When you think of people you send them energy and it repels what you "want”

When you are thinking of someone else, you are energetically sending them energy. And if you are thinking about them and wanting their approval, their validation, them to do something specific, it is a form of pressure that then creates resistance. And when you bring the energy back inside of your body, like I'm going to share with you in this video, it can completely shift your energy dynamic. Now, a lot of people subconsciously do this and they're not even aware of it. And if you think about it, like you have an energy field around your body, and when you're thinking of other people and there is an expectation or some form of something you want, it's like that energy is dissipating out of your field. Taking away from the present energy that could be inside of your field. Now, I learned this at a life transformation place that I went to in Costa Rica, and this one scenario completely shifted my perspective of energy in general, and I'm gonna share with you what that is. I'm also gonna share with you a brand new concept I've been exploring that has completely shifted the way that I view interacting with other people called the third field effect. and we're gonna be going deep on understanding the power of your energy and why it dissipates, how to bring it back, and how this will allow you to be more magnetic than ever before. Now, first off, before we get into the third field effect, which I think will completely shift the way you look at energy in general, let's talk about this idea of energy transference that happens back and forth. Now, this sounds esoteric, but really it's quite simple. I went to a life transformation place in Costa Rica back in about 2017. At that time, I was going to this place, it was when I first got on YouTube, and I went with a friend of mine and we got like a free trip in exchange for like making content while I was there. And there was this consciousness teacher that was there that week that was doing seminars. And basically what she did was this exercise that completely shifted the way that I looked at energy. And I'm also gonna tie this into stuff that I've learned from my shadow work coach that I think will almost give you like 10 years of therapy in this one video. Now, first off, this was the exercise. I was in the crowd, I was listening to this consciousness teacher speak, and what happened is she did this thought experiment exercise so that we could feel it. She said, "Everyone in the crowd," there were like 30 of us, "Everyone send me energy right now." like think about sending me energy. Maybe you want something from me, whatever it is, send me energy, send me energy, send me energy. And we all did that. We're just sitting there and we're just sending energy, sending energy, sending energy. And then what happened is what she says is like energetically, we had to kind of take her word for it until we tried it ourselves. Energetically, she's like, it's like this repellent effect. It's like, ugh, it's like this effect that's like, you just completely get outta the frame and you can't even see me anymore 'cause it's that repelling. And what happened was, is she then said, okay, it's like energy's dissipating out of your body being projected at someone else. And when someone feels projection also, what, think about this, what happens when people feel you project onto them? You rebel. If someone's projecting onto you and they want you to validate them or they want you to give them a compliment, what do you subconsciously do? Well, you don't wanna be manipulated, so what do you do? You just, you feel that as pressure and you're like, "Ugh, I don't wanna give it." So what happens is when you're thinking of this energy flow dynamic that I'm talking about right now, and what the teacher did is send me energy, send me energy, we're sending her energy and she's like, "It's repelling, ew, brother, ew," like that energy. Then she said, "Okay, now everyone bring the energy back into your body." "Bring it back into your body. Bring it back into your body. Feel the separation between me and you." And then as we did that, we all just sat there Zen style, "Bring it back, bring it back, bring it back, bring it back." And then guess what happened? We had to take her word for it again. She's like, "It's so magnetic." She just runs into the crowd. She does like a, what do you do that? Like crowd surfing. We're just crowd surfing her. And she's like, "It's so magnetic. I just love you guys." "Now of course I'm exaggerating about that last part." But basically it has the opposite effect. So it's funny 'cause you think that, "Ooh, I send it to them." It's like you're in high school and you want like the cool kids to want you to sit with them and you walk by and you're like, "I hope they notice me." It's like that's, it's an energy of pressure. Whereas if you're just kind of being yourself and being you, it's a very magnetic energy. So from this little scenario, then what happened? And I've done many live events since then where I put people in groups and I have them have one person send energy and then have one person bring the energy back into their body and then feel the difference. In fact, what if you were with somebody else and you were