The problem with the twin flame belief system (I'm sorry)

This video, I'm gonna show you the problem with twin flame understandings, why so many people put this idea on a pedestal and end up blocking them from experiencing something that could be amazing in their life. And I'm gonna show you exactly how to bypass that belief system. Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video, I'm gonna be showing you a paradigm that goes beyond that of understanding twin flames flames and understanding that in a way the problem with thinking about twin flames in the way that most people do, and I say this because just yesterday I was on a Q&A for one of my coaching groups and one thing I noticed is that a lot of people were asking about twin flame energies and asking about their connection to twin flames. And what I recognized is that many people may actually be vibrationally separating themselves from experiencing amazing things in their life because of this idea. Now here's the thing: our beliefs create our experience. Now what a lot of times happens is some people will look at this idea of a twin flame, which in a way implies the other half of our soul, which already from that frame of a belief system is saying, I am one half of a soul and I will then be complete when I find my other half of the soul. At least that's the traditional way that people understand the twin flame energies. And the point The point of this is understanding that when we have that interpretation of it, it vibrationally separates ourselves from actually connecting to ourself in a deeper level. And I've kind of shared this before as well, but it's almost like this idea when looking for a twin flame, it's like, I'm looking for my twin flame. And in a way it's like every single person you date, you're asking yourself and comparing them to your twin flame, which we may not always actually incarnate with what we could call our twin flame. We may, we may not, who knows? We don't really exactly know what twin flame energy is. We do know that we are infinite spiritual beings having temporary human experiences. From what I understand about twin flames from watching someone like Bashar, somebody listening to someone like Edgar Cayce, the idea of a twin flame is that Many times if twin flames do incarnate together, it's to do some type of work together, some type of it complements each other in a powerful way. Bashar has also said, who's channeled by, you know, Darryl Anka channels Bashar. Bashar has talked about how sometimes twin flame energy could also be a divine counterpart, which means in a way, think of it like the oversoul. And then after the oversoul, you have higher selves. Which is like the higher version of us, that then has many simultaneous lives. And the idea behind this is that what we could call a twin flame or a divine counterpart is just closer on that triad going down. It's almost like you share the same higher self in a way. From my understanding, that's what the potential of what I think a twin flame energy could be. However, I don't know for certain. Now, what I do know is that I see so many people that could be in amazing relationships, But what they do is they compare the person they're with and they say, are you my twin flame? Imagine that there was this book, this Dr. Seuss book that I used to read when I was a kid. And it was like this little, it was like, are you my mother? It was like this little chick or something like that that was like asking everything. Are you my mother? It's asking like some type of a human, are you my mother? Asking like a bottle of water. I see a bottle of water, that's why I said, are you my mother? Are you my mother? In the same way, it's like some people are like, are you my twin flame? Are you my twin flame? Are you my twin flame? And what happens is when you're always comparing the person you're meeting to twin flame and seeing and thinking, are you my twin flame? You then immediately put that person on a huge pedestal and say, I really, really expect things to happen in a certain way. If it doesn't happen according to the blueprint in my mind, then I don't know what I will do because this person is the other half to my soul. And when we believe someone's the other half to our soul, they're vibrationally on a different pedestal and we're then vibrationally far away from them. However, this is what I believe about twin flames. I believe that we use this word twin flame because in a way it's something that we can relate to in a certain way. We can kind of understand the idea, but what if there's only a limited amount of language that we have? And what if there's like 8 different types of twin flames? What if we just don't know about it because we only know of this limited human experience? What if there's twin flames that have a certain type of relationship? What if there's twin flames that have another facet of relationship, but we don't know because we're clumping everything together into one idea? What if there's romantic twin flame? What if there's a divine counterpart that's not meant to be romantic? What if you— there's people that I know that have said and that have had the experience of finding out that one of their family members is their twin flame. Well, obviously that's something that's not romantic. Think that's something that's just at an energy soul level. What if there's different facets of this, but we're putting everyone into this box and saying this is the way things have to be, not knowing that that definition itself is what's causing the problem? It's that definition. And the key to this is redefining what that may mean and being honest with ourselves. We don't know exactly what it is, but what I will say is when I see, like, what I want to do is I want to help free people from the definition of twin flame and feeling very needy with this process. 