The power of the mirror effect & why people reflect you

If you were to master your energy and your attention, you would master your life. Like any block you experience in your life right now, any resistance you have, there is attention that is going towards things that have you abandoning you. It's going towards other things in your life that are growing someone else's mission, someone else's thing, because that's where your attention is going. And when you begin to bring the awareness and attention back to you, When you begin to choose you, reality will begin to reflect that back into your life. Now, in this video, you are going to learn how to stop abandoning yourself by splitting your attention on things and your energy on things that don't actually grow your larger mission and energy. And when you begin to do this, you'll notice that so many areas of your life transform as a response because you've shifted your energy at a deep subconscious level. This is what has allowed me to go full-time doing what I love. It's what I've seen helps thousands of people by having this one little shift in how you relate to your energy that will allow you to embody the most magnetic you. Because remember, you don't have to try to become more magnetic. You don't have to try to become higher vibrational. You already are it. It's simply about letting go. And when you let go, that naturally raises back up. And in this video, you're going to learn step by step how to be in that energy now, how to put focus on that energy now, how to not abandon yourself now, which will completely transform your life from the inside out. People feel what you feel about you. And one of the challenges with reality is, is when you are abandoning you, And not choosing you, reality and other people mirror that energy back. So I remember for years I would find myself stuck in a 9-to-5 job I didn't like, stuck in relationship patterns I didn't prefer, but it was my reality. And much of the reason that was the case was because I was subconsciously letting that be what's familiar. which felt like family in a deeper way. So very often when you begin to realize that whatever you put your attention on, that's where your energy's going. And wherever your energy goes, that is where you will find more reflection of that in your life. So there's this very interesting idea that really changed my life when I first learned it. It came from this book called Reality Transurfing. And it's this Russian book, it's this book written in Russian, translated to English. And it's kind of like The Secret, but in Russia. And it's about parallel realities actually. It's very interesting. But the reason I got into that book is because there was this like millionaire guy that I met back in the day when I was first getting on YouTube. And he said, if you read this book, this is what helped me become a millionaire. So, I got that book, I read it. And one of the most interesting concepts from the book was this idea of pendulums. It's this idea of what are called thought forms. And the idea is that when you think certain thoughts, just thoughts in general, You might think that you are thinking them when in fact it's like you are also picking up on thoughts. So it's like the thoughts have like a life of their own in a way. Now, I know it's kind of this esoteric, uh, like way of thinking, but think about it like there's an energetic structure to those thoughts. And what happens is when you think thoughts, whether you're on this political spectrum or this side, or you're thinking thoughts about this sports team or this sports team or whatever it is, It's like there's a certain energetic field and a certain level of momentum towards those thoughts because you're not the only one thinking them. It's like there are millions of people or billions of people thinking thoughts that are similar, and you pick up on those, in a way, thought forms. And you might think you're thinking your thoughts when you're thinking the energy of the collective thoughts. So this is why, by the way, when you think of things that make you very angry or polarized, What can happen is you end up think you're thinking your thoughts, but you're actually feeding the collective reality of the thing that you don't want. This is why the people that win political elections, they're the people that have the most strongest pendulum. And pendulums grow by focus. Whether you're focusing on it in a positive way or a negative way, you're adding focus to that thing. So very often what happens is people find themselves not able to create their dream reality, or they find themselves, it's hard for them to create momentum, but it's all their thought energy is going towards other things. And whether you like it or you don't like it, you are feeding it. So what happens is in that same frame, it's like people then, their energy's being dispersed out because they're focused on these other thought form pendulums. So there's pendulums around everything. There's pendulums around my YouTube channel, pendulums around sports teams, pendulums around people that you know that are in like the limelight or whatever. These pendulums, anytime there's multiple people focus on things, there's energies feeding that thing. Now, there could be positive pendulums. I like to think that what I do in the world is somewhat a positive pendulum that has a positive impact on people. But the idea is that the only way in which you can defeat a pendulum is not by thinking the opposite or fighting it, because that actually fuels it. The only way you will beat a pendulum is by observing it and letting it be there. Now, when you think of this and you think of mastering your energy to master your life, a core component in this is learning how to observe rather than react. Like when I think in 2012, when I went through my awakening, My spiritual awakening and my life completely transformed. Within 2 