when you think of someone you are sending them energy (energy stands)

When you are thinking of someone else, you are sending them energy. Think about it as if there's some form of energy strand that is between you and someone else, and when you think of them, you send them the energy that you are feeling inside of your body. Now, here is the thing about this that most people don't understand. If there is a feeling of emotion in your body that someone else is not doing what you want them to do, then they are going to feel that resistant energy. I went to a life transformation spa in Costa Rica when I learned about one of the most esoteric energy practices I've ever found, and it had to do with understanding the projection of energy. Now, what this lady did is she was at the front of a room and she was talking to a crowd of people. There are about 50 of us in the crowd, and she did energetic experiment where what she did is she says, everyone send me energy at the front of the room. Everyone send me energy, send me energy, send me energy. And as everyone in the crowd, me included, was sending her energy, she said there's like this repellent energy where it literally makes you back away. It's like intrusive. It's like you can feel that energy that's being projected at you. Now what happened is then she said, okay everyone, now bring the energy back in your body, bring the energy back in your body, bring the energy back in your body. And then the energy dynamic completely shifted where then she said she could feel this magnetic energy going towards the crowd. Now what this has to do with is understanding that when you are in your own frame of reality and you feel whole and complete and grounded, you have more magnetic energy than when you dissipate your energy by sending it out to other people. And even think about it when it comes to the energy dynamics of control, of someone else wanting something from you. If, like I used to sell women's shoes back in the day, if a customer came into the shoe department and I was greeting them and they could feel this energy, maybe I was the sales employee and they're like, "Hey, how are you? Are you gonna buy anything?" It's like, ugh, you could feel somebody wants something from you. But if when you're grounded and you're just saying hi, there's no attachment, there's no control, there's no manipulative desire there, people feel that and they respond very differently. So understand that when it comes to energy and this idea, this esoteric concept, and I'm gonna show you something that is called the frame technique, it's one of the most powerful energetic practices I've ever found. I learned it from a mixture of that experience I told you about with the front of the room thing. And then also I've learned this from a shadow work integration coach that I had that studied Carl Jungian psychology. And when I learned this, it completely changed the way people responded to me. It changed how I felt about myself. My confidence went up and I started to realize that I didn't have to take on the burden of other people's energies and emotions because I started to feel actually safe within my own body, which is really the key to this entire process is bringing the energy back to yourself. So first off, understand that people are responding to us based on the energy we are embodying. Now, ultimately, when you are safe within your own body and strong within your own frame, you are more magnetic. When you think of other people, your energy is leaving your body and going towards other people. And you could say, by the way, well, what if I'm sending people loving thoughts? Well, it's okay if you send energy that is kind but not nice. There's a difference. Kind energy is no attachment, it's compassion. I wish, I do that sometimes. I wish the best for certain people in my life. Even people that are no longer in my life. And I wish the best, but it's a non-attached energy. It doesn't expect anything in return. If it expects something in return, that is being nice and that is manipulative. You don't wanna be nice, you wanna be kind. Kind is who you are, nice is with an agenda. So when you think about it, it's like, well, I'm sending love energy. And sometimes also people are sending love energy because they feel that it's necessary for their own sense of self-worth. Sometimes it is just genuinely, I wanna add value to people. I know sometimes we do these in Costa Rica, or in breathwork in general, I'll lead these breathwork events where we'll do like breathwork at a live event, for example. And what'll happen sometimes is people will be going through their process, breathing in a specific pattern, and it's so transformative for people. But sometimes what people will do is they'll lay there and they'll like, I'm gonna send people Reiki around me. I'm gonna send people Reiki around me. And a lot of times what I think that more so is, is it's a distraction from going into your own process and feeling your own emotions. And also it's, I'm going to help everyone else as if there's not either this own work that could be processed or integrated, but it's like my value is, I need to help and heal other people around me. So what happens though is when you bring the energy back into your own body, you allow yourself to integrate past emotion. And sometimes it could also be people feel uncomfortable with anger or emotions that are being emoted because at these breathwork experiences, people are feeling very intense emotion and energy. So they're yelling or crying. And sometimes people, I don't like this tension, I can feel it. This feels intense for me. It is also sometimes a lesson for