'Cause anything you need, anytime there's a needy resistant energy, you're vibrationally separated from actually being able to perceive of it. So the key to this is understanding that you might have a belief that you're meant to meet your twin flame and that your twin flame's the other half to your soul and that you need to find the other half to your soul. And then when you meet somebody and things aren't going well, you might go online and look up twin flames and see, ooh, there's this activation that goes on on. Maybe that twin flame that's not acting according to the way that I think they should is actually activating this within me, and this is why I feel this way. And then I get a lot of— I get so many people that I see that reach out to me that talk about their twin flame and how things aren't working out. And the reason I say this is because I want you to know that you are whole and complete as yourself. You don't need to meet the other half of your soul. And this is the thing: trying to control it is what's gonna cause the resistance and the suffering suffering. If this whole twin flame idea is real, which maybe it is, I'm not saying it's not. I'm not trying to make some sad video. I'm trying to just be honest and say that as somebody that's on and in the public eye that so many people reach out to, I see it as a very unhealthy thing many times because then people get so obsessed with the idea of their twin flame rather than recognizing you are whole and complete already. And if you do want my advice as to how I think you would go about meeting a twin flame, or your twin flame, it would have to do with understanding you being at your core frequency. Are you doing what you love for a living? When you're doing what you love for a living, you're really who you're meant to be, and then you're more likely to perceive in your reality of someone to reflect that back to you. You see, this is the key. If so many— I noticed in my own life, anytime I was working a 9-to-5 job I wasn't passionate about, I would also be in a relationship with girlfriends that would also be working 9 to 5 jobs they weren't passionate about. But when you get to your core, you then are being your true self. Then somebody has something to go off of you of and something to like, in a way, attract to you based on your true energy. However, the moment you put someone on a pedestal, they're vibrationally further away. So what if with this whole idea of twin flame, it's a very limited definition. What if sometimes twin flames aren't romantic? What if sometimes twin flames are only meant to come into your life for maybe a couple of years and then you go off in your own direction? But you see, we put this unhealthy way of looking at twin flames into a box and we say that this is the way it's supposed to be. We're supposed to be romantic and we're supposed to be together forever. And if we're not, and the moment that starts to change, then there's this there's this necessity to control the other person. How do I control them? How do I get them to act the way that I want them to act? How do I get them to love me? How do I get them to realize that we're twin flames? These are questions that are coming from the frame that you are the cameo in someone else's movie. But let me tell you something, you are the star of your own movie. You are a soul that is 100% whole and complete. A twin flame would be more like a mirror of your whole incompleteness. And knowing and having that frame makes it easier for you to be like, oh yes, I am whole and complete already. That frame is everything. But the frame of the twin flame energy, that somebody else outside of you is going to complete your soul, is something that can be very draining. Because the moment they don't act according to the way you want is the moment problems come up. Now here's the thing, and this is a life challenge for me. This is something my whole entire life I may be working through. It's learning how to not control different situations. It's learning how to surrender to the moment, not being so stubborn. Just in general in my life, the way I have my routine, the way that I make videos every single day, the way that I am— and I'm pretty stubborn, and I try to control certain things. I try to fix people sometimes, even though that implies that someone is broken, whether it's family members or It's like, it's like trying to, you know, trying to fix and trying to have them be a certain way and do certain things. Let go of the control. I need to take my own advice sometimes. I do my best to realize this, but when you try to control things, you create resistance. If you're trying to control someone you're in a, you started to have, be in a relationship with, and then things started to happen, that control is causing the resistance. People can feel that too. You try to control someone else, they can feel you're trying to control them. They will do everything they can to rebel. 99% of the time. So the reason I say this is because if you're trying to control someone else to love you, to give you validation, to be with you, to recognize that you guys are twin flames, then they are going to rebel against that. But if you let go and trust the universe, if that is your twin flame, then it will come back to you if it is meant to be. You have to trust that process though. Trying to control it from the ego perspective though is what will cause resistance. The problem with twin flames and understanding this is that the belief system of the way people believe it to be is unhealthy. And because of that, a lot of times people create more harm than good with it. And, and you don't— it's not necessarily cool and fun to hear that when you're in the thick of it. I get that, but I'm willing to do it because I want to help free you from that, from that feeling unworthiness, feeling like you're incomplete. You're not incomplete. The more you focus on your own self-love, the more you focus on yourself, the more you're the star of your own movie, the more gravity you create, and the more people want to be around you, the more people feel that energy off of you. But the more that you are focused on someone else, acted in a certain way, being a certain way, is the more you are going to create that kind of resistance within yourself. So recognize that the beliefs we have create our reality, and if you change your beliefs, you change your life. Feelings come from beliefs. This is the way that it works: beliefs, feelings, Thoughts, actions, results, which fuel beliefs. So you first