feeling the energy inside of your body or sending energy and you didn't tell them which, but they could feel what you were doing? That's interesting, isn't it? Well, it's something that you can literally feel. So if when you're thinking of someone else and you're sending energy, what happens is they can feel that as pressure. It's literally blocking you from receiving whatever it is you want to receive because there's an attachment to outcome. There's an attachment or a pressure on that outcome. So think about how this can apply to you. You go to work and maybe there's a crush that you have at work or you go to the gym and you have a gym crush. Ooh, I hope they notice me. You might even like wear a certain outfit. Hope they notice me and you walk around and there's an energy that feels like pressure. But if you were to just be yourself, bring the energy back inside of your body and not need anything from other people, you would then be more magnetic and you would then allow yourself to actually perceive of that validation or approval, not 'cause you need it, but because you're actually being present with you. So this completely shifts the energy around. So when we talk about that of this sending energy thing, it sounds esoteric, but if you think about the energy you have inside of your body, when you send it out, it's like dissipating your energy and it's wanting something from someone else, which then creates resistance. Now, even as I tell you this right now, there might be, it might seem like, okay, well, Aaron, I'm gonna stop sending energy because if I stop sending energy, then I'll get what I want. That's also tied to the ego's desire to control. The ego is trying to control because if as a kid you didn't feel validated or approved of, you might look for that in other people. So you might subconsciously be going out and spew, spew, spew, spew, spewing thought form energy onto everybody saying, meet my needs, please like me, please approve of me. Well, guess what? When you're saying, please like me, please approve of me, you're spewing out your energy and life force energy wanting something from them. They feel it as manipulation subconsciously, and then they just don't give it to you because we naturally rebel. We want to choose to give something, not because someone else wants us to do it. Do you see? Very different energy there. So when we're talking about this, part of the key is being aware that this deeper, we're going deeper here because you might click on the video and said, I wanna stop sending energy or something like that, but it's like, I'm stopping sending energy so that I can get what I want. Stop sending energy because you do the inner work, because you begin to heal from the inside out. You realize and stop believing the lie that anybody else has the validation and approval you're looking for. Because ultimately the deepest level of this is you start to be present with the inner child part of you that wants to feel validated and approved of. Okay? So it only is your inner child, imagine you're at a door, imagine you're subconsciously Someone's at the door. Who is it? We go to the door, we open it up. There's our inner child. And our inner child's like, "I wanna be validated and approved of." And what we do, what do we normally do? Do we normally embrace it? "Oh, come in, inner child. Let me embrace you. I validate and approve of you." A lot of times what we do is we say, "Get outta here. Disgusting." Go to the neighbor's house, look for it from other people. So they're going out and that inner child part of you is searching for it. Spew, spew, spew. That's the new soundtrack for, we're gonna do a soundtrack for spewing energy. Spew, spew, spew, spew. But guess what? That's your life energy, that's your thought energy, it's going out. And if you bring it within yourself and you look at that inner child side of yourself, you can start to create a powerful healing. Okay, so this is the first part of understanding this powerful process I'm talking about is in my own life, I've realized that when I want something from someone else, if instead I focus on feeling the separation between me and other people, which this was, let's now go into that. Before we get into this third field effect, which I think is so powerful, I wanna talk about what I learned from my shadow work coach years later Learned this thing in Costa Rica in 2017, 2018. Years later, had a shadow work coach I was working with, Carl Jung psychologist with a double PhD, that was explaining and sharing with me the dynamic of feeling the separation between me and other people, me and a candle flame, me and the walls. And this is so counterintuitive because what has happened at a deeper level If let's go deeper with this. If you feel like you are tuning to other people and sending energy, part of the reason you do this subconsciously is because as a kid it may have felt familiar and normal to expand your field to include that of other people. It may have felt familiar to expand your field to say, how do I need to be? How do I ease tension? Does mom and dad approve of me, et cetera? Let me ease the tension in the family, be the peacemaker, et cetera. Shpew, shpew, shpew, shpew, shpew. You see? And then as a kid, if that energy is there, then it's like, look