The Most Effective Way to Protect Your Energy from Draining People...

When people say they feel drained by other people in their life, or they feel drained when they go out in public, they might think that it's the other people that are draining their energy. They may say, I just have sensitive energy, and when I'm around people, I can just feel how everybody else feels. But many times what's happening, if, what if it's not that you are just absorbing their energy, It's what if you are not being the real you and giving yourself permission to be the real you when you are around certain people? Think about that for a minute. There are certain people you are around in your life where you feel like you can just be yourself. You feel alive when you're around. And these people you call your best friends and you give yourself permission to be the real you. Then there are other people in your life that you might feel drained around. There are people that might have personalities that are more edgy. You might be in a group of people in public and then be like, wow, I feel so drained. But what if one of the main reasons you feel drained is that you feel like you can't actually be the real you? You don't want other people to feel tension, so you start performing to be someone else. You start pleasing or start trying to be perfect or start trying to fix whoever you believe you need to be to be approved of or to ease tension or to fix so that you could feel safe inside of your own body. Well, what if you could completely transform this energy from the inside out and give yourself permission to actually be the most authentic you? And what if by being this most authentic you, you actually were finally respected? You actually finally stopped taking on the energy of other people. And by doing so, it completely transforms your energy from the inside out. So you'll see inside this live video that you're about to watch where I was live and basically going deep on the pattern of people pleasing and all the ways we abandon ourselves and then drain our own energy. How to remove the belief that it's in other people or that other people are causing us to not be ourselves. When we begin to take our power back, everything changes. You'll see someone ask like, how do we protect our energy? And understand that protecting your energy is something you're not gonna have to do by the end of this video. You will have a completely new perspective about how you feel about you and how about you relate to other people? So this video is that of a live that I did on Instagram and I get into a flow state and what we do is we go deep on understanding all these subconscious patterns, how to completely transform them from the inside out, how to finally start giving yourself permission to be the real you, knowing it's not your job to manage how people think about you, it's not your job to ease tension, and how as you begin to embody this energy, that's present to the moment, and you let go of performative energy, you let go, which is basically controlling the outcome, you start to become more free. This will completely shift your life from the inside out. And the things you learn in this video are going to help you create that identity-level transformation. So let's get into it right now. It is draining to be around people when you are not giving yourself permission to express the real you. And what can happen is people might go out into public or be around people and say, I'm drained around people. Those people over there, they are draining my energy. And while there's some people that obviously could have toxic energy that you don't feel more alive around, something to become aware of is where you have the ability to take your power back is in choosing to be authentic, choosing to be vulnerable, choosing to express the real you, choosing to realize that when you're expressing the real you, if other people feel tension or they like it or don't, that's not your thing to manage. But imagine if you literally believe it is your job and your responsibility to control how people think about you, or you only feel safe inside of your body when other people feel good. So if you have that belief, that subconscious pattern from childhood, which we're gonna talk about, then you will go around feeling drained around other people because let's be honest, when you abandon yourself, that is draining. When you are taking responsibility for how other people think about you, that is draining. If you are a people pleaser, someone that as a kid you decided your job was to please other people, to receive their validation or approval or to ease their tension, Guess what? You will go around feeling drained and you will go around abandoning yourself and you will go around taking responsibility for everybody else. Many times someone that is a people pleaser as an adult decided subconsciously as a kid being a parent pleaser pleasing a critical parent or a parent that just was very, maybe hard to please, then there was a decision made. I will be this way. And then you take on the responsibility and learn in a way not to nurture your own authenticity and vulnerability. Do you see? So what can happen is people that are intending to please other