Genuinely The Final NoFap Video You Ever Need To Watch (Day 10 NNN)
In this monologue Samir Gardner argues that the mainstream NoFap movement’s focus on streaks, dopamine‑addiction framing, and forced discipline is counter‑productive for quitting porn (and analogous behaviors like video‑gaming). He draws a parallel between video‑game recovery programs and NoFap, claiming both rely on limiting‑belief narratives (e.g., “cucumber brain becomes a pickle”) that create self‑fulfilling prophecies. Gardner deconstructs the myth that porn or gaming are dopamine addictions, explaining that dopamine is merely anticipatory reward and that the perceived “addiction” stems from belief, not neuro‑chemical compulsion. He promotes an alternative “Effortless Method” (also called the Fortis Method) that removes the NoFap ideology, replaces forced distraction with purposeful substitution of higher‑value activities, and leverages subconscious alteration to change behavior quickly. Personal anecdotes illustrate how he quit video games by replacing them with real‑world pursuits, and he cites studies (DSM‑5, research on internet addiction, meth‑amphetamine recovery) to support his critique. The talk concludes with a call to join his coaching community for a concise, subconscious‑alteration based program that can help people quit porn within weeks.
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Guys, let me tell you why NoFap isn't working and why this process, the Effortless Method, is actually the only way to quit. Because what you need to understand is when you come into the NoFap space, okay, let's talk a bit about NoFap. And look, I know NoFap has good intentions, right? But if you really look at how they preach to quit porn, it's actually doing more detriment than good, okay? Because I always give this example to my students and to everyone I coach, basically, right? I say to them, look, if video games had a recovery program in a sense that like they had like this recovery ideology of we need to go on, you know, and let me just write this down so it makes sense. We need to go on streaks, right? We need to have techniques We need to fight it, right? Um, we need to be mentally strong, right? And all of those things that NoFap constantly talks about in order to defeat porn and porn addiction. Imagine, okay, literally imagine that this was how you'd quit video games. Do you think, and for, for those that actually quit video games, Do you think that you'll be able to leave video games if you were thinking that way? The answer is maybe, obviously, but wouldn't it make it harder to even quit in the first place? Just imagine, right? I stopped playing video games in 2020, right? 4 years ago when I discovered something called self-improvement, which was just for me like, oh, I can play video games but in real life. So I was like, why not just do that, right? And I didn't think like, oh my God, okay, so it's been 90 days I've been off video games, I feel great, right? I feel like, you know, and another thing I want to add, which is a big misconception into the NoFap space, is dopamine addict, right? Addiction, or even novelty, right? For example. And so when we have all of these concepts and we tie it to an object, right? Well, it's called an object. Like, video games is just like, you know, it's a game you play on a digital console. And, you know, and it's an object in the sense that, like, you know, it's a screen and then you play. And it's not like you're actually playing a real thing. You're just like playing something with different, you know, obviously it's fake in the sense that it's video games. It's not like the actual sport. For example, if you're playing that sport like FIFA on video games, it's not like actually playing soccer where there's like Physically, there's things happening. Um, this, you know, you're, you're literally getting exhausted physically. You're actually playing with real other people in front of you and many other things, right? And there's actually real benefits to it. Now look, it's not to demonize video games in any manner, but if you look at video games, right, when I left video games because I was like, you know what, I have this character in GTA, it's so cool to do that, but I can actually do it in real life. Why not just do it in real life, right? I wasn't like, oh, this is day 90 of me not playing video games, and I counted the day of when I first stopped playing video games. I didn't do that, right? I wasn't like, oh, I need some techniques, like, oh, I need to give myself better habits so I don't fall back into video games, right? It doesn't make sense. Or, oh, I need to fight it every time I have the urge to fight video games. I'll need to fight it, right? Or being mentally strong, like, oh my God, you know, Humans are programmed to play video games because there's like this biological aspect of being able to be in a tribe and completing missions and completing quests and actually beating your competition and actually, you know, doing things that are meaningful in a sense of what our tribe, you know, what tribes will literally do back then, right? And that is like kind of like imprinted into our DNA. Well, look, video games kind of as like the same thing, right? Because people often use this argument with porn as if like, oh, you watch porn because in your biology you're supposed to reproduce with so many women and that's why porn is literally so addictive. But the