A Night In Bet Shemesh - Learn To Think Like God - 2021

Good evening. Happy to be here tonight in Beit Shemesh for our annual visit. Wow, most Americans don't wear masks. They became Israelis. Baruch Hashem. This lecture will be the— Reuven Shmuel ben Avraham HaKohen. Ruth bat Shalom Avraham Yachid ben Reuven Shmuel HaKohen, Menachem Yitzchak ben Reuven Shmuel HaKohen, David Aryeh ben Reuven Shmuel HaKohen, also the Fuat Eilat Elena bat Hadassah. A year passed and we're beginning to get out of the jail we've been in, the quarantine. And in Israel, believe it or not, right now the safest place in the world. In India, in Mexico, Brazil, thousands of people dying every day. Baruch Hashem, with the help of Hashem, that gave some wisdom to Bibi to run and get the vaccines here, instead of 2,000 people to die a day, we have no death, Baruch Hashem. Zero death yesterday, today. Of course, it's all from Hashem. Before everything started, it was already close to 100 deaths a day. You know, it's a snowball. It will be 200, 300, 500, 1,000, and then you lose control. And thousands of funerals every week. The country is broken. The country is destroyed mentally. The country is going bankrupt. Israel will have to announce that they cannot pay their debt to the rest of the world. The credit rating of Israel will crash. And that will be the end of all of us officially. Many people don't understand the miracle that Hashem did to us. That those companies agreed to send us those vaccines to Israel before even United States. If we would be online, we would probably get it another year from now, which by then will be too late for us. HaKadosh Baruch Hu saved all of us from a total destruction. It's mamash, the miracle. Maybe if Chazar would live today, they will make a special day. For the miracle like we have for the holidays. Doesn't mean that everything is over. We still have to wait. But one thing we should know, that no matter what happened, Hashem will always make sure that we will get our daily or weekly suffering. Corona went away, Palestinians woke up. It has to be something. You think you get rid of one problem, right away Hashem creates for you something new. "Bekesh Yaakov lishiv beshalva." Yaakov said, "Okay, maybe let me get retired. I should retire now. I had a hard life. I came out to Egypt. My son is a king. He's in charge of the money. I can enjoy life." All kinds of things like this. Hashem said, "Not only on olam haba, you have such a special place waiting for you, you want to rest in this world? "Mi'at kafatz alav rukzoshel Yosef." That's when Yosef disappeared and they kidnapped him and sent him to Egypt. The prophet Yeshayahu, he said, he says, "Va'amarta bayomahu o decha Hashem ki anaftabi." I thank you, Hashem. One day I will thank you for being so strict with me, right? We will all know that it was all for good, all the struggling and all the pain, especially those who made Aliyah to Israel and they had to go through the struggle of changing location and getting used to the Israeli mentality, which each one of the Americans deserve a Nobel Prize winner for being able to adjust themselves to a different, complete different environment, different mentality, and to somehow survive and slowly, slowly become an Israeli. That's, that's a very big achievement. It's really not easy. I know it's not easy for me as an original Israeli. When I come here, I see some certain things, it's very difficult for me to survive here. So I'm imagining those Americans who never lived here before, what they had to go through. But don't worry, it's a part of the plan. If it wouldn't be the Israeli aggressive mentality, it will be something else. Because Eretz Israel, 3 gifts, who gave to the Jewish nation major gifts, divine gifts, and all of them has to come through suffering. What are they? Eretz Israel, the land of Israel. Torah. You cannot become a Talmid Chacham without killing yourself for thousands of hours, day and night, for months, for years, again and again and again and again, for decades. Until you become an official Talmid Chacham. Nobody became a Talmid Chacham smoking a cigar in the AC and his belly growing by the day. Forget about it. That's an illusion. You want to be a Talmid Chacham, you have to forget about sport, forget about basketball, forget about good steaks, forget about trips, Forget about Ben Yehuda on Thursday night. Forget about the pool. Forget about millions of things you have to give up. Chascha nafshiba Torah. There were people in history that once they got into the Torah mode, they did not want to waste a minute on anything. We just had the merit to eat dinner with one of them. Aveliahu Buchbud from Pechemesh became a half-beddin and a beddinir. We learned together in yeshiva over 22, 23 years ago. Became Dayan, Shochet, Mohel, Sofer, genius, the big dolador eventually. Why? Devotion. Serious. Taking advantage on every day, every minute, every time. Never waste time. Give up a lot of different things. So if you give up so much, of course you become somebody. If you're one leg here, one leg there, nothing will come out of you. That's why in America, hundreds of thousands of people learned in yeshivot, people that are born in America. Not people that came to America from Europe. That's a different story. Europe was a different story. From hundreds of thousands of people learning the best yeshivot in America in the last 100 years or 50 years, now one of them became gedolador. No one. In Israel, you had hundreds of gedolador. In Europe, hundreds of gedolador. Some of them came to America, like Rav Avigdor Miller, Rav Moshe Feinstein, and many others. They came from Russia, Ukraine, Poland, all these countries. They already came big doleitorah, came to America, and they continue. But someone who was born in America, to the best of my knowledge, there's none. Why? Too much pleasure, too much materialism. Yes, there's a lot of Torah, there's great learning, there's great yeshivot, great tzaddikim, but one giant hacham, Avovadiah Yosef, Rav Eliyashiv, all these giants, nobody came out of America. Why? It's just to show you, to become somebody big, you have to eliminate everything else in life. Just left with with one thing, Torah. If you have everything else, you will be a chacham, you will be maybe a big rabbi, of course, but gedola dor you'll never be. So Torah, it's very difficult. You have to suffer a lot until you become somebody big. And the third thing is Mashiach, the geulah. It's going to be go-gumagol, two-thirds of the people in the world will die, will take us 7 years to bury the bodies. It's gonna be a disaster until we'll be able to enjoy the salvation of Mashiach. Read Zechariah 8:12, read the prophecy, what's going to happen before. Scary. Why? This is it. Everything big has to come through a process. It's like cleansing the soul, cleansing the person. Interesting, when a person suffers, is very bitter and upset and depressed and sad, aggravated, he loses patience, he's going into desperation. After the suffering is over, almost all people would say, "The best time in my life was those days that I suffered. Changed my whole life. If not that, I would not be where I am today." But while we're going through the suffering, We usually complain nonstop. But after it's over and we see what we achieved thanks to that, then we say, "Wow, that was the best time of our life." And then you ask the person, "Would you like another wave of suffering like 2 years ago?" "No, no, thank you." That's the nature of a person. The Chazon Ish, he was the complete Chacha. They asked the Chazon Ish, we know you're humble, but everybody knows you're the biggest rabbi in the world. What do you— meaning, in other words, enough being too humble. You're the biggest in the world. You're Kedolah Do in his face. So he says, "So why are you so impressed? How do you know how much potential Hashem gave me compared to you? Maybe some of you achieve more of their potential than what I achieve." In the Torah, sometimes the Torah mentioned Moshe and Aaron. And sometimes the Torah says Aaron and Moshe. The Gemara asks why. The answer: Lelam decha she'shneim shkulim. To teach you that both of them are equally righteous. By the way, the Gemara asks, how can it be? The Torah clearly says that Moshe is the greatest ever lived. There's no prophet greater than Moshe. And the Torah is named after Moshe, not after Aaron. If the Torah would be Torah Moshe and Aaron, okay, it mentioned also Aaron. But it's Torah Moshe Avdi. V'ayish Moshe anav michol Adam. Even in humility, he is the greatest. And in Torah, he is the greatest. He's the leader. He's the king. So he's greater than Aaron. The Gemara answer: each one of them achieved his maximum potential. So if Moshe is a little bit higher, it means nothing. Because we don't compare who right now in front of our eyes is higher. The way Hashem judge us is how many percent of your potential you achieve. That's why sometimes you have in yeshiva, let's say, 100 boys. One of them is very good, very sharp, he learns one masechet after the other, and one doesn't finish a page a month. Huge difference between them. If you compare them, he knows so many gemara, talachot, he loves to learn, and the other person, he learns on and off, it's a struggle for him, and finally finish a page after a month. So if you ask everyone, who is greater in shamayim? Do you know one person that would say the guy, the boy that finished one page a month? No one would say that, but maybe Hashem will. Hashem says, I'm very proud of you. The capacity of your brain that I gave you and the way you grew up and with all the temptation and desires