Valentine's Day Rooted in Conditioning and Exploitation... Ep 19

Conscious intercourse.

Yes. Yes.

Yes. We're back again.

We are back. What's up, y'?

All? Another beautiful day.

Happy, happy hump day, right? You know, happy Post Valentine's Day.

Wow. Cupid is in the house. Yes.

For all those who celebrate it, you know, hopefully y' all had a memorable day and, you know.

Yeah. You know, Cupid. Cupid is at work right now, you.

Know, Cupid always at work.

Cuffing season, you know.

Yeah.

Is in full effect. And this is, you know, February is that month, right. It's Lovers month.

Lover's month, you know, in Black History Month.

Black History Month all in one. Right, Right. The shortest month.

The shortest month of the year is Lovers Month in Black History Month.

Right.

What's that about?

No, love is prevalent, Right. Because we're lovers, you know, black people. That's what we do. We make love. We love love. We make babies, you know, that's why we have so many children. That's why so many of us know, we're. We're always, you know, procreating. Procreating. It's in our music, right.

We love love.

It's in our culture. It's just what we do, you know, we. We love each other too much at times. You know what I'm saying?

Yeah. Too much, huh? Can it be? Can you love somebody too much? No.

I mean, you could love somebody's too much, you know, because they be trying to, you know, restrict only loving one person. But we want to love a multitude of people all the time.

Okay.

Right. All right. Yes. Because we. We got. We have so much love to give. Yeah. Why keep it only to one person when I spread the love?

Hey, to each his own. You know, Whatever floats your boat.

No, that's everybody. I think everybody's like that. I just think people are just conditioned otherwise, you know, to believe that they actually was something that they're not, you know. You know, on this program, you know, a lot of time, what we talk about is being conscious of our behaviors, of our action, Right. That's what conscious intercourse is all about, right?

Yes.

You know, it's like conscious intercourse is the liberation of humanity from the conditioning.

Yeah.

Because a lot of what we are and what we do is based on a preconceived notion that someone set forth a lot.

Absolutely.

For us to, you know.

But I also believe that each individual is, you know, is their own. Everybody don't. Everybody don't think the same way. And when it come to love in general, I believe we have the capacity to love many people. Yes. You Know, but, you know, when it comes to, like a romance or, you know, let's just say more so romance, you know, I think that's us individually, like, everybody. Some people think that, you know, maybe one person is good, monogamy is good, while the next person may be, like, open and polygamy or, you know, polyamorous relationships, whatever. Like, whatever floats your boat, allegedly.

Right? Because even, like you said, romance. What is that? Can you define romance for me?

Well, romance to me is more so thinking on. On the whole thing of lovers and, and, and, and. And. And, you know, like. Like feelings and a partnership, a romantic relationship, you know, involving intimacy.

Okay.

You know, to me, that. That's romance. Like, you know, can you Google that?

What does romance mean? We need. We need a definition of romance. What is. What is romance?

What is your definition? What is your definition?

I don't know what romance is. It's like this word has been.

Well, we know.

We. The.

The. The Roman.

You know, the words around, you know, like, to me, you know, French is my, you know, first language.

Right.

It's a romantic language. Right. They call. France is a romantic. French is considered a romantic language.

Right.

So what does that mean, romantic? Right. It's like, you know. Yes.

A feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.

A feeling of excitement.

A feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. So it's simply a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement and remoteness from everyday life.

Okay, repeat that last one.

A quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, or a remoteness from everyday life.

What does that actually mean?

I think it's more like bliss. So romance is more of like.

But so it's like a. It's a feeling. So we're talking about romance. It's a feeling.

It's a gratifying feeling. It's a temporary feeling too, you know, just like being happy, temporary.

So romance is temporary then?

I don't have to be.

No, no, but you just. Okay, hold on, hold on. You just said it was temporary feeling.

Just like being happy could be temporary, but you could be happy forever.

Can you.

It's up to you what you choose to do.

So romance then, to me is a feeling. That's what we just.

Romance is. Is defined as a feeling in the Oxford Dictionary.

Oxford Britannica.

I'm just saying Oxford definition is that. Yeah. So.

So, okay, so it's, you know, like I was going back to what I was saying, like this word romance. I've heard it my whole entire life. Right? And I remember, like I said, French was my first language when I came to America. I was like, oh, we love French. It's so romantic. I'm like, what does that actually mean? It's.

It's sexy to hear, right? Oh, my God. Is that a thing? What is that?

It's like the French talk. Really Parisians. Oh, you know, Come here, baby, let me kiss on your lips. You know, the French accent, you know? But you know, all I'm simply saying is that, right?

Hold up. Is it not okay? The romance. Really mean a romance in a relationship between two people who are in love with each other but who are not married to each other.

This gets exciting.

