Two people talk about the urge to fix and rescue others, hoping they'll love you back. It leaves you exhausted and abandoned. Instead of defending yourself against judgment, recognize it's just someone else's perspective and not your job to manage.
When did you decide that it was your responsibility to fix other people?
I don't know, I've just always been this way.
You've always been this way?
Always been like nurturing.
Oh, that's good. It's good to be nurturing. Yeah, but the, the challenge is that if we're nurturing to the abandonment of ourself, or we expect something on the other end of that nurturing—
look at all these people you can fix.
You're up here right now, you can fix all these people. They need you, and maybe if you fix them, they're gonna give you love as an exchange.
But that doesn't— that feel like a big burden? It does, to be carrying that around.
Now there's a healthy way to go about it and an unhealthy healthy way to go about it. If someone has a perspective, you can tell they're judging you, you could be like, fuck you. That's one way to go about it. But the other way to go about it is to be like, oh, that's their— that's also their perspective. Everyone's going to have their own perspective. It's not your job to manage their perspective.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