or 3 weeks, my whole entire life transformed, and it came from learning to observe my thoughts rather than reacting to them. On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 feeling incredible and 1 feeling not that great at all, I was at about a 3 out of 10. Then I started to meditate, started to observe my thoughts. Certain level of spaciousness came into my life. And then I started to feel literally like 7 or 8 out of 10. I felt high a majority of the time. I thought, this feeling's gonna go away. Is this gonna go away? And it became the natural base point. Not to say that at times it doesn't dip down a little bit, but that's the set point. And that comes from space, that comes from observation, that comes with not being in reaction. And when you— the trigger though, the thing that shifted everything was Trying to not think negative thoughts actually caused more negative thoughts to be there and cause resistance. So it's like, in a way, it was like, I was like, I learned about the movie The Secret because my mom made me watch it when I was like 15, or I was like 18 actually. I watched the movie The Secret and I was like, this is so powerful. I don't wanna think negative thoughts 'cause I'm gonna manifest something bad. And then it was like, this like shadow side of me is like, what if you do think of negative thoughts? What if you do manifest something bad? I'm like, nope, don't think it. It was like this weird inner conflict. Then I learned how to observe them and let them be there. And very— with time, there's more and more spaciousness that's created. And then I started to relate to my past differently, and I started to recognize certain patterns in my life, and it completely transformed my life from the inside out. That came as a result of observation and not feeding the old pendulums, the old thought structures that were sucking my energy out. And imagine it. Imagine if I'm working a nine to five job I hate, and I'm like, "I hate this job. It's so bad." Blah blah blah. Even though I'm working it, draining my energy. How can I create my dream life when so much of my energy is going towards the complaining and the negative, the pendulum towards the negativity of something I don't like? So recognize first off that if you want to transform your life, you want to become aware of where you are sending energy. towards aspects of your life or towards pendulums in your life that you are building instead of your own dream, instead of your own life of what you wanna create. So your energy is about recognizing as well that you don't have to try to become more magnetic. You don't have to try to raise your vibration. You naturally are magnetic. You naturally have that love, joy, peace. That's who you really are. The only thing that keeps you from recognizing it is the resistance underneath the surface, and that resistance may be the attachment to thinking certain thoughts, the attachment to certain things happening in reality, like this is happening to me. And what happens is that keeps you under the surface from you being that naturally magnetic you. So very often people. don't recognize it, but like, if you want to create your dream life, it is gonna require you to focus on it and to commit to it. It's gonna focus on committing to not even just it, but you focus on being the most authentic you. So, I had to focus on recognizing and being honest with myself. When I was working that 9-to-5 job I didn't like, I was abandoning myself to even be in that job. Like I was lying to myself. Like you see people sometimes, they'll say that they have like, you know, imposter syndrome. When I first started making videos on YouTube, by the way, there was a bit of imposter syndrome for a minute, but then I recognized like this just isn't familiar yet. I just haven't put in the reps yet. And the more consistent I did it, the more confident I got. And really it was just a reps thing. So, recognize that in any area of your life where you feel blocked, it might mean you just need to put more reps into that area of your life. And what happens is we find ourselves feeling resistance when we find ourselves like getting sucked into reality, sucked into like the way things are. And it might just be, once again, familiar to childhood that you stay stuck in those dynamics. I had to abandon myself to even be in that energy. And one of the things I recognized was, This version of me that I think of, like me being the imposter version of me by being on YouTube, it was more so like I started to see that the version of me working that 9-to-5 job was more so the imposter, was more so the pretender, was more so abandoning himself to make everybody else happy, was pretending to be small, pretending to— I knew I wasn't passionate about selling shoes, but it was familiar. It was what normal was. So one of the first things you wanna recognize, if your intention is to master your energy, to master your life, is what you wanna do is recognize where are you putting energy in your life, thinking, feeling, and acting equal to the job, the life that you don't prefer, because that is where your time and energy is going, and that is what you're growing. And most people's energy is towards the resistance to the life they don't want. So back in the day when I had that 9-to-5 job selling women's shoes, I would focus like, why am I here? It's slow. I don't like this. The corporate politics are almost— it's not— things aren't fair. I've got to put up with corporate politics where they take advantage and they're like, talk down to people. I had to recognize that that energy, that pattern was very familiar to me, and that's why I tolerated it. So, I would abandon myself to even be in that job. And I would then tell myself, this is who I am. That's not really who I am, but that was dominating my focus. Things shifted when I began to instead, I began to make a commitment to a new version of