Empaths and people-pleasers manipulate too, just differently than narcissists. While narcissists openly demand, empaths use covert tactics: they give help and attention to extract validation. Both are self-serving. Recognizing the pattern is the first step to stop.
The narcissist will manipulate other people to get their needs met. It's important to recognize that sometimes people pleasing and tuning to other people, it's inauthentic and it's manipulation. It's manipulating other people to get what you do. The narcissist gets a bad rep because it's so obvious of what they're doing to other people. But the empath people pleaser that gives to then get is also pretty manipulative. It's the same energy. It's just different means from getting their needs met. One says, "I will give to then get." The other one says, "I will take and demand." So noticing this is powerful. Awareness is always the first step.