thing you don't realize is that video games kind of does the same thing but with other important survival aspects. It's not even survival aspects, it's just desire, desires that humans try to meet when they met their basic survival needs, whether that be, for example, food, water, shelter, all of that stuff. Now it's like they want a social life, they want all of those things. You can just look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, right? And so mentally strong. Do you think that in order to leave video games you need to be mentally strong, right? And you'll see where this goes because this is very interesting. Dopamine addiction. Do you think that, oh, I love video games, I was like, I'm a dopamine addict, so it's gonna be very hard, right? The truth is, the moment I kind of had the slightest desire to stop playing video games, I dramatically, like, drastically, sorry, reduced the amount of video games that I played. And when my desire to just completely stop and actually do something more meaningful, so for me that was, for example, going outside in nature, going outside, working out, going for runs, building projects, reading books, and just like pursuing that new lifestyle, and I wanted to become a new person. When the desire for that was kind of strong, it was just like I left it. I wasn't like, oh no, but I need dopamine. I didn't have that knowledge that like, oh, video games gives us so much dopamine. And you know, I have a book, uh, maybe I can show it to you. I don't want to, you know, kind of bash the author in any sense, but there was a book, uh, that talked about like dopamine and like addictions and stuff when it came to like internet, right? Modern addictions as we call it. Where they said that like there was literally a recovery program for video games where it was like facilities in the United States where young adults will come, obviously young men, right? They will come there and pay a lot of money. And what they would be told is, you've been addicted, right, your whole life. So your cucumber brain became like a pickle. And once it became a pickle, it cannot go back to being cucumber. What a good limiting belief to give people so they just come back to the facilities and pay more and more money. Obviously it makes a lot of sense. But what you need to understand is for me, for example, I played video games my whole life. Now it's been 4 years, I don't have any desire to play video games. It's not like, obviously I might play a little mobile game and then I'll be like after 15 minutes, 15 minutes, I'll be like, you know, this is boring. And obviously I'm not gonna, you know, play video games instead of doing my work that I want to do, right? As of like, for example, recording these videos, right? So that dopamine addiction, it's just a complete myth, right? Okay, video games gives a lot of dopamine. You're achieving constantly new things, you're able to, uh, discover new things, able to conquer missions, quests, whatever. Just look at GTA where it's like you're literally gaining like what humans want in real life, but in video games, isn't that supposed to give a lot of dopamine? Why have I and many other people been able to just quit completely and never go back to it because they don't want to? Or, you know, basically going from playing every day, I was playing every day, maybe 10, 12 hours a day, sometimes up to 16 hours a day. I would wake up at 4:00 AM because I heard that there was a new GTA 5 update, right? And I'll play, for the whole day until the night, and I was barely eating food. And then the moment I discovered that, you know, I can play video games in real life, I was like, let's do that. You know, it was that simple. Novelty, same exact thing. Now here's the problem, right? You see how like none of those things really apply to video games in the sense that we don't think about those things, and yet we leave video games like this the moment we discover that there's something better to do. I've seen it myself with other friends that I was playing video games with a lot. They found, for example, a girl and they were in a relationship and they kind of just forgot about video games, right? Or for example, some other people are just like me, or we become self-improvement fanatics and we're like, why not just play video games in real life, right? Why not just improve ourselves and do those things? It's way better, it's way more pleasurable. That's what I believe. So this is just a big lie. And obviously there's other people that play for years and years and years. I started playing video games extremely young, right? Before even watching porn. So that's what you need to understand, okay? So the concept of NoFap when it applies to porn doesn't make sense. That's why people go on NoFap and instead of just being like, ah, let me leave porn because, you know, it's not really, it's not really useful to me anymore. They think, no, I need to be on the streets, right? And if I go to 90 days, I'll be able to finally quit because my brain will be rewired, which is based on no studies, which is based on nothing but fallacies. Techniques. Oh, I need to, you know, do pushups when I have an urge. I need to keep myself as busy as possible. I need to get myself a girlfriend. I need to talk to other women. I need to do all of those things. Guess what? You're just like distracting yourself. Obviously when you're distracted, right? Distraction means like, you