The DANGER of OVER Intention and OVER Surrender with the Law of Attraction

This video, I'm going to be showing you the danger of over-intention and over-surrender with the law of attraction. I'm going to be showing you exactly how to go through this process in a more powerful way and how it can change your life. Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron Doughty and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video, I'm I'm going to be sharing with you the danger of over-intention and on the other side of that, over-surrender, why I see so many people going through the resistance of these two sides of the coin. And I'm going to show you how to balance this out so that you really experience what you want. And this is something that I realized from experience. This is something that I've realized from also helping a lot of people to attract what they want and seeing the— in a way, this a lot of times is the thing that blocks people, that holds them back from attracting what they want. And maybe this, this feels like you're experiencing this in your own life. Do you ever feel like you are having experiences where you really, really want something to happen? You really, really try for it, and then you feel that the more that you try for it, the more you end up resisting it. Or on the other side of that, do you ever feel like you are surrendering it, giving it up and trusting the process, but you still feel like nothing is really happening, or you feel like you're getting synchronicities and things happening that aren't exactly what you intend for or what you desire. Well, that— and the solution to that is understanding the balance of these two forces, these two ways of going about creating what you want in your life. And in order to explain it, what I want to do is I want to show them from each perspective. Now, first off, what is over-intention? Intention is a determination and a declaration of what you want. Sometimes people ask me, what's the difference between a desire and intention? A desire is something you long for. It's a feeling that you maybe don't have something, so you want it. And an intention is more proactive. An intention is like, I will have, or I declare this, I intend for this. Now, what a lot of people don't know about intention as well is intention is— it has and includes that of the action itself. Action is also intention. If I set an intention to go pick up something off the ground right now and I just set that intention, that's more powerful than desire, but that means also that to follow up that intention, I must go over there and pick it up. So many times intention and action are interconnected very powerfully. Now, what a lot of people do is a lot of people's egos get totally immersed in the process of manifestation. And what happens is the ego thinks it must do everything. So what the ego does is the ego says, this has to be this way. So the ego points that out and then moves forward saying, this is the way things need to be. And they start to intend for it. Now what happens, and I've experienced this many times in my own life because, because I've had a certain level of success with what I'm doing, especially on YouTube, making videos There's a certain blueprint in my mind for the way things need to be for it to be successful. And if things don't go according to that blueprint, I start to get resistant. And in resistance, you don't really create what you want easily. So the key to this is knowing and remembering that it's not always just the ego. The ego must be going in a certain direction, must be being in the frequency that you prefer. The ego must be doing what it's passionate about, but at the same time, must be able to allow something even greater to happen. So the over-intention is when we start to create resistance. Now, have you also— I've known people also that like really, really want to attract a relationship. They really, really want it. They're intending for it. They're setting the intentions. Every time they go to a coffee shop, they're looking around like, are you my soulmate? Are you my soulmate? Are you my soulmate? It's kind of got that vibe behind it. And, and because of that, what they end up doing is because they're, they're qualifying every single person they meet as, are you this or are you that? They end up creating resistance because the moment they also identify that that person is not the soulmate that they thought they were going to meet when they went out to get coffee, and what that does is that causes the resistance and then it also creates more of an intention of what is not, more of an intention of my soulmate's not already here. So then the vibrational difference becomes greater and greater, but also it's also really emphasizing that we're not good enough already. Just in general, when we're over-intending for something, it's like, I really, really need this. I really, really want this. I really, really want this. It's saying, I'm really, really not okay where I really, really am right now and I really want to get somewhere else. So to make this process easier, it's about understanding, putting a funness, infusing a funness into manifestation. For me, you've probably seen a big change in my energy if you've been watching me since November of last year when I went to Costa Rica and I had a pretty