around and it's like you feel a burden when you go into public. You wanna know why you feel a burden when you go into public? Because your energy field is expanded so much to include everybody else and you feel responsible for their tension. You embrace it. You're like a sponge because you were the sponge growing up that could mitigate tension in the household. What does it feel like to be a sponge? This is where the self-inquiry comes in 'cause it's like this was this adaptive mechanism growing up to feel safe. So then you go out and you see everything as an extension of you, whereas the key is actually feeling the separation between you and the people, you and the walls, you and a candle flame. I like candle flames, obviously. But the reason this is so powerful is you can use this towards you, to other people in your life. You can do it between you and an ex. You wanna separate your energy? Feel the separation between you and them, the space. Let them be in their own tension or their own energy. Bring back the energy back to you. It's literally a sense you have. I've coined it as something called the frame technique. Very powerful process for feeling safe inside of your own body. It's a huge part of feeling magnetic in your own frame and feeling like you don't then need other people's validation or approval. You feel confident inside of yourself. Confidence is a huge part of attracting love. And presence is a huge part of attracting love too. But a lot of people are trying to control. Now, one thing we are doing, if you want to learn how to remove the blocks and the subconscious patterns that are blocking love, and if you want love to start coming to you because you're embodying that level of consciousness, that energy, something we're doing for the first time in 3 years is a 21-day magnetic love challenge. 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I got a DM from someone that said, "I did that challenge in," October of 2022 and in December of 2022, I attracted my husband and we've been together ever since. Thought that was pretty cool. A lot happens when you do the inner work to then shift outer reality. So with that being said, let's get back into the video now as we're getting closer to this third field effect. But let me close the loop real quick on the inner, the energy for my shadow work coach that was very powerful was feeling the separation. "I remember feeling separation between me and an ex allowed me to clear up the energy." Funny enough, a lot of times something that'll block you from attracting love is an attachment to an ex. Sending energy. Think about this dynamic, right? The sending energy thing, this works perfectly in this scenario. You may have even experienced this before. So often people will go through a breakup and then maybe one person wants it, one person doesn't, and then they're, They're each having maybe challenges like letting each other go, but maybe one person really wants the other person to come back around, wants them back, and they're sending them energy, sending them energy, sending them energy. And then what happens is it repels, it literally blocks. And what'll happen is sometimes then that person will say, you know what, I'm gonna process this energy, I'm gonna let it go, I'm gonna start focusing on my own life, and they start doing that. Then what happens is many times once they finally let go, this person starts to come back. It happens a lot. And one of the reasons it happens is 'cause you stopped sending energy. You started bringing it back to yourself. And that's the same scenario we were talking about earlier, right? Do you see the difference? So often people hear that. Also, when do people a lot of times attract love? When they stop looking, they stop sending energy. Shpew, shpew, shpew, shpew. They start being in their own frame. They start being present. They focus that energy on their own life. They're good either way. Shoo, shoo, shoo. See? So let's get to the third field effect now. Now actually, let's go to this. I'm just kidding. Like, Aaron, third field effect, I want it now. Okay, gosh. Third field effect here, I was talking to a friend about this and it really like plays on this whole dynamic beautifully. And basically what she was explaining to me is it's of a friend of mine that's been in a relationship for like 9 years, solid relationship for 9 years, and they have a very healthy relationship. And she was explaining to me that one rule she has in her relationship is that they will not, when they have challenges, go and vent to their friends about the other person. And one of the reasons she said this is because then it feels like their container then becomes susceptible of other people's thoughts, other people's expectations, and even those other people might see them as having problems in their relationship. It creates a third field. So what happens is that then gets infused into their dynamic. And she says that what she does is she instead works it out with him, and by working it out with him, it's clean energy, and then they're more of a team. I thought that was beautiful. And also I was able to relate that to all this because if you have other people thinking about you and your relationship problems, what can happen is that gets infused into the space