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Good evening, my friends. Two phrases that you should never use in the business world and even less so in your private life. These are phrases that subtly, consciously or unconsciously make you seem like someone you don't like. You should never use them. You should never make exceptions. And unfortunately, sometimes people catch them off guard and then take them on board and start using them. These are micro expressions that should absolutely be banned. Unless you want to. You know what you're doing and you want to be seen as the in the office. You want to make people hate you. In that case, yes, go ahead, watch this video and study these phrases thoroughly. The first sentence is, I'm sorry, but that should never be part of your vocabulary. I'm sorry, but that means, I'm going to crush you. I'm about to crush you. I'm doing it on purpose. I'm aware that I'm going to use it now in a power relationship. I'm going to step on you. And that's it. And that's it. Then I'm sorry. It's not sincere, of course. I'm not sincerely sorry, but I do it anyway. We're sorry when we do something and then we apologize afterwards. I stepped on you. I'm sorry. I can't say, uh, I'm going to step on you and I'm sorry. Okay? I can't apologize in advance. If I apologize in advance, it's because it's not sincere. Apologies only come for things we do accidentally, inadvertently, without intending to harm, injury in good faith. And then we tell the person, I'm really sorry, or I offer my apologies, or, I was wrong, I shouldn't have done all that. But apologies offered in advance are not acceptable. Let me give you a simple example. But in a real life situation, you're in a meeting at your company, and then you look at the time, you've booked people in for one hour and now it's noon, and you say, oh, I'm sorry, but we're going to have to continue the meeting. We're going to run over. I'm sorry. We're going to run over. Never do that, not even once in your life. Never. Why? Particular people in a meeting? The people who are there around the table, they're adults. You can't know why they need this lunch break. Maybe one of them has to go to the bathroom to inject insulin. He's waiting and he won't tell you. Maybe someone is taking care of their bedridden mother who has done all that on herself and now only has time to quickly get there and back. Do you understand? You can't know why, so you respect other people's time. In a sacred. For example, you watch and organize yourself. Because if you had organized your meeting properly, you wouldn't have needed to use this passive aggressive time to tell people, I'm sorry, but you can check 10 minutes before or there. Guys, I think we were a little optimistic with our schedule there. We have 10 minutes left until the end of the hour. So what I suggest is that there are some things that we're probably going to remove. We're probably going to save these things for a future meeting. If you need to go over by a very short time. For example, although in my life, never once in my life have I had to go over a meeting. Never in my life. I can work for 100 years without ever doing it. Because to me, other people's time is sacred. If I have to go over, I'll use terminology like, listen, we're going to go over by about five minutes maximum. Do you agree? If you have to leave as planned, you leave. There's no problem. I'll send an email in a moment anyway, with the points you missed. There you go. At least you give people flexibility. You don't come and walk all over them. You don't come and crush them by saying, I'm crushing you. I'm sorry, but never use that phrase. And I can tell you something, if you've used this phrase liberally in the past, it's because, frankly, I have bad news. You, you're probably perceived badly in your environment. Try to make up for it. And one of the methods to make up for it is to stop using this kind of way of saying things. So the following sentence, a very common sentence that people sometimes repeat without knowing it well, they've picked it up because others use it, they've heard it, it's been used on them. So they consider that because they've heard it, they have a certain license to repeat it. Never use it in your life, not even once. I can tell you since I was born I haven't used it and I'm not about to use it in what remains of my life. What I mean is when I tell you these sentences don't use. I'm not telling you to use them rarely or no, I'm telling you to use them throughout your life until you're dead. Don't use them. Okay? Before continuing, I've opened bookings for one to one consulting. There are still a few dates. I looked earlier. Many dates have been taken. There will be a time at the beginning of April when I won't be available. But there are still a few dates. But there will be a time when I won't be available. I invite you to book dates if you want to talk to me directly and we can work together on the question that's on your mind. The sentence in question is, it's indiscreet, but. Or I'm going to be