people do so at the expense of their own authenticity. And the belief is that if I am this way, I'm going to receive validation and approval. Deep down though, the validation and approval wants to come, Like the inner child wants to be validated and approved of. That's like the deeper layer there. So understand that when we're talking about authenticity, when we're talking about like, think about it, there are certain people you are around that you can just be yourself, right? And those people give you literally like, you feel more energetic when you're around them. Is it interesting that those people that you feel energized around, you can just be yourself? You give yourself permission to be yourself. Am I right? But there's other people that when you're around, you feel drained. Maybe you've normalized people that take, or you've normalized people that have really high expectations of you, or you've normalized that if they do have high expectations of you, you feel obligated to live up to those expectations. The belief is, if I can live up to those expectations, I will be enough. Do you see? If you have questions about overcoming people-pleasing, taking on the energy of other people, understanding, giving yourself permission to be the real you, Go ahead and comment it. Go ahead and comment it right now. So this is an interesting thing. I was coaching someone recently on this and really understanding that what is, 'cause what happens is people fall into traps when it comes to the beliefs that are developed that then attract more people like that. So a lot of what happens is people pleasers, a lot of times I believe, are caught up in kind of like the codependency triangle where there is a perpetrator, a victim, and a rescuer. And the perpetrator is always the controlling person, the narcissist, the person not adhering to the boundaries, that's the perpetrator energy. And what happens is if there's a high charge there, what happens is then you might not give yourself permission to be the real you because you're afraid of having to like assert yourself towards that energy. But then what that does is has you abandoning yourself. And then you might rescue other people from that energy 'cause you feel value out of that. You may have also decided that as a kid, I need to be good, and to be good means I stay out of the way, I please, I help, I don't ever focus on myself. And these decisions as a kid that were made keep you in patterns. They keep you attracting the same people. But if you develop the belief that everyone is controlling, guess what? You will attract people into your life that reflect that belief because there's a charge there. Whereas if that energy isn't charged, you won't be attracting it in the same way. So it's like the aversion to it, the resistance of not wanting it still pulls it in because you believe all people are controlling. But that's a very, that's a like an us versus them mentality and it takes the power outside of you. There's nothing you can do because this person's controlling. What if someone can be controlling and you can either choose not to be around that energy or you can realize it's not your responsibility to please them and you don't need to live up to that energy? Responsibility. How do you protect our energy from draining around girls? In 2026, it can be literally the most magnetic year of your life. You could completely transform from the inside out. Imagine being good either way with how things turn out in your life. Imagine feeling calm and regulated inside of your body. Imagine feeling safe inside of your own body, knowing that you don't need to control reality. Imagine being more in a flow state, more in your passion, and knowing of your true worth and value. This year I'm doing something very special. If you're seeing this video, it's because it's my birthday week. It is also that of Black Friday week. So I'm doing something that includes every course I've ever created, every meditation I've ever made. If you wanna check it out, go ahead and hit the link in the top of the description box below. Check it out and see that you can have everything I've ever created. Click that link in the comments and you will see it and make 2026 your most magnetic year yet. How do you protect our energy from draining around girls? Hmm. So in what way? So protecting your energy, I don't really buy into the whole like that it's necessary. Like, okay, so if reality, let's get a little bit deeper here. If reality is a reflection of what we believe to be true and we live in an archetypal reality like Carl Jung talked about where we're all connected, there's these archetypes in our collective consciousness. And if what happens, if we believe and what we do is we imagine in our energy a bubble around our body and that bubble around our body will protect us and we can go out into public and we can meet people and we imagine a bubble around our body that's protecting us. This is like a common energy Reiki thing that people will say. Some of you in the audience are probably that and you're probably like, why is Aaron dogging on this right now? What I'm saying is in reality, our beliefs create our reality and have a powerful effect of what we experience. If