Comment Réagir au Harcèlement au Travail

My friends, hello to all the vermin that inhabit this earth. And a special mention for workplace harassers. I receive a lot of testimonies, especially since the last video. Many people have contacted me to tell me I am being harassed at work. And then there would practically be enough to make two videos, one for women, one for men. Because women and men are not equal when it comes to this. Even if both suffer this hostility, they are not equal. For women, it will happen in a different dimension. For example, we'll tell them, you know, you're too emotional, you're emotional, you let your feelings show too much. Sentences like that, killer sentences specially designed for women. With men it'll be different. With men, it'll be like they'll put you down. They'll tell you that your work is worthless. They'll tell you that. Yes, but you saw the other guy, he did your project much better. Yes, you're proud of that. But we've seen much better. Sometimes we'll even celebrate. You can do something huge and then there's someone who does 1% of what you did and we'll celebrate him. And all this in front of you to show you that you don't see anything. Unfortunately, these are corporate cultures. We, we can try to dismantle the mechanisms, but what do we really care about the mechanisms? What's it going to change on the ground when someone is harassed at work, they go to work with a knot in their stomach that they. He feels like throwing up every morning when he leaves his house, he's depressed. Every Sunday evening he takes sick leave just so he doesn't see their faces for a while. What the hell does he care about the mechanisms that make a company a dog eat dog place like this? I can tell you very quickly, in summary, that it's a corporate culture. It comes from the top. And companies that run like this, this kind of attitude, this kind of behavior is encouraged by the hierarchy. It comes from the top. All you need is a CEO or a founder and the people around you who are real dogs and their aggressive, angry attitude will flow down and trickle down the entire company to the last one. To the last one. Fact, Tom. Well, these people get the message that aggression, harassment and destruction of others works. If you can bring them down and evolve on your body and well, you will be rewarded. It's an attitude. So ideally, I say the simplest thing, really the simplest thing, if possible, is to change companies. Really. Uh, not all places are like that. There are places that are not very or are subject to this culture. But I'LL tell you something first, you won't be able to change the company. If that's the way it is, it's because this mentality exists. That's the first point. The first point. Second point. A question that we shouldn't ask ourselves. We shouldn't ask, why me? What did I do? I'll remind you of Reagan's words. Reagan, the former American president said we have to stop every time a crime is committed or every time a criminal commits an atrocities. We have to stop asking ourselves the what have we done wrong as a society, okay? When a criminal commits an act of violence, it's the criminal's fault. It's not society that should think about what it did wrong and how it can change, how it can evolve so that Mr. Criminal is nicer. Okay? If we attack you, no matter the reasons, sometimes there's no reason at all. Sometimes it's just like that. It's inexplicable Just because you're there. We don't like the way you look. That's it. We're being mean. We just want to. It's nothing personal, you know. If it wasn't you sitting there, we would have attacked your replacement, you know. Besides, when you leave the company and someone replaces you, well, we'll attack you in exactly the same way. There you go. It's as simple as that. So there's no point in thinking about how you can change so that these people change. Okay? That doesn't work. Something else. I'd like to tell you one thing, very important, really essential. Never show that you are hurt. Not showing that you are hurt is super important. If you show that you are hurt or you show that you are hurt, well, they will redouble their attack. Because precisely when they hit you, what are they looking for? They are looking for the weak point. They do not know your weak point, but they are looking for it. How are they going to do it? How are they going to find it? They are going to look by making noise and force. That means that they are going to test different methods. They are going to attack you sometimes on your. It could be on your clothes, on your head, on your work, on your behavior, on your tastes. You can't know what they are going to attack you on, but generally what they are going to do. They are going to do a grid. They are going to try several techniques until they find the one that works better than the others. And how are they going to detect that one? Well, they are going to detect it when you react better than usual. When they See that? Oh, well, there you see, we found the sensitive point. If you do that, it means that you are involuntarily becoming an accomplice with them. It meant that you are giving them weapons, you are arming them, you are telling them that this is my weak point. And when they see that, they will attack you even harder on that, they will press