between you guys. So by venting about it and talking about it, that energy then begins to grow. So with the third field effect, think about how often we subconsciously talk about drama that is happening in our life. This person did this, this person happened over here, venting about relationship drama on social media. Guess what happens? That thought form energy then gets projected from many other people that you're broadcasting that to. I actually experienced this in a way with an ex-girlfriend where online, we had like a public relationship. And I remember that by bringing people into, bringing this awareness into the public, it was like, like it was, I could feel that there was projection and it made things a lot more complicated, especially when talking about like things that were vulnerable that might be coming up. So it was like this thing. And then after that didn't work out, there was all this third field effect of like people picking sides and all, even though we didn't want them to pick sides 'cause we were still friends at the time. What happened was that was like, that was something that like made it more kind of like complex, but also added the third field, added more energy into it. And it would, and so that's kind of like the, that's kind of like a bigger explanation of it because it's like obviously a unique situation to have like lots of people paying attention and that, you know, appear to have a thought or perspective about it. But it would, it definitely, I could feel that energy of the third effect. And I looked back and I was like, oh, that wasn't, Maybe some of those weren't the smartest thing to do, you see? So the third field effect is about being aware that if you are the single one in your friend group and you're always like not happy about being single and you're venting about it and then you're venting about guys and all men and how they are, what's happening to the third field between you and other people? There's problems, there's blame, all this energy gets projected out. Spew, spew. You see, you're just spew spewing. And guess what happens when you spew spew? Your energy's being dissipated and people are likely to replay those dynamics with you. So owning the stories, owning the energy, and not being aware of your tendency to feed into the drama, to the field. Here I am subconsciously about to talk about something that does the thing I'm talking against. Do I wanna share it? I'm so tempted to share it, but maybe my breakthrough is not sharing it. I'm on social media, what do I do? I had a situ— I'll be general about it. I had a situation that happened the other day when I was driving in traffic going to dinner. And what happened? Guess what? This car, okay, we don't, okay, I don't wanna get into it, but anyways, basically what happens, a little drama between me and another car. All right, and then it happened and everything actually turned out okay. It wasn't that big of a deal or anything. It was just something to deal with. I go back home and see some friends and basically there was this desire to talk about the drama of it. Will you guess what happened at dinner? Oh my God, this thing happened. Oh my God. And I could feel that I was feeding into this drama and projecting it onto my friends. It was like, why am I doing this? Not that I need to like hold it in, but like I realized I had this addiction to being right, this addiction to like the drama of like, can you believe this? It was crazy. But that kept feeding a weirder day. So I think sometimes we get payoffs from like, I went on this date and this guy said this, or this woman said this, and oh my God, my life is so crazy, I'm so alive. But we're spew, spew, spew, spew, spewing energy. You see? So the third field effect is where you become aware of the third field, the field between you and others, the field between you and your friends. And when you're talking about drama between friendships, like think about it, you might be like, okay, well if you're not in a relationship, you ever with somebody then like you in a friend group are talking about another friend? You are spewing energy between you and those friends and making it more muddy. What is the addiction to the drama? Because you're keeping it in your field and now you just found out you've got a third field. Like, oh my God, Aaron, there's so many fields. I have my field, I have their field, now I have a third field. You've got at least 3 fields. And if you wanna stop spew, spew, spewing, spew, spew, spew, you know what you gotta do? You gotta start bringing it back to your body. I was trying to think of something that rhymes, but nothing. I'm sure this thing's right with spew, obviously, but my mind went to Mew. You guys ever heard of Mewing? It's like this thing that people do to like change their bone structure in their face. So random, I know. Has nothing to do with what we're talking about. I'm gonna move on. So that, does that make sense? Okay, third field effect, similar to stop sending energy. I'm hoping you're learning things about your field right now. Your relational field, your field with your friendships. Nurture positive relationship, become aware of how you feel when you're around other people. These are all very powerful things to do, all right? Now, next thing, manipulation