This ONE question will change your entire life

Why is it someone like Tony Robbins always asks this question and it has people pop breakthrough after breakthrough? Over the last 7 years, I have seen thousands of people transform from just one or two questions that will allow people to completely become aware of what was priorly unconscious and allow people to finally heal from the past. Why is it when I spent $500 to have that of a session with a guy named Mark Woolam, who wrote the book "It Didn't Start With You." The only thing he was interested in to understand my patterns was from 0 to 5 years old, what was happening in my household, what happened in different years of my life, and how that replays itself over and over again. In this video, I'm going to show you how you can have this epiphany, this transformation for yourself, so that when you look back In a few months from now, you could see your whole entire life transformed from simply witnessing what I'm about to share with you. I'm also going to show you the one thing that I almost guarantee you will never forget once I show you this little minute-long clip right here from something called the Still Face Experiment. So first off, what are those questions? There's two questions. Now, you'll— what you'll see is you'll see Tony Robbins at his live events when he's hot seat coaching people. You'll see often he'll say, who— after he'll ask a question and then it'll get a little deeper, right? So people come up like, um, so what do you want to— what do you want to know? What's your question? Mom, Tony, my question is I want to get better at diets. I'm on a diet and I want to know why do I always got off my diet? Okay, so they'll start there and then he'll couple questions back and then eventually he'll just hit them with this. He'll go, whose love did you crave more as a kid? And they'll go, "What does it have to do with my diet?" But then they'll say, "Ah, I guess my mommy or my dad is it. I didn't get it from this one, so it's that one." And then he'll say, "Whose love did you crave more?" No, he won't say that. He won't say it twice. He says, "Who do you have to be to receive that love? Who did you have to be?" And they'll contemplate and they're like, "Ah, ah." And that's when the emotion starts to come up. That's when the realization starts to come up because the role, the role that we take on becomes the pattern we live within, the role. So if as a kid you had to be good, a good kid, and to be good meant to please, to fix, maybe it meant to be perfect, to be loved by mom and dad, maybe you didn't receive their approval. So I have to be the A student. I know for me, there was a feeling of, in order for me to be enough, I need to do. I need to do. What do I need to do? So doing became a part of my self-worth. What if you had to be naive? What if there were things happen in the household and you had to pretend you didn't see them in order to be approved of or loved? What if you had to be the rebel? You fought, you didn't trust authority. You had to fight to get your needs met. What if you had to be quiet? What if you had that not have needs? You see, this right here becomes the model for which we see reality. And what we eventually do is we live in that box and we stay trapped in that box. So if I were to show you like a quick little clip right here from a live event that I did, where you'll see somebody asking a question about— simply asking, like, when did you learn, or who did you have to be in order to receive that love? And so she says, to be good. To be good. Does a good girl give? Does a good girl abandon herself? You see, this was a realization that she had, realizing, oh, I abandoned myself in order to be good. A good girl doesn't speak up for herself. So it's like now as an adult to speak up, to have needs, to express yourself, there's like a little bit of a barrier to. So what you'll see is that with these roles, they are on autopilot until we begin questioning them and realizing they're not who we really are. Don't miss— what do you say? Don't misidentify and think that you are your role. You are the soul, not the role. So you begin to claim that back. And part of this normally means leaning into what you would call your dark side or what you think of to be bad. I don't want to be bad. If I'm bad, I'm going to get a naughty, naughty. But to be bad might be to be expressive. To be bad may be to be vulnerable. You see, like as a kid, we good, bad, don't want to be bad. Bad mean I get pain. I would be good. I will be easy, quiet, this, that. So as you start to realize that you can lean into this, that's where there's a lot of transformation that can come. Okay, so for me, that meant the please. I had to be people pleaser, tuned to a very controlling person. Instead, realizing that I don't have to please. Actually, when I'm pleasing someone else, I'm abandoning myself. It's selfish. I had to fight the energy of being selfish, fight the identity of being selfish and realize it's not selfish to choose me. It's not selfish to express myself. It's not selfish to have needs. I had to also be okay with, you know, big part of my past was also being a fixer, fixing everything, fixing my people in my family. That maybe aren't as successful as me. Let me fix, let me give. And then I would find myself abandoning myself but also enabling them. So there's this fix-it dynamic where as a kid, that's why I had to be, to be enough. And then realizing, oh, actually I can let go of needing to fix and I had to be okay with being a little bit of the perpetrator when I'm not fixing everything. 'Cause some people see that and they see that, oh, that's bad. And I don't wanna be bad 'cause I had someone from my childhood that I thought of as bad. I don't wanna be like them. But really, by not fixing, does that make you bad? No, right? But speaking your true self or not being perfect and letting yourself mess up or instead of being naive, calling something out you see, does that make you bad? No. So this right here alone can shift your life. Now there's two other things I'm gonna share with you that all, like, I believe wholeheartedly, if you look at this right now within yourself, it will completely transform your life moving forward. You ready? So right here, 0 to 5 years old, okay? 0 to 5 years old, I got a session with a guy named Mark Woolam on this book called "It Didn't Start With You," which is all about how most of the patterns we have are just inherited from our past. They're not ours. And when I was working with him, what he did is we sat there and we went from 0 to 5 years old. And I'm like, well, when I was 7, I met my ex-stepmom and I had a whole bunch of control there. He's like, don't care. I'm like, what? He's like, 0 to 5 is