know, your mind cannot have two thoughts at once, right? Your mind can only have one thought, one thought, sorry. It can only think of one thing at once. So obviously if I'm so focused on, let's say for example, reading this book, right? Which is my book. But if you're so focused on reading a book, for example, and you're just like mentally engaged in it, for example, when I was, when I was younger, I think I was 13, I was reading a book that I was so mentally engaged in it, right? That I started being scared, right? And this is just an example I wanna give you because, you know, it was just, I don't wanna say the title of the book, but it was a book that talked about like there was 10 people on an island and they were trying to find like who was killing everyone until like everyone died basically. And, you know, in the book it was like, kinda add like this suspense thing, right? It was like very scary, and I was so mentally focused on it that I forgot about everything else. And I thought I was literally in the book, right? I started feeling scared, and I was literally feeling those emotions of fear, right? So the thing is, what you need to understand is when you're so focused on something, obviously you're not going to think about anything else, right? That's, that's, that's simple, right? So that's the thing you need to understand is Obviously, if you're distracting yourself, you cannot think about it, but that doesn't mean that you still want, for example, to watch porn. It doesn't mean that your desire to watch porn just randomly disappeared because you were distracted, right? You cannot be distracted 24/7 also. That's the thing, okay? Fight it. Look, what are you fighting? If I fight, for example, video games, I'm like, no, I'm gonna fight video games. I'm not gonna play video games. Well, look, I'm not even looking, here's the thing, I'm not even looking if there's better options for me. Meaning like, if for example, I get forced to stop playing video games, but I love playing video games, which is the case for porn, for example, you love watching porn, you love playing video games, and you're forced to quit porn, you're forced to stop playing video games, well, you're not really looking at why I even want to play video games. And on top of that, you're not really looking at if there's better options for me. right? So if you just remove video games from my life, yeah, I'll get adapted, right? If you remove porn from your life, you'll get adapted and you'll find something better to do. You'll find, you know, a way to just live your life without that thing, even though it's been a part of your life for so long, right? The same way when one of our loved ones die, after, you know, some days we just get used to it and we just find a way to live life without— I mean, while, you know, accepting that person is not in our lives anymore, Right? So that's the thing, fighting it doesn't make sense. It's like, you're fighting what? Like, there's nothing you're fighting because you're the one choosing to do that thing. So if you can take responsibility and not blame that you have a dopamine addiction and not blame that, you know, you're just an addict that cannot do anything about himself, then look, you're not fighting anyone. It's just you that wants to watch it. So what are you fighting? If you fight yourself, then you're only gonna end up hurting yourself. Which means that you're just gonna feel that shame and guilt that like, why did I watch porn? Why did I play video games? Which doesn't make sense for video games and it doesn't make sense with porn also, okay? Just within every brain watch. Now dopamine addiction. Look, I've talked to many people that just completely left porn because they didn't get exposed to the idea that they were just like a dopamine addict. The problem with dopamine addiction is like it puts you in a fear state. Right? You're like, oh, so I'm not a normal person anymore. I'm someone that craves dopamine and will do anything to get that dopamine, right? And that's not a good self-image to have because you're in fear, first of all, right? And you probably feel shame and guilt because you're like, I'm not a normal person as I thought I was. I'm actually a dopamine addict or a porn addict, whatever. And so guess what? You're not thinking properly. If I told you "Look, you should stop playing video games, but you're a dopamine addict." Now it's going to be like you're not even going to be thinking. Look, listen to me. You're not even going to be thinking of, "Oh, maybe I can stop playing video games. I'll be able to talk to a woman. I'll be able to play video games in real life. I'll be able to do better things with my life. I'll be able to do more pleasurable things because I didn't realize, but if I'm playing basketball, it's way more pleasurable than playing video games." I'll be able to be more strong in the physical, mental, and emotional sense. Well, it would be kind of easy to stop video games, sorry, because you'd be like, oh, it's way better, maybe let me try this. Then you'll try. But with this, it's like you just focus on the fact that you're a dopamine addict and that's all you think in the back of your mind instead of thinking if there's better options, better things to do, right? I'm not saying that you need to replace video games or porn born with anything in order to cope with it. I'm just saying you can easily remove it from your life and do something