So romance, the whirlwind romance. The couple announced their engagement.

So they're giving examples. So. Of what? Romance?

I don't know. Why can't you have a. Okay. Anyway, that'll make. Imma. Stop there. I'm gonna stop there. But I think it's. Yeah, I think you define your romance.

It's a feeling, right? Suppose it's a feeling. It's a feeling of blissful. It could be. Is infatuation romance? In a sense?

Not necessarily.

Because it is. It's a feeling, right? That.

Says love. Love and infatuation is different.

So romance is defined as love. No, that's not what we read earlier. It's so exact. But it's not. Infatuation is associated with. So romance could be associated with infatuation as well, because you could be infatuated with someone and be romantic towards them.

This is true, right?

So romantic is more of a behavior or something, right? It's a feeling. It's a behavior. It's something that you.

It's you caring about pleasing someone or making someone else feel good. I think it's. It's. Or making each other feel good. Caring.

But. But is it. But at the same time, is it to make each other feel good? So, okay, for example, as a man, right, I could be romantic towards a woman if I'm trying to get something out of her. This is true, right? So then once I get that something, I may not want to be romantic anymore.

This is very.

But this happens all the time, right? So there was like, Is it really to. Was it really to please you, or was it really for me to get something from you?

It can be either or. Or all the above.

So it's like. This word is like. As I'm going back to, you know, when I was talking about romantic languages, the further I evolved in life, I then began to associate and learn rather that the reason it's called romantic languages has nothing to do with. What's the association with love?

Okay.

Like, for example, Spanish is considered a romantic language, right? Italians consider romantic languages, but it has nothing to do with romance as we defined it.

Sounds sexy.

It's. Right?

No, but it's, It's. It's. It's. It's exotic, especially if you're not, well, Spanish and, you know.

Well, the root word. One of the. The root word in Romance is Rome, right? So has. It was simply. These are languages that originated from the Latin language of Rome. So it simply just associated these things with Rome. Right, But a lot in the cultures.

Of Rome has come from that.

No, we've adapted. Have we adapted them or have we been forced upon these things?

Conditioning, right? But at the end of the day, yeah, these things are still feelings. Forget the word or whatever you want to call.

There are feelings that have been so conditioning, right?

The condition are they feeling that don't matter.

All I'm simply saying is conditioning is attached to feelings. That's part of the conditioning. For example, if you're conditioned to go get a job, and if you don't have this job, you lose your ability to pay your bills and provide for yourself, right? There's feelings associated with that conditioning, right? Feelings of fear, okay? There's fears of, you know, feelings of, like I said, fear, fear. Feelings of like, lack, not having certain things, not being able to provide for yourself. Right? Those feelings associated with conditions that we're put up under.

Absolutely, I agree.

So then it's like growing up, we're given these examples of what romance is, right? It's, you know, watching Bugs Bunny and, you know, what was the. The Ladybug? Yeah, you watch Bugs and Bugs and Bat. Did I ever. I never saw them together except for.

From time to time, you had to watch Tiny Tomb, so.

Yeah, exactly. Right, right. So the thing about it is, you got. We got these things were portrayed to us, right, By TV cartoons of what romance is, is the lady wants flowers, right? That's, you know, that was romantic gesture by man, right? You buy her flowers, you buy her chocolate, right? Those are the two biggest things, right? Flowers and chocolate. I remember when I came to America, there was this day that, you know, was called Valentine's Day, right? It was like. It was. You had to bring flowers or chocolate for a girl that you liked or, you know, you give her a little card. So it was all about romantically enticing the girl that you like. It was a holiday, really, for women, right? It was never. Because I don't never associate a Valentine's day with. Right.

It's more so, you know.

Right. But it's like, to the woman.

But they have a. You know, I don't know if I think it's just a Chicago thing, but it's called Swedish Day. Swedish.

Now we get it.

That's for the man.

Sweet, sweetest day. Yeah. Or the Swedish sweetest. Oh, sweetest. Like sweetest. Like sweet. Like in sugar.

Like sweetest day. Yes.

Is it, is it the same day as Valentine's Day?

No, it's an October.

It's the opposite of Valentine's. It's free. This is.

It's for the man.

Wow. I don't think I've ever heard of that.

Yeah. I think it might be either Midwest or Chicago thing, but I, I didn't, I didn't learn about it. So I moved to Chicago and I was like, okay.

Yeah. No, so. Yeah. So interestingly enough, right? That's what it was. It was this day, Valentine's Day.

Yeah.

And you did these things for the girl you supposedly liked.

Right.

But then it's like I was going back to what we're talking about. The origins of romance, of romantic came from Rome and the cultures thereof. Romans created, you know, this society that this world. Right. That they went and then conquered the rest of the world. Right. They were on this, you know, this quest to conquer the world and force their ways upon the people. That's what Rome. That's what Rome was for.