you have around you and you are able to finish one page a month. You are fulfilling 80% of your potential. And that guy who finished maybe the whole Masechet every month, he fulfilled only 70% of his potential. He could have done 2 with a little bit more effort. So who achieved more? The one page. And this is the famous story that happens to Rav Moshe Feinstein, zatzal, in Lower Israel. He got a call from an old man in the neighborhood. "Rabbi, I would like to invite you to my se'um. It will happen tonight in the shul." Rav Moshe Feinstein said, "Mazel tov! Which masechet you finish when you say I want to invite you to a se'um? You finish a masechet in Igmarah, no? Kiddushin, Gittin, Shabbos, the whole masechet." which takes months to learn. So he said to Rabbi Moshe, "No, I did not finish the whole masechet. Baruch Hashem, after a while, I finished finally the page, one page." Rabbi Moshe Feinstein was very, very smart. He knew that if a person is calling me with such innocence, with such innocence, and inviting me that he knows how busy I am in a Bed-Din, with writing my books, answering the whole world, is inviting me to a party that he does for one page of Gemara, and he doesn't think something is odd, that means that that's something special for that person. How can I tell him no? What time? 6:30 tonight. I'll be there. When he told other people, come to my page, to my finished page, everyone laughed. This guy's a fool. What is a page? We finish a page every day. What's the occasion here? But when they heard of Moshe Feinstein is coming, how can it be? Moshe Feinstein doesn't go to see all the old shots when some people do. How does he come for one page? It has to be something that we are not getting here. People got curious, they came. There was a lot of people there and they invited Rav Moshe to say a few words of Torah. And when he came up, this is what he said. He said, sometimes a person was in this world, lived 70, 80 years, was a big rabbi, big talmid chacham, He learned the whole Gemara and he's aware and understand every line in all Shas except one page. One page he misunderstood. He got it wrong. He thinks he understands it and he comes to Shamayim and Hashem say to him, almost perfect. 2,811 pages, one of them you didn't have it right. I would like you to do it perfect. I'm gonna send you to one more life. And he reincarnate his soul to another 40, 50, 70 years of life. And he comes and he work and he drives a taxi and he drives a truck and he, you know, he has all the regular life for the one page that he will finish correctly, and that's it. And then he finishes tikkun completely. And everybody said, wow, maybe this old man, that's what happened to him. A few hours later, he went to sleep and passed. A vision. Nevu'ayin amaut of Rav Moshe Feinstein. That's it. He needed to be 7 years in this world to to finish the one page. That's why you never know, maybe that's the page that you came to the world for it. Maybe it's the next one, maybe it's the next one. Rav Volbe Zatzal, aleishu, he said that sometimes a person that is a working person and has big tests in his business can achieve even higher than someone who learns Torah every day all his life. Because if you sit and learn and you enjoy it, what Yetzer Hara you have? You enjoy every minute. You don't have no Yetzer Hara to go and see what's in the mall or to go shopping or to watch anything online. You don't have time for that. It's waste of time for you. If you will have to do it, it's a suffering for you. Some people, to go on vacation is— they wait for it all year. Vacation, summer is coming. They plan the vacation 3 months, especially Americans. You know, they wait for that moment of vacation like it's the Beit Hamashiach. All of a sudden, Corona came. People are dying. What they worry about? Oh, we're not going to be able to take vacation. For some people, vacation is It's a punishment. Pure punishment. Pack, go drive to the airport, wait on line 3 hours, suitcases, security, flight few hours, again an hour taxi, checking in another hour on line, getting into the room, the AC doesn't work, give us a different room, there's a cigarette smell here, Okay, sir, we see what we have. All rooms are occupied. This, that. The food did not arrive. What are we gonna do? And then all the way back. Who needs this? You suffer more than you— in the end. Okay, what does he do? Lay by the beach, by the pool in the sun. You can do it in the backyard. Something doesn't add up here. No, Rabbi, but we went to such great restaurants. Restaurant. Everywhere you have good restaurant. You have to go to the other side of the world for that? This is the way the Satan convince people to do things. You should know one thing. A person can only enjoy something he does if he has an awareness to what he does. If he's not aware of what he's doing, he doesn't enjoy it. I'll give you an example. If you're very hungry and somebody gave you a great steak and you waited from the morning for that steak and about, you're about to enjoy to eat it, you got a very disturbing phone call. Something horrible had happened, lo alaynu. So your mind right now is in a tragedy you just heard. You're eating the steak but your mind is in the suffering and the headache you're going to have tomorrow morning now. By the time the steak finished, they ask you, "How was the steak?" "Did I even eat it? I wasn't even thinking." Meaning the body cannot enjoy unless there is an awareness. If you're not aware of what you're doing, you can't enjoy it. And it's very interesting Very interesting because the awareness is a combination of paying attention with your 5 senses mixing together with everything that your computer recorded, meaning your brain. So you have to feed your computer with the right information. If you enter into your computer the right information, and now you're aware of what you're doing, together it's a great combination of pleasure. But what happens if you enter your brain the wrong information? For instance, since you're very young, your parents were not religious, and they stuffed your brain with every nonsense possible. Nonsense. You have to do this, you have to play hockey, you have to play basketball, you have to do that. This is what you grew up with. So now this is the way your brain understands pleasure. It doesn't understand there are things that are much, much higher and much more kosher. It's not aware of it. So now because you are programmed in such a way and now they give you what you are programmed program to like. This is what you are after. But one day you come to Hashem and Hashem said to you, you wasted your entire 8 years of life. But I had fun. You know how in America the teenagers say, I want to have fun, come on, Abba, let's go. Why you want to go there so much? What? The American answer, I like to have fun. By the way, when I say American, American answer. It's today all over the world already, but the root of the phenomena come from America. So I want to have fun. It's all about having fun. What does it mean to have fun? Usually is to make scenes. You may say, why? If I go to a kosher place and we have our own place and our own backyard and our own pool and we're not going to wear the goyimar, and we eat glad kosher, and we listen to the Torah in the background. What's not kosher here? You're right, you can make it kosher, but it's almost impossible in the way the world became. It's almost impossible today to go anywhere without committing sins on the way. It's impossible. How many Reform Jews are moving now to Florida? They got fed up with the liberal and the lefties and all these Democrats in New York, they can't stand it anymore. So what are we doing here? Cold, ugly, everybody with their liberalism becoming more and more wicked. Let's run to Florida. Florida? Say I run to Yerushalayim, I understand. Running from New York to Florida? You know what it is? Like you have poison in the right pocket and you move it to the left. What changed? Florida is the solution? That it's almost impossible to raise one religious kid in Florida to become a real bentora. Almost impossible. You take 1,000 frum kids from Borough Park, you put them few months in— You put them few months in Florida, few months, you don't need years, few months. What happened? The yarmulke became size of a shekel. All of a sudden jeans, red sneakers, the blow it grew up 5 inches. All of a sudden he has a t-shirt, I love Miami. And here you go in Bobo Park, black hat, serious, tzitzit all the way to the floor, walking in the streets with Gemara, mikveh in the morning. One year in Florida and then the shama is destroyed. But Rabbi, we have the life here, every day sunny. Only fools speak like this. A real servant of Hashem move his location because it's sunny? What are you, normal? That's the priority in your life? So put the heat. So you live with the heat, big deal. You still survive. You have to benefit the soul, not everything has to be around the body. I'm gonna give you now a great advice for life. There are two ways to feed your soul. The usual way meaning the wicked way, like 99.9% of the people in the world do it on a daily basis, and the Torah way, which is very rare. The Torah way does not apply to about 2.5 or 3 million religious people that lives in the world. I wish it was, but it's not. In the Torah world, you have about 150,000 150,000 Torah scholars, starting from children all the way to adults. 150,000 people sit and learn. The rest, housewives, you know, married people who goes to work, you know, things like this. People that learn an hour or two a day. But real, about 150, maybe a little more.