on you with even more force and brutality. The more they see that you are on your knees, the more they see that you are going down, the more they will add. So one important thing, never show your feelings in front of these people. Always, always remain neutral. The poker player smile is super essential. No emotion, especially for women. Don't yell, don't cry, don't raise your voice, because that's precisely what they expect. It pushes the person to their limits and at some point, if they respond because they've had enough, it's been months that we are harassing this person. Well, what are they going to do? They are going to take this moment to catch them out. And then in front of witnesses, in front of lots of people, did you see how they behaved? Did you see what he said to us? Did you see what he treated us like? That's unprofessional. In the corporate environment, in the middle of the office, he said that you saw the unspeakable outburst, okay? They are very hypocritical. They can push you for months and the moment you say something wrong, they have 15 witnesses, you have none. They have 15. Okay? Very important. Never let anything show another thing. Very often the people who suffer the most from this are people who are in the corporate environment with all their heart. They are people who love their work, who love their company, who really want with all their heart to achieve goals and all that. But there's no way to achieve that in companies that are corrupted, corrupted by their attitudes. So what you have to do first. Two things I'll tell you. First, it's not your father's company, okay? It's not your company. So in the end, when you're in a situation like this, what's essential? There are essential things, things that aren't. What's not essential is the future of the company, the future of its income, the future of its projects, the future in general, it's not important. What's important is your face. It's you, it's your well being, it's your health, your physical health, your mental health. It's not worth killing yourself for a job. It's not worth killing yourself for a company. I've worked in companies. I can tell you here, I'll pick a company at random where I worked for five years, and in this company I spent like five or six years. I wouldn't be able to give you more than two or three people's first names. And I'm sure they've forgotten me too. It's reciprocal. A company is a passage in life. When you're on your deathbed, you'll have your children in front of you. You won't have your manager or your director. If you leave the company or if you die for the company, I guarantee you that they'll forget you. I'll give them a few weeks and half the people won't be that interested in people. They won't even remember you anymore. Okay? So what's important is you. Your health, your family, your well being. It's not the company. And even less so a company plagued by these attitudes. You have to focus on your face. That's essential. Secondly, still, in this logic, don't show up in a box. And then be authentic. Be yourself. Many people will tell you you watch videos on the Internet. There are probably a million videos on YouTube that tell you to be yourself. Well, no, you shouldn't be yourself, okay? Don't be yourself. Because if you are yourself, you're going to expose yourself. You're going to expose your vulnerabilities, you're going to expose your personality and you're going to expose the elements. Because we are ourselves. We are. We are naked, so to speak, only when we are in a place of trust, when we are surrounded by caring people, when we are finally at home somewhere and when everything is going well, that's when we can be ourselves. That's when we can let go. But you can't let go in a wolfish environment. You can't let go in an environment where people are just trying to bring you down. So in this case, this. What you have to do is create a personality, a person, a character for these people. So when you arrive at the company, always smile, okay? The ba. Smile is very important, okay? You practice, right? You practice. You go to the bathroom in front of the mirror. Try to find your smile as b as possible. When you arrive at the office, be super superficial, okay? You go like this. You go to the person you hate the most who hates you the most. Do you want a coffee? Do you want me to bring you a coffee? I'll go and I'll go to the machine. I'll bring you a tea, okay? You bring him a tea, okay? To Be clear. I'm asking you to be a hypocrite. Just so there's no misunderstanding between us. I'm asking you to be a. If a woman, just so there's no misunderstanding. Be the worst person. Like that. Superficial. Superficial and hypocritical. That's what I'm asking you to do. That's the best protection. Never give them your reality. When things happen in your life, you don't tell them. When there's a problem at home or any problem, even if a tire goes flat, you don't tell them. You're always going to smile. You're always going to watch them. If they make bad decisions, they're going to hit a wall. Oh, well, you watch them go to the wall. You. And you take bets on how long it's going to happen. It's going to happen in a week, in two, in three. And when they hit a wall, while you come there, you take selfies with them, okay? Just to keep track of the