better that will give you way more better things, right? It's not a substitute because you can't really substitute something that like objectively gives you nothing. It's just, you know, remove that which is consuming your time and just realize that there's way better things out there to do with that time, okay? So dopamine addiction, Imagine, imagine you'll be like, oh yeah, I'm playing GTA 5, but it's because I'm a dopamine addict. Then your self-image is screwed. You know, same thing with porn. You think you're literally looking at yourself as if you're a deviant person that has like so much evil within him, right? That's the thing. Even people that, for example, do other sins, for example, stealing, right? They steal things. They look at themselves less worse than someone that watches porn, even though everyone watches porn nowadays. So that's the thing you gotta understand. NoFap creates that self-image that is only detrimental and false, but also creates false concepts in your head that you act aligned to, right? So for example, oh, I'm an addict, so I, you know, I'll go back to porn even though I don't want to. But what is actually happening is because you think you're an addict, you completely remove the possibility of thinking that, you know, maybe I can do something better. Or why am I watching porn? Why am I playing video games? Instead, maybe I can get those things that I think I'm getting from porn and video games from something else, right? And I can just debunk that and just live on and live my life. Because how are you going to move on from it if you're constantly in the back of your mind like, oh no, but you know, I'm an addict to dopamine, I'm an addict to novelty, I'm an addict to porn, right? It doesn't make sense. And then once you For example, realize what dopamine is. Dopamine is literally the anticipation, okay, that you get for a reward, okay? So dopamine just is released the moment that you anticipate something that will give you a form of reward, right? So for example, if you play a video game that you don't like, right, let's say for example I told you, let's play Subway Surfer, right? You're probably gonna be like, you know, why am I gonna play this? Or let's play another video game, for example, Barbie, right? If you play Barbies, you're probably not gonna release any dopamine because you just don't see any reward. You don't find it pleasurable. There's no point in doing it. You don't see how it's gonna be nice to play, whatever. You could actually learn to enjoy it and you could learn to release dopamine with time as you learn that there's maybe a reward inside of it for whatever reason, right? You cultivate that preference, but you don't at the moment. And also, the same thing goes with music. Music releases dopamine for some people to the same extent, and there's a study done on this, to the same extent as of drugs, okay? Now look, if I, for example, right, let's say, I say your favorite music, okay? Favorite music against K-pop, right? Because let's say that everyone hates K-pop because I know you guys are men and most of you guys don't like it, right? Or just take an example of a sort of music you don't like. Favorite music, you're gonna feel that rush of dopamine before you even listen to it because dopamine is released to anticipate a reward. For example, for me, when I would listen to music, my reward would be that I'll be able to feel confident, I'll be able to feel better. That's gonna be my reward, so I was anticipating listening to music. But on days where I was feeling very good, I wasn't really anticipating to listen to music because I was already feeling good, so I already had the reward, so I didn't really care, right? So the thing is, okay, your favorite music, you're listening, for example, to rap, you're listening, for example, to country music, whatever, you're releasing dopamine. But if I tell you, listen to K-pop, listen to that Korean music, you're gonna be like, there's no dopamine, right? It's like, it's not enjoyable at all. So that's the thing you need to understand. It's all within your mind. It's all within your mind because you don't, it's still music, right? And music is literally sound and it literally releases dopamine to the same extent as if you were eating, I mean, you were consuming drugs or eating some very fatty, sugary food, okay? And look, is music linked to your survival? It's literally sound waves. Like, no, obviously not, right? So that's the thing you need to understand. So for example, I don't release dopamine the more, if I see video games, let's say for example, let's say I'm walking and I see someone playing video games, I won't release dopamine because I'm like, I don't really wanna play anymore. It's a waste of time for me and I'd rather do things that are better. I'm not shaming myself into or coercing myself into not playing video games. I'm just, I just don't want to. And so I don't really, because I don't perceive it rewards, so I don't anticipate it, right? But me 5 years ago, if I saw someone playing my favorite video games, I would look at it and would be like obsessed with it. I'll be like releasing that dopamine basically, right? So it just depends on you. You're going to release dopamine. Some people release dopamine by cutting their own selves. Some people release dopamine by reading books, people release dopamine by going in nature. For some other people, they don't release any dopamine doing