The #1 Thing HOLDING YOU BACK From Achieving SUCCESS

The number one thing holding you back from the success you want is the story you tell yourself about why you're either not worthy of it or why you aren't there already. Now, each of us also has what is called a core story, a story that was birthed younger in life, normally between the ages of 3 to 7 years old. This core story has been on autopilot and it's been keeping us entrained in similar energy dynamics from when we were kids. And the thing is, is until I became aware of which of these core stories was a part of my life and was holding me back, I remained stuck. I was working my 9-to-5 job. I didn't know how to move forward. I didn't feel worthy enough. I didn't feel like there was, like I had enough, I was qualified enough. I didn't have the right editing equipment. I was worried about what other people thought. It all stemmed back to the core story I had that was keeping me trapped in similar energy dynamics from when I was a kid. So in this episode, what we are gonna do is we are going to look at the core story that we may have that is holding us back from achieving success, from achieving more money, more abundance, the relationship you desire. And we're gonna look at how we can dismantle it so we can start to show up in a more powerful way so that we can actually achieve whatever our goals are. We can stop sabotaging ourselves and really come into who we came here to be. When I look back at 2017 version of Aaron, which as you all know, if you've been listening to my videos for a while, I was working that 9 to 5 job selling women's shoes. I wore a suit to work. I went in every day. I worked 40 hours a week and I knew I wanted to be on YouTube, but I didn't know exactly what to do. And that was one of the things too. When it comes to achieving success, a lot of times, especially people that go through a spiritual awakening, they learn different concepts that are very intriguing and do work to a certain extent, but end up holding them back if they overemphasize it. So for me, that was think a better thought. It was just keep thinking about it, keep visualizing it. And I was doing that and I was thinking about it and I was visualizing it and I was visualizing meeting famous public speakers like Tony Robbins, Jack Canfield, all these people. But guess what? I just remained in that 9 to 5 job. I actually met Jack Canfield and told him, "I wanna do what you do one day." Super tacky. But now I am. Funny how it's all come full circle. But when I was, it was like I wanted to be put on. I wanted to manifest things by being given it. And that was also, I think, one of the traps of the spiritual, mentality is it's a gift in one way because sometimes we limit ourselves by thinking the only way we can attract things is through money and through opportunities is a different way. Like for example, my girlfriend, she lives in a very cool situation in San Diego. She lives in a house that's like, there's this really nice house and then she lives in like a casita type house behind this really nice house that's in this really great location. And she was synchronistically attracted to that, you know? And also at the same time, all the furniture in it, she's just now buying her own furniture and stuff. But prior to that, it was like just given to her. It was like, in a way, like it's an opportunity, she was paying for it, but that's one way she went about manifestation. She was in the right place at the right time. She's definitely in flow. And that's one benefit to that kind of mentality. On the other side of that though, is the way I went about it. Where I was taking zero action, but I was working my 9 to 5 job and I didn't know exactly what to do. I felt stuck, I felt blocked. Then though, one thing that I realized is I had that download that I've mentioned to you guys before where make a video a day on YouTube and your life will transform in a year. I was living at my dad's house and I had so many reflections in my life at that point too that I wasn't where I wanted to be. About a year prior to that, not even a year, I broke up, an ex-girlfriend and I broke up and she moved back to California. And then I was working that 9 to 5 job still. I moved back in with my dad at that point. And he told me, I told him I wanted to go full-time on YouTube and he was gonna allow me to live there and go for it. But also at the same time, I was working my 9 to 5 job. That's one thing, by the way, that a lot of people confused, like going full-time doing what they love, you don't have to just completely burn the bridge. You can, but you can also do both. And it is a little bit harder to do both. Depends on what you define as hard. But for me, I had the 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes and I was making 7 videos a week, editing 7 videos a week, posting 7 videos a week every single week. And I did that for a couple months until, you know, 6 months until I went full-time. Not even, 5 months. I started in February 2017, and by August of 2017, I put in my 2 weeks and I was done with my 9-to-5 job. Now, the biggest thing though that was holding me back