people to go inside of their own body and to focus on the separation. Focus on the separation between you and someone else. And I promise you, it's not that you're not spiritual. It's like, well, Aaron, we're all one consciousness. We're all connected. When you're an empath or someone that can feel other people's energies, you feel connected to everyone and everything to an extent to where you abandon yourself to make everybody else happy. So what you need to, what you can learn to really feel safe in your own body is actually how to feel separation, how to feel separation, how to feel the space in between you and other people. And knowing that if someone else is mad with you, angry with you, if you set boundaries with them and they don't like it, that's their stuff to deal with, not your emotion to mitigate. But what happens is as kids sometimes, we don't feel safe in our body. So what we do is we move out of the bottom 3 chakras of the root chakra, the sacral chakra, the solar plexus, and we move into our third eye to where we can perceive of everyone's emotions and thoughts as a survival mechanism. But then we've abandoned ourself, we've abandoned being in our own body. So one of the powerful parts of this process of the shift of the frame technique is you feel the separation between you and other people, the separation, self versus other. And the process is very simple. I have whole videos that will show you step by step exactly what to do. In fact, in my free $1,000 course that's literally for free called High Vibe 101, I added a complete module called the frame technique, which has a frame technique step-by-step video, a frame technique meditation you can follow along, and a frame technique workshop, all free. And if you wanna check that out, I'll go ahead and link it below, but there's a whole module in there called the frame technique if you wanna learn more. Now, understand that this is also why, by the way, feeling the separation between you and other people allows you to feel safe inside of your own body, and it starts to help you understand what is you versus what is not you. Because when you think that someone else's tension is your tension, you're seeing something outside of you and saying, that's part of me. So, and a lot of times this goes back to mom, sometimes mom and dad's energy as kids. And if you felt responsible for mom or dad's energy and like you had to be a specific way to get their love and approval, then it's a survival mechanism to tune to other people. So really the key to this is bringing the energy back inside of your body, bringing the energy back into the present moment. Now you'll notice that when you begin to become aware of this, so if we go, you know, energy strings is kind of like a cord, think of it like an energy cord in a way, like an energetic invisible cord you can't see, whether it's really invisible or not, it's a symbol, everything in our reality is a reflection of our own subconscious anyways. But when you think of energy, like do it as an energy test. Like at live events, we do this. At live events, I'll have people get in partners or in groups and they will practice feeling the separation between them and someone else. And it is incredible to see how much more magnetic you become, how much more safe you begin to feel when you can actually focus on the separation, the space in between you and someone else. Now, energy strands is about becoming aware of that. And this is why, this explains a lot by the way. Have you ever noticed? I've seen it happen so many times when people, they maybe they get out of a relationship with an ex, they're thinking about the ex and maybe that ex broke up with them and they're thinking of them, they're thinking of them, they're thinking of them. And then I'll see them in coaching or something and I'll be like, they're like, I can't stop thinking about this person. Well, one, when you stay attached, a lot of times, one of the reasons you're attached is because they're no longer there, the only way for you to keep them alive is to keep them alive as a concept, to keep ruminating about them. And what happens is you keep thinking, you're feeling lack, you're feeling resistance, you're thinking of them, you're sending them that energy, they're feeling bombarded, they want space. If you think of the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles, Avoidant wants space. Anxious is like, come back, come back, come back. I want, I'm leaning in for love. I'm leaning in for love. And it repels them. But what's very interesting is very often people will say, you know what? Instead of putting all this needy resistant energy into this person, believing this person's the other half to my soul or the part of my happiness, I'm gonna start putting that into something else. I'm gonna start putting it into my purpose. Into my other friendships, into some other area of my life. People start to do that because really what it is is meaning that's being projected onto someone else and then feeling resistance on both ends and then repelling. So when people bring their energy back, they stop sending that energy and they start putting into something else, guess what happens? Very often that person that wasn't coming around feels that energetic space and then it's like, "Hey, what's going on?" But here's the tricky thing. You can't do it to get that response because then it's manipulative. You haven't learned the lesson. Ideally, what you do is you take back your energy, you stop putting it into them, and you realize that it didn't work out for a reason. And that what you were probably trying to do was turn this person into seeing the value