those things. It's not because they're not on a dopamine detox, it's just that they don't see how it would give them a reward, right? Or maybe they think that other things give them a bigger reward, so they won't get a reward from it, okay? Same way, like I'm eating, for example, very healthy, right? I love eating healthy. I'm getting dopamine every time I think of eating healthy. I'm literally anticipating that because in my mind, the reward is, I'm gonna be able to get bigger, I'm gonna be able to get a better physique, I'm gonna be able to look better, I'm gonna be able to, um, look more masculine, whatever, right? Other people, they're like, junk food is literally way better. For me, junk food is like, I don't perceive the reward besides being able to eat more calories, so maybe I'll get bigger. But then I'm like, you know, I could just do that with healthy food, right? So it's like, that's the thing you need to understand. It's just dopamine depends on reward. So now let's talk about The one and the only, the effortless method, right? And I call it method just to make it easier for people to understand, but it's not really just, it's not a method as in like something that you apply for the rest of your life, such as, you know, like NoFap is doing. It is simply something which, to be honest, it's so easy, okay? It's just the, Effortless— sorry for my writing, by the way, like that's not my strength, as you can see, at all, right? The Effortless Method. Okay, this is not aligned at all for the title, but I don't care. Look, the Effortless Method basically says you need to completely, um, remove this NoFap stuff porn recovery ideology, right? Okay, why am I writing like this? I'm sorry guys, I don't care, but okay, you need to remove the recovery ideology. Let me just like make a separation here. Remove the nofap ideology, okay? Look at— this is very simple. Look at why, okay? This is why in both senses, okay? In both ways. Let me, let me explain what does that mean, okay? Live your life. This is like very simple, okay? When I go with my students, I go into like a process that is a bit longer because I want to make sure that they literally debunk everything, okay? So what I wanna say, okay, this is the very simple thing. First, remove the NoFap ideology. That's what I do like literally with everyone, okay? The NoFap biology literally brainwashes, just as I showed you the example with the streets, with dopamine addiction and everything. So you gotta kind of like, this is the problem we have, okay? The problem we have is we're not aware because there's not much knowledge out there that talks about the objective truth about what is actually going on. In the sense that, for example, the dopamine stuff, which was very simple for me to explain, many people don't know that. People just think, oh yeah, a screen is gonna give them dopamine straight at them. They're not gonna be able to control themselves. They're gonna be pulled towards it and they're gonna be like monkeys that live on instincts and just like fap, right? So people think that way. They genuinely think that way because they've not been exposed to the other side of things, which the Fortis Method does, right? Which I'm gonna explain in my book once it's gonna be released, which I don't really have a date as of right now, okay? So we remove that ideology because the truth is that ideology only creates limiting beliefs, even though it has very good intentions, right? There's many studies that they can break it, right? For example, there's a study done on porn and dopamine. There's actually the DSM-5, which is like, you know, the, basically the popular group, let's say, just to make it simple, that says that they don't recognize porn as an addiction, but rather it is because of people's beliefs that, you know, it is becoming an addiction, okay? That's what you need to understand, okay? So look, I'm not also gonna say that porn literally has no damage, right? I was reading, for example, recently, studies done on relationships, right? So on marriage specifically, because I'm religious and this is what my students also want, they wanna be married. And we saw that there was literally an increase in behaviors such as deviancy based on society, and things related to rape and all of those disgusting things that porn actually brings in an increase in 20%, right? And also the relationship status, meaning like how the divorce happens, like, lifts you up. The number is so high, I don't remember the exact number, but above 50% of marriages that gets a divorce is actually not necessarily because of porn, but porn is always one of the reasons why, right? Just one of the reasons. So this is what we need to understand, right? We need to remove the NoFap ideology because look, we didn't have that ideology for video games, so we left video games. And look, I need to find a book. I think I have it in my library here, but like in the book that I'm talking about that talks about like internet addiction basically, there was literally a story which I briefly explained a couple of minutes ago where the guy was, basically playing video games and to the point where his studies were declining, right? Same thing happened to me, okay? The moment I got my Xbox, I literally had to wake up at 5:00 AM in order to study because I wasn't studying as much anymore, right? So, and also my grades started plummeting down, but that's another subject. Now the guy, right, he