The 5 Habits EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE People Have In COMMON!

In this video, I'm going to show you the common habits of what we consider to be extremely attractive energy. I'm going to show you step by step how you can embody the same energy so that you get a similar reflection in your life. Now, the first thing to understand about extremely attractive energy is that energy is what is magnetic. It is energy. It is not just how you look. It is not just the, uh, some status symbol that you might have. It is energy. That is what is attractive. And if you, if you activate the magnetic energy inside of yourself, you will be emanating that out and you will literally perceive of a different reflection in your life because of that. Now the first one that all magnetic people have in common is that of initial belief that they have. Now understand, our beliefs create our reality. That which we believe to be true is that which is reflected back to us. So we perceive of the probabilities in our life and the synchronicities in our life that are in direct proportion to what we believe to be true. Now, people that have extremely magnetic and attractive energy there's an initial belief there that says that they feel worthy. Now, the thing is, is if we believe there's something broken about us, I know for a long time I had shame in my energy field. I felt like there was something wrong with me. I'm broken. And I honestly did not understand, like when I was dating someone, I was always trying to prove it to them that I was good enough. And one of the reasons being is I think that was like a residual of childhood energy that was there from when I was a kid. And I think a lot of times what happens is there's a certain moment that happens when we're a kid where we internalize and we say, oh, there's something wrong with me. I'm broken. And that I think for me came in a few different times in my childhood. But one common one that I've seen a lot of people is if your parents divorced. As kids, we internalize everything that happens. And one of the beliefs we might internalize when we're young is that if our parents divorced, we then say, oh, there's something wrong with me. I wasn't good enough for them to stick together. Maybe if I was just a little bit different, they wouldn't have actually divorced. It could have been a mom or dad emotionally disengaged. They were maybe emotionally unavailable. And then the choice was made, either something wrong with me, I'm not good enough the way that I am, or maybe in your childhood growing up, love was conditional. Love was conditional on you being perfect, getting straight A's, You being quiet, seen and not heard. All of these things develop a belief and wire in a notion that says there's something wrong with me. I am not good enough. And I can tell when I look back in my journey of like really working on myself that one of the biggest things for me to shed was that level of shame, that energy of shame of believing there's something broken about me because then I would go out into the world and I would overcompensate to people I was meeting. I would also develop something that's called needy energy. People that are magnetic are void of something called neediness because neediness is when we need someone else's validation or approval. We are then wanting something from them and we are in a way normally trying to manipulate them into giving us that. So we're gonna be nice to them, maybe be a people pleaser, maybe a nice guy and say, oh, I'm gonna give you this and in exchange, please give me validation and approval just like mom or dad did back in the day. I'm trying to prove it to them by proving it to you. So neediness is really also like the kryptonite to magnetic attractive energy. And people you will see that have extremely attractive energy, they are not needy. And one of the reasons they're not needy many times is because as kids, they will not, normally what they've done is they've either grew up, had a very secure attachment style, which means mom and dad, they may have been able to give and receive love easily. And that's one side of it. On the other side of it though, what it might be is they've worked on themselves and they've let go of needy energy. They've realized they are worthy and that becomes something that's easy for them to then see a reflection of. So with this, one thing you could do to really in a way have this energy of feeling worthy is realize you are worthy for simply being you. You are not worthy if you do this for a living, if you express this, if you XYZ, simply for being you. And then you can let go of the shame. The shame back in the day was a good, there was a payoff of holding onto the shame because if you held onto the shame, it meant you weren't rejected. And met your inner childhood needs were met somehow. However, the key is to actually meet your own inner child needs so that you're not needing it from other people because that will repel that of love. Now, that's the first one, becoming aware of the shame. 90% of all transformation is awareness. Now, the second thing you wanna do is, and the second thing that all extremely attractive people have in common is that they are the star of their own movie. Now what I mean by this is a lot of times, especially with the neediness above or the neediness in the number 1, is when you want someone else's validation or approval, you become the cameo in other people's movie. You become the co-star in other people's movie. And you're saying, ooh, I hope this person texts me back. I hope that they like me. I hope that they will give me their number. I hope, I hope. It is an energy of I, I, they have the power over me. I'm gonna react to what they're doing. But one of the things that you'll notice is that if you take your star role back, doesn't mean being a narcissist, by the way, doesn't mean the world revolves all the way around you. It just means taking your energy back and realizing that you can have your own vision in life, your own purpose in life, your own direction that you're going in life. And you could start to then realize that reality begins to change as a reflection. There's simply been a story that's on autopilot with your old