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How does a person become a person that think according to the Torah. I give you a mashal. I used to have a horrible car. Every week it was in the garage. Every week, no exaggeration, for a period of few years. Every week a problem. How do I know it's a horrible car? Maybe Hashem just God found a way to punish me. Could be a great car for everybody else, but he found a way to punish me on a weekly basis. This is what I thought in the beginning, but then my mechanic told me, you should have asked me, should I not buy this car, this minivan. It's the worst car in history. 80% of my Parnassah come from this car. I said, You give me comfort. Why? So it's not me. It's not me. It reminded me about Rabbi Yochanan who was walking on the street and the gangster mugged him, stole his wallet. So he came to the yeshiva, he's learning with the ex-gangster, Rish Lakish, used to be a gangster, became a ba'al teshuvah. He saw a beautiful woman swimming in a lake, at least he thought she is. He jumped like a tiger, swam all the way there, and then he turned around. Oh my gosh, it's a man. So he told him, oh, I know why you came all the way here. You thought I'm a woman from far. He didn't have a beard. There's no beard growing, plus long beard. He thought it's a woman from far. He said, shame on you. You jump into a lake, you know a woman came to the lake, you're jumping to come near a woman? But don't worry, I have a sister that is a lot prettier than me. And I'm willing to make you a shidduch with her. In one condition. You're gonna start coming from tomorrow morning and learn with me in yeshiva. In life, you have to find what the person like and use it. To drag him to a positive cause. You have children, one kid like this, one kid like that. Use what they like to bring them to do the right thing. If you do 3 pages today, I'm gonna give you what you like, assuming it's kosher. And more and more, it's like a kosher bribe. You bribe him and you bribe him and you bribe him. Until he doesn't need the bike. He got used to it. Now even if you stop, that's it, he's on the road. So Rabbi Yochanan realized what is he looking for. He's looking for a girl. I'll give him a beautiful girl in one condition. He has to deserve her. You want to marry my sister? She's a very religious girl. You gotta become religious. Started to come to the yeshiva. Believe it or not, some gangsters have a very sharp head. Even to be a head of a mafia, you cannot be a stupid person. You have to know how to deal with your competition. They're willing, they're waiting to kill you every day. You have to know. So he saw that he has great potential. He made him a big rabbi, a big talmid chacham. After a while, When Rabbi Yochanan walked in the street and he got robbed, he came to the yeshiva and was sitting there depressed. He told him, "What happened today? You cannot learn?" He said, "They robbed me, the gangsters on the street." So he said to him, "What? They robbed you? Wait right here. Let me go take care of it." Everyone was shaking from him, knowing his old reputation. He came on the street, he found one of the gangsters. I give you 1 hour to return the wallet to the rabbi. If not, you're going to mess with me. They heard that it's— he knows him. No problem, don't worry, we'll get you the wallet. Relax, calm down, calm down, you'll have it. Relax, make sure all the money is They returned the wallet. He gave it to Rabbi Yochanan. He opened the Gemara and started to learn. That's the Gemara. What do you understand from this Gemara? You may come to the wrong conclusion. It's very dangerous. Some people came to the wrong conclusion. They thought one of the greatest rabbis in the history of the world could not learn Torah because they robbed him for $200, $300. This would not even happen to me or to you. After 10 minutes, you come to yeshiva, you open the Gemara, you forget what happened an hour ago. What, you were thinking about the $200 that was robbed? Come on. So what's happening here? When we get robbed, We are in pain for the amount of money we lost. When Rabbi Yochanan was robbed, he was in pain for two completely different reasons. What did I do wrong that Hashem did this to me? I'm guilty of something. So all he was thinking about, what have I done wrong to deserve this? Did I do this? Did I do that? They can learn now. It's an emergency now. He has to find out what did I do wrong. I gotta do teshuvah. Hashem sent me this first time in my life. People steal from me. That means I'm not clean with money. That means maybe I stole. Maybe I caused another Jew some financial damage. Hashem is telling me something. Not like today. It's all random, nature. Hashem doesn't punish. Hashem loves everybody. Rabbi, don't be fanatic. You know how there's some speakers, they teach the wrong information. Not even a scratch to your head. See, you just scratched your head. This scratch was decided on last Rosh Hashanah, and it will happen right here, and the time it What happened? It was already written on Rosh Hashanah. And why did you scratch your head? Check what you did last year. You think, what? Scratching the head? Yes, maybe a quarter, you cause damage to someone, something that is really small. Even scratching the head is a punishment. Coming to a place noisy, punishment. Coming to a place, microphone doesn't work, punishment. Coming to a place, the chair break your back, punishment. The video did not record, punishment. It's not the cameraman and it's not the battery even though it's made in China. It's all punishment. I had days that empty batteries work for 3 hours and I had days that completely full batteries shut down after 40 minutes. Not once, not 10 times, not 20 times, maybe 100 times over the years. Completely full battery, die. Completely empty, work. Next Hanukkah. Why? Hashem wanted that lecture to be recorded and the other one didn't. That's it. Sometimes one sentence you say in the lecture and Hashem doesn't want people to hear, one sentence, it makes something go wrong with the device. Doesn't go on, that's it. Sometimes you say one sentence that is critical for everybody to hear, Hashem say the batteries don't shut down, keep going, I need this lecture online. That's all. That's what it comes down to. So So when Rish Lakish brought the money back to Rabbi Yochanan, he only realized then that he's not guilty of anything. It was just a test. So because he was relaxed, "Ah, Baruch Hashem, I was so worried." We are not worried about anything, but he was worried. That's how you are, Yereshamayim, you worry about every little thing. Okay, so I'm not guilty, let's learn. This is the way it is. So the question is, how does a person become a thinker just that think exactly like Hakadosh Baruch Hu? That's one of the missions in life for men and women. You have to think the way Hashem thinks. Most of the things we think came to to us from elementary school, high school, parents, neighbors, friends, movies we watched, things we heard, different scenarios on the street, news going around, sports that we watch or played, places we went in the summer that were not so Kadosh Baruch Hu designed our personality. It's true that a person comes to the world with a raw material personality. Thank you. You already have, you know, like when you get a diamond, it's a raw material. Both of them looks the same. Two babies were just born, they look exactly the same, could be twins. Twins. One is generous, One is very stingy. One is very calm. One is very angry. One is attracted very much to Torah. One is allergic to Torah. You don't know it yet. They both look like two diamonds that are raw. They all look like a regular stone on the floor. When will you know the maximum potential and achievement of this diamond? In a year. When they finish to polish it, this one is $10 million and this one is $10,000. Why? The way it was developed. So the babies, even though in raw material diamond, they can tell you, the expert, buy this one, don't buy this one. They look the same, but some people know. They have laser, they have ways to know. They say buy this and this and that. From here you're gonna get a clean diamond. Don't touch this and this and that. Experience, knowledge, equipment. Even though it looks exactly the same, one will become a $10 million and one will become nothing. Same thing with people. One will be raised in a proper way, will hear the right thing, will learn the right thing, will not watch bad things, and will bloom to become a giant chacham. And the other one will become a sath. Sometimes as you are, as a raw material, it's already very negative. You came to the world as you are reincarnation of a wicked person. You were already wicked in your past life and you came to the world wicked. But now you have a chance to become righteous. But sometimes you are already righteous. All you have to do is to fix few things. So as soon as you come to the world, you're very much attracted to everything that is holy. I see by the kids. I've been now in Herzliya this Shabbat. We had lectures in yeshiva there. There's one yeshiva in Herzliya, believe it or not. In the heart of Sodom, one of the greatest yeshivot. Serious, Bnei Torah, with such amazing cute kids. Little kids, 5 years old, 4, 6, big kippot, peyot. They learning Rana Na in a good yeshiva there. Every time I came to the shul, how they run to kiss my hand, waiting on the sidewalk. One of them ran maybe 50 feet away from the door of the yeshiva to welcome my face before I arrived. I came to welcome He said, "Little kid, 4 years old." And you have kids 4 years old, they see a religious person, they take a rock and throw on his head. Why he is like this and he's like that? Combination of 2 things: who you used to be in your past life and how you were raised. Now you should know the way you raise your children from 0 to 6 will affect them the most. The rest of their life is not going to be such an impact. 0 to 6, it's almost everything. Whatever they absorb in those age, from 0 to 6, will design their personality in life. It will be very difficult to change after that. Why is it? When you plant a tree, it's very soft. You can design it the way you want. You want it to go to the right, you You want it to go to the left. If it's going to the right, you can still push it to the left. But after a while, it becomes solid rock. You can't move it. It's not elastic anymore. That's it. If you go on crooked, it will only become worse. The higher it gets, the faster it will crash. Why? It goes crooked. When you shoot a missile, it has to go 10 miles away. To hit the target. If the missile move before you shoot it, move 1 millimeter to the right. You know what 1 millimeter is? Like the thickness of this page. That's it. It's nothing. Nobody can see. Move one tiny— one dot to the right. Right now you can't see anything. Both missiles look exactly aimed to the target. What's 1 millimeter? Even with machines, it's hard to detect. What happens after 10 miles? It will hit a mile away from the target. The further it's progressing, the further away it goes from the target. When it's a kid, you don't see that it's going to be a very wicked kid. Eventually will be a wicked adult because right now there's some minor, minor movements away from the target. This minor change going to the side of the target, off the target, will become a disaster in 10 years from now. That's why when the kids are young, the Gemara says it's like writing on a new paper. New paper and you hold the Used to make papers from the skins of the cows, the sheep. They removed the air like Sefer Torah, parchments. So when it's new, it absorbs the ink beautifully. You go with the feather, you dip it in the ink, you go like this, right away it goes, it absorbs inside. 5 seconds later, it's already in. That's it. But what happens if it's a very old one? Became shiny. It's rubbed off. You go over it, it doesn't absorb it. Why? You go like this after 10 minutes, it smears all over the page. Why? Because it's old already. That's the difference between a child and an adult. When you are a child, in 2, 3 months you learn the whole language. I'm sure some of you know your kids move from America to here age 4 3, they didn't know one word in Hebrew. All of a sudden, in one year, they already speak fluent Hebrew. You barely can speak 5 sentences in Hebrew. You know why? What do you want? You're 40, 50, 60. It's hard to learn the language. Kids not only learn a new language, they adopt the new accent. An adult cannot change his accent. That's it. Exactly what I say. When you're older, much harder to change. Why? It becomes your nature. Nature is difficult to change. So why then, why then, Baal Teshuvah? People who are 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years and they finally wake up. So why then do some people are successful in their teshuvah and some people are dreaming that they're successful in their teshuvah? Good point. First, what you say actually back what I say. You're backing me up because I said when you are young, it's much easier to do teshuvah. 18, 19, you can change completely to a real learner and you go into yeshiva. Few years later, you're already mamash like from, from birth. When a person in his 50s, 60s and he want to become a bal teshuvah, we lucky if he will learn an hour a day. We lucky. You don't find people in their 50s or 60s going full-time to yeshiva, leaving everything and becoming doleitov. By then it's usually usually too late. The younger you are, the better Baal Teshuvah you usually will be. But there's always an exception to the rule. It's true, here and there you find older people that are very serious. Now, the way how you become a Baal Teshuvah, it depends on hundreds of different things. One of the things is first, how serious you are. Second, every person has a different nature. Some people are usually scared. In everything in life, they're scared. That's very good. Being a person, like they say in America, a coward, that's a very positive thing. Why? Only fools do not scared from anything. The smarter you are, the more you are scared from many different things. You're not gonna take risk in highway. You're not gonna go around when you don't have a vision who can comes around the cliff. You're not gonna jump from a dangerous place, maybe there are rocks over there. You won't eat everything in a different country, you don't know who knows what's in it. So you are calculated. Before you make a decision if to get married to this girl or not, you think a thousand times, yes, no, yes, no. No, why? You calculate. A fool after one day: yes, that's it, I said yes. Why? The brain, the computer does not analyze the information. What does he know? That she's pretty. That's it. What about everything else? Ah, don't make my life hard. Some people, they hesitate a lot. Yes, no, I have to think about it. I'm not sure, I need another day, this. But when they finally make a decision, usually they make the right decision. People with no brain, they make quick decision, 90% of them usually are wrong. Like Sleepy Joe. While he sleep, he makes decision. He doesn't remember if he's away, up. He decided to give Iran $150 billion. While he was sleep, it came to his dream, I don't know. Decided to help the Palestinians all of a sudden. Where is the common sense? No common sense. Trump did this, we'll do the opposite. Like kindergarten, you know how the kids in the kindergarten, one kid did something, the other kid wants to ruin it. This is how it goes. The smarter you are, the better balshuva you'll be, because smart people are attracted open to learning. When they begin to read Torah, Mishnah, Chumash, they are fascinated. If a woman is smart, usually women in a higher level of spirituality, if a woman is smart and she likes to learn and to listen to things, you're gonna find women listen to 10 hours in a row of lectures from morning to night. They have to Tons of patients. In between taking care of the house, this, all day listening. Why? The smarter you are, the more you want to hear. The more foolish you are, the less you want to hear. You just want to absorb as less as possible. Why? The more information goes into you drives you more crazy. You know these long worms with a lot of legs? What's the name of it in English?

