Aaron Doughty explains why stopping the search for love doesn't work if you're still energetically attached to the outcome. Real surrender means releasing the internal need, not just the outward looking. People repel others when they cling to the result, even unconsciously.
People always tell you these things as well, like love will come when you don't look for it. Yeah, I stopped looking and now nothing is— no one is coming. Friends aren't coming really, and I'm just like—
energetically, when you say, okay, they say that love comes when you stop looking, right? So you've been looking for love, you've been looking for love, you've been looking for love, and you're like, well, it will come when I stop looking. So then I'm not looking, I'm not looking, I'm not looking, I'm not looking.
I genuinely stopped looking. And I get it.
So what happens is when people say I'm not looking, I'm not looking, it becomes a thing where there hasn't been a total surrender yet. Even though you may have thought of you surrendered, you haven't totally surrendered because there's still, it's a mechanism by which to then still attract it to come into your life. So a lot of times what happens is if that becomes a mechanism to still getting what you want, there's still some form of attachment there. What I would encourage or I would look at inside of this is embracing whatever the current phase is, even if that phase is, I'm not looking and still it's not coming. The next live event that I have coming up is in Los Angeles, California, January 31st to February 1st. If you want to join, go ahead and click the link in my bio or comment the word event and I'll send you the ticket.
