when you DETACH from outcome it will ATTACH to you

Why is it that it's normally the moment to which you are detached from outcome from which that outcome will then attach itself to you? Think about that. The more detached you are, the more magnetic you are. And many times people may spend a lot of time focusing on what they want when it comes to love, abundance, certain opportunities and synchronicities, and it is normally the moment to which they let go that it actually allows that thing to come into their life. I remember this person I used to work with at Nordstrom's in women's shoes, and it was very interesting. She said for 2 years she would be single, wanting a relationship, and within 2 years she said she would have got hit on maybe 5 or 6 times in 2 years. Then what happens is she gets into a relationship. She's no longer wanting a relationship. She is in a relationship, and she says that within 1 week she will get hit on 10 times. Isn't that interesting how that works? And so many times people will be— I'll be coaching someone or talking to someone, and they may have something they really want and I'll tell them, you know what, why don't you do this? Why don't you, instead of focusing on what you want, this area of your life, instead, why don't you focus over here? So it's like someone that wants a relationship, they're going out, they're meeting people, they're doing all these things, and I'll say, bring your energy back to yourself, focus on enjoying your life, completely let go of even focusing on it. And you want to know what happens? Many times, by completely letting go of the desire itself and letting go of focusing on trying to control, it happens. So often you will hear people that say they attract love, and a lot of times they don't say— when do they say it happens? I'll just go and leave it there, right? When does it happen? When people— is it, is it when they are desperately looking for love? They're like, I'm doing all the things, I'm going to the bars, I'm going to the yoga class, I'm doing this, I just, I so need to meet my soulmate. Where's my soulmate? Where's my soulmate? Where's my soulmate? It's normally people say, I wasn't looking. Isn't that interesting? Look at all these parallels here. It comes when you're not looking for it. It comes when you're not attached to it, because attachment implies resistance. Anything you really, really want, you are really, really creating resistance around. And what if the thing you believe you want, the reason it's not coming into your life is because you are over-inflating it, making it extremely important. And when you make anything extremely important, you create resistance around it, and the universe literally can't give it to you because there's this overinflated sense of importance on it. This comes from a concept that is called decreasing the level of importance. One of the most powerful concepts I've ever learned about reality creation in general is seeing things as natural. 'Cause it begs the question, how do we attract what we want without wanting it? How do I detach myself from outcome but still experience that outcome? Well, it has to do with vibrational resonance. It has to do with understanding what is equal to your sense of identity, because if it's equal to your sense of identity, there's not this weird overinflated sense of, I really hope this happens. If you go into a job interview and you're just being yourself and you come at it from the frame of, I've shared this before, but one time a friend of mine dragged me to a job interview at Zappos back before Zappos really blew up. And I already had a job at Nordstrom's in women's shoes and I knew I wanted to work there 'cause it was commission and I wanted to eventually go from the racks to the full-line store. So basically I went with my friend just 'cause we were gonna hang out and go to lunch afterwards. I go to this interview at Zappos, don't care whether I get the job or not. It's a speed interview and they like weird people. They say they like weird people. So I get there, first off, it was kind of cool. You go into this place and there was a sleeping room where everyone's taking a nap. It's real progressive when it comes to like cool things to do at a job, nap room. Then you go over, there's party streamers all throughout the office. There was like a ping pong table and like all these cool things to do. Then they say, okay, it's gonna be like a speed dating thing, but speed interview. So I go and I get interviewed by like 3 or 4 different people. And then as I'm being interviewed, I'm like, you know what? I don't really care about this job. So I'm just gonna be the most like over, almost like the most not exaggerated version of me, but I'm just gonna let, I'm gonna let it fly. I'm gonna let the weirdness fly. So he's like, "What do you do for fun?" And I'm like, "You know." I'm not gonna say I was lying about this, but it was something I remembered somebody said, like a substitute to a sub— I said this to a