Centipede.

Centipede. So that worm has, I don't know, like 24 legs. 12 sets of 2. One time the cockroach came and said, "Wow, what a sophisticated system you have. How do you move all 24 legs simultaneously at the same time without getting confused?" You know, you move 2 legs, it's difficult. To move 12? The next hour he came and he saw the worms is on the back. When the legs going, he's up. What happened to you? I don't know, from the moment you asked me how I do it, I started to think about it and I messed it up. Yes. So, like you see, Baal HaTeshuva, it's first half serious Torah. Devotion, patience, irachamayim. If you are a scared person, as soon as you read the punishment of the Torah, you begin to shake. When you listen to all these liberal new style speakers who modify the Torah for popularity purpose, or for different reasons, you are allergic to them. You can't hear them a minute because you know it's all lies. Shut it right away. Can't look at them. Why? Because they modify the Torah of Hashem. When they come to secular people and say, "You have nothing to worry about. So what if you mechalel Shabbos? So what if you live with the goyim? So what if you don't eat kosher? Hashem loves you anyway. Hashem loves everyone. You're going to heaven. You have nothing to worry about." about. If you read the Torah once, you know it's all lies. It's all lies. Not one word here was true. It's the exact opposite of the truth. Ah, but this guy had a long beard and a big hat. Who cares? Since when the image of a person determine how right he is? It's baloney. I'll prove it to you. I'll prove it to you. There was a big hero, prophet in the Tanakh. His name was Shimshon, Samson. He was a Gilgul of Nadav. It relates to this parasha we just read on Shabbat, Acharei Mot. One of the reasons Nadav and Avihu die The Gemara says because they did not want to get married. Every shiduch that was offered to them, they looked down at the girls. She's not good enough, she's not smart enough, her family is not important enough, she's not pretty enough. They found what to say about every girl. It's not to our standard, so they don't want. So what was his punishment? Nadav, he was reincarnated in the body of Shimshon. What was his end? He went after a non-Jewish woman and the Palestinians poked his eyes. They burned the knife in a fire and burned his pupils and poked his eyes out. The worst thing that a person can get. Why? Because he looked at the goyah, fell in love with her, and asked to marry her. There are a few levels in a sin zre le goyah. The major sin is to ask to marry her, intermarriage. Then your children are not Jewish. It's a big problem. The reason why he got such a big punishment is because he was holy from birth. Hashem sent an angel to his mother. His parents were Manoach and Tslelphonit. That was his mother. Her name was Tslelphonit. One day she sees somebody holy. He came to tell her that she's going to have a baby after years that she was barren. And when her husband came, Her husband was not a Talmid Chacham, the Maraseh was Amaretz. Why? "Ar Chachamim nu manoach was Amaretz." He was walking behind his wife on the street. Don't get discouraged. His own wife, not behind a strange woman, different woman. Behind his own wife he was walking. It's already an Avera. A man is not supposed to walk behind a woman on the street, even his own wife, needless to say a stranger. What's the problem of a man walking behind his own wife? A man can be with his wife as much as he wants. What's the problem? As long as she's pure, what's the problem? The answer is marita'im. The people on the streets would see it. Not everyone is chacham. Wow, such an important rabbi walks in the street behind a woman. He doesn't know it's his his wife. Ah, that means it's not so bad. I can also do it. Chachamim said, be careful how you behave in public, even with your own wife. Tov. So the Gemara says his father is not a Talmid Chacham, because he should have known it. If he doesn't know something so obvious, that means he doesn't know Torah. And his mother, just a barren woman, Jewish woman, when she came to Manoach and she told him the man of God came to visit us and he said we're going to have a baby. The Gemara asks, how did she know that he's a man of God? What do you understand from the question of the Gemara? What kind of a question is that? How did she know he's a man of God? He had a very nice white long beard and a turban, and he closed his eyes with faces and wore a long white jalabiya, and he had someone holding his hand like a real Baba. And that's how she understood that he's a man of God. No, from Rabbi Ben Zion and Rabbi Shaul say, from the fact that the Gemara asked how did she know he's a men of God. From here we learn that the image of a person represents nothing. Don't be fooled by that. Sometimes a person says, oh, Rabbi, I gave money to this guy and he stole all my money. Why didn't you ask me before? I would save you. I don't know, he has such a long beard and a hat like a Rosh Yeshiva. So what? I'll take you to India. You know the Sikhs? The Sikhs that bow down to the cow, all these Indians? The cow, you saw how the cow make Mishaberach? You have to see this video. They all lay down on the floor, they come, the cow stand over there, they lay down, bow down to the cow, and somehow the cow enjoyed the ceremony. Pick up the head, the leg and put it on his head for a few seconds. Mishaberach. Pick up the head and he gets up. Another idiot jump down. Mishaberach. Like this. You have to see this video. You're not going to believe it. The cow knows how to make mishaberach to these Indians. So you have to see all these religious Indians with the turban and the white, if you never saw the Ben Yisrael, you never saw in your life, and I would show you Ben Yisrael and one of these T'meim, L'Avdil Ben Atahor L'Atameh, I would ask you who's a rabbi and who's not? You won't know. They both have turban, they both have beard. How would you know? So the image of a person not necessarily shows Where he is. It's true that if you look at someone with the black hat and a long beard and wearing black and white, and you look at someone with jeans with holes and his hair is all the way up, the chance that the one with the jeans is more righteous than the one with the hat is very, very small, but exists. And still there is a chance, but usually the way you dress shows a a little bit about your personality and about your Yiddishkeit, your Iratchamayn. But there's no guarantee. We've seen people that looks extremely full and are the filthiest people on Earth. There's some examples. For instance, in many communities you have ultra-Orthodox pedophiles. I heard some of them ran to here to be changed. They're hiding over here. You gotta be very careful with your children. You have to train your children day and night not to speak to strangers, even if they look like rabbis. You gotta be very, very careful. These mentally sick people that will do everything they can to satisfy their craziness destroys life. We saw an example of that on the news, unfortunately. So just because a person may look very, very interesting and impressive, you don't really know for sure who he is. You gotta be very, very careful. The Gemara says every person in your life, kapdeu v'chashteu— respect him in full respect and suspect him in the most most strict, no, careful. You have to be extremely careful with him and suspect him to the maximum level. Meaning don't leave any money there, don't leave things when you're not around. What do you mean? He has a very big reputation. The Gemara says, I respect him like the Baba Saleh, I suspect him like Eisav. I don't know what's gonna come out of this person. I gotta be very careful. Same thing in business, same thing with the neighbors, same thing on the road, same thing everywhere you go. In one hand, I have to respect you, give you the benefits of the doubt. On the other hand, I am alert. Who knows what's gonna come in the next minute from you. The more you will understand what I just say, the less problems you will have. You won't eat your heart, but I trusted him. He was a full man. I didn't read. You can't trust anyone today. You must check one, and if you know him 20 years, you did a lot of business with them, and you know word is a word, after 20 years you can trust the person. But if you just look at his image, me, an image does not mean anything. You understand? So you gotta be very careful. So, you know, they come here. I don't know why the Israeli police do nothing about it. They run away from America. If they get caught in America, they'll spend the rest of their life in a prison. It's very strict over there. But over here, for some reason, the government doesn't understand that it's worse than murder. To take a child and do what you do, it's basically worse than a murder. Messed up their entire life later on. Not to talk about making go off the derech and hate religion and fight against the religion. A lot of these people used to be in yeshivot and now they hate Torah and they are lefties and they make websites against Torah and against teshuvah. It's people that are victims of the Haredi system. Hundreds of them I met over the As soon as they begin to talk and think about their past, you see the hate that comes out of their face. And you already know he's the victim of someone. He was abused, he was tortured. Chaval, such a shame, because 99% of the people are great. Most Haredim are great people. Balechesed, anes, trying to help, trying to walk on their midot. But remember, all you need is 1% to be weaker. 1 out of 100, 10 out of 1,000. That's all you need. For every 1,000 people in the neighborhood, you have 10 dangerous criminals. 10! 10 in the street. 1,000 people live in the street, in the buildings. Only 10 of them, that's already a disaster. Same thing with Muslims. Most Arabs in the world, they want to just live. Want to make some money, go to sleep, go to work, that's it. I don't want terrorism, I don't want to go and kill people. But all you need is 1%. You have 1.8 billion Muslims. If 1% of them are pro-terrorism and violence, it's hundreds of millions, tens of millions of people, tens of millions of terrorists. But it's only 1%. 99% are not interested. Interested in their violence and killing and shooting. They just want to live and let live. But 1%, it's already tens of thousands, and that's what you see everywhere you go— Al-Qaeda and ISIS and all that. Let's move on. How do you become a thinker that think exactly like Hashem? Who can tell me the answer? Remember, this is an application. We read it yesterday in the Parasha. We read it. The Torah says, you have to be holy because I'm holy, meaning you have to be like me. Hashem is merciful, you have to be merciful. Hashem is Baruch Hesed, you have to be Baruch Hesed. Hashem is very honest. You have to be very honest. Everything Hashem is, you have to hope to be. That's your goal. Everything Hashem loves, you must love. Everything Hashem hates, you must hate. Even if they love it in university, the liberals, doesn't matter. I hate what Hashem hates, but it's not in style. Rabbi, don't talk like that. People like it in today's generation. Better don't talk about it, it's a sensitive issue. The opposite. Now you have to talk only about that. Torah is not politics. Politicians, they say, they say to you, politicians say to you what you want to hear. Why? Because they want you to vote for them. Rabbis not supposed to tell you what you like to hear. They must tell you the truth, 100%. If they becoming manipulators, twisting the truth of the Torah because they want to find favor in your eyes, or they want your check, or they want you to give them a like in Facebook, They're not rabbis. They're already Reform. That's what the Reform people do. They modify the Torah based on their convenience. Reform doesn't have to be a gay rabbi. It can be someone who knows a lot of Torah and speaks beautifully, but 5 times in a lecture modifies the truth of the Torah to make people happy, to make people like what he says, to make people give him a like. To make people send him money online while he's speaking. Those are the reasons. Or he was educated in the wrong way. He belongs to some cult or something and they brainwash him with all kinds of nonsense. He believes it. We only care what the Torah really says. Everything else is maybe true, maybe not. What's written, that's all we care about. So now the Torah say, the Torah say, we read it yesterday, if you follow me, you are mine. If you not, you belong to the goyim. So you have to make a decision. You want to belong to Hashem or you want to belong to Avosat? Or Chris, or Hillary Clinton. You have to make a decision. Who you want your boss to be? The Creator of the world? The Master of Universe? Or any politician, or any wicked person? You have to make a decision. The Torah continue. You have to be holy.