big transformation in my own energy. Before that, I was very much over-intending for everything. I was like, I need to be this kind of person. I want to be like, you know, following in Tony Robbins' footsteps with doing all of this kind of stuff. And I put myself into a certain, like, into a certain expectation. I was creating all this resistance. I was intending so much. But I wasn't really enjoying life as much. You could have looked at my, the growth of my financial and business version of me, like the business aspects of my life, but in the personal aspects of my life, there wasn't much I was focused on there when it comes to personal growth, when it comes to my relationships, when it comes to my connection with people in my life, because I was so focused on making videos that it's like I almost put everything else on the back burner. And I was intending so hard for this one area of my life, but I wasn't really paying attention to everything else in my life. And I felt like, I felt like what I needed to do is to let go of the over-intention of believing that everything had to be really hard. I realized I had a lot of beliefs that success meant working hard because when I went full-time on YouTube, I was, I was putting a lot of other things on the back burner and I was just focused on making videos. And I made like, you know, I was working like 10, 12 hours a day even when I quit my job at Nordstrom working at Barney's New York. And then I went full time on YouTube. I was working so hard, but that led me to having this belief that everything had to be for my ego. My ego had to do everything. And I also had this protective mechanism where I was like protecting my ego. I didn't want people to— I didn't want people to know certain things about me, whether it was like me doing something like plant medicine or, you know, I was— I realized that I had this big shield up. And then what I did is I decided, I said, you know what? I'm gonna let go of this and I'm just gonna start to be myself. And, and some people will like that, some people won't, but it's so who I am. You know, I wanted to make like videos on starseeds and stuff, but I was so afraid of what people would think. But I said, you know what, I'm just going to do it. I'm going to make videos that I want to make that I'm passionate about. And I did that and everything got taken to a new level. I was working less, I was surrendering more, and I was getting more success than ever before. I stopped focusing on just my business life and YouTube and growth. And I started to focus on my personal growth, making me happy, doing what I want to do, enjoying my own life. And it was like a level of surrender that then allowed more, more success to come than ever before. And I was doing way less. I had the best— like, my, my everything took off financially and business-wise. My channel got taken to another level. Everything. Once I surrendered more. But then there's the other side of this. The other side of this is an over-surrender. If you over-intend, you put things on a pedestal, you make things important, and you create resistance. If you over-surrender, you then become more complacent and more lazy. That's what I learned from my own life, especially before I went full-time on— I started making videos on YouTube. I was always telling myself a story. One day you're going to make it and some people, you know, someone's going to find you. I remember I met Jack Canfield. I helped him with shoes for his wife and I remember thinking to myself, this is meant to be. I'm helping someone like this. This is a sign, but I wasn't really doing it. I wasn't really taking the action. I wasn't. And but remember, part of action is intention. I wasn't having this balance. I was just surrendering like, oh, I'm eventually going to meet this person one day. Maybe I'll meet Tony Robbins. It'll be like Aaron. You have a lot of potential. Let me just give you this platform for you to express yourself on. I look back at it now and I'm like, that was just so ridiculous to even think like that. And maybe some people would say, oh, that's limiting thinking. You could have done that if you would have believed. But I believe that it's a little bit of both. You have to meet the universe halfway. So then I started to make daily videos and then the intention was there and there was still a level of surrender, but that's when things just got taken to another level. But it was, it was about going beyond just that of the surrender. But you see, I think there's different personality types for this as well. In a way, I think for me, a powerful lesson is surrender. Like, like the, the, the, the answer to what I'm sharing with you today of this over-intention and over-surrender is that there's something called the middle way, the middle way, going down the path of the middle way where it's you realize what do you need right now? Are you more so surrendering so much that you're not taking any action or you're not living in your passion? You see, when you're in your passion, when you're doing what you love, you are naturally taking action when you feel called to take action. When I am being in my passionate state of making videos, I'm in the flow state. I have this, this, this higher vibrational feeling that I feel and I love doing it. And that's part of the intention is