was also I just didn't start. There was a story that was holding me back from starting. And many of us, we have stories for everything. Stories, another word for belief. I had a belief or a story that I wasn't good enough, I wasn't credible enough. I'm living at my dad's house, so I don't have the actual reflection of what I'm talking about. Self-help stuff, but I'm living at my dad's house. How contradicting is that? And that's, I felt because of that, I felt like I wasn't enough. I felt like I wasn't, I was faking it. I was faking it till they make it. And I was also like, For a long time, I was also, I had a story about taking action, that action was low vibrational. I didn't want to, like, it was, there's a point that you get to when you're really frustrated with where you are, where you just make a choice that you change your story. You then say, I'm done with this. I'm going to make it happen. I'm going to figure it out. And when I started making those daily videos, that's when that story started to shift. So there's a story that you have right now in your life that is equal to, you've decided at a point that your reality, which is equal to your inner reality of what you believe you deserve, you've agreed that that's what you deserve. If you look at the book, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz, if any of you read that book, awesome book. And what that book basically talks about is we all have an agreement. We have an agreement about life, about how reality works. And our reality is like a direct reflection of those agreements. And I was agreeing to a reality where I went into work every day, I wore a suit, I stood around for about 3 or 4 hours without having a single customer, and then eventually I'd get a customer and then I would help them. And then I would, I agreed that I would get paid 5.75% commission and that that's what I was worth. And then I would do that. And then I would stand around for another 2 hours It was like this cycle and I did that for 4.5 years. And before that, I did that for 5 years working at Nordstrom's. And one of the harsh realities of this is that we've agreed at a certain point in the past that whatever we're doing, that's what we're worthy of. And that then becomes our reality from that moving forward. Now, one of the times my life really changed as well is when I started making the daily videos, it wasn't just that like I had a couple videos that started to go viral and it was like even one video that went viral. It was like a couple videos started to do well. I started to grow. It wasn't just the algorithm that changed my life and like the new people coming in. It was my self-image. My identity shifted when I started making daily videos and when they started to like grow, I realized I am a YouTuber or I am someone that works hard. Now, this is something I eventually had to shed. But for many of you, the story that you're telling yourself to why you shouldn't take action is actually probably what is holding you back. This and what I represent and kind of what I teach, it's practical stuff. I'm not gonna lie to you and tell you that if you just think about it and you imagine it and you go and you buy a lottery ticket that you can win. And I'm not saying it can't happen 'cause I'm sure it has happened before where there's, I've seen it, I've seen people talk about it like, oh, but it's such a disempowerment for my personal opinion, unless you're actually passionate about winning the lottery. Some people are, maybe that's their passion or maybe that's their dopamine hit from gambling, I don't know. But for me, if I were to win the lottery, it'd be completely counterintuitive from what my purpose actually is. I would not be making videos intending to help people if I'd won $50 million back in 2017, or even $5 million. There's the lottery trap where most people end up doing drugs, they get caught up, they say yes, they don't know how to manage their money because they haven't become the person that can manage the money. And realize that as well. When I used to imagine the version of me now, I would imagine this version of me now and be like, wow, if I have this much money in the bank, I could buy a Lamborghini. I could buy this car, I could do this, I could travel here, I could buy this kind of house. And I look at myself now, and because I've become the person that I have now, I have the ability, not trying to brag, but I have the ability right now to go buy a Lamborghini. I have the ability right now to go buy another house. I have the ability to go do things that I would've wanted to do back in the day, but now that I've become this kind of person, it's natural for me. And if anything, I see it differently. I see that as, in a way, a burden to have this car that's jerking me everywhere I go. And when I was working the 9 to 5 job, why would I have even wanted the Lamborghini? Because if I had the Lamborghini, I would've looked cool to my fricking friends. I would've looked like somebody because I didn't feel good enough already. And that's why I would've gotten it and I would've felt better about myself. So when you start doing the inner work