Who?

Every Jew, not only the Baba Sali or the Lubavitcher Rebbe or Rav Eliyahu Shevo Avovadia, no, no, no. Every ordinary Jew, boy and girl, young, old, smart, stupid, rich, poor, sharp, not sharp, whatever the case is, the Torah say you must be holy. The Torah did not say all rabbis or all presidents of the community have to be holy. That's not what the Torah say. The Torah say, you, the entire nation of Israel, must be holy. The question is, what does it mean you have to be holy? How you become holy? The way you dress? Wrong. The size of your beard? Wrong. How you become holy? Define holy. What does Hashem want? I don't understand. A person drive a taxi all day on the street, summer, this, that. How can he be holy? 90% of his days in horrible places, horrible neighborhoods, customers that speaks all kinds of kifirah in his cab. How can he be holy? What does it mean to be holy? Let's start with that. Separated. Separated from whom? Separated from the culture of the goyim and from their ideology. Separated from their behaving. Separated. All Jews have this obligation. I want to ask you now, you know every Shabbat we read apart from the haftarah, from the prophets. Who knows why? Why we read Maftir? What's the reason we have to read a part from the prophets or the kings? We already read the Parashat Shavua. Why we have to read something from the Nach? It was a persecution. They didn't want the Jews to learn Torah, so we had to change it. We had to think about it. Rabbis had to think about it. Great answer, exactly the truth. When the goyim made decrees, they are not allowed to read in the Torah, you're not allowed to preach, you're not allowed to read the Torah in public. What the Jews didn't know what to do. Well, after a few years, people will forget the order of the chapters. So what are we gonna do? So they say to the goyim, don't worry, we're not gonna We're not going to read in the Torah. We respect you. We're only going to read what our rabbis said, not what God said. The goyim, they knew that the power of the Jews is by them being connected to the Torah of Hashem. So first decree was you cannot learn Torah. What do you care what I learn? No, no, if you learn Torah, it's my end. I want to make you weak. How do I make you weak? I make you not learn Torah. What else? What else? No brit milah. Don't make brit milah. Why? I want you to be like me. If you don't make brit milah, you're like a goy. You're like a goy. You have nothing special. You're not the chosen people. Very good. I defeat you like that. Rosh Chodesh. You're not allowed to announce Rosh Chodesh. What do you care about Rosh Chodesh? Because we want you not to fast on Yom Kippur. We don't want you to know when is Yom Kippur. We don't want you to know when is Rosh Hashanah, the Judgment Day. We want you to eat hametz and Pesach. By that, we're gonna make you all go in. The goyim did not say let's kill them. They just say let's turn them to be like us, that they won't be the nation of Israel. Now I want to ask you a question. Where in the Haftarah you found a connection to Parashat Kedoshim? We read the Parasha of Kedoshim. That's a chapter from Yechezkel. Hashem said to the Jewish nation after 900 years that he was frustrated from our behavior. He said, what, you're gonna ask me to forgive you? You're gonna ask me to pretend that nothing happened? I'm telling you in advance, I will not forgive you and I will not cooperate with your nonsense. Tell me now, what's the connection between the Aftarah to Parashat Kedoshim? Who realized? First thing I always do is I want to see the connection. I read the Aftarah, oh, here it's talking about one thing the Parasha spoke about. Ha, what's the connection? I'll tell you what's the connection. The Aftara spoke about Shabbat. How many times is mentioned Shabbat in Aftara? Who paid attention? How many times? 4 times in one page. 4 times in the words of the Prophet, and you should keep Shabbat, you should keep my Shabbatot, and you should not disrespect Shabbat. 4 times in one speech. 4? I do it once every speech. Gotta push Shabbat in every lecture. 4 times? Don't you think they got the point already? Once, twice, it's enough. How is Shabbat's connection to Parashat Kedoshim? There are other places in the Torah that speaks about Shabbat. It's mentioned Shabbat shortly in a parasha, but not highlight Shabbat like other places in the Torah. Veshamru Bnei Yisrael to Shabbat. There's other places. What's the connection between Shabbat and Kedoshim Tihiyu? The answer is the only way to be a kosher Jew and separate you from the goyim is to be shomer Shabbat. I'll prove it to you. If you come to a person that's starting to do teshuvah, he's starting to come to classes, starting to put tefillin, eating kosher, right? You ask him, hey, Yitzchak, you saw him putting tefillin. Yitzchak, what, you became religious? No, no, no big deal. So I got nervous. So next day I say, "Itzik, excuse me, is the meat here is kosher? What kind of habanero? Padak, steak, mach food? Okay, so make me a burger please." "Itzik, what, you become religious?" "No, big deal, man." Consciously, he said, "No problem." Okay, everything he will do, it's it. You become religious. No, don't be fanatic. I'm not religious. Once he became Shomer Shabbat, it's it. You became religious. He cannot say no. Every other thing, he can still deny it. Once he became Shomer Shabbat, There's no denying. It's a— you become— because once you become Shomer Shabbat, you cannot claim that you're not religious. Why? Because Shabbat is the foundation of Judaism. That's why it's written 7 times in Shulchan Aruch that someone that does not keep Shabbat is count 100% 100% like a non-Jew in the eyes of Hashem. 100% like a non-Jew. No difference between him and Ahmed the Chris and Mustafa and all the rest. Not only that, even when he dies, you cannot bury him in a Jewish kosher cemetery. You have to bury him on the other side of the wall in a section of non-Shabbat. Like go in, you cannot bury tzaddik with rasha together. And there is no bigger Rashad than Mechalen Shabbat in the Torah. Two sins make you lose your Jewish status. If you are a murderer, you're still a Jew. If you eat pork every day, you're still a Jew. If you are the biggest crook in business, you're still a Jew. Madoff, still a Jew if he was Shomer Shabbat. Every crime you commit, you are a wicked Jew, but you are a Jew. Two sins make you become a goy. You become officially like a goy. Mechalel Shabbat and oved avodah zarah. Like the Rambam say in Shulchan Aruch. Shulchan Aruch say 7 times, mechalel Shabbat arei ukei goy lechol davar. If you touch the wine, the wine is completely like a goy. Texting on Shabbat, touching electric, ripping toilet paper on the lines, lighting fire, driving a car, turning the computer on. Sometimes, unfortunately, even from kids, they get the impression that they can text each other on Shabbat. Who told you that? Turning your phone on? The light goes on, you type, you write. Two letters you write, already is Kiddush Shabbat. Two letters. And some say, "No, Rabbi, but it's rabbinical. It's not the Oraita. You don't get stoning and cut for the soul. I will never light a cigarette. I wait until after Shabbos. I will not start the engine of my car because I understand it's death penalty." But texting is only rabbinical. First of all, it's not so true. But even if it was true, every rabbinical restriction in the Torah, it's also from God. Because in Parashat Shoftim, Hashem says everything they tell you and instruct you, you must listen to them. Do not move left or right from everything they instruct you. And every divine who would not listen to the should be put to death, and you clean the bed out of your, out of your place. They had another problem. They, they instructed halacha In front of Moshe and Aharon. They are the chief rabbis, the leaders. And Nadav and Avihu, as great as they were, they were not allowed to do what they did. But I don't get it. I'm sure Moshe didn't care, and I'm sure Aharon didn't care that his own son answer a Lacha or something. If it was strangers, maybe it would hurt your respect. Why you answer? I'm the rabbi here. No, okay, at least we understand what you're saying. But if your own son answers to the guest something, what, he has to die now? It's the last thing you want as a parent, that your son will die because he answered someone a lacher. And Moshe, the uncle, he would want them to die? He would suffer for the rest of his life for it. Why Hashem is so angry? What's the big deal? They don't care, Moshe and Aaron. If they don't care, why you care? They didn't make a big deal out of it. The answer is the Torah came to teach the rest of the generations how to behave. And since it's a big thing in the eyes of Hashem that someone may even a little bit disrespect the Chacham, Already the Torah wanted to show you what Hashem thinks about it. Today, in the last year, we found people that are religious or call themselves religious that had the highest level of chutzpah and arrogance and pride. The highest. I never saw in my life such thing. It opened up my eyes in the last year. People that are religious by teshuvah 10, 20, or even more years, and what do they do? Write comments in the internet against who? Against Rav Chaim Kanievsky, against Rav Asher Weiss, against Rav Silberstein, against Rav Sternbuch, against Rav Yitzchak Yosef, against Rav Mazuz, against Rav Shalom Cohen. Against Rav Ben Zion Mutzafi and few other gedolei olam. Why? Vaccines. They're anti-vaccine. Okay, nobody tells you to be pro-vaccine or anti-vaccine. If that's your opinion, that's what you believe in, you watch a thousand nonsense YouTube videos and you made up your mind that vaccine will kill you and everybody in Israel will die, which Baruch Hashem, now one died, But this is your opinion, keep it for yourself. You don't want to go get vaccinated, stay home. You want to take the risk, you want to die, whatever will happen, it's between you and Hashem. If Hashem thinks you went against the Torah, he will punish you severely. If Hashem thinks it's no big deal, he will let you go. Why do you dare to stand and convince the whole world to rebel against the biggest Rabbis in the world, Sefardi and Ashkenazi and Hasidish. Where do you get the nerve from? Nadav and Avihu never dared to offend Moshe and Aharon in their face or to disrespect them in their face. God forbid. But they did it anyway with not that much attention for what they did, and they died instantly. People who actually declare a war against the opinions of Gedolim Torah, they don't know what they're talking about, they're not doctors. I went to university, I know better than them. What does Rav Chaim Kanievsky know about mRNA, whatever it's called? What does he know about it? That's the problem, they don't understand that if the Chachamim ruled that you gotta take it, even if there was a life-threatening risk in it, Hashem is automatically has to defend the nation. Hashem is not going to make 9 biggest rabbis in the world make thousands of Jews die because of them. Cannot be. And if it will be, that means our end had to arrive anyway. If it wouldn't be this, a nuclear bomb will fall on our head, God forbid. If Hashem decided that all of us would die, then he would make the Chachamim make mistake. And everyone would die. But it doesn't look like Hashem wants us to die, because in the end you saw that he sent us the vaccine that saved us. Without this, we would be like now in Brazil, you know, in India. Brazil and India, 3,000 to 4,000 people a day, and it grows every day more than yesterday. Every— soon you're gonna hear in India 30,000, 40,000 people dying in a day. Holocaust in India. It can get— it can come to millions of people dying every month. It's a snowball. It doesn't grow from 10 to 20, from 20 to 30, from 30 to 40. 