Aaron Doughty argues that people mirror your energy and beliefs back to you. The love you seek isn't in them, it's already inside you. Real fulfillment comes from self-acceptance and inner awareness, not from finding it in someone else.
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When you attract someone into your life, they're reflecting back what you believe about you. You may believe they have the love you're looking for, when in fact they are simply reflecting back the love that's already inside of you. We put stories on people and say, no, you're the thing, you're the only love, you're the only deep connection. So therefore, we don't give ourselves permission to feel the love. And once again, where are those emotions? Are those emotions in them? Of course not. Those emotions are inside already. They don't have what you think they have. They're a reflection, but you see the reflection can't change until you have the self-acceptance and the inner awareness inside of you that you already contain it all. Then you're not going to go looking everywhere where it was not.