faces they're going to make that day, okay? That's very important. Also, lower your. I almost want to say lower your standards. That is to say, you give the bare minimum. That means you arrive at this place if you see that they are denigrating your work, destroying your work, all that, right? Because sometimes, Sometimes what people do, especially people who are sincere, who really want to stop this with sincerity, what they will do is multiply the work. Say if I do 10 times more, if I do 1,000 times more, they will end up respecting my job. They will end up respecting the effort that I am giving, the results that I am giving. It doesn't work like that, okay? It doesn't work. They do it no matter what you do. You can send a man to the moon, okay? They will not respect your work. These people are not sincere. Don't think that. These are people who are sincere in their approach, in their attitude. These are people who are malicious. Malicious. They are there to break you. So whatever you do, don't get caught up in this escalation. Especially not. Because I have often seen people who are literally pushed to kill themselves at work, pushed to burnout, pushed to illness because they tell themselves, I'm going to give it my all. I'm going to give it my all. I'm going to give it my all. And finally I'm going to prove it to them. You're not proving anything to these people. They're vermin. You have nothing to prove to vermin, okay? These people are okay. To be more precise, you have nothing to prove to them you don't respect them. You just show up with a smile. After all, if one of them falls one day, has a heart attack or something, you're not going to leave them to die there. You call the authorities, okay? You dial the emergency number, okay? You call, but don't panic too much. You know, you call them, you give them the address, they come, that's all. They'll get you out of there. But they literally have the right to the Geneva Convention. No more. No more, okay? For the rest, just smile. Keep the information to yourself. Don't share information with them. It's very important. I said it before, I'll say it again. No form of information. You always have to be superficial. If you're talking about the news, you're talking about the weather, not. Not even the forecast. You're just talking about today's weather. Oh, yeah, it's raining. Oh, it's raining today. News that has no value, okay? And still, how are you doing today? So try to overplay that things are going well, okay? Things are going very well. I'm very happy. There you go. Still in a state of vagaries. Things are going very well, okay? And then ideally, change jobs, change companies, okay? So if you're in a big company, try to move laterally, huh? To another department. Sometimes it's easier to move to another department. Although when you're in a company that has a department that's rotten, chances are the others are too. The others are all just as rotten. In general, it's a fairly general culture in companies. Now, if you can change your company completely, just find another one, another one, another place, change your company and block everyone on Facebook and all that. Don't share. If they're on your LinkedIn, leave them on your LinkedIn. That's fine, it's not a big deal. But don't let them come to your private social media if you ever made the mistake of accepting them. The moment you leave the company, click, click, click, click. You block everyone, okay? Like that. There you have it. And when they write to you, when they write to you, you use an exponential technique. If they write to you on your text message, where we're going to have a coffee, definitely not. Don't see them outside of work. If you leave work, very important, because sometimes they might just want to play along. So don't show it to them. And then use the exponential response technique. It means exponential response technique. It's this one. The first message responds to you in one minute. The second, in two minutes. The third in 10, the fourth in two days, and then the fifth in 18 days. And until you get to, say, the 10th message or the 10th attempt at communication, the associated theoretical response time is greater than the age of the universe. This means that you are actually replying by increasing the distance between replies each time. So the first message can be replied quickly. It is important to reply quickly to the first one to show that you are checking your messages. But the second one you will reply tomorrow, for example. Or the third one you will reply after four or five days, the sixth one after a month, okay? And then literally after eight or nine messages, we are talking about billions of years for the response time, okay? Like that, it dies, okay? It dies and that's it. These people are not worth it. But what do you want when you're in a company? Unfortunately, I'm not saying that people who did this are necessarily bad as individuals, but the problem is that often there are people who have a pack mentality and become what the pack makes of them. So when they come together in a company and are under the control of the forces of money, and the goal is to make as much money as possible, well, sometimes it destroys all forms of humanity. Thank you, my friends, for following and take care of yourselves. See you soon.