You keep attracting the same type of person because unresolved emotional patterns act as a mirror. What feels like love is often survival-driven dopamine spikes, and stable partners feel boring because you're used to chaos. The calm with a regulated person is actually detoxification.
That person is in your life to reflect back a specific pattern. Until you have processed the pattern, you will continue to attract people that reflect that energy back. People are in the survival emotions in dating, and they think it's connection. It's survival, not actual love or connection. But when you're used to dopamine, high highs and low lows, you will literally think that people that are more regulated are boring. But really what you're doing is you are detoxing chaos. When you're with someone that's co-regulated, it will feel much more calm and realize that that calm is the detoxing of the chaos energy, the high highs and the low lows. Why do we keep attracting these people in our life? Subconsciously, they're asking you to do something. The person that's controlling is asking you to step into your power.
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