Right, right.

Think about the Roman gladiators. They will come to you, conquer you and force you to do everything that they do. Everything.

Yeah.

So then it's like, then we call. Then we associate this thing with love that is called romance. Why couldn't they call it something else?

Like what? Let's.

Let's think about love ants.

What? Love and love ants.

Love ants. What can it be loving what? It had to be Rome tied to it.

Right, right. Because. Yeah, right, right.

Because, you know, we talk about Rome, we see examples of Rome in everything in our modern day society. Right. Something like someone, you know, hit me to this years ago. It was like when you go to church, you sit in the same pews that you sit in the courtroom in. You ever pay attention to that? That was Rome. Right? Whatever happened to the. We talk about the separation of church and state, but it's. The structure is still the same. Yeah, right. You look at, look at. All right. We just watched, we just watched the Super Bowl. Right.

We can literally take like that, that, that has something to do with everything. This is America. Everything about America Comes from somewhere else.

Mostly somewhere else, but mostly. There's two main, main sources of what we see here. And Rome is the greatest influence of America. It's almost like it's still. We're still in Rome. Rome still exists. When in Rome.

I was about to say.

Right. Literally we are here. We're. We're Romans. Right now.

Yeah.

Because every. We define how we feel towards each other. Using a Rome. A Rome word.

Yeah.

Right. A Rome culture.

I've never really been big on none of the holidays. But it's like the holidays. None of them, but you know. But I would love Valentine if I was in a relationship. I would love Valentine's Day every day.

Exactly.

You know what I'm saying?

Happy Valentine's, you know, Happy Valentine.

Give me flowers whenever you feel like.

Romance is every day. Right. Not just a one day.

Not just a one day thing.

You know, so. Right. So going back to that. So we are conditioned to look at love.

Yeah.

From this romantic.

But it's also a capitalistic.

You know, there's that agenda as well. Right.

It's a way to make money into profit. Like.

Correct.

We, we know that.

Correct. But it's Roman. It's Roman culture. Right. So I am a person of African descent.

Right?

Right. I come from Africa. Right, Right. Most people in this country that look like me having African origin. Right. So why are we practicing Rome? Roman culture? To denote how we care and feel about each other. What is. How did our ancestors in Africa, how did they express, you know, that love, that thing, that feeling?

How did they express it?

I'm asking. That's a question I'm asking.

Tell me.

No, we're more conditioned than the people here.

Rome is more prevalent in Africa because.

They conquered the world.

Africa.

Exactly. Romantic. Was it something Africanus or something like that was a Roman conqueror. Okay, here we go again.

Yeah, let's go there.

The entire name of the continent you talking about America.

It goes far.

The entire name of the continent was after a Roman conqueror. Something Africanus. Right. So literally, that's what I'm saying. Like the modern day Africa that I grew up in was Rome. I went to a Catholic, a Roman Catholic church every once in a while. And there I would practice in the Romans formalities of worshiping.

Okay.

Where we would, like I talked about it in previous, you know, programs where we would literally eat somebody's body and drink their blood. Right.

The cracker and.

Right. No, but literally. But this, it was. We were literally practicing cannibalism. Right.

Wow.

We were orchestrating cannibalism right? This is Roman culture. So it's like. That's what I'm trying to say. It's like everything that we're doing is based on Roman culture. We've been conditioned to live according to Roman culture.

And then it's not an easy thing to just, you know, shy from when. That is America, that is the world. Like, you have to reprogram, reconnect.

We get that. Right? I get what you're saying. But we ultimately have attached then feelings to these ways of being, right? So then we have this Valentine's Day. So talking to my daughter the other day, she was just like, oh, Valentine's Day, right? She's doing things for Valentine's Day. And I'm just like, what if a man doesn't buy a woman, you know, anything for Valentine's Day? You know what she said to me?

What?

Guess.

Cancel him.

Exactly. She said she would leave. She's like, I'm leaving.

Okay? I'm like, this is the thing.

I'm like, so literally, you will leave a man because he doesn't buy you something on Valentine's Day? This man could be, you know, he's taking care of you all year round. He's, you know, loving you, providing, protecting you do all these things, but he doesn't get you something on Valentine's Day and you would leave him. This. How deep this is.

Okay.

This romantic feeling on this specific day is so deeply ingrained into our subconscious, into a subculture, that women literally would leave a good man because he did not. Because he did not abide to Roman.

I think it's bigger than that.

Please share.

I think it's bigger than that.

Yes.

If, you know, forget the whole Valentine's Day. The reason behind it, the origin, whatever. If, you know, this is something that's important to her. Hold up, let me finish.

Yeah.

If you notice this is something she likes and it makes her feel good, do it for that reason only. Forget everything else. If it's one day, what is it going to hurt to. To just do it?