was in college and his parents were concerned because he was only playing video games and he wasn't really studying as much, right? And he was getting bad grades or whatever. So it put him into worry, right? And they knew about this facility that was in the city in the United States that help young men quit video games, right? Which seems very noble, obviously. And they literally said, you know what? You're gonna be, you're gonna be, they went through this process, which is probably, I think, similar to like Alcoholic Anonymous, if you guys know what that is. And they told them, okay, they told them, you know what, we helped you. And they told them, like the example I said, like once your cucumber brain becomes a pickle, it cannot go back to being a cucumber, meaning that once the brain changes happen, they cannot go, you know, they cannot be reversed, which has been proven false by a study done on methamphetamine users that literally at the peak of the brain changes stopped using methamphetamines and left methamphetamines, I think it was for 14 months, and I don't think they even went back to it, right? I don't remember the exact study, I talk about it in my book, but it literally is like, you know, there's so many limiting beliefs. Now they told them that, and now they were like, oh, you know, you've been free of video games for like 60 days, right? And the recovery process that they have is like they go and do activities as if they were kids, they go and socialize with other people. Like, yeah, that's cool, obviously. But like humans do that like if they want to, right? If you still have like a strong desire to play video games and you just get told that, you know, you have a disease, right? Your cucumber brain becomes a pickle. Obviously you're gonna want to still play video games because your desire to play video games has not been tackled and you're not really seeing better options. Yeah, socializing is cool. Yeah, doing different activities is cool. Going to nature, doing those detox, it's cool, but it's like, that's just momentary, right? Yeah, it can help you quit, but then you're just playing a, it's like you're playing a game of trying to quit, succeeding or failing, when the reality is you want to play video games. No one is forcing you to play video games. You can leave video games at any time if you want. It's just a question of, do you want to? And if there's a better option, right? It's not a how can we play, can we stop playing video games? Do you want to? And is there a better option for you to do? Is there something better for you to do? So in that thing, okay, the guy literally left the treatment facility because they were like, oh, he's successful. I think 6 months later or 1 year later, the guy literally started, he took a peek, okay? Because in the process, it said, if you take a peek at playing video games, you shouldn't because once your cucumber brain becomes a pickle, it won't come back to being cucumber brain. So they said that if you just take one peek or if you just get told once that let's play video games, or if you get shown video games, you're gonna come back to it. Well, you're just gonna come back to it and become an addict again. So they literally said that to him. And then one year later or six months later, I don't remember exactly, the guy literally saw video games and was like, you know what, let me just play once. Let me just say, It's been a long time. Let me just like see what it is. And then he started binging video games out of nowhere, playing like 24 hours in a single day. So how does that happen? Because look, it didn't happen to me. Then it happened to so, you know, all of my friends, they stopped playing video games like completely, right? And look, there's no signs of addiction. Like that idea that if you take a peek at playing video games, you're gonna come back to video games is just absurd. Absurd, right? It is bollocks. And saying this, that you're an addict, your cucumber brain becomes a pickle, is absurd because it's just like creating self-fulfilling prophecy, meaning that you believe in that because they try to prove it to you by showing other examples of other people and you see them as an authority, which creates the authority bias, meaning that you see them as they have the truth when it comes to that subject, so you just believe them blindly, which is normal. And on top of that, they might show you studies and proof, so you just believe it. And so you believe it so strongly, so whatever you do that is aligned with those things, you're gonna basically have that effect. So for example, if you take a peek, you're gonna start binging because they told you and you believe so. So it's just, you're gonna be in a fear state. That's what happens basically. You're gonna take a peek at playing video games, watching porn, whatever, and then you're gonna be in that fear state. You're gonna be like, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God, like, I'm gonna start bingeing, I'm gonna start bingeing. So what happens is you're not thinking clearly, you're not even gonna think about anything else but the fact that you're gonna be bingeing. So obviously you're gonna be bingeing because you're gonna want to remove that fear. And guess what? Video games can provide a distraction just like anything else. So you're gonna distract yourself to not feel that fear, then you're gonna be bingeing. You see, it's just a pure