where we develop, is where we start to develop the patterning that overlays our life in many different ways. We're primarily between 0 and 5 years old in a theta state. Theta brainwave state. Interesting, right? We're developing our model for the world when we're primarily in theta state. Then as puberty hits, we then go to alpha and beta state, and then we try to change our subconscious, but we created it in theta, which is why meditation is so powerful. So 0 to 5 years old. So I went from 0, 1, 2, 3. What was happening in my household? Were there hidden secrets? What was my mom going through? What was my dad going through? What was the energy between them two? And what I became aware of is at 0 years old and 1 years old and 2 years old, between 1 and 2, my mom's dad died. My parents were together, my mom's dad died. My mom had a lot of trauma with her dad, didn't have a great relationship with him, but she still at a certain point was connected to him. And like wanted to reconcile that relationship, but he died. My mom lost a lot of weight, and when she lost a lot of weight, she was like very preoccupied with that. So me being a newborn, 1 or 2, 1-year-old, how much do you think she was able to be there when she's going through a big process? And see, so then from— so that happened when I was 2 and a half, 3. My brother was born, and my brother, 3 years younger than me, had a whole bunch of health issues. He was in the hospital a lot. And what happened when that happened, there was a withdrawal of energy, a withdrawal, and he got a lot of attention because he was also sick. But a little kid just sees that all the attention shifted, even though they obviously intention— it shifted for a reason. But that— my brother was born, he had a lot of complications. And then 5 years old, my parents divorced. So probably 3 to 4 years old, things started to go a little bit awry. There was probably tension between them. You see? So like this cycle right here, this cycle right here. Also my mom, of course, I'm sure a lot of parents wonder this. Like my mom was worried she wasn't gonna be a good mom. So I think that was something that came up. So there are these different dynamics I can see here. And there was a certain way in which my mom and dad reacted that I could tell was a certain blueprint for certain type of relationships that I had in my life. And then my relationship with my mom and my ability to receive love and my relationship with my dad and my ability to stay in my sense of self, like these are different energies that I could become aware of, of how I felt from 0 to 5 years old. So a way to really heal through this is something I call repatterning. Repatterning the mother-father-child dynamic is so powerful. It's kind of reminiscent of this process called family constellation therapy, which is a German process where random strangers you haven't even met pick up and play out the energies in your family system, which is bonkers when you experience it because they don't know anything about you, but they're playing out dynamics that feel so accurate. So I've done that before. I did that in Sedona, and it was extraordinarily powerful. So repatterning is something you could start to contemplate this, start to contemplate this and see how this affects different areas of your life. This alone, I believe, can also change your life. Now, when you look at this, this right here, you watch this video right here, the Still Face Experiment. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go and put this video right here, watch this little minute-long clip, and what you'll see is what you'll see is you'll see what happens when a mom is interacting with her baby. You'll see that there's a beautiful display and mirroring of emotions. The baby goes goo goo ga ga, the mom goes goo goo ga ga, the baby points, the mom looks. Mirroring of emotions. As a part of the Still Face Experiment, what happens? Is the mom looks away, she looks back, still face, no response whatsoever. The baby picks up on it like this. Baby's like, what the heck is going on here? What's going on? And then the baby even does these things called protest behaviors to get mom to come back. So she goo goo ga ga, mom's not doing anything, so she goes blah blah. Points, protest behavior. Mom, still, still face, no emotion. Baby starts to feel anxious. Baby feels uncomfortable. The baby is so, it's so painful to see what the baby is seeing that the baby tries contorting its spine to look away. So what happens is the baby is painful. That is the response of some form of emotional neglect. Whether it's physical or emotional, the baby's needs, that's where the protest behavior begins. Who do I need to be to receive love? Maybe quiet, maybe not have needs. You know, these things begin to develop. So the most important thing of this is the mom coming back. Third part of the experiment was the mom comes back and reintroduces with the baby again. And as the mom reintroduces with the baby, guess what happens? The baby starts to relax the nervous system. So this is why I believe that inner child healing work can be so powerful because what you could do is you can begin to heal that energy. And one of the ways you begin to heal that energy is through connecting to that inner child part of you that did not feel seen, heard, soothed, or nurtured a kid and had to be one of these roles. And when you're with them, you're not trying to fix them, you're just present with them. You're seeing them, you're hearing them, you're soothing them. So something that I'll link below as well is a free inner child meditation that you could do. It's one of my most popular meditations. Do that meditation, connect to your inner child, watch what happens, and begin to see how these three different things can begin to shift your life in many ways simply by asking yourself the question, mapping out 0 to 5 years old, what happened in your household. And then also looking at that still face experiment and connecting to that part of you that may have at some level felt neglect. And if you wanna watch someone go through this experience live at a live event, it's one of my most popular videos of watching someone's transformation that completely goes through this process. If you wanna learn how you can go through it too, there's a free YouTube video right here. Check it out and watch how you can apply it to you. Right? You had, who did you have to be? I had to be the good girl. Yep. Always like, just don't cause no problems. Yep. Don't make me mad. Just stay out my way. Yeah. Now the cool thing is at one point you were as worthy as this baby. You were a worthy baby that was just being. You didn't know how to be anything other than a baby. So you were worthy. So because of that,