To be a Roman. To be a Roman.

To just get her for one day. To get her some flowers and think about her feeling.

But what if I did it yesterday? What if. What if I do it the day before or a month ago? That doesn't count for this specific day. But what is. What is. Why is Valentine's Day so powerful?

Speak for everyone else.

I'm saying, but why is this day. So what's so important about the 14th day?

Society has put on it.

There we go. Again, society.

Oh, I'm aware of that.

These people that control our behavior.

Just like every other holiday. Christmas, even Christmas.

Exactly. For example. Exactly. Like these things. Like, we've been forced. Conditioned to adhere to these things.

Yeah.

That force us to go spend money.

Yeah.

To make other people rich. So why partake? So we.

Or not. Maybe you don't. Maybe you don't go spend money. Maybe you customize it to do something else that doesn't involve spending money.

You go grow your own flower, make your own chocolate.

Maybe you could just be home preparing a meal.

Yes. It could be taking a walk in the park. No. No. But how many women in America would be good like, babe, what you gave me today, a walk in the park. Let's go walk in the park. That doesn't fly.

I would be happy with that.

Stop it.

I would be happy if that was it. If it was thought put into it. Like, this is what I want to do for us. I want to walk in the park. I want to be. I want to go talk. I want to, you know, whatever. Like.

Okay, but why is. On this day, though? Why. So what Exactly. I'm saying this one. The objective is that we've been. We are. So it's conscious intercourse. Is we. The objective is to liberate ourselves from the condition.

Absolutely.

So we got to be conscious and aware of what's going on at all times. We are being forced.

But also be conscious and aware of where we are. Right. So you have to. You have to acknowledge where you are before you elevate, before you come to higher consciousness. It's like, everybody knows this. Everybody know about Valentine's Day. They know. I mean.

No. Do they? Do they really do?

But it's like they don't care. It's like, so what? I like it. Period. Like, whatever, Just do it.

Let's continually get abused. Let's continuously get abused.

Listen.

And Right. It's continuously practice these. Roman.

I'm not saying that that's the. That's the solution.

Because. Because we like it. We have no other. Because we have no other options.

That you do have an option. You always do what makes you happy. And if you know what does that have to.

What does Valentine's Day have to make.

Everybody know when Valentine's Day is?

So. Exactly.

If you know, you don't care for it.

Yeah.

And you know your partner does. Don't wait to. To Valentine's Day. And you, like, do nothing to want to talk about it.

So.

So the thing about it.

Bring it up before. Like, listen, I know this holiday's coming.

Up, so is that a compatibility thing? It's almost like, oh, maybe. Do we. Do you both celebrate Valentine's? So when you meet someone, you want to date someone.

I don't think it's a day.

Or you want to get married someone you want to make sure.

Hey, do we.

Do we celebrate Valentine's Day? Do we agree on that? Because somebody's going to leave, apparently. Someone just told me that they would. Someone just said that they would leave if they didn't get nothing on Valentine's Day. People literally think that women out here really think that way.

I know.

So it is a. It is a deal breaker.

To some people.

Exactly. No, no. To majority of the people, it is a deal breaker. The majority of the women in America in today, in 2023, it's a deal breaker. That's how deep the conditioning is in this moment in time. This is one example of it. But a condition is prevalent in so many other facets of our lives.

Just like super bowl, watching their games.

I was gonna talk about the Super Bowl. Exactly.

You know, indulging in their sports life or whatever it is. We don't bother.

This is Rome again. But a man never says he would leave. A woman, she doesn't watch super bowl with him. Man will never say. He'd be. Actually, he'd be like, no, go over there. Go away from me. I'm gonna watch this game with my boys. He don't even want to. So I'.

But what do we do? We let you have that.

No, but. Exactly. The thing about it is, it's not forcing you to do anything as a woman. I want to watch the Super Bowl.

Yeah. It forces us to go find something else to do.

No, it doesn't. You can sit there, right there and watch super bowl with him.

Doesn't force you to do or do that. You could do that, but.

Or you could do whatever.

Point is.

But Valentine's Day is forcing the Valentine.

It could be a holiday, it could be sports Valentine's Day, or it could be something else that's just personal to you. It could be whatever it is, just use it as an example.

I get. No, I get. If it's personal to you and it's not dictated by the norm, that can. That's what I'm saying. As conscious being. If we're going to talk about evolving as conscious, if we don't want to be conscious, I get it. Right. If we want. For example, I became conscious one day when I realized that all these years that I Spent, you know, wrapping Christmas gifts, spending my entire paycheck, Right. On Black Friday to buy my children presents. Right? And be broke for the next couple months. Right? And then to stay up all night to wrap these gifts to the point where I can't even. I'm barely able to stay up to watch them play with these toys that they got and give credit to Santa Claus, a white man. So here I am, a black man, working my butt off, essentially, in a plantation to make ends meet, right? I take all my money, spend it.

