Aaron Doughty explains why we cling to people: the mental image of them anchors our hope for connection and fulfillment. Letting go feels terrifying because it means releasing that hope and facing the fear underneath it. Confronting that hidden emotion is what actually frees you.
This will completely free you when you become aware of this one idea right here. The reason you're afraid to let go of this person is because the image and the thought of this person is your way to keep them alive in your energy. It's a way that you can keep them within your energy field. It's a way in which you can keep the hope and the dream alive. And therefore, letting them go means you're letting go of the hope of inner fulfillment. You're letting go of the hope of connection and depth. And by letting go of that, that's scary, that's familiar. And this is the thing to realize though. What is the emotion you're afraid of feeling underneath that? Because many times people will hold on to hope because the emotion underneath hope is being afraid to look at.