too, your desires also start to change. Even as I got and I approached the 1 million YouTube subscriber plaque, which was in my mind visualization for so long, why don't I have that already? What originally happened is I realized that that to me represented my sense of self-worthiness. I didn't feel worthy growing up because I got treated like shit from 7 to 15 years old with the whole ex-stepmom situation. And because I didn't feel worthy, guess what? I could then prove people wrong. I could then get the validation that I didn't get growing up. I wanted to make people proud. And the interesting thing about this is that once you get it and once you become that kind of person, it's natural for you. And you don't want it the way that you think you do. When I started making those daily videos, it changed, something in my self-image changed to where it's like, I am the kind of person that makes daily videos. It was easy for me to make daily videos. And it's about realizing what would your story be if you were that ideal identity that you decided to be? So what would that version of you, what would that story be? And for me, I can become very aware that my, what is, and also kind of play, the advocate where you can look in on yourself and see the different aspects of your story. I don't mean to be rhyming as much as I am, by the way. I did it once and then it just kept happening. So when I was working that 9 to 5 job, it was very clear that my story was that I'm worthy of working a 9 to 5 job. I believe I have to be told what to do, or I'm at least comfortable with people telling me what to do. Like with what I know now, I could never ever work a 9 to 5 job again. One, 'cause I'm not passionate about it. Some of you, you guys actually, there's nothing wrong with working a 9 to 5 job, but I, with what I've learned, with what I know, I could never do it again. And it's because my identity has shifted to a place, not that I'm better than anybody, but it's like, I just, that energy dynamic, my story is now of a point to where my, I would not allow that into my reality. I would figure something else out. And you see this, by the way, with certain people. Like I know, I hear in Gary Vaynerchuk, even my buddy Victor, my buddy Victor who has a YouTube channel and stuff, before that, he was a personal trainer, which is kind of like having your own business in a way. He had his own personal training business. And then before that, I think he grew medical marijuana legally in Michigan. And his address is 702, I'm just kidding. But he did that and he always kind of owned his own business in a way. So his identity was of such that he like figures it out. The only reason I think I was able to have a 9 to 5 job as long as I did is because it was a sales commission job. And I could in a way control an aspect of my business. Like if I hustled harder or if I aligned more divinely, then I would make more. Abundance, money. But if I was lazy, never went on the sales floor, I wouldn't do as well. But I liked that somewhat ability of control. It was somewhat ability of control my paycheck. And I was talking to my dad and his buddy about this last night 'cause he was here in Austin about a week ago. And he was like, yeah, what you, my dad always tells me, he's like, I'm so proud of you, but I just, I don't understand it, but I'm proud of you. He always says that about YouTube or growing online or whatever. And I remember I was talking to him and his buddy and I was, you know, my dad's a fire investigator who retired with a pension, who still is doing like other versions of fire investigation for like an insurance company. But he loves what he does, but also he likes the security of the pension. He likes the security of the benefits paid for. He likes that. But to me, I see that as a, that's a security for him. What's security from him is boring to me. Because I like, I'm a little bit more risk adverse. I'm also younger, I guess, right? So most kids our age, kids our age, or, you know, people are a little bit more risk tolerant. And even like when you talk about investments, I look at my buddy Victor, he's much more conservative with his investments where he like, he also has 3 kids and a wife. So he just, he thinks about things differently because he values security. His story about security and money is different than mine. To where I still have that. I do have a level of security and where I like feeling safe, where I have certain money, I guess, that's invested in stocks, for example. But then also I have money that's invested in cryptocurrency. And I have quite, actually quite a bit in cryptocurrency because I believe in it or whatever, but it is much more risky. It could literally go up like this much or go down this much within like a day. Whereas with the stocks, it's more of a wave. That just in general, you know, the S&P goes up about 10% a year or 12% a year. But the reason I'm sharing this is because we all have different stories. We all have different beliefs. But the thing that's holding you back from achieving success is the story that you're telling yourself about why you don't deserve it, by why it's not