To the system, don't even get credit for it.

I don't even get credit for it. And my children like my children like that.

But how did you.

I'm be nice with a Santa Claus because he buys me gifts. I ain't got to listen to you. So. But I'm. But I'm giving this image of this white man.

I don't.

So my children are now honor a white man over me. Right? Same way now a woman honors Cupid over. It's all about Cupid now. It's the same thing. You think about it. We're conditioned. And to me, it's like as conscious are we, so we could choose to not be. That's the thing. We have a choice. People can choose to not be conscious. And this live. Like, we talk about the Matrix. That one dude said, even though he does from the Matrix, my favorite. One of my favorite movies, right? The dude was like, yo, I know the steak is not real, but I'm gonna go back to the Matrix because it's. I really live that fluff easy life where I'm told what to do, how to do, how to be. Right? You people choose to do that.

Right?

Right. But conscious intercourse and who we are, people that are evolving and becoming into their true essence are like transitioning away from that.

Right?

Right, Right. Because we gotta now be conscious of our behaviors and for our actions.

But you're still free to make whatever choice you make you do.

Right?

Okay. Be conscious of it. But you're still free to choose to do what you choose.

I totally agree. That's what I'm saying. The dude was free to go back into the Matrix.

Okay?

Right.

And that's what he chose to do. And he did that.

And it.

And if it was gratifying, it satisfied him. Right?

Then stop talking about you woke. Like my boy Jadena said, fake woke. Ninjas napping. Tuck him in like a napkin.

Right?

Right. He dropped them bars. So don't be talking about woke. You're talking about woke. Woke, woke. Woke. Woke.

In any kind of relationship, there's always compromise. Whatever it is.

Compromise to be to slumber. Compromise to get back into the matrix. What I'm saying, what are we compromising too?

Women compromise to please.

No, no, no, no, no, no. What are we exactly are we compromising though as consciousness? Compromising for peace to be unconscious?

I want to hear you nagging about nothing. And I'm sure you don't want to hear me nagging.

Compromise to go back in the matrix.

Whatever you want to call it, it. Okay, I'm compromising to keep the peace. I want. I want you to be happy. And if it's something that makes you happy, if it's not bothering my peace, then I. I don't mind doing it.

Hey babe, I'm gonna smoke crack today. You won't compromise with me? No, I like crack. I like crack. I decided to pick up. I was hanging. I decided to go hang out with Bobby. I'm gonna. I'll come home with crack now.

That's what a lot.

That's what I'm saying.

Let's just be real here.

I mean it is.

Is it hurting me?

Yes, it is.

Is it hurting you?

Yes, it is.

No.

Yes. Valentine's Day hurts me.

Okay, but then that's you.

Because it hurts my pockets. Cuz I don't want to spend this money on Valentine's day.

But make sure you talk to her beforehand.

No, no, no. We're going to say there's no Valentine. We don't believe in Valentine's Day. Cuz our love is all year round. It's everything. I don't, I don't need Rome.

And let me say I don't.

I need. I need. I don't need Rome to dictate.

Let me say this on this specific day for majority of women.

Yeah.

If they give that. If they feel like they get Valentine's every day, I promise you they're not about to trip about Valentine's Day.

Oh great.

I hope I really don't.

So the reason, so that this is a day to enforce like to force this man to show his love because he's not doing. That's another problem too. So then that's, that's deeper. That's a deeper issue. Then why are you not getting. Why are you not getting love every single day?

And everything ain't got to be rocket science.

Because it's a deeper issue than that lies there in this. So it's like you said it. This is a great point you just made just now. You said if These women felt like they were getting Valentine's Day every single day. This day won't be that important.

I don't think so.

So why aren't they getting Valentine's Day every single day?

That's. That's a question you have to ask the women.

No, no, no, no. You're. You're a representative of women here. I'm a representative of men.

Okay.

Right. We agree on that.

I agree.

So why are women not getting Valentine's Day's treatment every single day? Uh. Oh. We have an audience cast member. I hope to share some.

No, you. Rosa. What you got to say? Mr. Producer. Mr. Oh, yeah. What's up? What's up?

He's on air. He can't say nothing. Cause he gotta go home somewhere, and somebody gonna be listening, talking about Mr. Producer.

Did you get your wife something for Valentine's Day?

No.

You didn't?

No. Valentine's Day.

Valentine's Day.

Why not? What's the reasoning there? Oh, oh, oh, keep talking. You see, she. She's watching right now. He. Now he can't talk. You got to go hide. I'm going.

Leave that one alone. But my thing is, is. Is it shouldn't be that trivial. It shouldn't.

Oh, using big words now. I thought that was like a game, Trivial Pursuit.