me. I began to commit to making daily videos. I began committing to the process. And the putting of my energy in something I'm actually passionate about, which is interesting because if you think about it, as far as— let's talk about not just the time of focus, but the energy and potency of focus for a moment. Because when I was working that 9-to-5 job, 35 hours a week selling women's shoes, that you could say was the dominant time period I was putting into my week was going into a 9-to-5 job I didn't like. I go to work, I'd stand around. It was very slow. I'd help people with shoes. That was my reality. That's where my focus was going. In an interesting way, I knew that if I wanted to go full-time with my purpose, I had to treat my side hustle as my full-time thing. So then, even though 35 hours a week I was working that 9-to-5 job, the other 10, 15 hours a week or 20 hours a week, I committed to daily videos on YouTube. So when I wasn't working, I was making videos, learning thumbnails, editing videos sloppy. I did it anyways. And even though that was only maybe 15, 20 hours a week while I was working 35 hours a week over here, this became my dominant reality because the energy was more potent. This is a more potent energy. But here's the energy. The other thing you want to recognize is if your intention is to make this shift, This reality over here, let go of your resistance to it. Because for a while I was working that, and I worked for 6 months after I went daily on YouTube. I had that 9-to-5 job. I wasn't like, this job sucks, I want out of it. Resistance, resistance, resistance. I saw this job allows me, I can accept this job. I can still have fun with this job. I can recognize that this is the last time I'm ever gonna have a 9-to-5 job in my life. And I felt that. And part of the reason I felt that was because I chose that. So as I chose this over here, I accepted this. I was at work and I was focused on being present. Sometimes when it was slow, I'd think of video ideas, but mostly I'd be like, you know, I'm gonna enjoy this. I'm gonna have fun. I'm gonna let go of the resistance to it. And then I would let go of the story that was draining me. And part of that story was, I have this job I hate, I want out. And so many people Are kind of in a mentality where like I don't like what I have, I don't like what I have, and I want this thing over here. Well, think about it. It's like people are like, why do I have blocks with love? I want to attract love. Why isn't love coming to me? It's very serious, heavy, heavy energy. And where is the focus? It's not here now. It's not here now. I want it here now. All I'm seeing is lack. When so often people then start focusing on the process, on having fun, on letting go of the outcome altogether. And that's when magic comes into life. It's when you have fun with the process. It's when you let go of the outcome. So, recognize if you find yourself blocked in a certain area of your life, there are these 2 aspects that I'm sharing. On one aspect, there's resistance to what is. And on another aspect, there's the commitment to what will be. Through activating it now and being it. And what I'm saying is let go of the resistance to what is and realize you're choosing it. Be honest with yourself. You're choosing it. I remember when I went back to, after I became successful on YouTube and I went and hung out with a friend that I used to like know back in Vegas that I used to be really close to. And I remember we met up and he came over and he was just complaining about his job. He had this 9-to-5 job he didn't like and he was just complaining about it. And after like, 15, 20 minutes of complaining about it. I was like, I'm like, from my perspective, I'm like, why are you in it? Like, you don't have to be there. Like, you're— no one's got a gun to your head saying you gotta work, you gotta work this hotel job you hate. And I was so— it was such a different reality because on one hand it's like, no, this is just the way reality is. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks. That's his dominant reality. That's his focus. And he was always passionate about like clothing and stuff. I'm like, dude, freaking start your own. Like, you don't necessarily start your business and like let go of this, but like, do, do your passion, do the potency of this thing over here. But you have to let go. Like, by letting go of resistance of this, just treat it as if you chose it, because you are choosing it. And many people stay in a dynamic they don't like because they think that it's happening to them. And when you're in energy of this is happening to me, you are in an energy that says that I don't have my power. So what you want to do is realize you have your power. You're choosing, even if it's a certain period of time, you're choosing something you don't prefer. Treat it as if you chose it, and you'll begin to transform in that area of your life? What if you could treat being single as if you chose it? What if you could treat this process you're on as if you chose it? The 9-to-5 job you don't like as if you chose it? Because then as you realize you're choosing it, you'll then see, I can choose something new. I'm not stuck. People feel like they're stuck when they're in an energy of, this is happening to me. So for me to master my energy, what I had to become aware of is I had to become aware of all the ways in which I was abandoning myself to show up in my— in as a dominant energy in my reality. And having the 9-to-5 job was definitely a symbol of that. The other way in which I can see this affected me was in personal relationships, which was a pattern for me of more so abandoning myself to make other people happy, abandoning myself to please other people. Very draining. And The more that I began to bring that energy back to me and to let other people be with tension, the more I started to feel more empowered when I was around people. It's a very interesting thing, isn't it? 