People with codependent patterns mistake narcissistic red flags for signs of love because their childhood taught them connection means being the caregiver. Someone with healthy self-worth would recognize controlling behavior as a problem. The shift starts when you notice you're operating from caregiver energy.
If someone has a healthy attachment style and feels safe inside of their body and has a high level of self-worth, when they would meet someone that's narcissistic and controlling, they would see the red flags. But you see, if in childhood those red flags you saw as red roses because it was familiar, you will then see in this other person something that's gravitating you towards them. Now, the thing to realize is The reason you are interpreting those red flags as red roses is because you subconsciously believe that to be in connection, you need to be tiptoeing around love. To be in connection, you need to be the caregiver. You need to be the person that's adding value to the other person. And what happens is once you become aware that that's the energy you're living in and that that energy might feel familiar, you then start becoming aware of where your opportunity for growth is.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