And it shouldn't be a game. It shouldn't be complicated like that. And there should always be communication. Uhoh.

It wasn't. I was scared to say anything. I just wanted to get on the mic so. So people could hear. So, no, no, we didn't do anything for Valentine's Day. Tasha and I, we've been together. Together for 29 years total.

Wow.

We've been married for 26 years. So beautiful. It's not. Yeah. It's not a big deal. We. In the. In the beginning, yes, we did it in the beginning, but now we're past that.

Okay.

And then you asked a question about women. Why don't women get treated like Valentine's Day every day? Because this is real life. Like, right. You know what I'm saying? Every day is not a Valentine's Day because I. You know. You know what I'm saying?

Like, I'm with you. Yeah.

Like, can we curse on this show?

Yeah. I mean, why not?

Because. Because shit happens in life.

You know what I'm saying?

Every. Every day isn't a Valentine's Day. Like, maybe. Maybe you had a rough day at work, maybe she had a rough day at work. Or, you know, the kids or bills or whatever situations are, regardless of that you ain't coming home every day, oh, I love you, blah, blah, blah. So, yeah, nah, every day can't be Valentine's Day.

Can't be Valentine's Day. But, but every day can be, you know, your feelings being taken into consideration. That's what, that's what can happen every day, you know, how are you? How. How's your day? Can I run your bath water? Can I? Can I. Why not? Can I, Can I make you a meal?

You ain't.

You may not have to do that every day.

Is dinner ready?

It's dinner, right? You know, I got dinner for, for you. But the little simple gestures like that.

You rub my feet, rub my feet.

I've been on my feet all day.

Gonna run your own bath water, Girl.

What you talking about?

This ain't 1960s. No, no, I got you, right?

This is a baby face.

But. No, but, but, but things like that, no, I. I truly understand. Like maybe, maybe vacuum, vacuuming or dusting the house. You know what I'm saying? Just things like that to kind of take place, pressure off of the other person. Those are those, like, Valentine thing things that you do throughout the year to make it special. You know what I mean?

Like getting up and like a man where, let's say that's a provider. Getting up every morning and fighting traffic and dealing with the stuff at work, right? Dealing with all this stuff, right? Because he's providing for his woman that's at home with the children. Right?

Hey, that's. That's a good way to put it.

But in essence too, though, but isn't that love? Absolutely, yeah.

Because that. I think that's what we supposed to do. Like, when I hear people say, period.

That'S what you're supposed to do.

When we hear, like, people say, oh, I take care of my kids, that's.

What you're supposed to do.

You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, but that's, that's your responsibility. That's a.

That's your responsibility.

It's not responsibility. It's love. Because we can't. We.

Call duty even.

Duty. It makes it sound like you, You're. It's something.

Obligation.

Obligation. No, you, you do it out of love. Well, yeah, right, because you love for this person. You want their. Well be. You want your child to be healthy, to be vibrant, to grow up, to be nurtured.

And it's also still responsibility.

No, no, but. No, no, but responsibility takes away from.

The love, if you choose to look at it that way.

No, it's not about Looking at it. Define responsibility. You got the gloss. Glossary or the.

Listen, we know we're responsive. The thing is.

But why does it got to be a responsibility? What can it just be? You're doing this because you love out of love.

I'm about to pull one of your cards. Like, what is love?

Exactly.

Love is just a feeling, but it's more than that. It's also an action. And it is also doing action. Yes.

Okay. Actually, love speaks louder than words.

Yes. Love is action. Love ain't just words. Or I love you. Oh, do you show me. Like, do I gotta believe it? I can't just hear no words.

It's not responsibility. It's action. It's love in action. So let's say love in action. It's not. But duty is responsibility. The same thing. Duty sounds like a job. It's all deputy duty. Duty is a task. It's a job.

Responsibility.

No, but responsibility is the same thing as a job as well. Why are we making it a job?

Responsibility. The state or fact of having a duty.

Exactly.

To deal with something or having control over someone.

Okay, now we're getting excited. A true. A true leader have control over someone. Think about this.

Here's the way they use it in a sense. Here's how they use it in a sentence.

This is so deep and profound. Right?

A true leader takes responsibility for their team and helps them achieve goals.

Yes. That's what a true.

That's what a leader does.

That's what a leader does. And what is it? What is responsibility and what is the man of the household?

Is. Is the man hustle the leader?

Absolutely.

The women, let's follow the men.

What is the man of the household?

No, no, no. Hold on, hold on, hold. So now we're going to a different premise. No, I'm not. So how many women actually listen to their leader husbands and do what the husband leader says?

I mean, listen.

How many? So I'm saying, how many. How is that going?

How many men actually lead and do what a husband is supposed to do?

We got to define these things, right? Because you gotta.

