Les vampires de l’énergie mentale

Hello, my friends, we live in a world of anxiety. You know, today mental health is perhaps your most important well being. You can limp, you can be unemployed for a long time, you can do whatever you want. But if you can keep your head on your shoulders these days, I think you're part of the 1%. Let's say I read yesterday that 20% of children in the UK, in this country, 20% of children have nightmares or insomnia when they think about climate change.

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These environmental lobbies with their apocalyptic discourse, this extremely sectarian apocalyptic propaganda is currently destroying children. It is creating neurotic adults, anxious adults, depressed adults. Many of these 20% will already be on the drugstore by the time they're 20.

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Every time they see a cloud, every time they see rain, every time the temperature changes during the day, they will be taking medication to cope.

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When faced with other much more credible threats. We have no one in this world. In this world. You know, I know a lot of people. Well, I don't know anyone who has caught the coronavirus. We are reaching that point as I go to press. I don't know anyone who has caught the coronavirus, but I know a lot of people who have caught coronavirus anxiety. People are afraid, people are panicking. Some think that they are suddenly going to collapse. And this fear, even if one day this pandemic will subside and things will return to normal, uh, despite everything, the fact of having lived in this anxiety provoking environment will have had an effect on the health of many people.

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It doesn't matter if you catch the coronavirus or not. So I was saying that in this globalizing world, we are heading towards a period and you can see it very clearly with the coronavirus, where very often for individuals the global emergency becomes more important or takes precedence over the local emergency. What I mean by that is that the problems of the world, the problems related to China, the United States, trump global economic movements and all that become a concern for individuals and will even surpass the concerns related to managing their family, managing their home, managing their day to day work.

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That's huge. That's new. That's new for humanity. Humanity has never experienced this before. There has never been a time. So what I mean by that is that millions of years of evolution have not prepared us for this. You know, it's new. It's very particular because we are in online relationships. Humans were not prepared for this. Humans were not prepared to get to know someone and build a relationship with someone before they even met them. It's very specific. It's very recent. So when humans were busy or focused on their local emergencies, on their local problems, they could manage. They had, or at least they had the impression that they could manage with their work, their skills, their motivation, their perseverance, they could overcome the problems around them. On the other hand, when it comes to global problems, individuals can't do anything about them. Individuals alone are completely helpless. They can't do anything. So in that case, what should we do? We have to adapt. We can't change the world, we can't change China, we can't change the cattle market. We can't change the evolution of this world that is moving towards globalization. The globalization of good things, but also of bad things. Before, you could have the luxury of. When I was little, you could see these people fighting each other in Nagorni Karabar. You could see these guys behind a mound of earth with an AK47 that was held like this and spraying water at random. For years, I saw images of a Karabakh agony on the 8pm news. I never saw anyone who came from there. I never saw anyone who came near me who was from that region. And so at one time you. You could see things on tv. Today, if you watch something on tv, at some point you turn the sound down, you hear the golden noise. And in fact, that's what was playing on TV right downstairs from your house. Now. Okay, I'm exaggerating a bit, but that's pretty much it. So global emergencies, not only do you see them on tv, but for a few days they're just on tv. And then they get closer and closer. And then one day they're right down the street from your house. Okay, that's it. It's terrible. And we don't have much control. I was saying that to recharge, to recharge. Because today we have several types of energy. You know, for example, during the day we eat breakfast in the morning, but during the day we use up our physical energy. And so our physical batteries, if you like, will gradually drain. And then there will come a time in the day when we need to eat. We're hungry, and we need to eat to restore, to restore our. We say restore, to restore our energy. But that's not all. There's thirst, for example. We get dehydrated when we go to the temple, so we need to drink. And then there's also what I would call mental energy. Sometimes after working for months, people end up feeling empty inside. And at some point they need to recharge in that Case it's not about restoring and about recharging. And in that case, everyone has their own method. Some people go on a trip somewhere, take a break, as they say, go on vacation. Others prefer going out with friends or family. Others might read a book. Others go to the cinema, many things. Some people go for a walk in the forest. I'm saying that for some people to. To boost their morale or recharge their inner battery. For some, it's free. For those who like walking in the forest, all they have to do is open the door and walk. For others, it might involve going on shopping sprees or maxing out a credit card. You understand? But what I mean is that it's rarely free. It requires effort to recharge those internal batteries, those mental batteries. Now, the problem we have today in the world around us is that we can sometimes fall victim to people who come to us, who approach us for the sole purpose of recharging their batteries. So I'm going to. There's no sense here of rejecting my loved ones or my friends or anyone else. It's normal. I think it's my duty to help my loved ones, to help my friends get back on their feet when they're going through a difficult time. In fact, when I'm feeling down, I can sometimes find a way to recharge my batteries. I can sometimes go to a friend, to someone in my family to go to people. I know that when I talk to these people, I come away with a new perspective. I come away with more positivity. And in a way, I am recharged. I feel better. However, this way of approaching others and feeling good around them can lead to abuse. It's like always, when people know that something works and something can bring them an advantage, it inevitably opens the door. Humans are often selfish, and that will open the door to abuse. I mean, people can approach you, they can be men or women under any pretext. It can be someone who approaches you in a context, let's say romantic, or in a friendly context. Or it can be a neighbor asking for help or a colleague who needs to talk. And then you, a sucker, as they say. Because often if people approach you, it's because you radiate this energy, okay? And people come and connect with your energy and they're going to suck it up. So that's a figure of speech, but that's the result. The result is that as they interact with these people, they're going to feel better and better. That means their morale is going to rise. Their mental battery is Going to recharge. That's very valuable. And what's going to happen to yours? They're going to go down. So in reality, for example, you can afford a €3,000 trip, come back super boosted, and someone like that will cling to you. In 10 days you're down, you're mentally low, you're at the same level as before your trip, and the person is extremely radiant. And in fact, you can almost charge them €3,000. That's it. I put a price on it, right? You can almost send them an invoice, you understand? But most of the time, of course, it's difficult to quantify, isn't it? Or of value. But still there is harm, there is real harm that is done to you. So what is the marker? The marker, as I just said, the most important marker, let's say, is people who approach you when they're feeling bad and then disappear once they're feeling better. That means that these are people who are going to live. You know, when people get married, we say for better or for worse, friendship is for better or for worse. All relationships are in a transactional context, for better or for worse, of course, but many people reserve the worst for you and reserve the best for others. And that's terrible. It means that every time the person needs to cheer themselves up, they're going to come to you. That's the worst part of sharing with you. And of course that's going to create a situation of concern for you because you're trying to help the person, you're trying to understand, you're trying to explain the problem, you're thinking about it even when you're not with the person, you're trying to think about it, to see what the options, the solutions, the interpretations, etc.

