Why Does Attracting a Specific Person NEVER WORK? (unless you do this)

Attracting a specific person never works unless you do what I share with you in this video. At least what you'll learn in this video will help you increase the probability and increase the chances of it happening. Because the more somebody puts their attention on one person, the more they put that one person on a pedestal, they end up resisting the process and having the opposite effect of what they actually want. Now, why is it that attracting a specific person never really works? Well, first off, what happens is when we have somebody that we are putting all our eggs in that basket of, what we end up doing is we end up being in scarcity. We are in scarcity. They also, in the dating industry, they call this oneitis. It's this bug that you get, that you get this one person that everything has to work out perfectly with. And if it doesn't, there's all this pressure and all this energy, and it's a huge letdown. There's a lot of resistance that is created with oneitis. This is also something that happens a lot when people have different terms, whether they say things like twin flame or soulmates or these different terminology words we can get tied to that end up resisting this process. Now think of it, if there is one person that it needs to work out with, and if that person, which we all know that one thing in life we do not have the ability to control for sure is other people. So if one person has to work out with, the probabilities that you will be happy if you believe that only one person that can come through, rather than also understanding that that happiness is within yourself, is that all your eggs are in one basket. It's scarcity. And that scarcity is saying, I hope everything turns out well because if it doesn't, then I'm gonna lose my road to happiness. So if you though are more so curious and in the energy of abundance, knowing that love can come through many different avenues, you are not having all of your eggs in one basket. It's like right now with what's going on in the stock market and the finances and stuff. If you're diversified, if you have eggs in different baskets, you're probably not tripping. But if all your eggs are in Bitcoin right now or something like that, or whatever stock or something that's not doing well, you might freak out. But being a little bit more diversified can be a very healthy thing. Now, this doesn't mean that you need to be, you know, dating 60 people in order for you to feel like you're in abundance. But energetically, not putting all your energy into one specific person is a way of being in abundance in the sense that you are opening up more opportunities for love to actually come to you. Because reality can only reflect back that which we believe to be true. So if we believe that only one person in reality is able to be our partner or to make us happy, then we're gonna put all that energy and resistance into one person. And then we're not gonna, we're literally gonna block it coming through many different ways. And when we open up the realm of possibility, when we open up and we get curious about this, we then allow us to be in abundance to where we're not feeling in that neediness, in that energy, because that's another aspect of scarcity. What scarcity is and neediness are very similar because it's almost like we need something from someone else because there's a scarcity amount of it to go around. That causes a lot of the blocks, the energetic blocks. Now think of this too when it comes to attracting a specific person. That specific person that you are thinking about, is sort of like an address. Think of it like a physical address. And when you think of this person, you are energetically sending them energy. And what you are feeling when you are thinking of them is being projected at them. So if you are feeling resistance, if you are feeling lack, if you are feeling neediness and you are thinking of them, you are sending them the needy, lack energy, they are feeling it and it is repelling them. Even if they wanted to give you the love, the validation that you're craving, it would be hard for you, hard, it's almost like it blocks it from coming because the resistant energy is there blocking them from feeling that. So the key to this and the power of what I'm sharing in this video is to actually do the opposite of what you think you should do. 'Cause what you think you should do is send them energy, can continue to think about them. 'Cause if you think about it, you're gonna manifest it, right? You're gonna keep sending them energy. Do the opposite. Pull your energy back. Pull your energy back. Bring it back inside of your own hands, inside of your own feet. And realize that the more you let go of sending them energy and the more you're in your own frame, the more you will be actually magnetic and attractive. This is actually the key to the process of the specific person you wanna attract is you have to do the one thing you don't wanna do. That one thing is let them go. I have seen this happen so many times, it is incredible. Like so many people that have trouble letting them go, we then talk about it or I'll coach them and I'll tell them to try this. They let them go, they start focusing on themselves. They realize also many times that it was a distraction. And we wanna take this a little bit further. That specific person that you wanted their love and validation and approval, many times you're trying to close the loop from childhood. Mom and dad may have not given the energy of approval and validation. So we think if we get it from this one specific person that probably has similar energy In some ways, whether we want to admit it or not to our parents, because that's what something called the imago therapy or the imago effect is. The imago is this image we have of both the positive and the negative traits of our parents, either subconsciously or consciously. We project that onto what we would call our ideal partner. And this