You gotta go into a country conditioning. It's also conditioning also, you know, with society has made things like roles, like, you know, what roles should be as a man, as a woman.

You know, because the whole notion with the. When I grew up as a Christian, the notion around the man being a leader was, why? Because the woman is weaker. She's weak. She's the weaker vessel. That's what Christianity teaches, right? Well, so Christianity teaches that there's A hierarchy.

Absolutely not.

No, no, no, no, no. I'm just. We're going to conditioning, okay? Go back to romance, Rome, Christianity, all this stuff.

And we believe. No, not. No nation can rise higher than this woman. But it's a man's duty to protect and, and, and you know, protect his home, lead his home and be, be that masculine figure.

Exactly. And the woman's supposed to reverence him for that.

Absolutely.

What does reverence mean? Like, look, he's like, almost like a God to her. Right. Which is same thing Christianity is teaching. So it's, there's similarities there. Because in Christianity it says Christ is to the man as the man is to the woman. That's what Christianity teaches. So in Christianity, Christ is God. No, hold on, hold on. Just. Christ is God to the man, right?

And the man is God to the woman.

That's what Christianity. That's why, that's why the man is the head. So if I'm a God, you can question what I'm doing, whether or not I'm meeting your standard. You can't have standards for me as your God. How can you? I'm just trying.

It goes back to our religion.

No, you just. No, I'm just going back to what you saying. The man is the head and the leader. And I'm trying to tell you how from a Christianity perspective, which. This is a Christian nation. That's how it's described.

Yeah.

So then we wonder why there's conflict. Because a woman now wants, A woman wants to set standards for her man, who's her God. Is the man setting standards for Christ, telling Christ he should be doing?

No, and that's the problem. You have a lot of these men. That's not Christ. Like.

No, no.

It's not about being.

It'S not about being Christ. Like Christ is Christ. Like Christ can do whatever he wants to do because he's God to the man. Man does not setting no standards for Christ.

But you still have to be Christ. I mean.

No, you don't. That's not.

No, you still have to. Yeah.

No, no. Why would. It doesn't say that. It doesn't say that. Oh, the man, you know, must be this way. No, the hierarchy is that the man is to the woman as Christ is to the man. That's what it says. Okay, I'm not, I'm not an expectations there.

Yeah, but the thing is, you know, that's where, that's where a lot of the disconnect comes from. But so conditioning, conditioning with religion. Yeah, yeah.

You know, so so, so every. All of this stuff is conditioned because we've been conditioned to behave, operate, create our lives.

You have to find what works for you.

No, no. First and foremost, no, it's not about what works for you. You have to tap into your true essence. Who were you prior to conditioning? Who were you before you were told you were given force? Well, who were you before Rome told you how to be?

Right.

Before Rome? Forcibly, like Rome conquered. Like they went to Africa and conquered. Colonization.

Right.

Came in. They came in and conquered. Beat you to death. Right. Essentially forced you. Right. What conquered. You used force. And to force you to complete the perfect. Thank you. They used force to force you to comply.

Right.

That's what conditioning is. Right. So now you got to go back and reprogram uncondition yourself. Right. Like, who were you when you came into this world, when you took that first breath? Who. Who were you going to be? Right. Who is your unconditioned self? Self.

Right.

Who is that? What would they believe? What type of life would they create? What type of relationships would they create? What would they really desire? Because now we're being driven by Rome subconsciously. These things have been embedded into our subconscious mind and they're driving our lives every single day. That woman would say, I will leave a man because he didn't give me nothing from Valentine's Day. That's not her talking. It's Rome talking.

It's their conditioning talk.

It's wrong.

Yeah.

So it's like that's. I think that's what we got to really become. Really aware of ourselves.

Yeah.

And our true essence and who we are and how we choose. How we're going to choose to matriculate and create the life that, you know, it's going to fulfill us.

Absolutely. And we're higher consciousness again. You still have the option to choose how you want to matriculate.

You mean? Yeah, you may like the conditioning.

No, it's not even conditioning. Yeah, I mean, I hear you, but I'm saying with. With consciousness, you know, once you become aware of how you've been programmed and conditioning, it's up to you to choose what you do, you know?

Yeah. And you could choose to be. So you could choose to, you know, to surrender to the conditioning and let it continue to drive you. And people do that consciously.

A lot of people do.

Yeah.

This is true. This is true. So, you know, but that's why we talk. That's why we have these conversations in this, you know, dialogue and intercourse. Because, you know, you have people that come from you know, different walks of life, different perceptions and understandings and you have to be open. Open to hearing all perspectives.