substitute teacher once when they, in high school, when they were asking like, like we went around for the substitute teacher and talked about things we enjoyed doing. I was like, "I like jump rope." I was just kidding, but it was funny. I remember kids laughed about that. So this guy, "What do you like to do in your free time at this job interview?" I'm like, "Oh, do you know, jump rope." Hopscotch. You ever played hopscotch? Here I am, like, 24 years, 22 years old. I'm like, I like hopscotch. You like hopscotch? And I was just saying, like, random things just to see how far I could push the envelope. I didn't care. And then after this job interview, a week or two later, didn't care whether I got it or not, me and my friend went there. I got the job callback. He didn't. I— he was more attached. I wasn't. And I was just being the most out there version of myself I could possibly be, ended up getting it. Now, when you go to a job interview, it's like, I really, really want this, I really, really need this. It's also saying, I really want means lack. What you wanna do is see it as natural for your identity where you're good either way. Use that mantra, I'm good either way. Why are you good either way? Because you realize that you have been brainwashed to believe that the love is gonna make eternally happy. You've been brainwashed to believe that the abundance is going to equal happiness. You've seen many successful people say before— I remember Jim Carrey said this, he said that I wish for everyone to become successful, famous, and rich so that they could realize that that's not it. But damn, doesn't everyone want to try? You hear that, you're like, okay, Jim Carrey, I hear you, but still, what if? I want to find out for myself. And I'll say this as somebody that's gone from, you know, the outcome, right, of wanting a million YouTube subscribers. How cool would that be? It would be so cool. So then I'm working my 9-to-5 job, visualizing becoming a YouTuber, having hundreds of thousands of followers. And I'll say, every time the outcome came of getting a milestone, there was 100,000 or 200,000 or 300,000 or 500,000 or a million subscribers, it felt zero difference. When you get into a relationship, what you're going to realize is there's still work to be done. This— we've been brainwashed to believe in Disneyland where it's all happily ever after. The person completes you and you never see what happens after that. Now I'm not trying to paint a grim picture here, but it's like what you realize is that what you think you want is an overinflated sense of like happiness that that thing is gonna make you happy. This helps you take it off the pedestal. You get into the ideal relationship, even the perfect relationship you could possibly imagine, the perfect relationship you can possibly imagine has you still doing work and learning about yourself. Because that's what relationships are, they're teachers. But if you project, well, relationship's gonna complete me, I'm gonna finally be whole and complete, and of course it's hard to attract that, it doesn't exist. There's no perfect relationship where you're gonna be in forever and not have internal things to work through, whether that's becoming more emotionally available or whether that's you compromising or learning to attune yourself to something like, This is the reason it may be— you may be blocking attracting that is because you have this overinflated sense of what this thing is. It's the Disneyland thing. You know, back in the 1940s and '50s when the war was happening, a whole bunch of marketers got together and said, okay, we want to sell some products. So what we have to do is we have to market to women, specifically women, because a lot of the men were out at war. We need to basically brainwash them to want things. They need to want to feel like they want to be prettier. They need to want to feel like they need this thing, because if they feel that want, they're then going to buy. So let's market that people are not good enough where they are, and that you'll be happy once you get this, you'll be happy once you get this, you'll be happy once you get this. So then started this campaign to brainwash people to want lots of materialistic things. So what if part of the reason you're blocking abundance and love from coming into your life is because you literally believe that these things are going to make you happy because you've been brainwashed by society, by social conditioning, by Disney. Let's all blame Disney. Just kidding, but not really. It's all— it just become aware of your conditioning. Like, it makes it easier for you to naturally attract the things you want when you realize that the things you think you want, you want because you believe that more things are gonna make you happier. More things will not make you happier. Sometimes even more things make life a little bit more complicated. The more successful I've gotten— I'm not saying this to brag, I'm just saying this, you know, for the different