10 become 20, 20 become 40, 40 become 80, 80 become 200. That's how it grows. But Hashem saved us. So you don't agree? Be quiet. Rachamin, say something. Be quiet. What's your opinion about it? Doesn't matter. It's not relevant. Why? You're a doctor. Avraham Kanievsky says something, it does not matter anymore what I think. That's a kosher Jew. That means to think like Hashem. Hashem says everything they say, you must listen to them. Do not move left or right from what they say, because if you will, you don't deserve to live. That's written in the Torah in Parashat Chofim. Don't open your mouth. They open a new university for women. Maybe it's a good idea. Maybe. Maybe it's good that women will learn computers and they bring parnassa home and help their husband that learns Torah. That they will have a little bit more comfortable life. That they won't get depressed. That the kids will grow healthy. There's a lot of fantastic things maybe in it. That's our opinion. But what happened if Rav Chaim Kanievsky would come and say, close it, it's not good, it will bring destruction. End of story. Kosher Jew knows when to close his mouth. If you remember a few years ago, one guy from New York came up with the kosher switch. Kosher switch, you can light on Shabbos. Hit the button, the computer randomly decides when it will turn the lights on. You don't turn it on, the computer will. When you press the button, it only moves a piece of plastic. So now the computer will begin randomly to send pulses. One of them would light the light randomly. Sometimes after 2 seconds, sometimes after 7 seconds. Halachah Suddenly he went to a few big rabbis. They all said it's kosher, no problem whatsoever. They gave him letters. They gave him even a video. I saw them. He came to me. I checked it. I said, I don't see any problem. I even spoke about it in my lectures. Wow, it's going to prevent millions of kilolei Shabbat. Install it in every secular home. They turn electric hundreds of times every Shabbat. At least none of— it's gonna prevent billions of Chilul HaShabbat. It's gonna save our nation from all this tragedy. I was so excited, so happy. Everywhere you're gonna have it. You run to the hospital, you're stuck. Your wife giving birth, you did not prepare anything. You can turn things on. I thought it's gonna make a revolution in the Teshuvah world. All of a sudden, Rabbi Belsky came out. One of the doleador in America, says it's completely not kosher. A day later, Avraham Kamievsky, not kosher. Few more days later, another 2 or 3 big doleitor say it's not kosher. I came up right away, my first lecture, I remember it was in Englewood, New Jersey. Everything you heard from me about the kosher switch, please forget. I don't understand why it's not kosher, But it's not relevant. All the biggest Rabbanim say not to do it. End of story. That's it. That's the way a Jew has to think. I think yes. The big Chacham say no. Okay, Chacham, no problem. You know. Same thing with your doctor. What do we know about medicine? Nothing. We come to the doctor, the doctor check you out, say, "I want you to go to specialist now. Don't go home." Go quickly. Why, why, why? I feel good, I'm strong, I just came out from the gym. I don't have any problem, no fever, no weakness, nothing is wrong with me. No, no, I saw something on your skin, run quickly. What? It's nothing, I have it for 2 years. Run quickly. If you don't run, you're the biggest fool. Maybe in a month you'll be dead already. You know, melanoma, all these things. It looks nothing. It goes inside and kills you, cancer. Lo Alemu. People died from it. It looks like nothing. For ignorant people, it's nothing. For a skin doctor, it's a big thing. Immediately, don't wait another day. So when you come to specialist, you know that he knows better than you, right? Why when you come to the biggest rabbi in the world, all of a sudden and you think you know better than them. So this is Rabotai, this means to think like Hashem. I have to read the Torah many, many times every week, the parasha of the week again with Rashi, with English translation. A lot of teenagers, I tell them, read the parasha. No, it's so long. I learned Gemara all week in yeshiva. It's hard. Listen, you fool, it's for your own good. In few years from now, you're gonna bless me every day of your life. If every year you can do the cycle seriously, 2-3 hours before Shabbos, Friday, on Shabbat, you read the whole Parasha in art scroll with Rashi and English translation, even women, after 6-7 years, you will know the Chumash perfectly. You know all the details, you know what subject is in which parasha, you know what it means. Most Jews don't know anything about Chumash. It's such a disgrace. Even people who know a lot of Mara, when you speak about the parasha, they don't know anything, some of them. How do you become a brain surgeon before you check what Advil does to the body? I don't get it. Even in medicine, you have to have the right order. First, you check about the nerve system and about the body and about the heart and about the body temperature, the basic things. Then you go into the brain. You don't go right away to the brain and try to operate on it. If you don't know Chumash, why are you running into Gemara and put all your life into it? Even the Rambas says, the Rambam, that says that you have to learn Gemara all your life. He said this is only after you know Chumash and Malachah. From now on you'll learn Gemara for the rest of your life. They think it's a punishment. A father should make a test for his children. I'm going to ask you 20 questions on a Parsha. Come Friday night or Shabbos morning ready. I don't care when you're going to learn it. You have all week. I'm testing you. What did What this pasuk means, what Rashi said about this. If you prepare it, believe me, after a few years, the knowledge you will have in Torah. Now, why it's important to learn Chumash? Because you learn how Hashem thinks. When it comes to gays, you see what Hashem thinks about them. When it comes to politicians, you see what Hashem thinks about them. For instance, when Shmuel and Moshe gives a speech to the nation, Moshé and Shmuel. Shmuel is a huge hacham, big, big prophet, great prophet, equal like Moshé and Aharon, the Gemara says. So two of the greatest people ever lived, Moshé Rabbeinu and Shmuel. Both of them, they started the speech to the nation in the same way. All of All of you know that I did not receive anything from you. Shmuel says, even the donkey, meaning a car in our days, even a donkey that you had to sponsor for me as I come to teach you, I need transportation, it was your obligation to get me a donkey, even a donkey I refused to accept from you. I bought it with my own money. When Moshe starts a speech like that and Shmuel starts a speech like that, what do you learn right away about rabbis and leaders of community? What do you learn? Huh? It's true that we should stick to the tradition But you can learn it from different places. What do you learn from the opening statement of both speeches? You cannot accuse me of having taken any bribe or anything. Nobody talks about bribe here. Even things that you are obligated to give me, which is not a bribe, a payment, I did not receive from you. Why both leaders chose to start their rebuke to the nation with this statement? They want to say that you— we don't owe you anything. You shouldn't take anything from us. We don't owe you? Yeah, you don't— you don't owe us because we'd be obligated according to the Torah, right? Since we didn't give— we didn't— we didn't take anything from you, then we're not obligated to. Very very good, and I will add one more thing. That once you begin to charge money for your classes, and once people have to pay you money for your living, and you charge your students for your expenses, you lose your power to rebuke them. Because they think they own you. That's why Moshe and Shmuel say, listen, don't do us any favor here. We did not get anything from you. Everything we did for you was for free. So now you sit and be quiet and listen to what we have to say. Meaning, if you paid us thousands of dollars every day salary or every week, then you would have a claim against us. This is what you learn from here. So right away you learn that the right way to influence a person and make him a Baal Teshuvah if it's purely Leshem Shamayim, not for business and money and donations. Don't worry, the donations will come. Hashem will give enough donations for you to continue to walk unless he does not want you to walk. Okay, but the fact that I'm starting my statement with I did not receive anything from you, that's a big thing. They should have said to Shmuel, what Nafkamina we have? Who cares if you receive or not? Why are you telling us this? We never care to give you anything. But they didn't say a word, meaning they knew that they have no say. Meaning if they did give him even a donkey that they owe him, they would say to him, please, please don't forget who sponsors you. Don't forget thanks to who you are Rabbi here. Don't forget who writes your check. Where do you see it in all the synagogues in the world that has a board of directors? They are the real Rabbi of the shul even though they don't know how to read Hebrew some of them. And some of them married to non-Jewish people. And some of them chalalei Shabbat. And some of them are just evil, proud people. Not always, sometimes. The rabbi is a picture on a wall over there. Why? If you would say something they don't like, they fire him. Which synagogues the rabbi can say whatever he wants? Synagogues that he opened with his own money, meaning people gave him money, he opened a congregation on his organization and build it and there's no board. No one here will tell me what to teach and what to say. You don't like it? Go to a different synagogue. Go to the conservative, cross the street. Those are the rabbis who can actually make a change. Everywhere else, they can't even speak about modesty. If we'll speak about the way the women dress, the women will make sure he won't be a rabbi for another week there. Moshe, did you fire the rabbi yet? What kind of a man you are? In your business everyone is afraid to make a deal and the rabbi insulted your own wife. He's talking about my wig and talks about my short skirt and you're quiet? I expect the rabbi to be out of here by tomorrow, no later than 7 AM. Eshet korach. Why? He touched her ego. She can't sleep at night from anger. 'Who does he think he is? What's the problem? How does he dare to talk about my wig that it's too long and too flashy and about my high heels and about my miniskirt? Mind his own business!' It's like someone said to the doctor, 'Ma'am, we have to get you in the operation room. You have spreading cancer and we have to do whatever we can to save your situation.' 'Mind your own business, you stupid doctor! Stupid doctor. Otherwise my husband will make sure they fire you from the hospital. I'm trying to save your life and you want to get me fired? That's— with rabbis it's fine, with doctors it sounds stupid, but with rabbis somehow it's fine. Why? Because people don't think like the Torah. When you give tzedakah You have to give tzedakah like the Torah say, not like your heart say. Your heart say, see homeless on the street, immediately you feel bad for him, you come give him $100. What is he going to do with that? Buy non-kosher food and eat with no bracha. Why didn't you give it to the bakuri yeshiva that is just as poor? At least with your money he's gonna do some mitzvot, kosher, this, buy kosher food, make brachot, learn more Torah because he's going to be less hungry. Something good will happen to the Jewish nation. Why are you giving it to a wicked person? He's only going to make more sins with your money. Why are you giving money to a mechalel Shabbos that is going to use your money to put gas in his car and drive the whole Shabbat? Why you buy someone tickets to Florida if you know the soul will be destroyed? Destroyed over there. It's my son, he's asking help. Tell your son, when you want to go to Monsey to learn yeshiva, I'll sponsor the tickets and whatever you need over there. You want to go to Florida, you buy the ticket. Yes, I said to one parent, his daughter is getting married, she wants 3 weeks It's in style now. Not one. One for weekdays, one for Shabbos, and one half week, whatever that means. Don't ask me, I don't know what it means. So a few thousand dollars. And of course, it's impossible to find a short week everywhere. It's all very long. So I said to the father, you're paying for everything? Yes. Say to your daughter, you want 3 weeks? They have to be above the shoulder, I'll pay for them. You want them to be long, you pay for them. That's it. I'm not paying for your sins. I'm not gonna pay you to be machiata rabim, that every man on the street would look at you. I'm not gonna pay you if you want to buy high heels that everyone looks at your legs when you walk. I'm not gonna buy all these lipsticks that you put that are not kosher. Caution and provocative. You have to think like Hashem before you do something. Is Hashem approving it or not? Hashem is happy that I'm gonna write that check to this person, or he's gonna be upset? My heart is hurt because he's suffering, but do I have an obligation to help him, or Hashem will get angry at me? If you have a Nazi Nazi that killed your grandparents in Europe, and he puts online that he needs donations for food. Would you want to help him? "Ah, but we're not gonna be like them. They are bad, but we are not like this. We are merciful Jews. I will even help someone like that." That's Hasid Shotek. Why do you need to give the Nazi money when Bachorei Yeshiva, you're starving across the street. When you finish paying for all the poor Jews, your brothers and sisters, and you have a lot of money left, then we'll worry about the enemies of Israel. Right now there are priorities. Yes.