Yes. You know, and it's so deep because I remember years ago I was part of an organization or a culture and the leader of the culture of the organization, you know, he would, you know, we had these lessons that we would do, you know, on a certain day of the week and you know, he proceeded to kind of give us the origin of romance and you know, and how, you know, from his perspective, you know, in ancient Rome there was, you know, in Greece as well, which they were all kind of, you know, parallel at that point in time and how there, there was these, you know, men who were like, you know, didn't fool with women or didn't get involved with women. They preferred, you know, young men and the way, the way that they will, you know, woo or you know, like entice the men was through giving them, buying them gifts. Right. So it's like an older man that wants, that's into a younger man and to entice a younger man, he buys them gifts and stuff to entice them. So he shared with us that that's where romance came from. Right. I was like, that's mind blowing. So here we are again in new modern day Rome and a man, you know, has to buy gifts and these things to entice a woman, which is romance. And it's been part of our way of life and way of being that to entice a woman you must do these things for her. You know, some people go broke doing these things. Okay, right. People spend, you know, go in debt after they get married because the woman wants this lavish wedding. So the man has to, you know, take out a fifty thousand dollar loan to have this, you know, ten thousand dollars dress to. I'll do all these things. So they start their marriage in debt. In debt.

Right.

From a wedding. Right.

Inviting people that don't care. That's probably going to talk about you.

For the sake of, for the sake.

Of pleasing other people.

For the sake of romance.

Yeah.

Right. We gotta see how this is a bigger agenda.

Yeah.

To distract us. Absolutely. From what's truly important. Right. And you know, I'm not knocking Valentine's Day, you know. No, the people, I'm not knocking it, cuz people, people going to do whatever.

People, people going to do what they want. And the thing is, you're valid, you make valid points on the. I mean it's. But that applies to all holidays. It really, really does.

It applies to everything. Everything in our, our daily lives, we do a lot of things every day for the sake of our conditioning. Complying to what we've been to, what we've been forced to do. We go to work to comply to y. Paying bills, right, Everything. Because if you don't do these things then you won't have a place to stay.

Right.

You know, we, we buy certain clothing, certain food, we eat certain food. Like even I talk a lot about the whole vegan thing. Right. Like literally we take meat covered up that we know is killing vegetables. Yeah. No one is killing us, but we cover it with vegetables. We make it taste like a vegetable to eat it. Because we've been, that's been forced upon us. Right, right. The people in Africa are be starving, waiting for these trucks to drop bags of rice. But you're like in Africa where the soil is fertile. It's 80 something degrees all year round. You got mango trees in your backyard, you don't even know it's food. But you're starving. Waiting for this white stuff in a sack to get dropped off so you can eat. Eat. Like that doesn't like make sense at all. Yeah, right. It's so, it's so mind blowing.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? So to me, that's just what I'm like. Okay, we gotta, as a people, you know, as we evolve, we truly have to become aware of how these things, these conditions are, you know, slowly plagues our society.

Yeah, it does. Absolutely. Absolutely.

So you keep grabbing your phone. It's time. Is it time to go? Is it too much time?

Yeah, I know we, I know we gotta, we got a hard cut today, you know.

We got a hard cut. What does that mean, a hard cut?

You know, at seven o'.

Clock. Is this a conditioning thing now? Is he. Can we gotta. Now we gotta abide by. I thought this is our show. Who's gonna tell us when we like what's going on here?

Yes, yes. We gotta get out of here at 7 today. But you know, we're gonna pick this one up, we're gonna pick this one back up because this is a very important topic.

I mean now this is what conscious intercourse is all about.

Absolutely.

The liberation of other people of humanity. It's the liberation of humanity from the conditionings. Right. Because they, they run our lives. Right. And these stories are not even real. We do things, we buy things, we spend money. We do all these stuff.

Right.

To be monetized, to be, you know, we're commoditized. Rather we're commodities.

Commoditized human come out.

Exactly. A lot of it is for us to be commoditized so the people that are, you know, on top can continuously stay on top. Right.

Yeah.

So Rome can do what Rome does, conquer people and take their energy. It's really what it is. It's, you know, it's absolutely, you know.

Yeah. Well, that's why we have these conscious intercourse and continue to have these conscious intercourses.

And, you know, I'm like, yes, these conscious. Even conscious intercourse. People be like, oh, that. That title is so, you know, provocative.

Or it is.

What are y' all talking about?

I'm like, that's right. It grabs your attention.

Yeah. Intercourse has nothing to do with what people think. It is about.

Exchange.

Right. Because. Because we're not conscious. We just. We hear the word intercourse, we just associate it to be something sexual or something.

Exactly. That's why we gotta. We gotta wake up.

Yeah. You know, it's time to just, you know, be real with ourselves, you know?

Yep. Be real with ourselves. Be real with each other.

No. What? What did Mike say?

What?

Mike said, if you want to make this world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.

Starting with the man in the mirror. That's it.

And there it is.

And there you go. That's a good way to end the show.

Conscious intercourse.