we believe into the energy that if we put a bubble around our body and we go out in public and there's people out there that are trying to drain our energy, but we assert this bubble, we may give ourselves permission to not absorb their energy. But is it the bubble that did it or is it your belief that now you're not absorbing their energy? You see, I'm not saying it's not true. I'm saying that it's only really true if you believe it to be true. The challenge is we all want to agree with what reality is. No, Aaron, don't you know there's a silver cord that when you sleep, like there's so astral projection silver cord, like this more esoteric belief. But it's like, what if many people just believe that that's the symbol? It's literally a symbol, just like a bubble around your body is a symbol that may give yourself more permission to release absorbing other people's energies. It may give you permission to separate and to feel the separation between you and others. So the question itself is how to protect our energy from draining around girls, you probably believe that when you're around women, your energy is drained. You might believe that growing up, maybe mom or sister or something like that, or women in general somehow drained your energy, or you believed that you couldn't be yourself around them. Who did mom want you to be growing up? Or who did some woman authority figure, maybe grandma, want you to be growing up? You may have then decided, I can't be myself, but then you can develop the belief of us versus them and then say, all women I can't be myself around. Is that true? Should you put a bubble? Here's what you do. You put a bubble around your body, go out in public with the bubble around your body and imagine fire. That's dissolving the energy cords. What I'm saying is beliefs create, if that works for you, do it. But ultimately you could just make the choice that you don't absorb people's energies and that their stuff to deal with, it's not your responsibility to manage how they think or feel about you. And then you could be more free. So you don't have to protect, like why would you need to protect your energy around Girls, like what are they gonna do, attack you? It's a belief, it's something. And remember, if you have an aversion to it, I'm on eggshells, you will create the experience of people around you that you feel are judging you, or you'll attract people that are highly critical and hard to please because they refer, they affirm your belief. Why is it just a handful of people that I feel okay to be around? It's an interesting question. Once again, back to the core of what we're talking about. There's probably a handful of people you give yourself permission to be the most authentic you around. Because remember, it's draining to abandon yourself. It's draining to be who someone else wants you to be and to not be the real self. It's draining to be performing. Like when I get on here and I go live, very often what I'll do is I'll feel myself flow in sometimes of sharing authentically and getting into a flow state. Which there's no real thinking involved, there's no attachment to outcome involved, and there's times where it's like, it can feel more performative, which is draining. And those are the ones where I'm like, eh, don't really feel it. But the ones where I'm in a flow state literally gives me, here's the interesting thing, when I'm in a flow state, I'm giving myself permission to express the most real me. Me, not thinking about it, not trying to control your perception of me. I'm just being the real me. A lot of times those are the lives where I'm sharing the most of my personality. Those are where I'm having the most fun. So interestingly enough, this is why when I talk about like having magnetic energy, it gives you energy when you go out on a date, for example, and you're having fun, you're being the real you. You're showing the real you, whether they resonate with it or not. When you go to work, if your focus is on making money and having certain outcomes versus having fun and connecting with people, you get a different response. You're also giving, like the days I would go to my old 9-to-5 job where I sold women's shoes that I was having the most fun, I was being the most authentic me, those were the days I also did the best. But the days it was performative— and performative is always attached to an outcome. Do you see that? It's attached to the outcome. It's attached to what people think of you. It's attached to perfect, what you believe is necessary to be good enough. And isn't that draining? This is where we're talking about things that either give you energy or things that actually drain energy. And things that give you energy are when you're around people, you give yourself permission to be the real you around. And they're also when you are allowing yourself to get into a flow state. Without being attached to outcome. You could say that the attachment to outcome is what creates the pressure, the performative energy. And then you're— think about that. Perfectionists— like, I was talking to a buddy of mine the other day about this. I've talked about him in a recent video too. He's a YouTuber. He's got 2 million followers. Good friend of