is taking energy. Anytime you want something from someone else, anytime you're trying to fix someone else, anytime you are overgiving, what do overgivers tend to attract, by the way? Overgivers tend to attract overtakers. Why? Well, you're putting out the bait. If you have somebody that's like, "I want to take, I want to take, I expect you to give me," and then here you are as the glorified overgiver. In childhood, to overgive meant I felt safe. I felt like I was doing my job within my family dynamic. It is part of my identity. I give because I am so good. And it's subconscious, of course. And so you overgive. I'm not talking about giving, I'm talking about overgiving because there's a feeling that I'm not worthy for who I am, so I'm gonna give. But you really, let's be honest here, hiding behind overgiving, what is it? You are actually a secret closet overtaker because out of giving, you get to take safety, validation, and approval. Now it looks a lot better 'cause you're like, here you go, here you go, here you go. And it's like much better than someone that's like, take, take, take. Like in the movie Spirited Away. You guys ever see that? Spirited Away, where there's this monster that goes around that's like absorbing everything. Take, take, take, take, take. Okay? So basically what happens though is fixing, pleasing, even pleasing other people. People pleasers please everyone but themselves. They please everybody else because if I could please you, Mike, these are also all connected to conditions of love. If you didn't feel like you were unconditionally loved as a kid, the conditions were, I must overgive, I must fix, and I must please. Those are the conditions. But then you create pressure. It's also manipulative. It's hard to look at, I know, because it's like, no, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good. I'm a good boy, I'm a good boy from Steinleena. When I was a kid, I was a good boy. I'm a good girl, I'm a good girl. Let's embrace that dark side, your fear of being in the dark side. Because to not please means someone else can actually do their own work. You give someone the opportunity to not be enabled. To not overgive means somebody else must give to themselves or figure it out somewhere else. To not fix means they must fix themselves. Ooh, young grasshopper, you are learning. I'm telling you, you could break the pattern right meow. Meow, meow, shpew, shpew, shpew. I'm just saying you could. When is now a good time to break a pattern? I just did manipulative NLP on you, but is it manipulation if you transform? Now that you're like, oh, he said when is now a good time, I'm going to transform now. But nonetheless, you see, this is the key. This is what shifts everything is when you realize the payoffs for what you get, and instead of trying to get, you start giving to the inner child of you that feels like they must fix, please, overgive, et cetera. So all in all, the thing that will shift everything for you is when you bring it back, when you bring it back, back into your body, instead of spew, spew, spew, It's right back in your frame. Feeling the separation between you and other people, realizing that you could begin doing the inner work to heal that inner child. And that as you heal that inner child, guess what happens? You don't search for it on the outside so much. Knock, knock, knock, open it up, inner child, come on in. You're good enough the way you are. And they're like, I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm whatever. And instead of being, you're manipulative, blah, blah, blah. No, embrace it and recognize that people are mirroring back the energy you're putting out. But if you're putting out energy of sending them energy, it's spew, spew, spew, spew, spew. It's like, it's messing up the energy dynamic. But don't do it just 'cause, okay, now I'm gonna be magnetic. "Yeah, Aaron, I'm gonna stop sending energy. I'm gonna bring it back, back, back, back into my body so I could be magnetic and present and get lots of love and attraction from other people." No, you could do it. I don't think it's a bad idea. It's better than just sending energy unconsciously. But let's also let go of the control dynamic and bring it back to God, allowing the divine to flow through. The ego survival mechanism is waiting to be what's been on autopilot. Bring it back to you, you, you. See, I found the rhyming word throughout this whole video. Just took a while. Bring it back to you, you, you. Better than mew, right? Anyways, this is what is available for you today, but you have to stop sending energy and start bringing it back into your body. You have to. If you watch this video to the end, it means you're here for a reason. Don't let it slip by. And if you haven't already, join the 21 Day Magnetic Love Challenge. It's starting soon and you'll transform into a new you. It'll be a lot of fun. It'll be live videos, breathwork, hot seat coaching, and also like a step-by-step process with accountability in a group and all that. It's gonna be magical. If you want a video too on learning the frame technique, the most, you go deeper on this whole frame technique thing, I have a video that you could check out right here. Check it out. Watch how much your life changes once you commit to it for 21 days.