levels of success where I'm at now. Maybe back when I was working my 9-to-5 job was kind of hard for me to imagine, um, like where I'm at now. But like, I remember even here, I'm in Sedona right now as I record this. I remember at one point a friend of mine that I lived with, he got an ATV, so then I got an ATV. ATV, and we were driving this ATV once or twice. We drove this ATV, that was it. I spent $32,000 on an ATV that I drove 2 or 3 times. And then as I'm coming to the house that I own now, I parked it in my driveway because I didn't have room in my garage to park this ATV. Then I get a letter from the HOA that says you're not allowed to have a car in the driveway. I'm like, what are you talking about? I live here. You can't have that car in the driveway. You need to park it in the garage. I don't have space in the garage. It then becomes this thing that I have to figure out because I— at an HOA community, yeah, I'm not allowed to have something in my garage and my— in my driveway. So then this thing started to become kind of like a burden that I pay insurance and all this stuff on it. And then after like 6 or 8 months, I'm like This is too complicated. I ended up selling it for like $6,000 less than what I paid, and I only drove it twice. That was a learning lesson. Is it gonna make me happy? It was fun. I could have rented that same thing 2 or 3 times and spent less than $1,000 instead of losing $7,000 or $8,000 and having an HOA that was barking at me. Now, I'm not saying like materialistic things in our reality, I think are reflections of our subconscious and they're symbols. So you may like, like I do like living in a nice house. I like nice, nice luxury things. And I like it because I like having a clean environment. I like having space like this room that I'm in, my meditation room. It's very, very kind of minimalist and spacious. That's what I like. I don't need it to feel whole and complete. It's just what I like. And it's a symbol of the kind of clarity in my external world I like to feel in my internal world. So sometimes things that you attract on the outside are symbols. Money, abundance, money is a symbol, abundance can be a symbol. But the reason I share this is we put all this stock and all this energy to these things that we want and we create a whole bunch of resistance. When in fact, if you were detached from it, knowing that you're good either way, knowing that it's not gonna actually lead to happiness anyways, you become way more free because then it becomes more about understanding what do I really enjoy. I'm going through a process right now. I'll share this, kind of vulnerable. For a long time, I was doing this, uh, for literally 2 or 3 years I've done this thing. So I don't drink alcohol, I don't smoke, I don't, uh, do cannabis, I don't There's a lot of things I don't do. There was one thing I did do for 2 or 3 years. It was this thing called hapeh or rapé, which is this ceremonial tobacco that tribes pray over. They put intention in and that tobacco has a little nicotine in it and it goes up the nose. I know it sounds kind of intense. First time, I never saw myself ever doing this. Did it in an ayahuasca ceremony in 2017. And then eventually years later started doing it and I didn't realize it, but I'd done it literally every single day for like, like, like just once a day. It's not psychedelic. You just do it and you feel kind of like present. But what I realized after this last 2 or 3 years, I was doing it every single day. And that in fact, the only day I really didn't do it was a time that I went to New York to get a tattoo and I got too late. I was too late going back from the airport and I couldn't sleep that night. And I was like, what, what is going on? I never really connected it. But about a week and a half ago, I woke up and realized, oh my God, I've been addicted. To this, like the nicotine in it. And I felt like I was in a way attached to this thing that I was doing, and it would make me feel like— it's, it's funny, it was like I was putting me in fight or flight every time I would do it. The adrenaline goes up, the nicotine is there, and it was like this— I feel present for like literally 2 or 3 minutes, but then my energy would crash down, and I didn't really understand why. Well, recently what I did is I decided cold turkey to stop doing it about a week and a half ago, and I'm very What's funny, when I detach from something, I have this story that it's— I can— I have the willpower to just immediately go cold turkey on something. So cold turkey, stop doing it. And for 4 or 5 days, my sleep was messed up, my body was going through withdrawals. I'm like, man, there was more tobacco in this than I even imagined. Didn't even realize I was addicted to this thing. And what happened is eventually I adjusted And now everything's back to normal and I feel so much more free because I don't need this thing that actually depletes my energy, but I thought it was giving me a certain amount of energy 'cause I felt relaxed