is a, our ideal partner is this image that we have that's subconscious that then through the people we date and through the people we're in relationship with, They bring out these different dynamics because we are replaying similar familiar childhood dynamics. We're replaying this energy because we want to secretly heal from childhood. What I'd like to encourage many of you that may be listening to this is that the story you have around this specific person is what's causing a lot of the resistance. There's a story you have about it. There may also be a story you have around love. That says that I'm only loved if XYZ happens, or love looks like this. Now, love, a lot of times, by the way, it's this familiar energy from childhood. We're trying to go back home to the primordial self. And what we do then is we attract people that helps it feel familiar from childhood, which is why we won't understand why. Why am I attracted to the person that gaslights me? This doesn't make logical sense. To then realize that maybe your caretaker growing up would gaslight you in many different ways or was very critical. So the dynamics we have and the patterns that we're recreating many times are simply from childhood. But becoming aware of this is 90% of the transformation because then this specific person that you've put on a pedestal, that you've sent a lot of, energy that is actually repelling the process is you're repelling them by doing that, but also by bringing your energy back, you start doing what really helps you to not only be magnetic and attractive, but really helps you in life because then you're not codependent. Codependency is when we feel like we need somebody else. We want somebody else, we need them. In order to feel whole. And the truth is you have the ability to heal within yourself, to emanate that loving energy by being in your own frame, to then meet somebody else. I'm not saying you're not supposed to meet other people, you're not supposed to be in relationships, because I believe that's one of the most powerful ways of self-growth and of like spiritually evolving is through being in relationships. You could be in a cave meditating 24 hours a day, but it might even be more challenging to be with somebody and even more fulfilling and more growth. And when it comes to this specific person thing, realize a couple key things that will change everything about this. First off, what you feel and when you think of someone, you're extending that energy. So if you're feeling resistance, the best thing you could do is to stop thinking about them, sending them energy, pull your energy back. Pull your energy back and put it on yourself and start doing what you're passionate about. Start going, maybe there's different hobbies or different things, passions that you have that you could begin to follow. Start doing what makes you happy and realize that maybe you thought that by making someone else happy or this other person was gonna fulfill you, realize that you can develop an awesome reality and lead in your own life and be in a frame where you love what and who and what you are. And you can even get that itch scratched of the love that you're craving. You can get that through form of self-love, also friends and family, animals. You can start realizing that that love is all around you. And the more you embody that love, the more magnetic your love is. Realize that this specific person that you're thinking of is also a scarcity tactic, is scarcity. Is believing that there's only one way, one avenue it can come through. When in fact, it can come through many different ways. And when you take that and you realize that also there's like billions of people on the planet and you're telling yourself a story that this one person is the key to my happiness or is the key to completing me, or there's some big story there. And that is what is causing the pathways to be limited for love to actually come to you. You wanna put yourself in a position of embodying that love, of being in your own frame, of leading in your life, of being vulnerable. Vulnerable is a way of showing your heart that attracts other emotionally available people. And these are all ways of intensifying that energy so that you can really be in that energy and it'll increase the chance of that person actually coming back. I promise you, it will increase it, but don't do it to then get the person back. Because that's trying to manipulate reality. Don't be attached to the outcome. Let go. Letting go is a sign of abundance. Letting go allows the energy to be and allows the universe to help you. But when you're holding on and you're trying to control, that's scarcity, that's neediness, and that is creating a lot of resistance. Let go of the outcome and focus more on yourself and it'll be a lot easier. Focus on what you love to do. Focus on your own passions. Focus on being there in your body, focus on meditation, focus on having fun. Doing these things will change the energy in so many ways. Now also, I'm doing something where I text out that of high vibe thoughts of the day, and I do this like 2 or 3 times a week tops. I send out the books I'm currently reading and my top epiphanies. And if you want to ask me your questions as well, you can text me at 424-327-0892. 301-04, or I'll put the link below. You can just click the link and text me your questions. I've been putting these in videos, and that's if you're in the US and Canada, by the way. And I'm working on something for people that are international so they can also get their questions asked and engage and stuff like that. So with that, there's also a video that explains why when you let them go, they always come back. This is the next video that you should watch that will completely help wire this concept in. Watch this video right here. Here. Why is it that when you want someone, when you desire them, they feel that energy and it literally repels them away like a magnet? However, the moment you actually let them go— like right now as I do this