doing this. But if I were to like force myself to make more and more videos, that would be over-intention. When it doesn't feel, when it doesn't feel like something I feel called or, or like I want to do. But you have to be honest with yourself too, because in the beginning of me making daily YouTube videos, it wasn't always easy to make daily videos. I had to really kind of get used to that, but I knew that I had my vision set on, I'm going to wire this in so that it is natural for me. And it eventually became natural for me. But for this, what you have to do is you have to just be honest with yourself. Because for me in my own life, I think a powerful lesson for me is learning to surrender more. It's learning that it's not all about the action all the time and the intention all the time. It's like surrender, enjoy life, but surrender to the process and let the universe meet you halfway. The universe, like, it's like you taking action is you proving this is something I want. This is something I'm willing to work for. This is something I'm willing to I'm willing to give myself in this way, and then the universe will give back to you. But there's a certain level to where your ego doesn't have to do everything. And my ego is very strong when it comes to this because my ego is like, this is what it takes to do this. You know, there's a certain format in my own mind. And what I have to learn is how to surrender that ego, that ego's desire to try to control situations, to try to control outcomes. I realize this in my own life as well because there's sometimes like I wanna help people. I found out one of my family members thinks that sometimes about myself that, you know, I try to control family situations too much. And the thing is, is like I have some people in my family that are going through some rough times right now. And what I try to do is I try to, I'm a fixer. I'm a fixer. That's kind of like a way that I always saw myself. Actually, I never even really saw myself as a fixer, to be honest with you. I wasn't even really aware of it. But I had this conversation with my dad the other day because I realized that I was always trying, you know, someone's going through a rough time, the way that I help is like, I'm gonna help you, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna help you to get on your feet again. And it has good intentions, but sometimes that's not what some people need. Some people just need you to listen, or some people just need, they need to like do it themselves and they don't want you to give them things to help make the process easier. And, and I had situations where I was trying to control and help someone get back on their feet, and I realized that I was just doing too much. I just have to let go. And when I let go, then it's like the person has the freedom to like figure it out themselves. That's more empowering sometimes. So in general, it's the ego's necessity to control that causes a lot of resistance. It's not only in your own life, but if you're trying to control other people's way they're moving through life with good intentions. Be aware of that because you may be over-intending for yourself and you may be also over-intending for other people. And at the same time though, there's a certain level of surrender that you may also— there's times in my life when I'm over-surrendering. Hey, I'm going too light in this area of my life. Maybe in my personal life I was too over-surrendered. I was like just so focused on the business side, the YouTube growth. I remember I used to go to this, like, spiritual counselor. I still do every now and then. But I remember that she'd always— I'd be talking to her and I would talk about YouTube, we talk about growth, my content, all this stuff. And then eventually she'd be like, okay, what's going on in your personal life? And I'd be like, personal life? I was like, I make videos like 10 hours a day. Like, I edit, I do all of this stuff. I'd be like, what do you mean by personal life? YouTube is my personal life. No, what is your personal life? What about this? What about this? What are you doing for fun? What are you doing to fill up your own cup? What are you doing for this? And I was like, huh? But I was too surrendered in my personal life. I wasn't doing enough things for me. I wasn't, I wasn't taking enough action to fill up my own cup, doing what I love. And now when I go on vacation, like I'll go jet skiing. I know it sounds like, well, how is that? But that's personal. Like I enjoy that. You know, I'll go, you know, like the other day, Leora and I went to this fellowship, you know, Yogananda. If you've heard of Yogananda, he wrote the book Autobiography of a Yogi. He's got this place in LA. It's like a fellowship place where you go and it's got a lake and it's just such a high vibe. And went there, just like relax for like an hour, you know, things like that. Fill up your own cup. But are you surrendered in your business life? Maybe too much. And you're just focused on like your personal life and maybe it's about balancing. Maybe what I would say you can do that's very powerful is find the middle way when it comes to your business life and your personal life, your success and your, your financial, and then also your personal or maybe your health. Maybe break these down into different categories like your