here now, your story about money, your story about taking action, So when I look back to the version of me in 2017, another thing that I could clearly see is that another thing, and this is something I just became aware of today, by the way, and we'll get into the 3 core stories here in a minute. But this is something that I feel like I wanna mention because I'm here right now making this episode with, I think, more passion than normal because I haven't looked at my phone today. Now, let me preface this. I'm looking into my phone right now. As I talk to you right now, this is an iPhone. Now here's a funny thing. So many people that wanna be on YouTube, that wanna like share their message with the world, they hold themselves back because they tell themselves a story that I don't have the right camera equipment. I don't have the right editing equipment. Guess what? I'm using my iPhone. This here recording this right now, If you're on the podcast, and this is also going on the main YouTube channel, this is an iPhone. So I am technically looking at my iPhone right now. But the funny thing is, is like that held me back for so long. I needed the right camera equipment. I didn't know how to edit. I just started and I started editing and I figured it out. In my first video ever, go on YouTube, you can proof check this, my first video ever says, "Insert title here," in the middle of my face because I didn't let it get to me to say, Oh, I don't know how to edit, so I can't start. I simply started. And the thing that's holding you back is there's a story to why you're not starting. If you would simply start, you'd create this new momentum for yourself and you would put yourself on a new timeline. I started and I got through the excuses and I cared what people thought, but I started anyways. Step into it realizing the fear's gonna be there no matter how long you wait. But as you start taking action, the fear goes away. Yes, I'm sure there's still a part of me that cares somewhat what people think about me, but it's much, much, much less than 2017. And even though I'm looking at my phone right now, where I was going with that is, when it comes to success, I'm a firm believer that it does take a certain amount of focus. It takes focus and it takes alignment to get into a flow state. Now, for me, back in 2017, I started making those daily videos, I became super passionate about one thing, making videos. I made a video every single day. I edited that video every single day. I posted that video every single day and scheduled it for the next day, and I made a thumbnail every single day. I did all 4 of those. And then I did them every single day for years. That was my one thing. There's another guy on YouTube, his name's Graham Stevenson, or Stevenson. He makes like, he's a finance channel. He makes videos that are on finance. I can tell that he is simply, he loves YouTube. MrBeast, have you ever heard of MrBeast on YouTube? He loves YouTube. All he focuses on is YouTube. And you know what he says, by the way? He doesn't say, he does kind of say this, I guess, but when it comes to MrBeast, I saw an interview with him where he would just talk for an hour and a half about all he wants to do is make the best videos. That's all he wants to do is make the best videos possible. And now he's got like a huge production studio. He does these crazy things, you know, for his videos. He's gonna be the number one YouTuber and he almost is the number one YouTuber. He's growing like crazy. He does crazy cool things. He's giving back and does like philanthropy and stuff. He just wants to give and he wants to make the best videos possible. Now, a side effect of him making the best videos possible is being one of the number one YouTubers. But that's the one thing he focuses on. That Graham Stevenson guy in the finance space, the money space, he just loves making videos. I can tell, and I see part of my old self also because I used to just be passionate about making videos. That's all I wanted to do was to make videos. I would learn thumbnails. I think Graham Stevenson still does. He makes his own thumbnails for his videos. He does like, you know, now I pay someone to do mine 'cause I'm not as passionate about that anymore. Although I bet you if I put more of my own energy into it, maybe it would do better because there's something there with that. But what I realized for myself, and this is where I'm getting with this, I have been so addicted and numb from watching Netflix. Just gonna be completely honest about this. I've watched Narcos, Game of Thrones, Vikings, Narcos Colombia, Narcos Mexico, so I guess that's 2. What else? I've watched Squid Game. I've watched all these shows and I would just look forward to the end of the night, sitting down and watching these shows. And sometimes I'd watch 3 episodes of Narcos. Last night I had crazy dreams that I was in like a, I haven't seen Narcos in a week and a half, but I know it's like completely programmed my subconscious mind in a way. Not that it's taken power over me. I had dreams last night that I was in some reality where I was with machine guns trying to take out some narcos cartel