off have a belief, which then, because the meaning you give something, you then have a feeling. In that feeling state, you then have thoughts that are equal to it. Those thoughts eventually led to you taking action. You take action, which reaps a certain result, and then that result goes back into belief, which reaffirms the belief. So people say, well, I feel like this person is my twin flame, this person is my twin flame, this person is my twin flame. Why are they acting the way I want? The reason you feel that way is because you might believe they are your twin flame. Now, not to say that there isn't some divine connection to where that could be the case, but the key is, is 90% of the time I'd say it's a belief. And then that person's on a pedestal. If they don't act a certain way and you have rules and beliefs as to how they should act, you then will feel negative emotion if they're not acting according to the way you want. But don't be fooled into thinking that it's all about the feeling because the feeling comes from the belief. You must first believe something to be true and you'll, you're, if somebody, if you look at someone, you believe they're just the one for you, they're the one for you, you're going to generate a certain feeling, a certain emotion. But say you're on 2 or 3 months of dating and they do something that just, you just know immediately this is not going to work out. This is a huge value from me, you don't value it as well, this is not gonna work out. That feeling would change very quickly. You'd be conflicted for a while, like, I still love this person, but I know it's not gonna work out long-term. Your feelings would start to change because your beliefs about it is changing, you see? So what I'm trying to do is to help free you from the belief of the twin flame, other half of your soul that will complete you and you'll finally be whole and complete and you'll finally be able to be happy in life. And I'm trying to free you from that definition so that you know you're already whole and complete. You're a 100% whole and complete soul, 100%. And if you are meant to meet a twin flame connection and have a twin flame in your life, then you will if you trust the process, you trust the universe. But know that once you put someone on a pedestal, you're vibrationally separated from them. The key to this is letting go, letting go of the definition, letting go of trying to control, letting go. Because when you let go, you can then allow allow things to happen the way they're meant to happen. But the frame of you are whole and complete will only help you. And I understand that this video might be a little bit hard to hear for somebody that's been really thinking about their twin flame because in a way it invalidates it. You're saying twin flames aren't real? I'm not saying that. I'm saying that the definition, the way that we believe it to be, is what's causing a lot of pain. The frame from it is unhealthy. And the frame you can begin to develop is that a twin flame would be a reflection. A reflection, but not the other half to your soul. You're a completely whole soul. It'd be something that would reflect something back to you. So this is something that I think changes the absolute game with this process. Now, the way that I've come to— the reason I made this video is because in something I have called the Shift Academy, I— it's my group coaching, and I coach people every single month on a 2-hour-long Zoom call that I do. And when I do that, I bring people on live. Like, you see me work with someone else and actually interact with them, and you see them go through the transformation. By the end of, you know, 20, 30 minutes of working with them, you'll see them as a completely different person. And what I do is I help people to be the version of you, like the perfect version of you, so that you start to wire in the vibration into your reality, to disassociate from the old story, the old belief system and to be who you're really meant to be. That's what the Shift Academy does. Every single month you get premium coaching videos that show you step by step how to go about changing your vibration. Uh, you get that of meditations that aren't on YouTube that help you to wire in this reality. You get a mastermind group of other high vibe people that help you to see you as this version of you. And then the coaching is where the value really is. And when I was doing it yesterday, there were 2 or 3 people that were talking about this understanding of twin flame. And, uh, that's something that I noticed. And simply changing this belief about it changes absolutely everything. Now, right now, if you want to join the Shift Academy, you will get in before the price goes up. I'll make sure that that link below honors that price, as well as a free bonus, which is a live event that I did with Victor Otto and Leora Alexandra. It's called the Raise Your Vibrational Setpoint event that we did in Las Vegas. It was over 3 hours long. There's a live meditation. There's also a Q&A and you see the interactive type work that shows you how to raise your vibrational set point. You get that. It's been recorded over 3 hours long content. You get that for free when you join at the link in the top of the description box and there's no contracts. You can cancel at any time, but you can get in before the price goes up on it because, um, it will be going up to full price here soon. So the Shift Academy, you can also go to aarondoughty.com/theshiftacademy. You can join there. Other than that, we're going to be doing actual Zoom calls specifically on that of the idea of soulmates, that's twin flame. So that's why I'm inviting you to get in now because eventually that will be coming up. Other than that, if you could also let me know, do you want me to make more videos on twin flames? If so, smash that like button. Let me know. I will make more videos on twin flames. It's a concept that people seem to really want to know more about. And I want to share with you what I know about it and let me know if that's something you're interested in. Other than that, I hope you enjoyed this video and as always, I'll see you on the next one. Peace, much love, and namaste.