In this personal‑development monologue, the speaker argues that the popular Law of Attraction (LoA) is a superficial, outward‑focused practice that encourages people to chase external results before they feel the desired internal state. He proposes a shift to an inside‑out approach: first cultivate the feelings (security, love, abundance, connection) within oneself, then let external outcomes arise as a side‑effect. Throughout the talk he illustrates the point with personal stories – his early YouTube goals, the fleeting joy of hitting subscriber milestones, a betrayal that triggered old emotional patterns, and his experience running live events and retreats. He explains how focusing on internal emotions, practicing self‑love, and taking actions from a place of authentic identity lead to more sustainable external manifestations, whether that be money, relationships, or career opportunities. The speaker also emphasizes using external triggers as opportunities for inner work rather than suppression, and invites viewers to watch a linked video that outlines six practical steps for complete inner transformation in 2023.
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The main problem I have with the law of attraction is that it is surface level. And 2023 and beyond, as we're moving more and more into an energy where I believe it's about transforming from the inside out, and what a lot of people are intending to do with the law of attraction is they want to attract things from the outside in. It's going about it the backwards way. And it's also the focus is on the external. And when you're focused on the external, we're focused on things that don't already exist within us. We're focused on waiting for external things to shift before we give ourselves permission to feel differently on the inside. This is why instead of in 2023, focusing on the external, what I encourage you to do is to focus more on the internal, transforming your life from the inside out. For example, this means if you wanna attract more money, stop focusing on the money. The money is a side effect of a feeling that you feel within yourself combined with the action you are taking of being Being is a present moment thing. It's in the moment. Being isn't trying to escape somewhere to get somewhere else. So instead of focusing on money for 2023, focus on what that would make you feel, which is internally focused, which you can then transform from the inside out. What you would feel maybe is security. Maybe that's what money means to you. Money to me means security. It means freedom, the ability to travel, to do what I want when I want, the ability to have resources. These are, this is what money means to me. And instead of focusing on the outside, the key is me feeling the energy and setting the intention to feel that on the inside now. Because otherwise what happens is you wait to feel that on the inside once you have the external thing, but then you go about it in a lack way. It's like, I don't feel the abundant, I don't feel secure. And then it's like, it's even harder. There's more resistance to attracting that into your life. But also, by the time you actually get there, by the time you get that external thing, there's a feeling of it's not enough because there's a belief there that I can only feel a specific way once the thing on the outside is here. But then you don't even let yourself feel it when it comes in because there's almost this, energy of always wanting more, always wanting to attract the next level. And there's a false belief that says, I can feel this way once this comes, but it never really comes because you just keep upping the ante. That's what happened when I was like first starting on YouTube. It was like, I wanna, my intention is to have 100,000 YouTube followers. And then when I hit that, I was like, okay, oh my gosh, I feel so great for 20 minutes. I remember going to the gym, it was Lifetime, Athletic in Vegas and I go on this bike thing and I'm like going on the bike and I'm looking around and I'm like, it feels pretty much the exact same. You know what would be better than 100,000? 200,000. Oh my gosh, 200,000. That's like double. Things are growing quicker now. Like what would that feel like? And then eventually I went out to like Sprouts and I like, I had my first encounter with somebody that recognized me from my videos and I was like, Oh my God, I'm worthy, I'm enough. And then I realized as time went on just how fickle this whole thing was, how ridiculous it all was, how it was just this belief in the mind of wanting validation and approval. And then I let go of it. And the more I let go of it, the more everything grew. The more you let go, the more this stuff comes in because I also started giving myself my own sense of validation. I realized I am not only validated when I have a million subscribers, I, or even when I'm making videos for people that add value to them, 'cause that was a belief that I had for a while, I have value for just being me. Gets more to the core. But then even think about this when it comes to some of you in 2023 may wanna attract a relationship. So what are you gonna focus on? I wanna attract a relationship. I wanna attract somebody to come into my life and oh my gosh, that'll feel so good. But instead of that, what do you really want from the relationship? You wanna feel connected, maybe. You wanna feel love. You intend to feel love. You intend to feel connected. You intend to feel compassion within yourself and at one with everyone around you. And once again, attracting a relationship is a side effect of the self-love you feel for yourself. Once again, it's not the external thing. And then even this, if you get the relationship but you don't work on yourself and you don't transform from the inside out, guess what? It's not enough. Or you're in the relationship and you're like, oh, this seems like a lot of work. Maybe there's someone else out there for me. And then there's always this belief that here right now is not good enough. I need more. And then I will feel good. But it's just coming from this one false belief that says that something on the external can help me feel whole on the internal. And of course, that's a false belief. It's just something we've bought into in the past. I'm realizing for myself just how much more empowering it is to where I can meditate, I can feel that love inside of myself, I can feel that abundance and security