and I was going through this building with somebody else. And I was like, somebody was trying to kill me and shoot me and their gun wasn't going off. And I was like, oh, I'm supposed to live a little bit longer. And then eventually though, I got shot twice and then I died. And then I went into another dream. It was so fascinating to me how similar a lot of my dreams were to the show Narcos for literally 60 hours or something. I mean, 3 seasons, an hour an episode, 10 episodes. What is that, 10 times? I mean, that is 30, 60 episodes between 2 different series of Narcos, 60 hours of Narcos I watched. What I'm saying is there's like a dopamine, there's dopamine that is released. And I have noticed that my creativity drops when my dopamine levels are so strung out on things, especially Netflix. Now yesterday, here's what happened yesterday. Yesterday, was my Zen day where I was like, oh, I'm not gonna make a video. I'm not gonna do a lot of work. I'm not even gonna go to the gym. I'm just gonna go do a little cardio and go in the sauna. It's gonna be my yin day. I get up, I get on my phone, and I'm literally on my phone like all day long. And I'm like aware that I'm like numbing myself out on my phone, but I'm still doing it. I'm so addicted to my damn phone. And I could tell that that's siphoning my creativity, is siphoning my energy into my purpose, into my vision. And that is one thing that I know is holding me back from my own creativity. So one thing that I've decided to do differently is I am now not, I have not gone on my phone today, except for, I guess I'm currently looking into my phone right now by making this, but it's just the video, you know? And I am declaring that I'm going to be on my phone a lot less and I'm gonna be more creative. It's like the more dopamine numb you are from television shows and just video games and, like even just like masturbation and all that stuff, the less creativity you have. That's just what I realized in my life. So what I do is I moderate that stuff and then my creativity goes up and then I have more energy to focus on what I'm actually passionate about, which whatever I'm passionate about is gonna do better. When I was focused on YouTube, that's all I did. Didn't have a girlfriend or anything too. Like that's how strict I was on my boundaries. Friends wanted to hang out, Nope. A lot of times I'd say no because I have this vision. I have this thing that, yes, in a way, it can become a dopamine addiction. I remember when I first met my friend Victor and his wife and his kids, and they met me and they're like, "Damn, he works a lot." Because they have like, you know, 3 kids and a wife, Victor does, and he'd be hanging out with them. And when he was hanging out with them, I was at my house on my computer studying YouTube videos, studying marketing, just constantly dope, maybe even dopamine addicted to that success. But that was, I think, a little bit, I mean, I guess we can justify that because that was making me more money. The more I focused on marketing, the more I focused on having business funnels and courses and making more videos, the more money I made. I remember watching this guy, this dopamine expert talk about like how our society But it depends on the way that we look at dopamine too, because like, for example, there's no doubt about it, Kobe Bryant was a dopamine addict. There's no doubt about it that Michael Jordan was a dopamine addict, but our society praises that. They were addicted to winning. They were addicted to getting better. I mean, Kobe was like a workaholic, but at the same time, if he loved it and he's passionate about it, I don't necessarily see that as a bad thing unless I guess it leaks into other areas of life. So for example, If Kobe had zero relationship with his wife and his kids' relationship, he didn't have a great relationship with, then I could see that as a problem and then it's a challenge, right? But we do in society reward, you know, you look at MrBeast and his probably dopamine addiction to his YouTube channel, from a certain level, it could look like it's somewhat toxic. Maybe he's just wanting more and more and more and it's never enough. But on the other side of it, he loves it. Nothing wrong with that. It's finding this fine line. So what I'm vowing to do is to put my dopamine back in my YouTube channel so I'm addicted to my business again. Just kidding, kind of. There's, I think, things, dopamine's not bad. Dopamine's not a bad thing. Dopamine though, if we don't, if we're not aware of it, will use us and it will grow like things that maybe we don't intend to grow. I mean, the whole point of video games, by the way, there are people and psychologists, psychiatrists, whatever, psychologists that get paid to get you addicted to games. I'm in Duolingo right now trying to learn Spanish. I can tell there are little psychological tricks they use to get me in every day, sending me notifications. Don't break your 17-day streak. Keep learning and do this little, and then every time you get this thing, bing, get this, oh, mi abuela, bing, oh, me, and you know, entonces, bing, just like bing, bing, just always giving me