mine. Him and I were talking about YouTube. And what he told me is he said something interesting. He said, you know, I'm getting drained of making these YouTube videos. And a lot, some of the YouTube videos you make once you have like, you know, a lot of followers is you try to always compare to your old videos. And then there's an intention, like these videos have to get views, these videos have pressure. And what he told me is he said, you know, it feels like sometimes I have two personalities. I have the real me, and then I have this me that like is worried about what people think and is a perfectionist. And I thought it was so interesting because this friend of mine, he is so hilarious. He is so funny in person around a group of friends. He is just, he's got the funniest stories, the funniest, like, I'm like, I wish I was that funny. And what was so interesting to me is that when he pushes play on the camera, Something happens. He's like, what does this look like? He'll redo something like 20 times. I'm like, bro, you are so witty and funny, and yet there is this like other side of you that like locks up and is worried about what people think. You know what's funny? He told me once that one of his top viewed videos has like millions and millions of views, like 4 million views plus. He's like, "Bro, that video I made," he doesn't drink. He hasn't drank in, he's been sober for years. But back in the day, he's got this video that's got like 4 million views. And he's like, "I was blasted drunk during that video." I was like, "What?" He's like, "Yeah, bro, I was so drunk." And I thought it was interesting because when you drink, yes, you're feeling more dopamine, but what happens sometimes when people drink? They enjoy it because also they give themselves permission to be their real selves. It's not that they're their real selves, but they give, that filter goes away at least of performativeness or caring what people think. Do you guys see that? So what's interesting is my friend though, I was helping him and like kind of like working with him and trying to like reflect some things back to him. 'Cause I'm like, bro, if you just like made more videos and focus, I mean, here's the tricky thing. You can't focus on just being yourself because focusing on needing to be yourself creates an attachment to outcome. Isn't that interesting? Isn't it like the most annoying thing ever when people say, "Bro, just be yourself." And you're like, "What do you mean? How do I, I gotta perform now and be myself?" No, just be yourself. And really just about letting go of attachment to what people think. Let people see you as cool or not cool. You have to almost be cool with whether they see you as the real you or not. It's like a paradox. But with my friend, he, it like, if you think about that performative energy, the perfectionism that comes out where he has to redo like and edit something like 20 times. I'm like, he used to look at what I do on YouTube and he'd be like, bro, I wish I could create videos like you. And I'm like, what are you talking about? Your vid, his videos are so cool. His videos are edited, super high quality, lots of text, lots of like cool angles and lighting, stuff I don't even understand. I'm very raw when I film. Like when I film, like I am just here right now. I'm also recording on like for YouTube. Some people don't like, by the way, on YouTube when I post a video like this, some people don't care because it's just like content. Some people are like, you're not looking into the camera lens. I'm like, what? That's how I'm choosing to make content. Now the way that I make content is I get into a flow. What brings out a flow state in me is when there's other people on the other side. So I either do that live in person, or if you want videos to come out in between my live events, this is how I do it. But I enjoy this. I enjoy being here with all of you. So this, but this is my, it's like raw. You know, the editing normally is much more raw. I've been testing different editing styles on YouTube recently, but the rawness is like, I think where it's easy for me. It's when things are easy and I'm having fun. For some reason, when I'm on Instagram Live, going live, it's just easy and fun for me. I wish that when I went on YouTube, being on YouTube, being on like online with like a high-tech camera and like looking into like the crazy chat on YouTube, it's just different. This feels, I don't know why this feels more authentic for me, but it does. Yeah, someone said, that's a blanket statement. Not all women are doing that. So with the person earlier that says like, how do you not be draining around women? First off, there's a belief that women drain your energy. There's a belief there. If you need to stop absorbing their energy, there's a belief that, you know, you need to protect your energy. There's a belief that they take your energy. And it also creates an us versus them mentality where like women are the people that are trying to control you. What kind of women do you think you'll attract into your life? And remember, like what we're saying, kind of summarizing the idea earlier, if you put a bubble around your body, you could go out and do that little Reiki practice and