Aaron Doughty explains why people attract narcissistic partners: the energy and beliefs you emit act as bait. Over-giving, trying to fix others, and childhood conditioning that normalized being controlled create a pattern where you feel worthy only of such relationships, drawing in partners who match that dysregulated energy.
You wanted to become magnetic to a certain type of person. Let's say somebody says, oh, I always attract people that are controlling or manipulative, or I attract people with really dysregulated nervous systems. What you might realize is if you attract people that like overtake, for example, you may be a magnet to people that overtake because you may be overgiving, or you might think that it's normal to be around people that overtake. So there's two sides to it because on one hand, the people you attract into your life, there's some form of energy or some form of bait that you might be putting out that attracts those people. If you're someone that attracts controlling narcissistic type people, you might be someone that goes with the flow, or someone that thinks that if you stick around you can help fix them, or as a kid to have that kind of dynamic in your life felt normal and familiar, or it's what you think you are worthy of. You are already magnetic. You attract people into your life that are reciprocal for the energy you're putting out.