this, dopamine rush so that I stay addicted to learning Spanish. Not a bad thing to be addicted to, I guess, right? I guess addiction has a negative connotation, but you guys get what I'm saying. Now, what is the first, I know I've gone off on a rant here, but I'm really encouraging you to just start to become aware of where your energy is going and do you have any dopamine addictions that are going to negative things? Become aware of where your energy is and that can transform everything. Now, the first core story that many of us have that holds us back is a story that goes back to childhood that normally relates to abandonment, being left, leaving someone behind. What if you could become successful, but what if you were to become successful, you're afraid you'd leave your family behind? You're afraid you'd leave your friends behind? Because when I became successful, I was only focusing on my business. Some of that was like, my energy did kind of shift a little bit, to where I wasn't hanging around with friends as much, but guess what? I was more in alignment than ever. But the abandonment stuff, and especially for me, because I had a very strong people pleaser mentality, wanting people's validation is part of that people pleaser. So that was a part of my childhood that I think held me back from actually success was I cared so much what people thought. When I put out my first ever YouTube video, you wanna know what I did? Called my mom and said, "Mom, please like my video on Facebook." I was afraid it wasn't gonna get like, to only get like 1 or 2 likes and that was embarrassing to me. I really cared what people thought of me. And I could see now that like, as I've gone through these different levels of success and transformation, I can look back and see that a lot of my energy has changed, but that core wound is something that I still work with to this day of not feeling worthy. I remember when I started making videos, I'd watch like Ralph Smart, Teal Swan, Tony Robbins, Jack Canfield. I'd like watch all these people and I would think, you know, some of them could just talk in front of a camera and people listen. I'm not good enough to do that. I would have to have crazy cool editing. I'd have to have cool sound effects. I would experiment with different things, but instead I just started. Just talking to a camera. And almost all my videos are me just talking to a damn camera. And now there's like over 100 million views on the channel because I just started. That's what I wanna really put your attention on too. If you just start, you figure it out as you go. But the story that you wanna look at is like the abandonment wound and realize that at a certain point, like realize this, by you not starting your blog, by you not asking that person out, by you not moving forward with that career that you really want, by you not doing that, you are already abandoning yourself. You think that it's like you're afraid of rejection, but really the rejection already started because you're abandoning your true self from doing and being who you really came here to be. You came here to be bold. You came here to step into this new, like this aspect of yourself that is the most in alignment. And the thing is, is the funny paradox of the abandonment wound is when we're afraid of being abandoned and we're afraid of rejection, we've already abandoned ourselves. We're not being the true polarized version of ourselves. And therefore, we've already done that. So the key is to stop abandoning the self and to realize that if you were abandoned as a kid, emotionally or physically from a parent or from a family member or from a friend, it's not your fault. It's not your fault. Doesn't mean you're not worthy. A lot of times, almost all the time, it was their stuff they were dealing with. They just maybe couldn't love to a certain extent, or maybe they had their own stuff going on. So the abandonment wound is one of them that is holding you back. But if you realize it's not your fault, you can then stop abandoning yourself. And you really have to make the choice to stop abandoning yourself. That's what I had to do. And after I did that, it was like so much of my life began to change. The other aspect of this is I felt so much shame and unworthiness when it comes to love. I felt so much shame. I felt like, why could anybody love me? I had so many blocks when it came to love too. I was like, here I had friends that were telling me like, you have this, you have huge YouTube clout and you have this and you have that, but it's like you have trouble, you have blocks. Then I felt even worse. I felt like, oh, I shouldn't have this. Problems as shame, but I do. It was all a reflection though of how I felt about myself. And I had to realize that when I was growing up, my mom or my dad's emotional unavailability wasn't my fault. The fact that my parents divorced wasn't my fault. Even like ex-girlfriends that it didn't work out with, I'd sometimes get out of a relationship and be like, Yeah, that didn't work out because I'm not good enough. I wasn't enough. I was too this or too that. I can look back now and see it wasn't my fault. It's