indiscreet. If you think you're indiscreet, you shut your mouth. Okay, we're clear on that. If you think the question you're asking is indiscreet, don't do it. Don't ask it. Live without it. You won't die. I guarantee it. Many things die. No one has ever died because their curiosity wasn't satisfied. Was satisfied. Okay, so you don't use this question. You don't use this wording. Because if you start with the wording I know it's indiscreet. It means that you're about to violate the other person's space. It means that you're about to ask them a question that will create embarrassment, that you want to get something out of the person that they don't want to say, something that they don't want to say, something that they don't want to share. And there are two things. There's the person who clumsily asks a question innocently and creates embarrassment. The person doesn't want to say it. And then I ask the question without realizing that it's something they don't want to share. Then I feel like it's too early. I stop right away, right? If I'm a normal human, if I feel like the question is being asked too early, I tell the person, I'm sorry, I withdraw my question. Don't answer. I don't want you to answer. Ah, my sincere apologies. I shouldn't have asked that question. I thought I could, but. No, don't answer me. Strictly speaking, I'm not saying it's good. I shouldn't have come to that. But if I do come to that, here's an elegant way to backtrack, apologize and withdraw the question. On the other hand, someone who says I'm is on the same level, I'm sorry, but someone who says it's indiscreet but I'm asking it. Or someone who says if he's not discreet, it's because he knows in advance that he's going to cause embarrassment. He knows in advance that he's going to encroach on Your space, your private life, your intimacy on something you don't want to talk about. He knows it in advance and he claims it. I know it's a way of saying, if I have to rephrase it, it's a way of saying, I'm aware that you don't want to talk about it. I know you don't want to talk about it. But you know what? You're going to talk to me about it. I'm going to force you to talk to me about it. So never use this sentence and its variations. The variations are like, for example. Yes, out of curiosity. I want your curiosity. You keep it to yourself. Curiosity is a fault, okay? Curiosity is like when you learn as a child, you go to the bathroom and you don't wash your hands and, and your parents are there. No, you wash your hands when you come out of the bathroom, okay? It's on the same level as saying, oh, yeah, out of curiosity. Can you tell me. If you say that, it's because you're showing that you're being rude. You're telling the whole world that you're someone, huh? When you came out of. Of your family, you came out of your family cocoon. All that. Your social education are your. Because there's what we call a. I know I'm being harsh, huh? I know I'm being harsh, but these are. These are absolutely inexcusable phrases, huh? Usually I'm much nicer than that in my videos, but here I'm claiming, huh? If you notice, see what I've been doing since the beginning of the video? See what I'm doing, huh? I'm telling you, I'm sorry, but you shouldn't say that. Do you understand? This video is harsh, okay? It's incompromising. That's how we hear you when you use these phrases. That's how you sound when you say, I'm sorry, but that's how you sound when you say, yes, if it's not too personal or I know it's too personal, but I'm asking you the question, okay? That proves, when you do that, it proves that you have extremely low mental and social capacity. Because, you know, there's not just one intelligence in the world, there are several individuals. You can find someone, for example, who is mathematically a genius, has. Has a super high intellectual quantity, but socially they don't know how to behave. So you see that the social intellectual quantity is very important. Now, with this kind of sentence and its variations and the attitudes that go with it, like, well, I'm transgressing and I know it. And then there you go. Well, you're coming across as the on duty. I want to point this out to you, but the good news is that we're on our own. You see here, Here we are on a YouTube video. I can tell you something like this, right? You should know it, right? That's how it is. And no other way. You know that, right? So starting tomorrow, think about yourself and start changing those attitudes that make people dislike you, that make people look at you askance, that make people, the day you limp, the day you slip, they'll be very happy to push you even further down. And honestly, believe me, no one needs that kind of karma. Thanks for watching this video again. Don't forget in the description of the video, I'll give you the link to subscribe. My toxic book. Don't be a toxic person. Don't be part of that crowd. My toxic book on Amazon. What career coaches don't tell you. Thanks for watching this video and don't forget to send your questions here on this WhatsApp. See you soon.