you'll protect your energy. And what I'm saying is if that's the practice you have to do to give yourself permission to be the real authentic you, then do it. But what I'm saying is you don't need it. Being inner, feeling high vibe, or whatever term you wanna give it around people, is very much about the degree to which you give yourself permission to be the real you. And for some of you, the biggest transformation you'll experience in your life, the biggest transformation you'll experience if you're someone that's taken on other people's energies growing up, And if you're someone that identifies as a people pleaser, is the biggest shift will be when you begin to actually embrace your dark side. You're afraid that your dark side is going to cause abandonment in your life. People are going to reject you if you embrace your dark side. The very thing you're afraid of embodying is the key to freedom. Think about this. You might feel like you're in a box. You might feel like you are trapped and not able to be yourself when you are around other people. And you might say it's them draining your energy, but really what may be happening at a deeper level is you are trying to stay within the inauthentic confinements of who you believe you need to be to receive love. And if as a kid you had to be perfect, performative, ease tension, the people pleaser, guess what? That's not the real you. That's a performative you that you believe you have to be in order to receive love, conditional love at that. And what I'm saying is you can remove that box by leaning into your dark side, embracing, leaning into tension. Realize that someone else's tension is not your thing to manage. Someone else's tension is not your thing to manage. As a kid, you probably thought it was. So a huge breakthrough for many of you watching is actually realize your dark, like your dark side is, you think it's this evil thing that you don't wanna see and you don't wanna open up Pandora's box. But when you start being the real you, you will start being authentic and start feeling more alive. The only reason you avoid the dark side is because you're afraid that if you embrace the dark side, you're gonna be judged or people are gonna leave you. Many times people will finally start to respect you because you start expressing the real you. When I say dark side, you might be like, what do you mean by dark side? What do you guys think I mean by dark side? What do you guys think I mean by dark side? I mean, you might think that just being more bold, setting a boundary, you might think in your mind, you might be like, if I set a boundary with someone, that's evil, that's dark side. No, you expressing the real you might be authentic. You might just be judging it and keeping yourself in that box and then you feel drained. Some people say, hey, that bubble works. If you believe it works, it works. Can you imagine someone that doesn't believe in the bubble and you give it to them? And do you think it'll work for them? Probably not. But if they believe, if somebody tells them that they believe is an authority and then they start to believe it or their alignments 'cause they believe in the esoteric sides of the universe, like it might work for them. Yeah, by dark side. What do you, so dark side, your shadow side. Yeah, like someone says preacher's kid. If you're a preacher's kid or a pastor kid or something, they're like, growing up, I was a firefighter's kid. My dad's a firefighter. So you know what a lot of times happened when I was growing up? Tuck in your shirt and comb your hair to the side. Tuck in your shirt, comb your hair to the side. I was a reflection of my dad and I had to look a certain way. And what was interesting is there was a pressure to look a certain way, to be a certain way. And I always rebelled against that. I wanted to grow my hair out, but for a while I couldn't because I was the firefighter's kid and I had to look perfect. I had to look, and I was a reflection of him. And I wanted to have long hair, my dad was always like, you know, when he eventually loosened up, but for a while he was like, you're sagging your pants. I was not sagging my pants, bro. They just weren't, they just weren't pulled up to my fricking like belly button. But like, you don't want me to, I don't wanna be bad. I don't wanna look bad. I gotta be good. I gotta look good. You guys wanna hear a funny story? You guys wanna hear kind of a funny story? Here's kind of a funny story. So my dad, my dad's a fire investigator, right? He goes in after the fires and he like determines, he's a very analytical person that goes in after the fires and determines how they started. So he's like an expert in like how fires start. And when I was like 14, 13, 14, my dad would run these things called fire setters class. Where these kids, basically young kids that started fires, would legally have to go to this fire setter's class, which is pretty intense. And it was a way to put fear into kids to never playing with fire again, basically. And me being the firefighter's kid, I got in trouble once because one of the workers at the house that was being remodeled saw in the window a reflection of me, 'cause when you're a kid, you know what was cool when you're a