not 'cause I'm not worthy. It's not 'cause I just wasn't enough. I can see that also that was familiar with certain childhood dynamics growing up. So that was comfortable, but I have had to become very honest with myself And then realize that. And then the next key, by the way, to attracting love is like opening up your heart. I had to stop judging other people. I had to open up my heart. I realized I was like subconsciously judging people I'd go on dates with and stuff like that. I had to start opening up my heart and also opening up my heart to myself, start looking at the things I appreciate about myself. And then I realized like, pretty cool person, not 'cause of the YouTube videos I make and stuff like that, but like, As I started to look at these different aspects of myself, I started to feel more worthy. And as I started to feel more worthy, it's like people started to, you know, they started responding to me differently. My energy was more magnetic, I guess. Now, when it comes to success, it's the same thing. Realize you're worthy for just simply being you. And that's the second core wound. It's around worthiness. And the way that you feel more worthy is you let go of the shame that came from childhood with thinking there's something wrong with you or thinking that you're not worthy. We have rules in ourselves that say, I am worthy once XYZ happens. Once I have a million YouTube subscribers, once I do this, once I have the perfect relationship, then I'll feel worthy. But we're prolonging our own sense of like happiness. The funny thing is we can feel it whenever we choose. We have the emotions within us to feel worthy now, and if we felt worthy now, then those things would actually come faster. The challenge with this is that a lot of times we do things that are a means to an end instead of doing things for an end of itself. Like if I were to, like MrBeast, just make, he wants to make the best videos possible. He's passionate about making the best videos possible. He loves that process. And that's why, you know, how he feels about it is reflected out. and people feel that energy. Now in the same way, it's like if I was going to work every day selling women's shoes and I was like, I'm gonna help these customers 'cause it's gonna make my paycheck good, people would feel that and I wouldn't do as well. But if I went in wanting to connect with people and wanting to enjoy the process and I wasn't attached to outcome, I would do so much better. If I make videos I'm actually passionate about that I enjoy making, you can feel it on the other hand and you listen longer. And you feel that passion from me. But if I'm just making the video and I'm like, I just gotta get this video done so I can go get on this call with Victor or do this or do that, then guess what? You could feel that too. So doing things for an end of itself helps, but like realizing that you're worthy for just being you. You're not worthy once you're in the perfect relationship. You're not worthy once you're doing what you love for a living. You're worthy just for being you because you exist. Bashar talks a lot about this. When it comes to this, you, everything in our reality has a purpose. The bees, the flowers, the trees, the grass, all the people, everyone has a purpose. And creation does not make mistakes. And if we say, I'm not worthy, we're saying, well, I see how everything else is worthy. Worthy means worth and value. Everything else has value. Except for me. I'm the one thing that's not worthy. It's a significance play is what that is. I am so significant because I'm the one thing that's not worthy in life, but everything else is worthy in life. So a lot of times you can look back to your childhood trauma and maybe see that maybe you didn't feel like you were seen and you wanna be seen. And I can see that a lot of times, I mean, that can also propel people to great success too, that trauma. I'm reading a book by Will Smith right now called "Will." And it's interesting because a lot of his trauma from when he was a kid, from his dad that was like a military sergeant, just like my ex-stepmom, very similar. He felt like he had to be the pleaser. He felt like he had to make everyone happy. And his defense mechanism was making people laugh, comedy. So that's what he did. And he wanted people's validation and approval. And that propelled him to become one of the best, like number one actors. But now he's realizing, 'cause he wrote a book, you know, so he's realizing that maybe it didn't, it wasn't completely worth it, or there's aspects of it that, shadows of it that he can become aware of. But there's these defining moments when we're kids that really, show us why we are the way that we are. Because there's a moment when we were a kid when you decide that this is what something means. For Will, it was, in his book he talks about it, but he had his dad that was an alcoholic that was beating the shit out of his mom. And when he was doing that, he had like 2 younger siblings or something, at least 1 younger sibling, and then maybe an older sister or younger sister, I can't remember. When that happened, his mom got hit and he couldn't