on the comedown of like this euphoric thing where it's like intense, it's actually kind of painful when you do it, but then on the comedown, like for 2 or 3 minutes, you feel like relaxed. It's so silly. I stopped doing it, I feel way more free. Now the reason I'm sharing this is there's a certain level now that I'm not focused on doing this thing, there's a certain like energy bandwidth that I have where I realize I'm looking for what I found in that in other areas of my life in a more meaningful way. So for example, going out in nature, I can feel that same level of stillness. I'm not believing that that thing was the thing that helped me de-stress or that thing helped me to feel more relaxed. I realized, I can generate it from within. And sometimes the thing you want maybe is on the other side of detaching from something. I feel way more emotionally clear, way more emotionally free, way more just present. And I can find more, I have more energy now. We went on a hike yesterday. Like there's more things in even my business. Like I have more energy bandwidth. Like my buddy Victor that was doing it, he said that he realized that not doing this hot paid thing, 'cause we both, I quit and then, it rubbed off on him and now he's quitting. He said that he'll play guitar like literally an hour more a day. He loves playing guitar. Like an hour more a day 'cause when he would do it, it would like drop his energy for like an hour. He's like, think about the space you create from detaching from some habit in your life. Something you know is taking energy from you. Something you maybe have been rationalizing, whether that's cigarettes or drinking or smoking cannabis, whatever. You can create more, but with seeing this as energy, and the energy that you are embodying is what you are experiencing. And if you want to experience more love, more abundance, and more whatever, you must embody that energy and see it as natural for you. You're good either way. You realize that everything in life is a reflection anyways. Make it more about the process. The reason I'm also saying this is before this whole happy thing It was like I would get the outcome of this stimulated effect, but what is actually more enjoyable is the process of going out in nature and being present. It's like it's more of an end of itself versus this thing that spikes me up and then crashes me down. And sometimes we believe that the YouTube subs, you know, the YouTube followers that I had, that was going to be happiness. Attracting love, that's going to be happiness. These are things we believe. But it's the process that you can fall in love with. And by falling in love with the process, you see everything as a part of the process. So what if you going on a date and it maybe not working out? What if that's part of your process of loving yourself more or understanding the contrast of what you really want? But see, what a lot of people do is they go on a date and they're like, is this person the other half to my soul? Is this person my soulmate? Pressure, pressure, pressure, resistance, resistance, resistance. Going for a job interview. This is the only job interview option that I have. I, I really hope that I get it. That's outcome-focused. I'm gonna go on this job interview, express the real me. This person, this company will be lucky to have me. Now, from some overly inflated ego point of view, like, I'm the best thing ever, but like, I'm awesome, I'm authentic, and if they like that, they're gonna like me. You see the energy difference there? It's the difference between things being an end result. Whatever, this is all part of the process. Everything is a part of the process. Enjoying the process is the key. Having more fun. Like, now I get to enjoy going in nature. I get to enjoy this. Finally can actually say I'm completely sober. Don't do anything. I just even eat paleo food, eat like clean food. I'm not saying this to brag, I'm just saying like There's a confidence that comes from that within myself, knowing that I can cold turkey stop something, that I can, I can be detached from outcome, knowing that this is a process of becoming. Let things be natural, allow things to be easy, because that's the key to raising your vibration to a higher level. Now, for a short period of time longer, I'm going to be keeping inside my free community called High Vibe Tribe $1,000 course for free called High Vibe 101. Pretty soon that's going to be in my membership called High Vibe School, so it's not going to be free. So if you want to check that out, it's a whole entire step-by-step process of how to elevate your vibration, how to detach, meditation practice, all of that. It's for free right now inside my school community. You can join below, check it out. And then also, if you want a video that will show you more how to detach and how this will completely transform your life step by step, watch this video. Right here. People that are not attached have a more magnetic energy, and the degree to which someone