Yeah, I wanted to ask you, um, when you gave the example of the wigs and the children who want to buy the staples and the high-heeled shoes, today the Midolim have turned around and said, so just give your children love and understand them, and that's the only way they will come back. They don't need your money to buy the high-heeled shoes. If you don't support it, they'll get it somewhere else. And the fact that you say no and it's not fair, etc., etc., is not encouraging these children to come back.

There's no contradiction between giving the children a lot of love, but at the same time, we have to tell them what's right Then what's wrong? If the kid will say, "I want to marry Christine and I want you to buy me a house and to pay for my wedding and to pay for the priest who will come perform the ceremony," would you do that? That's considered to give them love. "I will pay for your marriage to Christine." Or if it's a gay child and he says, "I want to marry my boyfriend, but I want you to pay it and I want you to pay me." I want you to buy me this, and I want you to buy me that, and I want you to buy me a $20,000 diamond ring because I want to put it on my husband's finger. And if you don't give it to me, it shows you don't love me. You're not a good parent.

No, but it's safe to redline. Don't say to do that. The example of the short skirts and the high-heeled shoes, the Gadolim do say, and there was a massive battle recently who had a child who was not halal Shabbat, and he He said, please come to my house for Shabbos. And he came with his car keys and he sat at the table and said, I need to watch a Shiva. And they said the only reason he came back in a few days wasn't because of that.

Again, like I said, no contradiction. It doesn't mean that if you're not agreeing to pay for someone's sins that you don't love him. You give him a lot of love. There was a Shaila.

Should a father pay for the child who wants a car to drive on Shabbos?

I'll tell you what, I know who you're talking about. You talk about Rabbi Adlerstein. There was an interview with Rabbi Adlerstein. There's not one gadol in the world that agree with what he say.

That's his opinion.

I didn't hear about Rabbi Yakovilel, but every other gadol would— you would ask if you have to pay for your children's sins, if your daughter wants to wear provocative clothes and walk naked on the street, if you have to buy her the clothes and agree that she will bring a goy boyfriend into your house and he will sit with you on your Shabbos next to him?

I've got all of my friends, all the first kids agree.

Who? Give me names, I want to hear.

Rav Kanievsky in America, they had Roshteyn behind him, they had all of his other friends.

I never saw it. I know that when Rav Adlerstein answered that question, I asked a few people and they ask around, nobody agree with that. To give them love, it's no contradiction, but there has to be a limit. You have other children in the house. You're gonna let someone come to the house and do whatever they want? You're gonna lose your other 5 children. What do you think? Why? They are less than them. So you want to help them when they're isolated, when they're around, when they're somewhere else, they're making their scenes far away, and you want to give them benefits to become better. So you give them a lot of love. I'm your child, I'm your parent unconditionally. All of that I agree. No question about it. But to come to buy your daughter clothes that she will walk naked on the street in front of the whole community just because you want to give them love, I totally disagree with that. I never saw in the Torah anything like that. The Torah said the opposite. You can go to Rav Chaim Kanievsky and ask him yourself and tell me what he say. I'm telling you, he would not agree. That you should pay for your children your sins. Again, give them love, yes. Help them when it comes to certain things. Everything has to be a question to a rabbi. Rabbi, my child wants— he wants me to give him $10,000 to buy heroin and needles. And he says if I'm not giving it to him, I'm not a good parent. Should I buy him or not? Ask the rabbi. Should I buy him or not? Most rabbis would say no, absolutely not. You don't want your child to die. Also, if your son say, "I want to marry a non-Jewish girl and I want you to help me with that." If you help him with that, you destroy his soul. All his children will be goyim. So you're not helping him. That's not love. That's hate. Someone that hate his child will help him to marry a non-Jewish girl or to bring her on Shabbos to the table. There has to be a limit. We cannot bring the Torah to the ground just to satisfy the spoiled children around. You understand? I don't understand that we get lower and lower and they only take more and more advantage. There has to be a limit. Enough is enough. You're gonna continue with this? Find yourself another place to do it. Not over here. There's other children here. You don't want to follow the Torah? Why should I give my life for you?

Have you heard of Rabbi Avi Fishof?

He is a good friend of mine. Okay. And I speak to him, and certain things that he does I agree with, and some of the things he does I totally disagree with, and we're still very good friends.

He's got all of the d'olam back in his heart.

He only went to Rav Adelstein, that's the video he made, and I asked him, can you go back to Rav Adelstein and show me one source to what he say? I'm waiting 2 years for that. Okay, I'm not gonna speak against a Gadol Batorah. So if that's his opinion, if you follow him in everything he does, you have nothing to worry about. When you come to Hashem and he asks you, why did you buy a very long sheitel or a yilz or miniskel, you will say, Rav Adosh Ten told me to do that. My rabbi disagree, he said not to do this. Okay, so, okay, difference of opinion. But I'm sure that inside your heart you know what the Torah really says to do. That again, it's no contradiction to give the children love, to respect them, to encourage them even when they're not learning so much. You give them a push, you give them good words to build them up. That's no problem. Everybody must do it. Today, for instance, today the Gemara said to be very strict with the kids and even violent sometimes. Today it's not gonna work. Everybody agrees today violence only turns things to become worse because the ego of the children and their arrogance is the highest it's ever been. So therefore, if you're gonna smack a child on purpose, it's gonna do everything to do the opposite from now on.

They want. It turns them off and it makes them bitter and it makes them angry.

First of all, you have to know that many, many big doleitorah does not agree at all. According, according to many important doleitorah, a woman that wear a sheitel, she will be in a very bad place in hell.

I asked Rav Yaakov Hillel himself.

Rav Yaakov Hillel, with all the respect, we talking about Rav Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, the biggest— I'm talking about the biggest chacham on our generation for Sefardim. According to Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, a woman that wear a sheitel guaranteed to go to hell. Now I'm not coming to tell you his opinion and that's it, because I know there's other Ashkenazi rabbis that allow wigs, but even those who allow it say that it cannot be too flashy and too puffy and too long. It has to be a limit because in the end the wigs are meant for modesty, not to become more provocative. You understand? So everyone will do what his rabbi tell him. So if they don't want to listen, you can't force them. They already get married. Your daughter, she's a woman on her own. She's not going to listen to you for the rest of her life. She has her own life. But why should I pay for for it. That's the point. You want to make sins according to my understanding of the Torah, what you do is wrong. Why should I sponsor it? Find someone else to sponsor. I'll sponsor every mitzvah you do. It's not about being stingy. When you tell me I want to do this and this and that, or I need money to do something positive, I'll give you 5 times more than the week's. But when you do something— they actually admire because they know when you're honest, they admire it. Maybe they give you an argument in the beginning, but after a while they know you're right. But again, everybody must do what his rabbi tells him. If a kosher rabbi, like she mentioned kosher names, Rav Adelstein, Rav Yaakov Eletz, these are big chachamim, ask them what to do, whatever they say, you clean in shamayim. You understand? I say what my rabbi says. And some other big rabbis that I heard their opinions, there is a limit to how much you have to bargain with children in order for them not to think you hate them. You know, and remember, some kids are manipulators. They take advantage. They realize, for instance, a lot of kids, they know, I need this, my father won't give it to me, but my mother will. So they go to the mother. Then there's something else. The mother won't give it, but the father will, so they go to the father. Or if both of them will not give, so they go to someone that can influence the parent. This is manipulation. They know I need to get what I want regardless if it's kosher or not. I want to get it. So this is it. Again, no, I'm not arguing. The kids in this generation needs a lot of love and attention and support, and there are many things that they do wrong that it's better not to make a big deal out of it. There is a lot of things that I agree with, but to give them money to commit the biggest crimes against Hashem, let's not go that far. Any more questions? We give a few more minutes for questions and then we'll finish. Yes.