stand up to his dad and he had the opportunity. And his other siblings would just stand up to his dad and get the shit beat out of him. But he always thought he was a coward because he wouldn't stand up to his dad. He didn't stand up for his mom when his mom was getting beat. So he made a choice that I'm a coward. And now he would do whatever he could to hide being a coward. If he made people laugh, if he made his dad laugh, he wouldn't get in trouble. He wouldn't get beat. Everyone in the house was like safe. But these core stories define us. I can see when I look back at my, even my own childhood, just like there's certain things and certain things that happened where I decided that maybe I'm not worthy. Maybe I'm not enough. You know, maybe the whole ex-stepmom thing for 7 to 15 years old and no one protecting us, maybe we weren't good enough. Like why, you know, if we were good enough, maybe someone who would have stepped in and protected us and we wouldn't have had to like experience her so much, you know? But maybe I decided in that moment. And then also my ex-stepmom being such a narcissist and such like an army sergeant, If I stood, I remember one time I did stand up to her. And when I did, I got in a lot, I got a lot of shame and I got a lot of trouble. She was beating the crap outta me and I like pushed her back and I like stood up like this. And then she looked at my dad and was like, "You're gonna let him do that?" And then I got like even more trouble. And then in that moment too, I was like, "Oh, he chose her over us," you know? And I was like probably 12 or 13 at the time. But I can see how these moments was like, don't lead. And even in Will Smith's book, he's like, if his dad used to always tell him, if there are two leaders, we die. 'Cause he's from the army and stuff. So maybe if there was two people trying to lead, we'd all die. You need one leader. So then Will wouldn't lead or didn't feel safe leading because if he did, they'd all die. You know? And I can see how that's played out in his relationship in some ways too, in his relationship dynamics and just his own life. But in general, that's something that we can become aware of. What is your core story that's holding you back? Is it the abandonment wound? Is it you don't feel worthy? The third wound, the third core wound has to do with trust. And a lot of times we either won't trust ourselves, we'll need other people's validation or approval. And it's a trust, I can't trust, therefore I have to control my life. And I know in my life, especially, you know, I have a mix of all three of these that I've had to deal with, but Controlling life, controlling business, controlling other people. It's something that we do because we feel like we can't trust the natural flow of the universe of our life. And it stems from core trauma where maybe your dad cheated on your mom, your mom cheated on your dad. Maybe your dad or mom said they were gonna do something for you when you were young and then they didn't. Realize once again, it's not your fault. It's not your fault your mom left your dad, your dad left your mom. It's not your fault that they maybe even physically abandoned you. It's not your fault that maybe you got like traumatized or abused. It's not your fault. And by realizing that, you begin to lessen some of that core story and you begin to realize that you are worthy. And then as you look at these things, you could start to just become aware in your daily physical life now. What are your beliefs about money? Success? What are your beliefs about love? What are your stories about these? The stories and beliefs are the same thing. And then as you become aware of them, you can then see that a lot of these are on autopilot from childhood. And then as you become aware of them, you can then rewrite them. You can make a new choice about who you are. You can start wiring in a brand new version of you. You could become aware that maybe you're releasing a lot of your dopamine through pornography or game, watching, like playing video games or Netflix or, certain types of music or like different drugs or alcohol. Like as you become aware of these things, you can then make new choices about who you are. And then as you begin to commit to what you're actually passionate about, whatever that is, and if you don't know what it is, make it your full-time job to figure out what it is. Start experimenting, read different books, try different things, get out of the unknown. As you get into the unknown and out of the known, magic happens. This is something that will completely transform your life. Now, in a recent video I did, I talk about what it's called, I call it the Shift Experience. It's a 6-step process that if you apply this year, 2022, or whenever, it will completely transform your life. It's one of the most powerful videos I've ever made. Watch this video. I promise you by the end of it, you will have shifted into a new version of you. This episode, I'm gonna show you the 6 steps that you can use to completely transform your life in 2022. I'm sure you've noticed 2021 has been a massive year of shadow work, a massive year of letting go.