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But be careful, that's sharing the worst. But when the person has good experiences and suddenly they're happy and all that, they'll disappear from your horizon until the next time they're not feeling well, they're sharing the worst with you, but not the best. And that's terrible. So that's a marker, it's an indicator. Another indicator is the person who doesn't listen to you. You listen to the person, you listen, you listen, you listen. And of course you interact, you respond, you help, you try to help the person. But the day when you're down, the day when you need help, and this is very particular to people who are surrounded by energy suckers or battery chargers, uh, it's the day when you're feeling bad, the Day when you're feeling bad because you've had a hard time in life or because you're feeling down. It happens to everyone, right? Uh, there's no one for you. There's no one you can talk to. There's no one who can help you. There's no one who's available for you. Okay, people, there's someone on answering machine. There's someone who's busy, there's someone who has work at the moment, etc. Do you get the idea? It's very unfortunate, but that's how it is and that's what it means if you're in this situation. What does it mean? It means that you're in a toxic environment, an unhealthy environment. That means that when you're doing well, when your batteries are charged, there are lots of people who approach you to take vital energy, mental energy that I also call vital energy, but that the day things go badly, people avoid you. People avoid you. And you go through three days. Three days where you're a little under the weather, as they say. Three days where things aren't going well. During those three days, no one talks to you. It's total radio silence until the day you get back on your feet a little bit. And then people come back and start sucking you dry again. And that's. It's unfortunate. It's unfortunate, but it also corresponds to our time. It's a time that is like that, that is based on the. The. Not on gain, immediate gain, superficiality and of course, profiteering. What do you do? You take, right? You weigh as much as you want. You know, it's. I saw some. I was in a supermarket the day before yesterday. I saw some hand gels which were reduced. Uh, I think it was 48 cents or something like that. I took three. Uh, why. I could have taken 20 or 30, but I didn't want to. I said to myself, we have to leave them for the community. If everyone has 30, uh, I mean, uh, there won't be any for others. So I wanted to be a responsible citizen. Later I was talking to a friend and he said, can you send me some. All of them. I. Okay, I'll go back to the supermarket. They were gone, actually. They were gone. However, it was a few hours later. I had seen this the day before before closing time. And the next morning they had run out. People are actually buying them by the box.