Um, as far as doing kiruv with the unaffiliated and lashomer shabbat, Shabbat is so difficult for a mashiah. I remember in one of your sharings, I remember you saying that you really understood what it was like to be in the middle of an inch. So when— can you give any tips on when you're talking to the unaffiliated, how do you help them, encourage them to do Shabbat when they know, oh, that's so hard, I can't do it?

You want to influence someone that is not shomer Shabbat to be shomer Shabbat? First thing you have to do is there are films of some good speakers that speaks about Shabbat, explain the beauty of it, what Shabbat is for, why Hashem gave it before the Torah, a lot of positive things about Shabbat, and they begin to understand what it is. Because in life, if a person doesn't understand what he does, it's going to be very difficult for him to follow. So if the more they understand about it, the better it is. If the nice way does not work, then you send them to my film. That will work for sure. I have a film about Shabbat. After they watch it, they will never dare to be in Khaled Shabbat. Yes? I think you mentioned it in your speech, but I want to listen it again with my devote of my— Okay. Look, I'm I'm a medical doctor. Yes. I work with vaccines for 30 years. Yes. I don't have a PhD in biogenetics, but almost. I'm disappointed, disappointed about medicine. I want to tell you, I don't think this is a vaccine. This is not good for humanity. But at the same time, I have a philosophy. I mean, philosophy for years. Yeah. And if I were there with Malkaniensky, I didn't have that food or I'm not that much happier to be there. I will tell him another story. You have to know one thing. There is a very big specialist in medicine. His name is Rabbi Elimelech Firel. Even the biggest doctors in Israel consult with him what to do with specific patients, where to send them, what to give them, when to perform a surgery. He's so big in medicine, he's 40 years learning around the clock. Bark everything in medicine. That doctors admitted on a video, big doctors in Israel, Israel has some of the best doctors in the world, you know. The level of learning in medicine in Israel is the highest in the world, among the highest. And all the big doctors in America, many of them are Israelis. You know, in Israel almost all the doctors are Arab because all the Israeli doctors Doctors are in America making millions. Everywhere you go, Israeli doctor, Israeli gynecologist, Israeli cardiologist. You meet a lot of Israeli doctors in America. They went after the big money. But you have to know one thing: nobody argue that Rav Elimelech feeler know medicine than any doctor here in Israel. And he checked the vaccine from A to Z, everything. And he came to all the biggest rabbis in the world and told them it's perfectly safe, you have nothing to worry. Based on him and some other opinions that they heard, they ruled that everybody must take it. Not allowed to take, must take it. After that, today, 3 months later, Israel, instead of having 100,000 dead people that we could have had by now, stuck, Baruch Hashem, on 6,300. And yesterday nobody died. I think today Today nobody dies. The last few weeks almost nobody died. You know who dies? Only those who did not get vaccine. For me, nothing can be more clear than that. Does it have a risk? Every medicine has a risk. Every pill you put in your body may have side effects. Every operation may have side effects. Everything in medicine can turn wrong. Even the best doctors in the world, you know, in the middle of the surgery can mess up. We go by the odds. If the biggest rabbis in the world rule to take it, we do what Hashem told us. If something bad will happen to us, we come to Hashem and we'll tell him, I follow Rav Chaim Kanievsky and this is what happened. The rest is not in my hand. You understand? That's the way a Jew has to think. If a Jew prefers to listen to doctors and professors videos from YouTube than to listen to Gedolei Torah. That's because he does not know what Torah is. If he would listen to the Torah, he would know the Torah says when a person is sick, he will go to the rabbi first and then to the doctor. Why to the rabbi first? I tell you why. Because when the rabbi gets upset and the rabbi's broken heart that he's too sick and he begin to pray on it for him. Now when he goes to the doctor, he may have, let's say, a serious cancer in his body. He may not have a chance to live. But the fact that he went to the rabbi first before the doctor told him the bad news, he only have pain, he came to the rabbi and the rabbi said, I'm giving you a blessing, you should be healthy, I will daven for you and all that. Because of that, when he came to the doctor, between the rabbi and the doctor, Hashem took away the disease. Why? For the merit of the Chacham, because the Chacham is praying for him or gave him a blessing. However, if you will go to the doctor first and then go to the rabbi, by now will not help because the doctor already told him that he's dying. Now for the rabbi to take it out of his body, you need a very big merit like Avraham Avinu, and nobody in this generation has such a merit. That's why most likely he will die. But if he went to the Chacham before the bad news was published, meaning the Chacham with his blessing made Hashem take away the disease and no one knows that he had it. So sometimes people go to the Rabbi, the Rabbi gives them a blessing, then they run to the hospital, they make an MRI, And the doctors come after 2 days and say, don't worry, everything is clean. Baruch Hashem. They don't know that they had actually, but Hashem took it away. Why? Thanks to this big Chacham. You understand how it works? So when you go to the Chacham, we're talking a spiritual help. Doctors can help you physically if Hashem wants. Chacham is above nature. It's a different story. Yes. earlier about going to these Midrashot and asking Shabbos, and the Gadol says something in Talmud, but you do not agree. Like, for example, what this woman was saying before about how a certain Gadol said it's okay to buy a shaper like that or a skirt like that. But if a person is just looking for kulas, it's not their Rav that they're asking, but they know that a certain Rav would allow something. That's not called asking. Right, it only works if that's your road. You're listening. But if you sit there looking to fill your tigers, that's not the last thing. 100%. You, you, you already said the correct answer. Running to look for any rabbi that will justify your desires, that's not asking a shayla. You have to have a rabbi that is kosher and a chacham, and you ask him everything what to do, and whatever he say, whether he's lenient or strict, you follow. But sometimes when, for instance, about vaccines, if we had 4 biggest rabbis in the world say take it and 4 biggest rabbis in the world say do not take it, then we don't have a unanimous decision. You want to take it, take it. You don't want to take it, go like this. No problem. However, when all the biggest rabbis say you must take it at that moment nobody should make a beep. That was my point. For instance, if Rav Chaim Kanievsky would say one thing and Rav Adelstein or few other rabbis, Silberstein and big Chachamim, Rav Mazuz, would say don't take it, then we have eleke negedele, machloke tapoiskim, right? So you go to your own rabbi, what should I do? Whatever he recommend you should do, but you would not be punished by disrespecting dolei Torah. Because you come to Shamayim, they will tell you, why didn't you listen to Rav Chaim? You say, I listen to Rav Gershon. What's the difference? They're Gadol and this is Gadol. So we have to know the rules. But overall, you're right about what you say.

Yes, on the same topic, recently my husband told me, in the name of a, a big Rav, but I don't want to say the name because I don't want to get it wrong, um, that when a Rav tells you to do something, it's not— you don't have to listen to it. Hashem gives us the ability to make our own decisions, and if you don't, that's okay also.

The fact that Hashem gave us the ability to do things and to choose— you're right, we cannot ask a rabbi every 2 minutes what to do. We have thousands of things that we have to do in a month. Imagine you have to call the rabbi 500 times a day, 24 hours. If you want to rinse your hand, or you want to do this, or you want to use this bathroom or the bathroom upstairs, or my son did that, or I should put the guest over here— there's a lot, there's a lot of questions you can— I have people like this that they ask me question I don't understand. What, you cannot figure it out yourself? This you have to ask a rabbi? You're right. Not to be too much of a nudnik, but there are some question you must ask a chacham. It's not for an ordinary person to know what to do. Like, you have a dilemma where to put your kid, in this yeshiva or in that yeshiva. This yeshiva has a few good things and few bad things, and this yeshiva has a few good things and bad things, and you do not know what bad things are more critical. So you don't know how to put it on a scale and decide. You must ask the rabbi, and you must do what he says. So whoever told you that if If you go to a posek or chacham and ask him a sheilah in halacha, after what he say, it's only a recommendation, it's wrong. If you ask, you must do. You can ask, you can go in advance and say, Rabbi, I'm not asking you for psak, I just want to know your opinion. That's a different story. But if you come and ask what to do, I want to buy a house in Ramat Beit Shemesh in this street, but there is such and such problem. Should I buy it? Please tell me yes or no. Buy it, end of story. Don't buy it, end of story. You may ask why. Can I ask why? I'll tell you his reason. That's it. So rabbis are not a roulette that, you know, if he comes on a number you like, you'll do it, and if it doesn't come on a number you like, you'll ignore it. It doesn't work this way. You come and ask a person, a chacham, we have a tradition that Hashem is answering us through the holy mouth of the chief rabbis. Of course, we're talking about big chachamim. Not every beginner speaker becomes already the gedolador. Talking gedolei Torah, everybody knows their whole life, their entire life, they're deep in the Torah. They learn. They became in everything and they very solid. And you ask the Torah from Dolehadot. More questions before we finish? Any? Oh, Hashem. I would like to—

yeah, I was just going to ask, when is your new book coming out in English?

The new book in English is basically ready. It just has to go to printing. Another 2, 3 weeks, anyone wants to the old book in English. I still have, I think, some in our car. And we're going to pray now after the lecture and Sfirat HaOmer. I would like to thank Shachar Shamai and his wonderful wife. We also have a seminar next Shabbos in Yerushalayim. Baruch Hashem, we're able to go back to to make seminars after 9 months that everything was closed. Thank Hashem for that, for all the wonderful kiruv work they do. Hashem shamayim. B'ezrat Hashem, we'll have more events. This lecture will be on YouTube live within a day or two. So b'ezrat Hashem, Rabbi Mizrahi, Ramat Beit Shemesh, you can share it with others. Thank you very much.