self. That story that's been on autopilot may be that you subconsciously are the star of other people's movies, that you need to make other people happy. Becoming the star of your own movies, ask yourself, what do I want? What is my vision? When you go on a date, date, date, When you go on a date, imagine asking yourself, ooh, I wonder if this person's gonna like me. I wonder if I'm gonna be enough for them. I wonder what I can do to get their approval or validation. Those are certain questions to ask. You don't wanna ask those questions. Those are certain questions many people ask. What about these questions? I wonder if this person and I have things in common. I wonder if we have similar values. I'm curious if I'm gonna be attracted to this person or if we have polarity. Those are very different questions. Ones are questions of cameos. The cameos like, I hope they like me. I hope I can be the perfect cameo in their star role movie. I hope I'll be acceptable and be enough. And it's like a form of self-sabotage. But then the star may ask themselves a question. I wonder if we have things in common. I wonder if we have similar values. So you wanna take your star role back and become the star of your own movie, have your own vision, have your own energy that you're focused in a certain direction. And what you really wanna do is you wanna become aware of what parts of yourself feel like you need to cater to everyone else in your environment. What, once again, childhood energy is probably active that you're replaying that you can begin to let go of. So the second one is that you're the star of your own movie. Now, the third common habit of people that we consider to be extremely habit, extremely attractive, is that of extremely attractive people are very much in their bodies. They're in their own frame of reality. When you are in your body and you are present, you have much more magnetic energy. Now, this is what happens a lot of times, especially people that go through a spiritual awakening. What ends up happening is at a certain point in the past, it wasn't safe to be in their own body. And what happens is they then started tuning to their environment to create safety. They started tuning to mom, tuning to dad, asking, is it safe? Is it safe? What can I do to be a chameleon? What can I do to make everybody else happy? And then they leave being present. Inside of their own body to make everybody else happy. So then they developed this extreme intuitiveness to be able to connect to the environment because the environment, if they could control the environment, it meant they were safe. Now, in some ways, I also believe that a lot of times these people tend to be a little bit more anxious attachment style because one of the parts of anxious attachment style is that they want and crave love. So one of the things they'll do is they'll try to control situations in order to get their needs met. And when we— when you don't feel safe in your own body, you're going to try to control everybody else in order to feel safe. So one of the things that I encourage you to do is to do a very simple process. I call this the frame technique. It's one of the most powerful meditation processes I've ever found for creating magnetic energy from the inside out. And it simply involves putting the energy in your hands, in your feet, and inside your body. And as you do that, and as you start to feel, you literally start to feel, and you focus on the separation between you and the walls. You and the candle flame. Normally it starts with the candle flame. And what it allows you to do is to feel safe in your own body. And as you do that, you will start to feel, it'll be easier to set boundaries. It'll be easier for you to say no to things that you don't wanna do. And you'll notice that what ends up happening is you have a completely different energy that you were unleashing within yourself. Now realize that being in your frame, being in your own body, is also a way for you to really ask yourself the question, what do I want? When somebody said, when somebody, when you have trouble setting boundaries with someone else, you're able to see that if I set boundaries with them and they don't like it, that's their stuff, not mine. Because prior to that, you, you, we look for the validation, the approval in other people instead of giving it to ourselves and being present inside our own body. So being in your body is one of the most attractive things you can do. And it's something that changes everything when you begin to embody it. Now, the fourth common trait or the common habit that extremely attractive people have is simply the power of what is called vulnerability. The ability to express what you're really feeling, the ability to express and to put yourself in the unknown because that's where all magic happens. If you look at this little chart right here, we have the old way, The past self, how we think, feel, and act. We get an equal to reality, that reality that's equal to those beliefs and what we are at. The energy we are embodying is being projected out and we are perceiving of the probabilities of possibilities that are equal to it. Now what happens is we all have an inner self image that keeps us inside the familiar emotions of the past. And when we look at these lower vibrational emotions such as shame, fear, guilt, anger, The key to this is becoming aware of these, but also aware that a lot of times it's shame that keeps us in that energy field because shame wants to hide in the dark. Shame is afraid of light being shined on it. And a lot of times it's also an abandonment wound, an abandonment wound where mom and dad physically or emotionally left us kids. We decided it's not safe, there's something wrong with me. I'm gonna hold myself in this little box and shame grows in the dark, does not like the light, the light of awareness. Now, the key to bridging from this version of you to this version of you is two things. Now notice every moment you're changing. So quantum physicists have shown us every moment you're a new you, every moment you're a new you, every moment you're a new you. And if you wanna tune to the vibration of the version of you that has extremely attractive energy, it's about