kid? Getting WD-40 and a little bit of a lighter and just going like that for a second. Wasn't that, that was like, yeah, when you're a kid, just going like that. So when I was like 14, 15 years old, guess what I did? I don't know, maybe I was 15. I went like that one time. Did not catch anything on fire. I just did it once. That's it. I was a good kid. But I did that and then somebody told on me. I'm gonna ask my brother. I think my brother may have said something. My brother and I were kind of like encouraged to rat each other out because we'd get rewarded for that as a kid until my brother and I had like freedom. But basically, I'm gonna ask my brother. I'm pretty sure he fricking told on me. I don't know if he'd admit to it, but a worker, one of the workers there said, just so you know, your son, for 2 seconds, didn't light anything on fire, but he did that, okay? Basically my dad found out about that and then I was forced to go from my dad to this fire setter's class, okay? So I go to this fire setter's class and I'm with all of these kids that all legally had to be there. I did not legally have to be there. I was just the firefighter kid, you know? And basically what happened is everyone goes in a circle. So at first they make you watch this movie of this guy that like played with fire and he's just like melted face. Like it'll scare you to not wanting to ever touch fire again. You know, just that was like shock, right? Then we go around in a circle and everyone shares the things that they did to be there. And then my dad and his group of firefighter people basically reamed them out so that they'd never wanna like start, you know, touch fire again. All right, so here's some of the things these people did. Okay, one person was jealous of some other girl talking to her boyfriend, so she literally lit someone else's— lit this other girl's hair on fire. That was one thing that happened. Like, somebody lit some girl that had a lot of hairspray in her hair— lit her hair on fire. She was there legally. Someone else I don't, I remember these so well, by the way. I remember this one kid, he was there because he filled a tennis ball with gasoline, lit it on fire, and then threw it in an apartment building balcony and lit a house on fire. Okay. And then somebody else, group of kids at this rich kid school, Anthem in Vegas. It was a rich kid school. These rich kids. That looked super entitled and rich. They had like really nice clothes and stuff. Whole group of friends that were there because they filled up a tire with newspapers, lit it on fire, and rolled it down a hill. That's something they did. And there were like 2 or 3 other crazy things. And then it gets to me, okay? Me, the firefighter kid. With my pants pulled all the way up to my belly button, my hair combed to the side, and it gets to me. And you know what I say? I say, well, what I did is I got the flame and the WD-40. I went, and that's all I did. And everyone else is there, is like, why is this person here? Like, look at what all these people did. And then, and then afterwards, my dad's like, you know who the worst 'You know who the most intense worst one there was?' I'm like, 'Who?' He's like, 'You,' because it was like this. I'm like, 'What?' I'm like, 'No, it wasn't. It was all these other—' Like, I think the tennis ball with gasoline in it was a little bit worse than what I did. But the point of that, the point, the reason I'm sharing that is that his friends really dug into me because they knew I was his kid. So like, 'Yo, blah blah blah blah blah blah,' like trying to get me not to like ever touch fire again. And even now, like, it's funny, sometimes, you know, when I meditate, I meditate by staring at a candle flame. And sometimes my dad, like, when I used to live with my dad when I first got on YouTube back in the day, he'd be like, but be careful, be careful. I'm like, Dad, literally the candle flame, the only time the candle flame is there is when I'm staring at it. Those of you that know my meditation practice, right? My meditation practice, you stare at a candle flame. I'm like, the entire time the candle flame is going, you're staring at it. But that parent, that, it's just funny. It's just funny being a firefighter kid. But who did you decide you had to be to get mom or dad's love growing up? I kind of rebelled against that, honestly. There was maybe a part of me that knew my limits to that. But the reason I'm sharing this is You know, who did you have to be growing up to get the approval or validation of mom or dad? And if there was really high stakes, you might also rebel against it. But do you see how rebelling against it can, like sometimes I would rebel against something even if it wasn't authentic, just to prove a point, just to say I'm not controlled, which also kind of isn't the most authentic thing. So it's like that idea of whatever you resist persists, right? So anyways, that's my story about that. Kind of random. Okay, we can change the subject from the whole fire thing. Yeah, it's interesting how as a kid you go through like a rebellious phase It's considered in Carl Jungian psychology, Carl Jung, one of the most like profound psychologists of the last couple hundred years ever, talks a