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We live in a time when people don't think about others. People think about themselves. And so it inevitably creates this kind of battery charging. Situation. Ah, the situation also happens to people who are strong, okay? They are people who are strong or who radiate strength. We are all weak in reality. We all have our weaknesses. We all have our worries, our uncertainties, our complexes, our fears. It's normal. We are all human. On the other hand, in our world, there are humans who may radiate more strength than others. You know, it's women or men, but who will radiate more strength? There's a human. You get the impression he can charge a Tesla if you connect him to it. And so at that point, these kinds of strong people often stand alone because people don't consider that they can falter, don't consider that they can weaken, don't consider that they can feel bad. And then, of course, they are the first port of call. They are the first phone number that comes to mind when things go wrong. It means that you, you know, when things go wrong, people call, like in France, call 17, the police. Or in Switzerland, 117, here, 999. I mean, people always have these emergency numbers in mind. So the person becomes practically listed in terms of Emergency, just below 17, okay? People have 17 in their heads for emergencies, for the police. And just below that, there's yours, okay? And at that point, for any emergency that falls a little short of the police station, they call you and you're strong. Well, they think you're strong or you have strength, real strength, perhaps, but you also have real weaknesses. And what do you need this strength for? You need it for yourself. You need it for your family, for your friends, for your loved ones. Ah. Do you understand? I'll give you an example. Uh, you help a colleague, for example, to get back on their feet because a colleague has had a bad time, a hard time in life. You help them get back on their feet. You help him get back on his feet, and in the meantime, you're emptying yourself. He's getting back on his feet. You're getting down. Unfortunately, it's not completely, but we're relatively close to a draw. He takes, you lose. After that, you'll have to find resources. Uh, and so he gets back on his feet. He gets back on his feet. He gets back on his feet when he gets back on his feet. And this is where I consider the relationship to be toxic or bad or you're the victim, I mean, victim of a battery charger, because the person, when their morale is low, gets back on their feet. The person moves away from you. The person doesn't respond to you anymore. The Person isn't there, the person isn't available. And that's going to leave you with a very low mental level. If during that week or that day when you suddenly feel low, your own child does something stupid, or your partner, you get into an argument with your partner or someone else, you no longer have the mental resources to cope. You will no longer be able to approach your partner positively and with acceptance and try to correct the problem. You will no longer be able to cope in a healthy and balanced way and find the words and find the strength to talk to this teenager who is a child who has done something stupid and who at that moment needs his or her dad or mom the most. Why? Because your energy has been taken by an. Sorry. Okay, so that's the thing, my friends. You have to understand that this mental energy is not infinite. If it were infinite, we could work seven days a week without ever taking a vacation or resting. In fact, there are people who do this. The Japanese, for example, are extremely close to what I just told you, and many of them drop like flies. The suicide rate at work or related to work is very high among them. Anxiety wreaks havoc. It kills. People die of anxiety there. Why? Because this mental energy is not infinite. It is limited. And from time to time we have to stop to recharge it. It's the same principle as with food. And in fact, we follow the same logic. You prepare food, you are hungry. You prepare your food. The moment you put it on the table, someone comes to take it from you and eats it, leaves you hungry, he is full, leaves, and then comes back. The next time you prepare something, you put it on the table.

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Right. That's it. It's just a phenomenon with the. I wanted to share this with you. I think we have to be very, very careful. We have to be aware of this. You have to know and be careful with these vampires. You have to know how to gently push them away. I, I, I have the weakness to believe that the best option is to push them away. Uh, because as I told you, if you accept that you are used, if you accept that you are recharged at your expense, that you are shared with the worst, uh, you will not have the ability afterwards to manage your everyday life, to manage your real relationships, to manage your real friends, to manage your real family, to manage the people to whom you have a duty of assistance, a duty of presence.

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Because you have distributed your resources, you have literally given them to the pig.

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Uh, so there you have it, my friends. Uh, I will leave you it was just an idea that I wanted to share with you. Uh, it is not necessarily my news. Huh? I do. I do. I am very careful in general. I protect myself. I protect myself. But I see in my everyday life I have friends and family members and others, and sometimes I see them very badly and precisely because we have taken advantage of them. Because people who are not worth taking advantage of have completely drained their battery, then left them for a while in real life. There you go. But personally, I learned. I learned a long time ago to put the necessary filters and then eliminate these types of people. I leave you, my friends. Ah. I leave you. And then I'll be back. I'll be back. When I come back. It could be tomorrow. It could be in six months, you know, depending on what's going through my head. See you soon.