unavailable people because emotionally unavailable people may be familiar to childhood. There may be something to learn from that, whether it's to choose you, whether it's to look inside of yourself to become more emotionally available and expressive. What's interesting about people also that attract emotionally unavailable people is that normally the belief at first is that they are emotionally available and I am not. Something to recognize though is there may be parts of you that have normalized emotional unavailability and tolerated it for a very long time. That's one aspect. 2, emotional availability means you you can express yourself authentically with someone else, to be available to the emotions that come up. Often people that attract emotionally unavailable people will find that in relational dynamics, they may not express that they actually have needs. They may not be vulnerable. And therefore this person is actually a direct match because it's familiarized and they tolerate it. And when you're in deep emotionally available relationships, that can be scary because of the vulnerability. You see the difference there? So we can think, oh, they're it, they're the— I'm emotionally available, they're not, blah, blah, blah. But in actuality, emotional depth and vulnerability is scary. And it might be scarier than the emotionally unavailable person that you have unresolved stuff from childhood to who you're trying to prove yourself to. So really, really like absorbing into this. Oh wow, there's a lot of comments. I've been going— I've been kind of like scrolling slowly. I didn't realize how much you guys are commenting here. Um, let's see. I got— I finally got emotionally regulated when truly seeing that other people's stuff is their own relationship to themselves. Like you said, I used to personalize everything and feel attacked. I mean, when I think of this too, it's a great example and it's inspiring for other people to hear because it really is like an internalization of what we think it means to be seen. And I mean, I've shared this story before, but when I used to sell women's shoes back in the day, I remember always seeing these people that would sell these cosmetics and They'd be outside of these little stores and they would sell these like cosmetics things and they would always go for old people and specifically older women who I think they thought they could like bait into the store to then sell them something. And I remember watching these people all throughout the day, sample, sample, sample, sample. And they'd be giving people samples because then they're going to bring them in, give them a whole bunch of free creams, put it on their face, make them feel beautiful. And then sell them like sometimes $5,000, $10,000 worth of creams. And they're incredible salespeople. These people could like, they made a lot of money. But what they would do is they would stand outside the store and like, sample, sample, sample. And I remember watching them and they would get rejected like 100 times or more a day. People, they're like, nope, nope. Like, and they would just deal with it. They would deal with it. And I remember I helped one of them one time when I used to sell women's shoes. And I'd be like, what is your thought process? Like, I see you guys outside the store all day and greeting people. And her mentality, this woman was like, yeah, just it means nothing about me. It means not— it is like, it is what I have to do. I've become like, it's familiar. It's like when people reject, it's mainly a story in the mind that like, this means something about me. And it's like once you put in enough repetitions, you recognize that it's not something that you need to like manage, but also means nothing about you. And it's like the cost to entry for her because then she's also— I found out because I was selling her like a $1,000 pair of shoes because I worked in like designer shoes back in the day. She made like $15,000 to $20,000 a month doing that. So, she's probably like, I'll get rejected for a while if I can make $15,000 to $20,000 a month selling cosmetics in a mall, in like a store. You know? But think about that for a moment. Not internalizing rejection. is one part of it. The other part of it is it's just repetitions. Like, if you were to go out and intend to be rejected, if you were to go out and intend to be rejected, you would not have resistance to being rejected. And I bet you, you wouldn't be rejected nearly as much as you think. There's a book on this. Do you even know the book that's on this? It's— what is it? There's a book where somebody does an experiment Where they want to get rejected 100 days in a row. And on day like 20 or something, they go into a Krispy Kreme and they have to ask for all of these things to get rejected. And like, he doesn't get rejected and he wants to— he asked Krispy Kreme during the Olympics to make like a whole bunch of donuts in the shape of like the Olympic symbol. And what happens is they end up doing it for him. And then the next day, this went mega viral all over news and it was really good PR for Krispy Kreme. But like, it is this— like, it was this quiet Asian guy that was like very analytical, and he goes through 100 days of rejection and he is completely transformed at the end of it. And one of the things he recognized is that when he didn't have resistance to being rejected, he— I mean, he'd have to go get rejected every day, and it got more intense throughout the 100 days to where it was like more and more identity shifts. And by the end of it, he's just like a completely new free version of himself. But it's repetitions. Like, the more repetitions you put into anything, the more confident you get. And the more you do something, because also maybe there's a larger vision underneath it, the more it's not about you, it's about like the message or something. It's like, you get out of the head, the ego, the part of you that's trying to protect. You guys see? Which is why a big part of what I do in my live events and my programs is we do identity shift experiences like that. Like at my live events, one of the things that we do— spoiler if you end up coming to a live event— is we map out our individual core patterns and then we look at our core patterns of like what would be a stretch for us to go do something