health, your finance, your relationships, your success, You doing what you're passionate about? And see, are you over-surrendered or over-intending? Because if you're over-intending, you're creating resistance. If you're over-surrendering, you may be finding yourself lazy and not focusing enough. You need to focus more to get the energy moving. You see, it's like the more you focus, the more laser-like your vibration becomes. But if it becomes too focused and too rigid, as it has to happen in this way, this is what the ego sees. Then the answer might be to surrender so that then you broaden the scope so that you can allow more amazing things to happen. And if you're over-surrendered, then your, your laser is just too popped out and it's not focused enough. So be aware of this middle way. The danger of the over-intention is that then you create so much resistance in your life that then you feel like locked in and you feel like your ego has to do everything. You feel like literally the weight of the world is on your shoulders, is dependent on your little ego. And then on the other side of that, over-surrender, the danger of that is that you're not taking action, you remain the same and you remain just in a stagnant energy. For years I was that person that was like, I want to attract this in my life and I'll just sit there on my couch. I want to attract going full time on YouTube and I wasn't making videos. And the thing that I needed to hear in that moment was take massive action, take massive action. And then I took massive action. Then I kept taking massive action and then it got to a point where I said, okay, now surrender. And then I would surrender. But then if I surrendered for a certain amount and it was just too much, and then eventually the universe would say, you need to take action again. But it's not— you don't have to go boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. You could just instead go boom. The middle way. Just be aware of where you are in different categories in your life. You may be at a different spot. You may have health that like you're just over-surrendered with health. There's no focus. You might just be eating whatever. But then an over-intention, sometimes I feel over-intended with my health. I eat very, very, very healthy, very clean. And then when I go and, you know, we're eating at these nice restaurants and stuff, I'm like, I almost feel guilty, you know? And that's an over-intention because I can't enjoy life. I can't just enjoy life a little bit, you know? So it's the middle way. I'm aware of what I'm eating. I'm aware of eating high vibe food. But sometimes if I eat a little bit of a mix, it's not the highest vibe food in the world. I'm still enjoying my personal life. I'm still enjoying life. So life is meant to be enjoyed. You know, this will sound esoteric, but I believe that we're all spiritual beings having a temporary human experience. We may not incarnate very often into a reality this dense where we are able to eat and, and touch and smell and use our senses like this. So I think we're meant to enjoy life. We're meant to come here and enjoy what it's like to be physical, to eat amazing food and all these things, but not to become identified with it, not to become overly identified with it. Just be aware of it, to enjoy it, and then to let it go. And then to just be in the present moment right now. So these are what I learned for this process. And for this process, it's about finding that middle way and understanding when you do find that middle way, you'll see that things happen even easier for you. Maybe in a way you need like a prescription right now. What is it? Are you on the over-intended resistance side? Maybe you need a little bit of surrender and trust in the universe. That's your prescription. Are you on the overly surrender side? Maybe your prescription is to take more action, to do something this week that puts you in this direction, and that by doing so, you'll begin to tap more into this than you can even imagine. Now, one of the meditations that I have that will help with this process has to do with a Feeling Is the Secret meditation, which is one that you listen to where it combines both of the feeling and the intention. And you put it over your— you do this guided visualization as you fall asleep at night. And when you do that, you wire in to your subconscious mind the state of already having that which you want. It's a very powerful meditation. You can read the comments to see how powerful it is. I recommend you listen to it for 21 days minimum. I think it will completely change your life. It'll change your energy field. It's in the top of the description box below. It's from the book The Feeling Is the Secret by Neville Goddard. It's inspired by that, but it's a guided meditation that you can listen to. So listen to it as you're falling asleep at night. You'll see how powerful it is. Also, if you haven't already, hit the notification bell so that you can see the daily vids that I do. The way that YouTube does it is you actually have to hit that button to see the daily vids. I have a lot more good stuff coming and I'm excited to share it with you. Other than that, I hope you enjoyed this video. Feel free to like it if you liked it. Subscribe if you haven't already. And as always, peace, much love, and namaste.