Samir Gardner argues that gifts create only fleeting happiness and condition kids to seek joy through purchases rather than relationships. He shares stories of unwanted presents and urges focusing on meaningful connections and gratitude instead of the monetary value of what you give.
What's good, y'all? It's your boy Samir Gardner. Hope y'all doing good. So I want to talk about, like, because the holiday seasons are coming in, like, oh, I think— I don't know when, but I want to talk about something, bro. As kids, I know a lot of my videos recently have been about programming and everything, but I really want y'all to reprogram your minds because as kids, bro, We, you know, with all this and everything, we forget about the event of, you know, meeting people that we love, meeting people and having a great conversation, and everything, having great relationships. We forget all those things, forget the event and, you know, love and everything. And all we think about is the gifts. Ever since we were kids, bro, ever since we were kids, uh, I think a lot of parents make this mistake, and I don't think it's their fault, but they think the buying things will make their kids happy, but they see it's not in the long run, it's the short run, bro. And yeah, it's their fault, yeah, but like, um, the thing is a lot of people don't understand is if you start doing something like buying your kids stuff for happiness, they're gonna rely their happiness only on this. Instead of if they had nothing, they will maybe rely their happiness on meeting you, maybe just being in good relationships with you, or just them being able to, to eat food. Maybe, you know, the little things. But when you sort of put all those, you know, you buy them clothes, you buy them toys, you buy them, uh, you know, all those things, bro, they don't They don't be grateful for everything they got, and that's all they want. You know, we were kind of born in the society as consumers, never producers, just consumers. And I just think we gotta fix our mind. It's not like— yeah, yeah, it's bad, but it's not— I don't think it's the worst thing. I think people just gotta switch off because, you know, for example, Christmas. Let's be honest, when people— for me, for example, when I, when I was a kid, I got like a gift that I didn't really want and I was unhappy. I was not happy. People would be happy for like one day because they got the gifts that they wanted. And it's sad, bro, that we live like that. We live on— we depend our happiness on those things. We depend our happiness on buying something, and it's an illusion, bro. It's just It's a cycle, okay? You get happy for one day and then you're not happy, and then you wait another week and you invite something else, you're happy for one day, and then, bro, it's, it's an illusion, bro. It's like literally an illusion, you know? I'm not saying we should cut off the gifts and everything, but I'm saying like we gotta focus on what's important. The gifts is not gonna do anything. The gifts is not gonna do anything, you know? We want those 500, 1K dollars, like $5K gifts and everything. We want like, we want the best products and everything. But bro, like, it's not about this, bro. It's not about— it's really not about like the gifts that we give and everything. I think, I just think like we were kind of programmed to sort of think like, oh, consuming is going to make us happy. I mean, I know it seems like dumb and everything, but that's what people actually think unconsciously. Subconsciously, subconsciously they think like this. I know it's cool to get something like that you need and everything, but bro, don't— you shouldn't really like— you should really focus on the small things, you know. You getting a gift that is not— let's say, let's say this Christmas you don't get a gift that is worth like $500, you get a gift that is worth like $200. Just look at the attention. Just be grateful that you got something, you know. Just really reprogram your mind and try to enjoy, like, the relationships with the people, not the gifts, you know. Try to enjoy the event of Christmas and not the, you know, the, the— literally the product, bro. That's all I want to say, bro. That's it.