That integrates that pattern. So for example, if you're an overgiver or something like that, it will feel very uncomfortable for you for— to let other people sit with their tension. It'll be very uncomfortable for you to ask for something from someone else and be okay if they say no. But through that experience, you recognize that a lot of what you think of as bad is like something that you integrate. And you say, oh, it's bad to have needs or to ask people. Very self-reliant people, people that are hyper-independent, they avoid connection and needing anybody else. So them asking for help from someone else or them being vulnerable is a big breakthrough. So these are things you do that shift your identity. And by the way, we will be doing— here, I'm in Sedona, Arizona right now. We will be doing the next live event in Sedona, Arizona. It's October 28th, 29th, 30th. There are early bird tickets if you guys want to join now. We will be going through the shift, the shift framework, and going through this process of everything we're talking about here to become a new you, not fall back into old patterns, and to create identity shift transformation. So if you do want to join, the link is in my bio for early bird tickets. There's still early bird tickets available. It's October 28th, 29th, and 30th. It's gonna be powerful. There's some— when you mix Sedona, Arizona with transformational identity shift-like teachings. It is so powerful. And for those of you that have come before, you guys know. What about undergivers? Well, undergiver people that don't fill their own cup. Well, a lot of times people are overgivers, but they don't fill up their own cup. Part of it is they've been used to like who they have to be as people that abandon themselves for other people, and they feel guilty receiving. So a powerful thing for you to do would begin to allow yourself to receive not only from yourself, which means you might feel guilt when you're, you know, you'll think, I'm not choosing other people and stuff like that. Choose doing things for you. Choose showing up for yourself. Choose to say no to things you don't want to do. That guilt and tension is your initiation into a new you. Does that make sense? Been watching your stuff for years. Just here to say the gray in your beard is giving. Yes, I have gray. I have a lot of gray hair actually on the sides as well, like underneath. I've had gray hair since I was on YouTube, but it's coming through a little bit more nowadays, and I own it, okay? I own that gray hair. Nice. What was your major insight from everything we're talking about today? Like, if you were to embrace being bad, you would, you would have a breakthrough in your life. It might be bad to let people sit with tension. It might be bad to choose yourself. It might be Bad to not overgive and enable other people? That might be bad, but bad is good. And one of my coaches, you know, I'm in the middle of a cohort right now, and one of the weeks is called Bad to the Bone Week. It's where you integrate that shadow. But bad to the bone means for a week you go out and you focus on embracing the bad part of you. You, the part you labeled as bad, which means a lot of times the repressed, suppressed anger under the surface. Yeah, never abandon yourself. Bad to not abandon you, you know. Anyways, someone says, Aaron, out of topic but still, have you ever experienced complete healing just by the power of your mind? Like as simple as injured feet complete healing. Okay, so the power of the mind. So in general A lot of times what we believe is that in order to transform our lives, if we intellectualize it and we learn about all the patterns and we think about it, then we can heal. What I found is that you don't need to understand your patterns. You don't need to like know every little nuance of your inner child energy or whatever. That is a lot of times a crutch for people that keeps people mentally stimulated because they're avoiding feeling certain things. So, think of it like you have the intellect part of yourself that's the over-analyzer that's trying to figure everything out and an emotional part of you. This part of you might think, I need to heal. I need to heal. And this becomes a distraction to feeling uncomfortable emotion under the surface. So, this can be a distraction. What I find is even more powerful is a bottom-up approach. If you've been doing intellectual work for a while and you've been thinking a lot of, you know, and trying to like manifest your life by thinking or whatever, The next level of something that you don't even know how much power is inside of you is learning to just feel and express the emotion inside of your body through something like breathwork, etc. You don't have to understand it all. It's about integrating. It's about embodying it. And embodying it has more— is not about thinking intellectually, watching more YouTube videos, personal development. It's about feeling and then taking action. So by the way, that's what we're gonna be doing in the 3-day challenge is we're gonna be learning to embody and release that energy under the surface to become that magnetic you that does not abandon themselves. So if you wanna stop abandoning yourself, if you wanna process this energy from childhood and begin to feel more permission for you to be the most authentic version of you so that you attract deeper reciprocal relationships, connection to yourself, it affects every area of your life. Comment the word magnetic. I'll send you the invite. We're starting on Wednesday. It's going to be very powerful. Other than that, we have the Sedona Live event coming up October 28th, 29th, 30th. You can grab your ticket for there. Tickets are going, and it's going to be here in Sedona, Arizona. It's 3 days of transformation, deeper breathwork we're doing, somatic release practices and exercises for healing your— the past, but also shifting your identity from the inside out. You will leave a new version of you. That's the that's the intention, and you can check that out by going to my bio. Other than that, do you guys have fun today? You guys have fun. I've been doing these more often. It's been a lot of fun. Anyways, other than that, appreciate you guys all being here as always. I'll see you on the next one. Peace, much love. Namaste. Namaste. Talk to you later.