lot about individuation. And when you're going through the phase of being a teenager, you're starting to see who you are away from mom and dad, starting to individuate, to become who you really are. And that's when you start developing like a tribe, like your friends. It's a little different energy than, a little different energy than just like wanting to be around your parents all the time. And part of that's you separating, like kind of standing in your power. But when you, part of individuation too, is in a way rebelling against, there's this, I mean, I won't get into this whole like story, archetypal story that was on like masculine energy, but part of it is, it's called stealing the key underneath mom's pillow for men. And the idea is that mom has her dreams about who you are, her dreams and hopes about who you are, and she just loves you oh so much. And she's got this key that's underneath her pillow. And what's inside the basement is a cage. And in that cage is the wild man. It's the part of you that she's afraid of. It's the part of you that you may have not tapped into yet. And in order to become the most masculine integrated version of you, you have to embrace the wild man, but to get it, you have to literally steal the key from underneath mom's pillow, which a lot of people don't wanna do because they don't want to be causing mom to worry. They don't want mom to think about them in a different way. They wanna just do what mommy wants them to do. Stealing the key is a symbol for being more authentic and following your purpose, even if mom or dad don't like it. The wild man in the basement is the part of you, it's kind of like that dark side we've been talking about on this call, the shadow side, but also this part of you that maybe you haven't tapped into. And the key that opens that up allows you to be free, allows you to tap in a deeper reservoir of who you really are. Anyway, that's a whole, is it called Iron John? I think it's called Iron John, name of that book. Anyways, so part of the purpose of why I'm sharing that, all of this, is you'll go through the journey of individuation, of being the real you, and realizing it is not your job to make your parents— to just live according to your parents' wishes of you if that's not also your path. So many people just want, you know, there's people that like go to school for like 10 years to be a doctor just because their parents want them to be a doctor. And then you live a life in this box that you don't want to live instead of doing what you want to do. This makes sense. Hm. Anyways. Let's see this here. Someone says, why am I always the one to be made out to be, to made out crazy in the relationships because I say how I feel? Well, what do you mean by you're being made out crazy? Now sometimes also subconsciously, if we believe we might be crazy or high maintenance, we may not feel worthy to have people around us that like kind of nurture that energy or at least like don't judge it or shame it. What can happen is we may attract people that kind of reflect that belief back if we have the belief. Now you might also be surrounding yourself with people that aren't emotionally vulnerable and therefore that's uncomfortable to them and then Sometimes the easier thing is that you're crazy. But being made out to be the crazy one in relationships, is that actually true? Is that actually really what happens? Sometimes we believe that and therefore you might experience that, but you also might be creating it. I was watching another creator, someone that made a, I saw a video pop on my Instagram the other day of someone else and they were talking about like how they, somebody else ghosted them and they felt abandoned and they expressed how they really felt. And then when they expressed how they really felt, that person didn't reach back to them. But also one thing that I could see in this video is that they said that like 12 days later that person didn't reach out to them or something. They had to reach out to them and like it was this thing. But if you're counting down the days and like taking score and saying you better do this or better not do this, it's putting a pressure and almost like a repellent energy into the situation. But also you might be literally kind of projecting it into the space as well. Like somebody that's not worried about being abandoned or whether someone likes them or not, they're not counting down the days that someone doesn't text them. There's not that expectation. Does that make sense? So I can almost see that part of that's just self-created. Does that make sense? It's like self-created. It's like, or they may believe that anytime they express their vulnerability that other people leave. But the irony is that when you get to a place to where you're good either way, you're not attached to what they do or don't do, it's like more people might stay around. If you want a meditation that will help you let go of needing validation or approval from other people, one of my newest meditations that I just made, one of the most powerful ones, has to do with connecting with your inner child to start to feel whole and complete from the inside out. Listen to this meditation for 21 days and watch what happens.