'Cause listen to this, think about this. We think other people drain us. My job drains us. My job drains me. Other people drain me. No. When you are around other people, you don't give yourself permission to be the real you, and that is draining. Or you're working a 9-to-5 job you don't really love and you keep choosing it, and that's why you're drained doing it. You keep choosing it. And if you treat everything as if you chose it, you'll realize that you could choose something new. And sometimes you can give what you're doing a new meaning, like I did the last 6 months of my 9-to-5 job life of saying, I'm just going to enjoy this, be present to it while I'm here. And then I enjoyed it more. I was in more free, then I got more video ideas and like this, you know, magic would happen. But what you want to be aware of is you want to be aware of where your attention is going. Do you have resistance to what is? Can you choose a new meaning to it to enjoy it more? To then get into the moment more? Because when you're in the moment more and you're having fun, you're in much more magnetic energy. And then this thing over here, can you have more potency with the thing that you're actually passionate about? And let that become your dominant reality. And sometimes after shift, as you're shifting to this new you, it won't feel super like easy right away because it's something new. When you think of people pleasers that live their whole life pleasing people or overgiving, they start being authentic and vulnerable, they'll feel like they're doing something wrong. They'll feel like they're, um, like they're taking on other people's emotions or energies. But with repetitions and commitment, you begin to be in this new version of you. So you master your energy by recognizing that whatever's in your life right now is in your life because there is an unresolved energy there that wants to be resolved. So for me, working a 9-to-5 job back in the day, that was an unresolved energy from childhood that I felt I was stuck in. I felt like it wasn't fair in. I was replaying it over and over again till I chose it. I gave it a new meaning and then chose to do something I was passionate about. When you think of like people-pleasing dynamics, attracting emotionally unavailable people, et cetera, that was an unresolved childhood dynamic that I had to own inside of myself and recognize that if I could see, hear, soothe, and nurture that aspect of me, I would then begin to transform that area of my life. And then I began to give myself permission to be the most authentic, magnetic version of myself, express myself, even if there was tension from other people, recognizing that their tension is not my thing to manage. So recognize inside of yourself right now, if you want to master your energy, master your attention, and then master your life, you have to be honest with yourself. Where is most of your time and energy going? Is it going to the victim dynamic of I'm stuck here? Is it going to the victim dynamic of being stuck in the phone as well? Dopamine, always scrolling. That's a passive state that'll just keep you growing other people's missions and visions. One of the best things you could do is begin to ring your— like, if you were to, over the next few days, take an inventory of your attention and your energy, you'd begin to learn a lot about yourself. It is— it— I'll be honest, it takes, it takes energy and attention to create your dream life. and to create what you want. And when you fall in love with the process and you have fun with it, you'll find a flow. You won't have to force yourself to do it. It's something that like, there'll be certain times you're in it, certain times you're not, but like you'll find yourself like in general moving in that direction because there's some alignment to it. And what you wanna do is you wanna be able to identify over the next 7 days, let's say, become aware of how often you're scrolling on social media. Of how often you find yourself getting sucked into old thought patterns, find yourself listening, being a sounding board for people that may be draining and like complaining to you. And what you wanna learn to do is to observe it, not need to control it. Observe it. That's the first step. And then with the conscious awareness, you can choose to either set boundaries with it, bring your energy back, Choose something new. And as you choose something new, what you'll find is that your energy then begins to go into different energy, into a different direction. And the things in my life grow the more I put awareness and attention on it. It does take attention and energy. Like even me creating content here on Instagram and YouTube and stuff like that, the more attention I put on it, the more comes out of it. The more fun I have with the process, the more you feel that fun. So there's like something you can learn about the energy inside of yourself of like, what are you putting your attention on and what is the energy state you're in when you're doing it? Because magnetic energy comes as a result of that focus and that choice. And the thing I'm encouraging you to connect to is your choice to choose you. So like I said, if you wanna join that 3-Day Magnetic You Challenge, you go and click the link below, grab your spot. We're starting very soon. It's gonna be magical, and you're gonna learn how to let go of the core pattern underneath the surface and wire in a new you at the identity level so that you don't fall back into old patterns and so that you're able to actually not lose yourself when you're around people. Now, also, if you want to learn step by step how you can raise your vibration more than anything, I have a video right here that'll show you how to become unrecognizable based on elevating what is called your base point vibration. You can check it out right here.