self-fulfilling prophecy, okay? So that's what happens. We just really debunk, okay, this is what I call the Fortis debunk. We debunk all of these NoFap ideologies, all of these myths of like addiction, right? These myths about like, you know, for example, sexual arousal. Many tribes, and you can go and look up, okay, many tribes literally showed no signs of arousal in public, meaning like outside of actual sexual intercourse, based on their culture, based on what is accepted within the society. So we see it's not a biological thing that you just start fantasizing when you don't have sex. It is something that you, okay, you do if you want to and based on what society expects of you, okay? It's crazy because there's societies where people are asexuals, there's societies where people are homosexual. It is going completely against our biology, the way that we're born, but yet, they still do it effortlessly, right? Because you can easy condition yourself. And even then, you can condition yourself in both ways. Some people condition themselves into lusting, into thinking that lust is the most important thing in life, and they just fantasize 24/7. Some other people condition themselves into not activating that sexual drive, not really using that, and instead just waiting until marriage, for example, right? It's just very subjective, okay? Now look at the why in both ways. Why do you watch porn? And why do you want to stop watching porn, for example? Very simple, yet most people don't do it because they don't think, they don't problem solve. Your mind is literally the best problem solving mechanism that you have. You have a consciousness, right? I'm not saying that you're all powerful, obviously not, right? You're not, you know, God is all powerful, but your mind literally is powerful, meaning that, you know, you could literally go and run a marathon without even practicing, just with the saying to yourself, I'm gonna keep going even though I have this physical pain, right? Like literally, okay, your mind is powerful, it can do anything. If I put a gun into your head and let's say that you're in a state where you think you're very addicted to porn, that you cannot stop watching it whenever, that you just have those temptations, those urges, and that it's impossible to quit. If I put a gun to your head and I say, if you don't stop, I'm gonna kill you, obviously you're gonna stop, right? So it's not a question of like you cannot control yourself or, you know, you're an addict. It's just a question of like your why to watch porn is maybe strong. You maybe see a lot of benefits such as stress relief, sexual relief, uh, pleasure, loneliness relief, all of those things, right? Which is what most people believe. But also we remove the NoFap ideology, so those benefits kind of get removed, right? And then why do you want to stop? So what is your better option? I mean, look, for me, for example, I wanted to stop because it gave me a lot of drive, hunger, and also for— I think that life without that is way better. I mean, I'm just like, you know, I don't obsess over the benefits, but it's just like, you know, I see it as a net positive. I'm able to do more with my time, I have more focus, I'm going to be able to be more respected in terms of like if I want to be in relationships, I know that I don't have this quote unquote prom, whatever, right? And then live your life. Well, the thing is with NoFap, they make it about the streak, so your life becomes the streak. Your life becomes this shallow pursuit of, can I survive this number of days? If not, I'm a failure, right? Just live your life. Completely forget about this NoFap ideology and just live your life. It is that simple. I always say this because once you, even for those videos, you know, once you kind of like move on, the same way I did with video games, and I started actually experiencing life, I saw that life is way better. But most people, they don't even see that life is way better because all they think about is, am I gonna be able to quit porn? Oh no. And they're in a constant worrying state, right? They're constantly in that fear state, so they're not really enjoying life. They're not really living their life. They're always thinking like, am I gonna be able to go on that number of days? Oh no, but I'm a dopamine addict. Just forget about all of those things and live your life. Stop watching those NoFap videos It is just toxic, okay? So guys, that's what you need to understand. Obviously, I coach people one-on-one. If you wanna quit within 14 to 28 days forever, you can join first my school community down below, which is a free group where I literally explain in 2 hours the complete way to do the subconscious alternation, which is my method. And you can also post there, you can message me there, whatever. We can hop on a call if you wanna be coached one-on-one so that you can quit as soon as possible. But anyways, just make sure that you apply those things, okay? Apply those things and live your life. You're gonna see that life is just so easy, right? And this is not a process that takes 6 months. This is a process that can take a day, literally, right? It can take a week, whatever, right? It's not a process as in like you're gonna succeed or fail implementing the process. It's just something that humans naturally do when they wanna leave any behaviors and change it for something better, okay? So anyways, this is Samir Gardner, and I'm out.