inside of myself, And as I do that, as I let go of trying to control the external, it's like things just pop in. I'm in the right place at the right time. I'm still taking action, by the way. Taking action, but not from a place of I need to escape where I am to get somewhere else. Taking action from a place of this is who I choose to be. This is who I choose to be. One of the main reasons I'm recording this right now in January of 2023, the 2nd, And on January 28th, the intention is to run a live event here in Austin. Even without, like, there's not gonna be months and months of promoting it. It's literally gonna be just like this thing I do that's very casual. The main reason I'm doing it, by the way, is to get into the energy of doing live events. I know that when I step into that version of me, it's gonna activate something inside of myself. And I've done live events before, by the way. I run retreats a couple times a year. I did the Shift Experience live event in May of 2022. It was awesome. But I wanna do this more consistently to normalize this new frequency. I'm doing it though to get into the energy of it, to feel that passion. I'm following the passion, I'm being it. And even doing the live event, when I'm in it, I'm gonna be enjoying the process and soaking that in. And the reason I share that with you is there might be something for you to step into in 2023 that if you stepped into, it would activate a new level of yourself. You realize you only attract a reflection on the outside of the inner transformation that you've made. And part of that inner transformation may be stepping into a new you. Maybe you stepping into the unknown. A good example of this was like, I realized that when I was working a 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes, I only attracted relationships that were a fractal because I was working a job I hated. I only attracted other people that hated their job. Then I started doing what I love. And as I started doing what I love, now I only attract women that I date that also do what they love, which is very convenient because then it's easy to have the abundance to travel or, you know, normally it's like something they're passionate about. It's a different energy. So realize if you want to attract love in 2023, but you're remaining in your own energy, it's a different frequency. Your reflection in your life of your relationships is an extension of the inner growth you make within yourself. So something to really focus on is yourself, your own energy. Where is that going? Are you doing what you're passionate about? Are you being the most authentic version of you? And as you do that, what you're gonna find is that reality begins to change as a reflection. But remember, all the outer reality is, is a reflection of the internal. And I've been letting also, I've been, another level to this is I've been letting the external in a way, as I notice things happening in my life, I let it be opportunities to lean into emotions that normally I may not allow myself to feel. I allow reality in a way to help me do my own inner growth, to lean into emotions that are uncomfortable to feel, to let them be there without trying to control them. And then I don't develop a story about the external. Remember, the external is just a reflection of the internal. So if somebody else does something to you and there's a trigger there, The answer isn't necessarily always to like, sometimes it is to put someone in their place and say, "Hey, don't cross the boundary here." But that's an external boundary. The internal boundary is realizing, "Oh, when this person said this to me, it reminded me of something that," another memory comes up of when you were 0 to 7 years old. You can realize, "Oh, that's where that stems from." Earlier this year, I went through a betrayal and there was an emotion and a story that was tied to this. Why did this person do this? How could they? Blah, blah, blah. But then what happened is there was a realization there that this is just a trigger to realize that there's some type of story of something that happened a long time ago. So this is just replaying that same pattern out. And can I lean into the emotion of feeling that, of feeling that energy and then getting to a place of forgiveness, which has ended up being what happened. And the reason I share this is because 2023, I believe as well, is if you want to change the external, the key is leaning into and feeling on the internal, not suppressing it, not repressing it, not putting it and like shoving it down, but actually feeling it. And the more you feel it, the more you process it from your body and the more you become aware of it. Now I'm very aware where if I were to attract a situation like that again, I would be aware of it and it would be kind of like a red flag. Because once you become aware, once the egg is cracked open, you can't necessarily put it back together. You're already aware. So if you wanna change your relationships on the outside, the key is becoming more aware of your energy on the inside. Become more aware of the energy you haven't been allowing yourself to feel. Become more aware of what emotions you wanna feel. So 2023, what do you intend to feel more of? Is it money? 'Cause that's not a feeling. Or is it security? Is it freedom? You think you wanna attract a relationship, but really do you wanna feel more love? Which could mean self-love, could mean connection, which means you could feel connection by going out in nature, playing with an animal, kids. You could, there's many ways to get and to feel these energies and to realize that as you tap into the resonance of this energy, that's when reality begins to shift. And when you're being it in the present moment because it's who you choose to be, not because you're trying to escape it. And the more you do that, the more reality really begins to change and the more that you'll notice that everything on the outside shifts because of that energy. Now, if you want to learn the 6 steps to completely transform your life this year, step by step, very practical to create that transformation on the inside out, go ahead and watch this video right here. It will change your life. When we look at our life, we are living in direct alignment with our, uh, with our meanings and with our agreements. If we work a 9-to-5 job we hate, it's because we've agreed that working this 9-to-5 job that we hate is something that