in you because it reflected back the inner child energy with mom or dad somehow. So think about that. Could it be there was a certain level of shame, a certain level of believing, maybe even a story that said like, people don't choose me, I must abandon myself for other people. And that person was keeping that story alive up until now. Because now you realize that it didn't work out for a reason. It helped you learn a lesson about yourself. And then you stop focusing on them, you start focusing on other area of life, then you're more magnetic. And very often then this person's calling me back all of a sudden. Very interesting. But you can't do it for that reason 'cause I don't think you should be. You just cut that energy off. That's a part of you that wants the person to come around so that your inner child child could feel whole and complete or feel like, see, I am worthy. I've seen incredible results with people that go through what's called the frame technique. One of them is I was at a live event in Sedona. This woman stands up, says that she was 4 or 5 months ago, learned the frame technique. She said what happened was she was in a narcissistic relationship with her ex-husband who was very controlling and abusive. They have a kid together. What happened was, When they broke up, the husband said, "I'm gonna take everything from you. I'm gonna take the kid. I'm gonna take the house. It's all gonna be mine." And which is kind of silly because they probably don't know how the court system normally works. That's normally not how it works. But nonetheless, he was saying that, he was gaslighting this woman. And then she was feeling like a leaf in the wind up until she came across the frame technique YouTube video online. And she shared this whole entire story. But basically what she did is instead of blaming her husband, instead of projecting this energy at her husband, she started to feel safe in her body and she felt the separation between her and her husband. And she realized that that was her husband's stuff, not her stuff to deal with. She started to feel safe in her own frame, self versus other. She started doing the set, feeling the space between her and her husband. And as she began to do this, her whole entire life changed. Within a very short period of time, her husband out of nowhere began and just said, I'm gonna give you the house. I want this to make this as easy as possible for you. I'm gonna give you, you know, you can like the, everything worked out with the kid. She said everything changed because her energy changed and it was so powerful when she shared this because everyone else in the crowd was like, Wow, I'm gonna do the frame technique. But part of the power of the frame technique is understanding that the energy that you are projecting out towards other people is many times a way of trying to find safety. Like, think about it. There are 10 to 15 million bits of information all around us at any given moment, and we can only perceive 40 bits per second. So what it shows in, and science and quantum physics, then what if you're getting the controlling people in your life because it's what's active in your field and it's what's been normalized on the inside? You enable that energy. And when you stop enabling people, they very quickly will go find other people to manipulate. Just think about it. People that are controlling and manipulative, if you didn't tolerate that and you hadn't normalized it, they wouldn't be manipulating you. They'd be going somewhere else. So when you start setting boundaries, even if they don't like it, eventually they'll go off somewhere else and find someone else to manipulate. But it's not your problem. It's not your thing to deal with. So understand that one of the most powerful things you can begin to do is to bring the energy back inside of your body. When I learned this in 2012, or no, in 2019 maybe, I was living in Sedona and I remember walking around feeling the separation between me and other people. Just a subtle thing. Wasn't like I was constantly thinking like every time I saw someone I was like Magneto, like trying to like bend them with my mind or anything. There is no spoon. Some like Morpheus Matrix thing. It more so was just feeling the separation, becoming, developing a new relationship with tension, accepting if someone else feels tension, that's their thing to feel. And that I can handle tension as well. And what's funny is when you start setting boundaries with people that normally wouldn't expect you to, you wanna know a lot of times what happens is you think what's gonna happen is they're going to abandon you, never wanna be friends with you again, tell you off, yell at you. A lot of times what happens is you express how you really feel, you're being vulnerable, and guess what happens? They end up respecting you. And if they don't like it, guess what? You've made your life easier because you've drawn a line of what you accept to what you don't accept, and that weeds out naturally the people that don't respect the new you. So the frame technique and feeling safe inside of your own body is really about bringing the energy back into the bottom 3 chakras, feeling safe, feeling the separation between you and other people. And if you wanna learn the frame technique, you can check out, I have YouTube videos on it and I have a whole entire module inside High Vibe 101 you can check out by clicking the link below. I have a YouTube video that explains more of the frame technique right here that you can check out that I think will change your life. Over the last 6 months, my whole entire energy has changed in a very positive and powerful—