A speaker warns against marrying for wealth or status, using a woman fixated on a $6,000 Gucci bag as an example. He argues a partner from a Torah-centered, modest home will better support a life of faith and learning than one raised in business and luxury.
She wants to buy Gucci, Gucci, Gucci. Gucci she wants. I told her it's $6,000. She wants to do a show-off. Everybody comes with Gucci, Gucci, and she comes with Chinatown bag. She got tired of the comments. Ah, what is— what kind of bag? Come on. So she decided she also want a bag like that. $6,000. I said, you should take a girl from a simple home. Doesn't have to be poor, but not one of those millionaire prima donnas. You don't want a girl who grew up in a palace with servants, wakes up at 11 AM, go to the cafeteria to have her breakfast, lunch, whatever you want to call it, shopping half of her life. You don't want her. He asked me why. I said, she's never going to let you learn Torah. She did not grow up in a Torah world. If you get a girl, a daughter of someone that is ben Torah, that learns all his life, she appreciate the Torah. She saw her father learn Torah. She see her brothers learning Torah. The Torah is the main thing in the house. She will be a wonderful support for you. You get one of these wealthy girls who already managing their father multi-billion dollar businesses and, you know, she becomes a shark in a business. And you come and you want to sit and learn Torah, it's not going to be easy. You know, you can't go to a relationship without one penny in your pocket. So you need some help. It's complicated because some people are in such high level of faith that even with nothing they can marry and be peaceful and learn Torah and Hashem is going to do everything for them. My mother told me we didn't have money for food. We were eating every day bananas. That was the only thing we could afford for months. That's how— everyone was poor in Israel in those days. In 1940, who had money? 1 out of 1,000 people had money. Everybody else walked barefoot or with ripped shoes. 8 kids lived in 1 room. All the Gedolim Torah came from very simple homes. Even the few of them who came from wealthy homes, but they were completely inside the Torah, meaning the wealth did not even— they didn't even care about the wealth.
(English Subtitles) Debate: ראש בראש באולפן על תכלית החיים 💥 הרב יוסף מזרחי 🆚 נאור נרקיס