realizing that version of you already exists. You don't have to create it. You just have to energetically tune to it, and the way you energetically tune to it is through two different ways. The first way is something called meditation. Meditation is a way of becoming familiar with the unknown. You can become familiar with the old version of you. Awareness will then begin to take your power back, but then you become aware of this new version of you, this new quantum field version of you that you could begin to energetically tune to using the power of your imagination. And you can feel the gratitude. You can feel the, the energy as if that is who you are now in meditation and become familiar with it. And you can also focus on connecting to your heart field because the heart energy is thousands of times more powerful than that of the head energy. Now meditation is the first one. There's meditations you can do to wire in the energy now to take on the values, the identity, that version of you, the behavior of that version of you, the habits of that version of you. And as you do this, by the way, you will perceive of new probabilities and possibilities. But the key is going into the unknown because the known, you'll continue to create what you always got. Now, one is a meditation. That's a way of energetically wiring and becoming familiar with this version of you. The second way is something called choice or action, being this version of you. And the way that you do that is by noticing the characteristics in that version of you and simply making a choice. This is who you are now. And as you embody that version of you, you will notice that your outer reality begins to change, but you can't be doing it, by the way, in order to get a new reality. You have to do it because it's who you are. Otherwise it's trying to manipulate. It's trying to say, oh, I'm going to be this way in order to escape where I'm at, which infuses the idea that where I'm at's not good enough. Now, this version of you though, the reason I'm sharing all this, this version of you is more vulnerable. Vulnerability is shining the light on the shame. Is shining the light and showing the real you. It takes vulnerability to go talk to that person that you're attracted to. It takes vulnerability to express how you really feel. It takes vulnerability to end or to address a relationship that maybe is toxic. It takes vulnerability and courage to do these things. But I promise you, when you begin to speak and to express the real you, you will have a very magnetic energy because it's real. You're not hiding parts of yourself. You're not trying to be the people pleaser, nice guy to get your needs met. You're being the real you. So one of the things I very much recommend you do is you wire in this new you through the power of vulnerability. Now, by the way, if you wanna create a complete identity shift, let go of the past ways of thinking, feeling, and acting, the self-subconscious sabotage, the childhood energy that you may have, carried with you since you were a kid that's keeping you kind of locked in those energy patterns. There's a very powerful way to shift into being this version of you. If you haven't seen it yet, it is this right here. This is called the Magnetic Activation Process. There is a step-by-step process where you literally become this version of you through addressing not feeling worthy, the abandonment wound, being in your own frame, developing a vision and actually moving towards that vision, changing your core values, becoming vulnerable and activating it where you, it's pretty much an energy of letting go of the heart walls to let in and activate your heart in a very powerful way. It's called the Magnetic Activation Process. If you want to learn step by step how to apply what is called the MAP, the Magnetic Activation Process, click the link below, check it out and you will learn exactly how to do it. Or you go to aarondoughty.com/map M-A-P, and you can check that out. Now, the last and final and one of the most important ways to, habits of extremely magnetic and attractive people is the energy of playfulness. It's the energy of having fun. A lot of times people that want either validation or approval or that don't feel attractive, they're taking everything so damn serious. It becomes so serious for them to attract love, or it's serious for them to be a certain way. It's serious and heavy, and that heavy energy, remember, if you wanna have irresistible energy, you have to let go of the resistance in your body because people feel what you feel. And if you feel about yourself, I'm not worthy, there's something wrong with me, other people pick up on that energy. People feel what you feel. So the key is to let go of that energy and to become aware of it and to let go of the resistance and enjoy the present moment. Have more fun in your life. And start asking yourself the question. You're going on a date, set the intention to have fun. When I used to sell that, have that 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes, if I went in like, it's very important I sell $5,000 today and it's so super important that I do this and do that, it's super heavy. If I went in with more of the intention of having fun and connecting with people, very different energy. So to have that extremely attractive energy, have more fun, express the real you, Be vulnerable, get inside of your body, feel inside your own frame. As you do that, you will literally emanate more energy. It's one of the focuses of the MAP, by the way, the Magnetic Activation Process, is also the frame technique, one of the most powerful magnetizing processes I've ever found. You can also focus on letting go of the neediness, letting go of that energy, feeling worthy and becoming the star of your own movie. And as you do that, that will change absolutely everything about you. Now, if you wanna learn the 5 confidence secrets of extremely attractive people, this video right here is the next most powerful video to watch to help you wire all of this in. People feel what you feel about you. The energy inside of our bodies are contagious, and based on how we feel about ourselves, that energy is being emanated out and other people are responding to us